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Techniques for Deep Communication with Your Spouse

3 Techniques for Deep Communication with Your Spouse


We feel like communication with our wives and children should come naturally. If we love them, and they love us, it should be easy to understand each other. Right?

Wrong. What most of us don’t realize is that communication is a skill that can be learned. If we master the way we approach conversations, we will drastically improve our relationships.

In this episode, we share three techniques for deep communication with your spouse. These simple skills will put an end to stress, arguments, and misunderstandings.

At the same time, they will create a space of connection, safety, and intimacy in your marriage. Don’t miss this short, incredibly effective episode!

What You’ll Learn

  • Why women get so frustrated when trying to talk to men
  • How to practice tactical empathy to create a space of psychological safety
  • How to ask generative questions
  • Why we should exclude the word “why” when our spouse is sharing with us

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The Secret Language of Your Woman’s Desire with Karen Brody


How can we get back the amazing sex and emotional connection we had when we first met our wives? Where do we go wrong when it comes to exciting our women and igniting their passion? How can we change the direction of our relationship with our spouse when it seems like everything we do is wrong?

Karen Brody is a man coach and bestselling author of Open Her: Activate 7 Masculine Powers to Arouse Your Woman’s Love & Desire.

Karen goes in-depth about how we, as men, lose our power in marriage, how we kill the attraction our wives have for us, and how we can understand our women better than they understand themselves.

You will have some major epiphanies during this show as Karen Brody reveals the secret language of your woman’s desire. Put this episode on repeat!

You don’t want to rely on your partner to fill a hole in you. When you have a sense of fullness you will be more attractive to her.—Karen Brody

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Karen Brody is a Relationship Coach for Men and a former journalist, who lives in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico, with her sweetheart and her cat. Her favorite things to do are Salsa dancing, road trips with no destination, and weekends in nature hiking, reading and writing. Karen’s life purpose is to help awaken a healthy masculinity in men, and to guide men and women to discover each other in a deeply connected, eyes wide open dance of love.

If a man’s going to negotiate a woman well, he has to learn to not take what she feels personally, because it’s always changing.—Karen Brody

What You’ll Learn

  • How Karen Brody helps men orient to their power, goodness, and sexuality
  • The false ideas women have about men
  • How married men are invested in their relationships
  • The richness of a man’s sexuality
  • When men are starved for sex, their focus becomes about sex.
  • The most common problems men have in relationships:
    • A lost spark
    • The woman isn’t sharing anymore
    • The woman has lost desire
    • The woman is not trusting the man’s decisions and makes her own way
  • Most men think the more accommodating they are to their woman, the happier she will be. It is the opposite.
  • Women want positive tension with a man. They will test their partner’s strength and resolve. When the man backs down, the sexual attraction decreases.
  • Don’t tell women what they want to hear to secure sex. They will know.
  • Weak listening is how a man loses connection with his wife.
  • Women want a man’s acceptance.
  • Men want to resolve problems. Women just want to be heard.
  • Why women will nag about what’s negative and what’s missing. A man must learn how to listen between the lines.
  • Don’t take criticism literally but interpret what’s going on behind her complaints.
  • A woman must be open emotionally to be open sexually.
  • Invite your woman to express her emotions.
  • The smallest thing men can do is focus on the quality of their attention.
  • Women pull away when their men seem bored, tense, or irritated.
  • Ask her how she is and really mean it.
  • Women always look for safety and turn to men to be a safe harbor.
  • Men should take time for themselves to become calm before reaching out to connect.
  • The more a man doesn’t get upset at his woman’s emotional storms, the more he looks like her hero.
  • Why expectation diminishes your influence
  • When a relationship is in turmoil, the woman withholds sex. The man withdraws support.
  • Do things for your wife selflessly and because it makes you feel good, not to bargain for sex. Being needy robs you of power.
  • How we can communicate our needs without being demanding
  • How to ask for more affection in a way that won’t pressure a woman.
  • Women are turned on by men who are clear on what they want.
  • Scheduling sex is a good thing.
  • Give your woman space to miss you.


RELATED EPISODES:

Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage with Mort Fertel

How to Light Your Woman Up with Brandy Salazar

How to Have Amazing Sex in Your Marriage with Dr. Emily Morse

The Unexpected Secrets of Men, Women, and Sex with Nell Gibbon Daly

 


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A Wife's Thoughts on The Dad Edge Alliance and Summit

A Wife’s Thoughts on The Dad Edge Alliance and Summit

Today is a first. We not only have a longtime Dad Edge Alliance member on Thursday Throwdown, we have his wife! If you have been thinking about joining The Dad Edge Alliance or attending our Dad Edge Summit this summer, but are wondering how your wife will feel about the idea, this interview with Javier and Suzanne will show you what happens when a man finds his tribe.

Javier and Suzanne have been together for 14 years and are parents. They had a fairy tale beginning, but once real life kicked in, intense fights and break ups left open wounds. Javier opens up about his struggles as a man. He tells us how The Dad Edge Alliance helped him grow and how the Dad Edge Summit catalyzed all he had learned into a clear vision for the future.

His wife, Suzanne, gets real about the marriage problems they had and how beneficial The Dad Edge Alliance and Dad Edge Summit have been to their relationship as a couple and a family.

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One of the Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Marriage

One of the Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Marriage

In this short episode, I’m going to talk about a huge mistake most men make when it comes to marriage. We do it with the best intentions, believing we are protecting our wives and doing what’s best for them. In reality, we do more damage than we can possibly imagine.

I share a personal experience where I was in danger of losing my marriage because of this one mistake and I’m going to tell you how to avoid it.

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How to Argue with Your Spouse with Peter Sacco

Most of us men have a tendency to accumulate build-up of anger and emotions. It’s easy for us to lose our temper and let a discussion turn into an argument. When we are angry, we can’t think logically. This is when we’re endanger of saying things or behaving in ways we regret towards our partner. Today, Peter Sacco is back on the show to tell you how to argue with your spouse without drama, anger, and resentment.

The most common problems with anger and fighting

It may sound cliche, but most anger problems arise from lack of communication, or poor quality communication. When a couple first meets, the guy tends to be the pursuer, and will tell the woman everything and anything to get her attention. A new couple can’t make enough time to spend together and they talk about everything.

Months, years, decades later, the conversation becomes mundane and repetitive. They think they have nothing to learn about each other anymore. They stop asking questions. It’s not just communication, it’s the quality of it. Simply put, anger and fighting result from procrastination, laziness, redundancy, complacency. It’s important to have the skills to bring up difficult subjects before they fester and blow up or silently destroy the relationship.

Getting out of the rut

How can we be more comfortable with being proactive and less complacent when it comes to things that are hard for us to talk about? At the beginning, when we’re intimate with somebody, we maintain boundaries. We hide a lot. As the relationship progresses, we start to release more and more stuff. We may not have farted or swore in front of our spouse at first, then we gradually let it go. We stretch those boundaries, and a couple must be willing to accept new things learned about each other and adapt.

Part of love is unconditional. People change and evolve. One partner may have grown, while the other one has remained the same. Two people have to refind each other.

How to argue without anger

What are the rules and boundaries for a disagreement between a couple? First of all, don’t have a meaningful or deep discussion if you’re angry. It won’t go anywhere or make it worse. Go away and cool off before talking about what’s upsetting you.

Power plays that will kill your communication, and ultimately, your marriage.

There are two ways couples use to overpower or manipulate each other.

Gunny sacking – Gunny sacking is the storing up of grievances and using them at a later date to try to get even. It’s a passive aggressive type of anger, and a way of reaching in and tearing out someone’s heart strings. Rather than address it rationally when you not so angry, you waiting for it to let it go, like a bomb.

Belt lining–  Belt lining is trying to gain power over the argument by being louder or physically intimidating. This can be done by raising the voice, screaming, yelling, or pounding fists. On the other end of the spectrum, crying or threatening self-harm can be used to manipulate the other person.

How to Walk Away from the Anger

How do we walk away saying, “I’m not going to talk about this right now,” without pissing someone off? You have to assume responsibility for your thoughts feelings and reactions. You can’t control how the other person is going to react. But you can be more detrimental by walking away. If someone storms off without a word, they are shutting down the argument and assuming control. This might leave the other person more hurt and angry.

Peter Sacco says that if you feel the anger welling up, say something like, “Right now I’m angry and I’m not thinking straight. I may say things I don’t mean, and you deserve better. I’m just going to go away and cool off.” In this way, you’ve assumed responsibility for your feelings, you’ve said it with integrity and dignity, and that’s the best you can do. Most people will say thank you in this case, and you’ll avoid a destructive blowout.

Low-blows 

What about couples who have a long history of name-calling or hitting below the belt? In a perfect world, both individuals would agree to fix the problem and get counseling. They would make sure they did not fight in front of the kids.

What do you do when you’re being verbally abused by your spouse? Look at the person who is calling you names. Turn it around and say, Thank you. That’s different. Are you talking dirty to me? Are you flirting? The person is going to be thrown from their axis. Their conditioned response will not be able to happen. They have to rethink what they’re saying. You shut down triggers for both of you.

Are Couples Supposed to Communicate Everything?

Two people who’ve been together for a long time will inevitably get on each other’s nerves. Are we really supposed to confront our partner about all the little things that drive us crazy?

Peter Sacco says that before broaching any touchy subject, take your emotions into account. Ask yourself, am I in a good place to have this discussion? Can my partner handle this right now? Don’t bring up a difficult conversation this before bed when you’re both tired. Don’t try it first thing in the morning before work. It could derail the whole day. Timing is everything.

Doomed Relationships

Are there relationships and marriages that are beyond help?  Peter Sacco says that if both people in the relationship are in denial that there is a problem and think there isn’t anything to be fixed, they are in trouble. Also, some couples have given up on trying. They are too set in their ways, and just do not care. However, he also says, that even if just one person in a couple wants it to work, there is hope. He or she might initiate a change in the other person.

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Related episodes:

Uncovering the Truth About Anger with Peter Sacco

5 Ways to Prevent Angry Outbursts


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