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10 Minutes a Day to a More Fulfilling Life

Finding the time for self-care is one of the hugest struggles for dads. We always have another task to complete. We’re always being asked for another favor. We feel guilty for taking time away from our family and we leave ourselves last on the list. We can be overcome by exhaustion, frustration, and depression. This is why establishing a self-care routine is crucial. Listen to how as little as ten minutes a day can lead to a happier, more fulfilling life.


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3 Secrets for Dads to Develop Patience and Reduce Stress

Dads are pulled in a thousand different directions each day. We are constantly trying to meet the demands of our work and family life, and we seldom reach out for help. This leads to pressure and frustration. Today I list 3 secrets I use to develop patience and reduce stress.

In this episode I tell you how to enhance your patience by:

  1. Making self-care a priority.
  2. Identifying your core values and finding your purpose.
  3. Joining a community of like-minded men like the Dad Edge Facebook group.

 


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Balance for Working Dads is Attainable


Balance is and having the right mentality is critical to our success as fathers.

This past week we interviewed Jeff Pelizzaro, founder of 18Strong.com.  I wanted to highlight some of the pearls that came from his interview because there was a lot!  Ultimately, its about pursuing our passions while having the right mindset, focus, and boundaries.

Do What You Love!

Jeff took a leap of faith leaving his job of being a physical therapist to pursue something he was extremely passionate about.  Jeff had it all from a “societal success standpoint.”  He had: a good job, he had benefits, he had a 401K, he had “security.” .

However, Jeff was sacrificing something that was most important to him…his purpose.  Jeff felt an intuitional pull to do something he loved and to help people along the way.  He has a passion for: fitness, the game of golf, and helping people.  He has now developed an online business, has a successful podcast, and is now a published author!  Not to mention he is doing all these things while creating ultimate balance in his life.  None of this would have happened if he didn’t listen to his intuition and take a leap of faith.  At some point, every successful person took a leap of faith and decided to pursue their true passion.  Guess what…so can you

Balance Means There is More to Life than just the Dollars

Jeff gave several examples of how he creates a healthy balance of boundaries between work and family time.  For example, even though Jeff would make a ton of money working with clients on the weekend, he refuses to do it.  He even mentioned that Saturdays and Sundays are lucrative days in his field.  However, he knows the importance of enjoying his time with family because he knows these years are only here for a short time.

You Can Do What You Love and Still Be an Amazing Dad

It is terrifying making the decision to leave a secure job and pursue a dream.  The pressure is on us as fathers to provide and take financial care of our families.  When we can’t to that, it can be one of the most de-masculating things in our lives.  However, when you take a leap of faith and pursue your dream job, you might be shocked what the universe will deliver.  I’m not saying take a leap without a plan.  Be smart about it.  Write out a plan.  Put some savings aside for the rough times.  Figure out the monthly income your family needs to survive.  Then…when you are ready…LEAP.  Go do your dream.  Chase it with fury.  Most importantly, being a happier more fulfilled you will allow you to be a better dad!  BOOM!!  There you have it!  Go get it!

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Jeff Pelizzaro #1 Amazon Bestselling Book:  The Golfer’s Guide to a Bogey Proof Workout

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Jeff Pelizzaro on Building Your Life Around What Matters Most

Jeff Pelizzaro, owner of 18Strong.com, entrepreneur, and all-around awesome dad, gives his perspective on living your passion, taking risks, and balancing fatherhood.

Jeff Pelizzaro On Making Your Dreams a Reality

Let’s dream for a minute. Wouldn’t it be great if that “crazy” idea for a new business really became a reality? You could do what you really want to do and provide even more for your family. Maybe, just maybe, that idea would grow exponentially and help you realize even bigger dreams. Oh, but you just don’t have the time and that dream really sounds great, but it’s so out there. Is it? Over our last 61 (yes, 61) podcasts, we’ve heard from very successful men about becoming your best self and achieving your greatest potential as an individual and a father. Jeff Pelizzaro is no different: he’s taken his “day job” and turned it into a focused, value-added revenue stream by targeting a very specific niche audience-golfers.

Jeff Pelizzaro on Taking the Leap and Pursuing His Passion

Jeff Pelizzaro’s podcast and business, 18 Strong, helps golfers at all levels achieve their greatest game on and off the course. Through nutrition and physical training, Jeff shows golfers how to tweak their nutrition and fitness to fit their particular needs. Sounds like a dream job, right? It wasn’t always birdies and double eagles, though. Jeff Pelizzaro started as a physical therapist, working long hours and eventually becoming burned-out; he had the opportunity to change his entire focus to, well, golf. In doing so, however, it meant a big change and a risk for his family. After all, changing from serving a variety of clients to an incredibly niche-based business is risky. In the end, he made the leap and now helps golfers from amateurs to pros perfect their game.

Sacrificing Money to Enjoy What Money Can’t Buy

It wasn’t overnight, though. As always, these great ideas take sacrifice and identifying a balance between home life and work life. Jeff has days, he says, when he’s playing with his kids and a thought about a client crosses his mind. He says it’s definitely not easy, but he’s able to refocus and make sure he is present with his family when he spends time with them. With the help of his wife, Jeff is able to balance the time he needs for his unique business with the time he wants to spend with his family.

YOUR DREAM – GO DO IT!!!!

Back to your dream. Maybe you have a great idea for the current business you’re in or maybe it’s something new all together. Whatever it is, though, if you want to do it and it adds value for others, give it a shot. Sure, taking a risk can have its scary moments, but not taking that risk can mean regret.

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 Jeff Pelizzaro Links:

Jeff Pelizzaro 18 Strong

Jeff Pelizzaro Facebook

Jeff Pelizzaro Twitter

Jeff Pelizzaro Google Plus

Jeff Pelizzaro The 18 Strong Podcast

Jeff Pelizzaro #1 Amazon Bestselling Book:  The Golfer’s Guide to a Bogey Proof Workout

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How to Teach Work Ethic


Work Ethic:  The Ultimate Lesson

We had an awesome guest this past week on the Good Dad Project Podcast featuring Joe De Sena, founder of the Spartan Races and New York Times Bestselling author of “Spartan Up!”

Shawn and I have been trying to find the perfect guest to come on the show and talk about work ethic.  Joe not only talked about work ethic but also how to teach work ethic to our kids.

 

Work Ethic and Purposeful Suffering

Joe shared several ways he teaches work ethic to his own kids.  Some parents listening to this week’s show might cringe at some of the things he said as it relates to “purposeful suffering.”  However, I think his theme on this point was solid!  Parents today can be so incredibly over protective that we shelter our kids from any type of growing pains.  No parent likes to see their kids experience failure, loss, or even really hard work.  However, what we don’t realize is that we are robbing them of critical life lessons that teach work ethic and grit.  If we don’t allow our kids to go through any type of pain and suffering and we throw them a life line at every twist and turn, what are we teaching them?  I think it’s safe to say when we shield them too much from a lesson of grit and failure, we are doing them a disservice.

 

Teaching Work Ethic Through Example

It’s been said time and time again that kids learn the best lessons from the example we teach.  If we want to help our kids understand the value of hard work, we have to show it to them and teach them how to work hard.  Desire and work ethic is one of the most difficult lessons we can instill.  However, we have several opportunities to teach it.

 

For example, the next time our kid wants something (a new bike, a new video game, an expensive toy, a car, etc.) we have the opportunity to show them how to work for it vs. give it to them.

 

For example, my eight-year old loves football cards, baseball cards, and gum.  Instead of just buying him whatever he wants, he has learned to work for things so he can buy them himself.  He will sell candy, rice krispy treats, wash cars, or even help with yard work to make a few bucks so he can buy what he wants.  It may sound tough to make him do certain things for simple things like games, baseball cards, and gum, but it’s an excellent way to teach him these lessons now.  Plus, I have noticed that when he buys something with his own money, he takes much better care of it.

 

Talking Work Ethic on the MFCEO Project Podcast

I was recently on the MFCEO Project Podcast with Andy Frisella and Vaughn Kohler (aka “The Pastor of Disaster).  On that episode Andy and I talked about ways we can leverage our kids failures to teach work ethic and grit.  For example, I can’t stand that kids today get trophies and medals for participation.  Awards are meant to be earned and not given.  Don’t get me wrong, we should always point out the effort our kids put out through communication and encouraging words.  However, we should never give out trophies for just showing up.

 

Awards, trophies, and medals keep kids hungry to keep striving and keep pushing themselves.  If awards like this are just given for showing up, what’s the point in trying your best?

 

Asking Empowering Questions Teach Work Ethic and Grit

When our kids fail, we have a great opportunity to ASK QUESTIONS and not lecture.  For example, if your kid participates in a karate tournament and finishes last, it’s a perfect opportunity to ask them questions to get them thinking about solutions to be better.   You can ask your kid:

  1. What did you think of the tournament?
  2. If you had it to do over again, what would do different?
  3. If you could be better at something specifically with karate, what would be? Your kicks?  Punches?  Speed?
  4. What place would you like to finish in the next tournament?
  5. What do you think we should do to prepare for the next one so you feel confident?

 

Questions like this get a kid (and adults) thinking about solutions.  It also helps identify what needs work and what is needed to get better.  Work Ethic and Grit come from knowing what we need to improve and putting in the time and effort to be better.

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Joe De Sena Website Spartan Races

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