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The Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance with James Sudakow

The Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance with James Sudakow

Is work-life balance an unattainable myth? Most of us have tried everything to evenly distribute our time and energy across work, life, and family. Many of us may have also discovered that this is one of the most difficult things to achieve. It almost seems impossible. But it’s not.

Today’s guest is James Sudakow. He is the father of four kids and the author of Out of the Blur: A Delirious Dad’s Search for the Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance. He used to suffer from superhero syndrome, trying to be everything to everyone all the time. Eventually, he realized that he wasn’t showing up in the way that he wanted to at home or at work and came up with his own plan to analyze his behavior and change his ways.

In this episode, James Sudakow talks about the superhero syndrome and outlines the common traps we fall into when it comes to prioritizing our to do list. He gives practical solutions for breaking common habits that suck our time and energy and shows us that a sane, productive, fulfilling life is not as mysterious as we think. Behold, the holy grail of work life balance!

James Sudakow

James Sudakow serves as the principal of CH Consulting, Inc., a boutique management and organizational effectiveness consulting practice he founded in 2010. He specializes in helping companies manage organizational transformation, create talent management strategies and programs that maximize employee capabilities and improve business performance. Sudakow is a contributing columnist to Inc.com, and has been featured in The Chicago Tribune, Forbes.com, Fast Company online, Mic., The Business Journals, LifeHacker, Bustle, SiriusXM, Psychology Today and more. Before starting his own consultancy, Sudakow held leadership roles in several global multibillion-dollar organizations across the technology and health care industries. He and his wife are raising four kids, along with one dog, one rabbit and 7 chickens in San Diego, Calif. For more information, visit www.jamessudakow.com.

What You’ll Learn

  • What inspired James Sudakow to write Out of the Blur: A Delirious Dad’s Search for the Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance
  • How to tell if you’re suffering from superhero syndrome
  • Why the notion that you can do everything is debilitating
  • The 3 main traps that make work-life balance impossible
    • Artificial urgency
    • Undefined boundaries
    • Multi-tasking
  • How to analyze your average to-do list and practice ruthless prioritization
  • How to prevent from taking on someone else’s urgency
  • How we manufacture our own stress
  • How to get out of constant triage mode (where everything is an emergency)
  • How modern accessibility is making it more difficult for us to set boundaries between work and home life
  • The multi-tasking fallacy that is destroying your productivity
  • Why thinking about the next thing on your to do list is robbing you of the present moment
  • How to set urgency filters
  • How to compartmentalize your tasks
  • Work-life balance will not happen overnight. It took James Sudakow 6-9 months to break the habits that were cluttering his life
  • How to continuously monitor your behavior to not revert back to you old SOP
  • How to enlist your spouse to help keep you in check
  • Identifying mission critical tasks
  • Can the work-life blend lifestyle work?
  • How to be more present in both work and life by setting boundaries on both

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How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

How to Optimize The Structure of Work, Family, and Fulfillment with Dave Hollis

Turn On Your Superhero Brain with Jim Kwik


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How to Optimize The Structure of Work, Family, and Fulfillment with Dave Hollis

Can work-life balance ever be achieved?

Our guest today is Dave Hollis, and he says work-life balance is unattainable. There is no such thing because our lives constantly fluctuate. Sometimes, our kids need us. At other times, our marriage requires more attention. Maybe our health has been neglected and we need to focus on taking care of our bodies. There will also be points in our lives where work demands all of our energy. Life is unpredictable and we must be prepared to adapt.

We are stoked to have Dave Hollis on The Dad Edge. Dave worked for Disney for 17 years selling movies like Star Wars and The Avengers to theaters, and he recently left his position to help his wife Rachel develop her business. Dave tells us why he quit what most people would consider a dream job and how he and his wife grow their media company while raising four kids. He also talks about their technique called ‘frontloading’ to optimize the structure of work, family, and fulfillment for an incredible life.

'Your kids only have one experience that they know is normal—the one you create for them. They are watching us pursue our dreams ... we are modeling for them.'—Dave Hollis #parenting #dads #men #fathers #fatherhood #dadlife Click To Tweet

 

Dave Hollis

Dave is the father of four and married to NY Times Bestselling Author, Rachel Hollis. She began with an event planning business that morphed in to a lifestyle blog, which eventually became Chic Media. Dave was in the sales side of the movie business. He made lots of money, but he didn’t feel like he was challenged. He made the bold choice to leave his job to help Rachel scale up her business. They moved from the outskirts of LA to a small town in Texas where they publish content, podcasts, and books. They also organize events and have launched a line of apparel and other products. Dave says they still like each other after six months of working together, but they have their communication and planning down to a science. They call it ‘frontloading’ and it is how they structure their lives for greatness.

'You can find every excuse why you’re not currently having the intimate relationship you want with your spouse.'—Dave Hollis #relationships #marriage #intimacy #communication Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why you have to acknowledge that you’re not going to “do it all”
  • How Dave got comfortable with the fact that work-life balance is not a possibility
  • How Dave and Rachel use a community of family, nannies, and babysitters to help with their four kids
  • How they deal with judgement about their parenting techniques
  • What ‘frontloading’ is and how and when they do it
  • How to delegate responsibilities to avoid resentment
  • Dave’s recovery from codependency
  • How to stop feeling guilty for other people’s judgements
  • Using apps to coordinate family activities
  • Why health is the foundation of his family’s life
  • Dave and Rachel’s non-negotiable weekly date night
  • Why Dave and Rachel take two vacations–one with the kids and one without them
  • How Dave and Rachel make out regularly
  • The Hollis’ experience with foster children (one of whom they adopted)
  • Why you must fuel your kids’ passions (not what you think they should be interested in)
  • The importance of letting go and allowing your kids to have their own experiences without you
  • How to reach for uncertainty to find growth and fulfillment

 

'You will not be the single force that shapes the way your child develops into an adult.'—Dave Hollis #parenting #helicopterparenting #dads #fathers #fatherhood Click To Tweet

 

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Using Work to Avoid Home Life

Are You Using Work to Avoid Home Life?


Being a father and husband is full of challenges. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to handle problems at home. We have the urge to get away. It’s easier to keep busy with work and focus on providing rather than wrestling with the day to day issues of family life.

Today’s guest is everyday dad, Jeremy Bennett. He has been married for nineteen years and is the father of two teenage boys. Jeremy is a firefighter who is passionate about his career. Jeremy traveled frequently and became involved in the world of firefighting as a leader. He lived for the adrenaline and action in his life.

As his sons grew up, Jeremy knew he wasn’t present in his role as a father. His way of dealing with tough times was to leave. One day had a wake up call and realized he needed to find a way to balance work and family life. Now he tries to help other young firefighters do the same.

 


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Releasing Emotions in Front of the Kids

Releasing Emotions Safely in Front of the Kids

No matter how hard we try to separate home life from our jobs, work stress affects our families. Children pick up on all our cues and can become frightened if they see us behaving in ways they don’t understand. How do we release emotions safely in front of the kids?

Today we have Dad Edge Alliance member Jon McKinney on the show. He is an officer in the Royal Canadian Mounted Police and deals with intense emotions and extreme stress on a daily basis. As a single dad, he has his own challenges to contend with. And as a cop, he also has to help resolve other people’s personal problems.

Jon gives us an intimate look at how he demonstrates bravery, perseverance, and resilience to his kids while also showing them that it’s okay to breakdown, let your emotions out, and share them with other people.

'Finding ways to leak out emotion in a healthy manner is safe, it’s okay, and it’s part of life.'—Jon McKinney #dads #men #fathers #fatherhood #manhood #stress Click To Tweet

 


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Work-Life Balance Advice from a Kid

Work-Life Balance Advice from a Kid


Many of us are so focused on providing for our family and securing our financial future that we fail to spend enough quality time with the people that matter. Sometimes we don’t realize how much our attention means to our spouses and kids. After work, we might only get a few hours with our families. What’s the best way to spend what little time we have with them?

In this short episode, I talk to my son Ethan who gives us a kid’s perspective on just how important time with dad is. He also shares simple, straightforward advice for hardworking dads on how to achieve work-life balance and prioritize their free time with their families.

Our kids and our wives spell the word 'love' T-I-M-E. #dads #men #fathers #fatherhood #parenting #dadlife Click To Tweet

Don’t come home with a wallet full of money and a house full of strangers. #dads #men #fathers #worklifebalance #family #qualitytime #dadlife Click To Tweet

RELATED EPISODES:

Working to Live, Not Living to Work with Aaron Walker

The Ultimate Guide to Work/Life Balance with Aaron Walker

 


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