TRANSFORMED: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey to Defying All Odds

TRANSFORMED: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey to Defying All Odds with Remi Adeleke

Today we have a story unlike anything you’ve ever heard before. Remi Adeleke is a former Navy SEAL, actor, entrepreneur, author, husband and dad. These are huge accomplishments for any man, but once you learn about Remi’s background, you will be astounded.

Beginning life as a son in a wealthy, royal Nigerian family and almost ending as a drug dealer in The Bronx, Remi Adeleke’s defining moment was his father’s death when he was five years old. Raised by his single mom, Remi was cast into poverty and turned to crime to fill the void of male leadership.

Remi talks about how growing up without a father impacted his journey and how he is is living proof that even when things seem hopeless, it’s possible to transform and live a life beyond imagining.

“Every boy is instinctively looking for father—to affirm us, to guide us, to teach us.” Remi Adeleke

Remi Adeleke

Remi was born into riches and wealth. His dad was the firstborn son of a Yoruba chief who had nine wives. His father went on to study in London and became a well-known engineer and entrepreneur in Nigeria. His biggest project was one of the first manmade islands in the world, now known as Banana Island. In 1987, the corrupt Nigerian government stripped his father of the island, robbing him of his largest investment. Shortly after that, his father died. Remi was so young that he didn’t comprehend his father’s death or the impact it would make in his life.

Remi’s American mother brought him and his brother to the US to settle in The Bronx, NY. As they struggled to get by, Remi finally felt the void left by his father’s death. The icons of the hip-hop culture and street lifestyle became Remi’s father figures, and he worked his way from petty stealing to running high level scams that could’ve landed him in federal prison.

After a drug-related death threat, Remi realized he wasn’t going anywhere and decided to act on a long-buried childhood dream of becoming a hero. He went directly to a recruiter’s office where a series of fortunate events led him to his chance of becoming a Navy SEAL.

After the birth of his sons, Remi chose to leave his military career. He knew how deeply his father’s death affected him, and he didn’t want to do that to his family. From there, he pursued a career in speaking and acting.

Remi holds a BS in organizational leadership and a MS in strategic leadership, both from the University of Charleston West Virginia. He now resides in Southern California with his wife, Jessica, and his sons. He wrote his book, Transformed, to show disadvantaged kids and adults that they are capable of defying all odds.

Transformed: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey from the Throne of Africa, to the Streets of the Bronx, to Defying All Odds

What are the odds? Statistics tell us that African American males who grow up in a single-parent household are nine times more likely to drop out of high school and twenty times more likely to end up in prison than any other demographic. But what would it take for one young man not only to rise above those statistics but also become a Navy SEAL, actor, entrepreneur, writer, and successful husband and father?

What You’ll Learn

  • How Remi associated everything with the absence of his father
  • How he attributed his survival in the crime life to his dad
  • The positive African American role models in movies who planted the seed in Remi’s mind that he could become a hero too
  • The moment of clarity that brought him to the Navy SEALs
  • His multiple failures during BUDs training
  • The secret to perseverance: having a deep-rooted emotional reason why he is doing what he is doing
  • How superficial reasons turn adversity into a bad idea, giving you excuses to start looking for a plan B
  • The inspiration and purpose of his book, Transformed
  • The unique challenges of writing a book
  • What Remi feels is most important about his role as a father
  • Remi’s motivation to be a good role model
  • How he wants his kids to honor women and how he’s had to set the example
  • Why love is not just a word, it’s an action.
  • How he knows the massive potential of his kids
  • How much farther he may have come with a father’s guidance
  • Teaching kids to hone their good qualities and exorcise the bad qualities
  • How his military intelligence experience translates to his life
  • Communication tips with his wife
  • His daily physical, mental, and spiritual self-care routine
  • His physical limitations due to injuries and how he gets past them
  • Advice for men who always put themselves last



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It’s Not All About The Win!

“WIN!!  You have to WIN!!”  How many times do we shout this from the stands in a little league game?

The coach forcefully grabs the player by the face mask, an inch away from the player’s face. Coach’s screams are audible to the fans in the bleachers as his beet-red face looks as if it’s about to explode. The player, defenselessly taking the punishment cannot really hear the coach as his ears are ringing from the sheer volume of the yells. No, this is not pro or even college ball, it’s pee-wee football. If your child plays sports, you’ve undoubtedly witnessed coaches or parents who go to any length to ensure their child gets the win. Even if the tactics aren’t exactly child-friendly or nurturing, the adults are so invested in getting the win, they have little regard for how their child gets it.

What Are They Playing For?

It may seem obvious that a child should play a sport because they like it. However, there are times when parents have their kids play a sport because “I played soccer, so of course my kid’s going to play”, or “I never had a chance to be quarterback. I want my child to at least have that opportunity.” Is it more about our satisfaction or because our child truly has an interest in that endeavor? Sure the sport may build their confidence and camaraderie, but maybe it’s not their dream, but yours.

Win Values

When a child does play a sport, it’s the experience of playing that is most crucial to their development, not the win. We’ve heard time and again on the GDP that failure is one of the best gifts we can give our kids. When they always win, they don’t have a chance to fully grow, limiting their chance for success in the future. On the other hand, teaching a child to develop in all facets of the sport, including sportsmanship and winning and losing gracefully sets the tone for a healthy child and a brighter future for them.


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Being a Coach, a Dad, and Raising Strong Daughters with Bret Johnson

Bret Johnson knows being a dad.  He knows being a coach of youth sports.  He knows how to raise a confident strong daughter.

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Bret Johnson is the driving force behind Team Johnson.  He runs the all of the day-to-day management of the business, in addition to business strategy, event planning, management, and logistics for any Team Johnson or Chalene Johnson appearances.  He negotiates all contracts, handles all sponsors and partner relationships, and coordinates and communicates with all who are a part of the Team Johnson Affiliate Program.  In addition, Bret works one-on-one with a small hand selected group that he coaches on personal, spiritual, and business development.  Bret is the former owner and CFO of Powder Blue Productions as well as the Turbo Wear clothing line that he and Chalene created together. He has also built and sold several multimillion-dollar fitness and lifestyle companies.

Bret Johnson began his career as a Quarterback at UCLA and Michigan State University, and later finished his career in the CFL with the Toronto Argonauts and Atlanta Falcons.  Bret has preserved his love and passion for football by coaching High School Football at Mission Viejo High School with his father and brother.

Bret will be the first to tell you that his greatest accomplishment is raising two amazing kids.

It’s a Girl’s World

Let’s face it: there are definite differences between raising boys versus girls. Beyond the stereotypical pink versus blue, girls are just made differently. They typically have different interests than boys and they respond to stimuli differently. A girl’s world can be complex and helping your daughter navigate these waters as a father can seem overwhelming. But, there is hope; after all, even though she may sometimes seem other-worldly, your daughter is human.

The Basics

Just like sons, daughters need to feel love and validation from their fathers. Remember dads, the relationship your daughter has with you will create the foundation for the relationships she has with other men in her future. Reinforce how much you accept her for who she is, her interests, and the fact that you will always be there for her. She needs this, particularly in the world children will live in as adults.


Social Media

At no other time in history has it been easier to find out who is doing what and when, what the latest diet fad is, who is the hottest celebrity, and, maybe most frightening, bullying. And that’s where girls can be hit the hardest, right on line. It’s easy to make fun of others behind a screen and say hurtful things, demean another’s character, or even more devastating to a girl, criticize her appearance. Dads, here is where you can play a vital role, be active in her online media life. Yep, let her know you are watching what she is doing, not so much that you are concerned with her behavior, but how others interact with her. And, if necessary, model positive online behavior and communication so that she can see how to best represent herself to others in this media.


“Do These Pants Make Me Look Fat?”


Even in an age where a variety of body types are getting more positive media coverage, the skinny models still barrage our girls in the checkout lines of every store. It seems that no matter what they hear about their image, girls still want to look like what they see in the magazines. Your job, dad, is to remind her that those models are airbrushed and that skinny is not always healthy.


Be Proactive

Dad, it’s not as hard as you think. She’s your daughter, she loves you and she is looking to you to see how to respond to men in a positive way. Raising a strong daughter means that she feels comfortable in her own skin, she can communicate effectively with all people and that she has the courage to pursue her own passions. Don’t worry, you won’t break her; she’s tougher than you think!




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