how to motivate

How to Motivate the Unmotivated with Matt Granados

Most of us want to accomplish many things in life. We know we need to take action to improve our health, relationships, finances, and careers. But we wake up every morning without the motivation. Today’s guest is the expert on how to motivate the unmotivated.

Matt Granados is speaker, coach, and the author of Motivate the Unmotivated: A proven system for sustainable motivation. He reveals the difference between motivated and unmotivated people. He talks about how motivation is not a character trait, but a state of mind. He also tells us how we can strengthen the connection between actions and outcomes to motivate ourselves and others, including our kids.

Get ready to systemize motivation and finally make things happen!

Being motivated is not a character trait, it’s a state of mind.

Matt Granados

Over the last decade, Matt has tested, developed and helped thousands of others implement an effective and easy to duplicate system that will help you build an unbreakable foundation for your life as well as motivate even the most unmotivated individuals in your life.

These techniques in versions such as keynotes, workshops, and individual coaching have been taught and implemented in organizations of all industries and sizes. From Google Headquarters and Twitter to the United States Airforce and professional organizations all around the world. Matt has been able to teach these systems to thousands of individuals along with his team at Life Pulse, Inc.

With over 10 years and 10,000 hours of studying, using, and teaching these concepts, Matt is considered to be an expert on teaching individuals how to build an unbreakable foundation for themselves as well as their organization, along with how to properly manage motivation.

Matt is happily married to his wife and business partner (Maria) with two amazing kids (Natalie & Zach). The drive behind Matt is his obsession to make sure no person’s potential is wasted and that each person he comes in contact with, if they want, is able to experience their maximum level of success.

Motivate the Unmotivated: A proven system for sustainable motivation

Finally, a book that gives you applicable, implementable techniques for how to boost motivation in all areas of your life—as well as the lives of others. You know “what” you should do in order to motivate yourself and others. So why don’t you do it? No one has ever systemized the “How” to what you already know you should do. This book does!

What You’ll Learn

  • How to stop starting over
  • Why are some people motivated while others are not?
  • The difference between fear-based motivation and love-based motivation
  • Why you should never make your kids the butt of a joke
  • Allow your kids to fail and learn.
  • The dad is not supposed to be a friend to his kids. He is there to provide, protect, and prepare.
  • Matt’s journey with his daughter’s extremely rare genetic disorder
  • A happy family is not an accident. It’s intentional work.
  • Men try to fix problems instead of dealing with them.
  • Most guys would say that they are the emotionally stable one in their relationships, but the reality is that they are emotionally suppressed.
  • When you don’t handle your emotions, they’re going to make their way out as anger, pornography, drugs, or some other vice.
  • If you can’t learn to process your emotions, how can you expect to lead your family through their difficult feelings?
  • Don’t try to fix your weaknesses. Manage weaknesses and leverage strengths. This applies to helping your kids too.
  • How you can use video games like Fortnite to motivate your children
  • PVTT (Personal Value Tied to Task) is fundamental to motivation.
  • If you understand the value of what you’re doing, staying motivated is easy.
  • Balancing the 4 Vital Signs of Fulfillment–internal, relational, physical, and professional. When you balance these properly, it’s easy to walk through life.
  • If you’re not motivated enough as a dad, it’s because you don’t see the value in it.
  • Action=Outcome. Keep action and outcome connected so the steps you take now make sense.
  • Everyone has 1 of 3 motivational catalysts.
  • When you catch yourself falling back into a bad habit, instead of feeling shameful, be grateful that you caught yourself.
  • Gratitude reveals growth. In a grateful state, you will always see opportunity.
  • Don’t do anything that is not important. Ask yourself, what’s the value to you for taking this action?
  • Don’t use motivation to manipulate. Help others get what they want in order to get what you want.
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your why

What is Your WHY

Your Why…is it to be your best?  Is it to live a fulfilled life?  To selflessly serve others?  To be financially free?  To be healthy?  What is it?  Chances are you never got really clear on it…now is the time to get clear on your why!

You’re in your car and you’re going to work. You know exactly where you are going and the possible barriers to getting there. You have a mission. If we broaden that perspective to our lives, we might be able to understand and better predict the issues that may come up. Sometimes, though, we lose focus of where we are going or want to go and become bogged down in the everyday tasks that frustrate us. We lose our mission.

Your Why and One Vision

Angry, frustrated, tired. And you wake up then next morning and do it all over again. The same job, the same chores when you get home, the same arguments with your spouse. Then you ask yourself, “why?”.  That’s the right question. Once you’re there, search for your answer.  It’ll take some digging, but once you get to the core, you will have your vision.

Toss the Ego

Your ego may be the biggest challenge to identifying your why. You’ve got to check it at the proverbial door. In order to be the best father, husband and overall man you can be, you have to answer that one question.

Lead by example for you and those who look up to you. Having a why (your vision), will help you keep focus when you start to get off track and will set the stage for a better life.


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How to Discover Your Mission as a Dad – GDP023

Episode Overview

When you think of your legacy, what comes to mind?  I’m not talking about the materialistic things you will leave behind.  I’m talking about how will you be remembered?  What will your kids and family say about you several years from now?

When it comes to being a Dad, it’s a tremendous responsibility. It is by far the most important job we will ever have as men.  Unfortunately, the resources to help dads are minimal.

Think about it for a minute…

How often do we take time to sharpen our skills as fathers?  The fact is the resources to do so are far and few between.  The journey of fatherhood is a “learn as we go process.”  There isn’t a roadmap and at times being uncertain can wreak havoc on our confidence as Dads.

Think about the last time you started with a new company.  Did you go through training to learn all about the new company, products, processes, systems, and mission?  Absolutely!  Not only did you go through in-depth training, but there was most likely an entire department dedicated to just training the new hires.

However, we don’t see these opportunities offered to the everyday Dad.  Most men truly desire to be our best and we want a roadmap.  We want guidance.  We may not admit it on the exterior, but deep down, we desire improvement, challenge, growth, and guidance.

Key Takeaways:

  • You will discover your mission as a father
  • You will discover what is most valuable to you
  • You will uncover your what your legacy will be
  • Most importantly, you will discover your personal “Why”


A Dad’s Mission

Think of any big corporation in the world.  Just about all of them have a mission statement that is at the very core of their business.  Mission statements are a clear set of core values and how a company will conduct business.

For Example:

Apple – Apple designs Macs, the best personal computers in the world, along with OS X, iLife, iWork and professional software. Apple leads the digital music revolution with its iPods and iTunes online store.

Microsoft – At Microsoft, our mission is to enable people and businesses throughout the world to realize their full potential. We consider our mission statement a commitment to our customers. We deliver on that commitment by striving to create technology that is accessible to everyone—of all ages and abilities. Microsoft is one of the industry leaders in accessibility innovation and in building products that are safer and easier to use.

What does a mission statement have to do with being a dad?

What does a mission statement have to do with being a dad?  Being a dad is by far the most important job for a man.  So, if it’s the most important job for us dads, shouldn’t we too have a mission statement?  Shouldn’t we have a clear set of core values?  Absolutely.

For the past two years, I have had the honor of hosting workshops for men to teach nine distinct strategies to help improve their lives.  The first thing the participants do is discover their own personal Dad Mission Statement.  I have hosted workshops for hundreds of men to date and I have yet to meet one man who has put pen to paper and has written down their core set of values and desired legacy before attending my workshop.  It is truly inspiring when the participants discover their own personal mission statement.

Why is this important?

If we don’t know what we want out of our dad journey, how can we enjoy it to the fullest?  How can we pass something down to our kids if we don’t know what that something is?

I wanted to share a great example of a Mission Statement from a participant at one of my recent speaking events.  The reason I share this with you is because it was truly inspiring.  It is so specific and heartfelt.

“My home will be an environment of love and learning.  I will not only be available to my children, but I will be engaged in their lives.  I will show affection.  I will teach respect and discipline. I will be the rock of faith and strength for my family.”

I would like to challenge you to draft your own mission statement.  Clearly define what is most important to you and what you want your legacy to be.  It doesn’t have to be perfect.  It simply has to be yours and what is most important to you.

The Why:

There is one thing that is even more important than your mission statement…”YOUR WHY.”  Your “Why” clearly defines the reasons for your mission statement.  Your “why” will keep you focused and will keep your heartfelt mission moving forward despite challenges you will face along the way.  For most of us dads, our “why” is defined by wanting to pass down what we have learned from our own upbringing or it is defined by breaking a pattern of a negative childhood experience.  For example, I wanted to share the “why” from the same participant above to really hit this point home.

“I want to give my kids what I didn’t have growing up.  I want my kids to remember their childhood and the guidance I provided in a very positive way.  Being the best version of myself as a dad, I am honoring God.”

At the end of the day, our “why” is our motivation.  Our “why” will keep us moving in the right direction.  Our “why” gets to the very core.

I would encourage you to discover your why.  Chances are you know exactly what it is, but most likely you have never written it down.

Shawn and I wanted to share our Mission Statements and our Why:

Larry’s Mission:

I want to raise confident young men.  I want to create an atmosphere of love, certainty, creativity, and affection.  I want to lead by example and teach my boys how to be good men and how to be a good husband by how I treat their mom.

Larry’s Why:

I want to give my kids what I didn’t have growing up.  I want to provide fatherly affection and positive guidance.  I want to teach them how to be a good dad by being a good dad for them.

Shawn’s Mission:

To demonstrate what love, kindness, consistency, service and perseverance look like.

I also strive to demonstrate directly how to have fun – how to love and be loved by my spouse – to demonstrate how to have standards without being malicious – to show that you can literally create anything in your life if you surround yourself with good people and you’re willing to work for it. – To show them that it is possible to blur the lines between work and play and love what you do. – To encourage them to share their gifts.

Shawn’s Why:

I want to create a space for my kids to grow and develop – to have a model/a framework that I never had. I want my children to be inspired by me. I want them to be proud that I’m their dad.

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