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Lions Eat First

Lions Eat First…a quote straight from our previous guest, Sean Whalen.

A next level life. We want more, but aren’t always willing or have the necessary skills to get there. Even though we yearn to be a better version of ourselves, in every capacity, we don’t always have the strategies needed to craft our lives the way we would like. This also resonates with those who are closest to us. If we cannot be the best version of ourselves because we fail to reach out for help when needed, then those who are closest to us will not be able to either.

Be the Ignition, Not the Actual Helicopter

When we are taught to do something instead of having it done for us, we are more apt to learn to repeat the task. Even better, when we try something organically and risk failure, we learn even more. We might find we need to seek help to complete the task or sharpen a skill, but at least we know where our shortcomings are as well as our strengths. The same goes for our kids. If we constantly hover over them and do everything in their lives for them, as well intentioned as we may be, we ultimately cripple their potential for greatness. On the other hand, if we act as an igniter for  their goals and provide opportunities, we open up a world of potential gifts for our children. Sometimes these gifts come in the form of failure; odd to hear, but when we give our children the gift of an opportunity to fail, we also give them the gift of finding their strengths.

Swallow Your Pride

To model this for our kids, we must be willing to put our own pride aside to seek assistance when we need it. Showing our kids that even adults need a little help from time to time, gives them the courage to ask when necessary, but to also temper  that assistance with self-reliance. Showing your kids that there is balance in being self-reliant and asking for help empowers kids to be assertive, yet respectful.

Remember that every action you take, your kids are most likely watching. They are little sponges, learning how to handle life’s twists and turns. So, if we want our kids to approach life with optimism and courage, we must be able to do the same ourselves.

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Sean Whalen Taking 100% Responsibility and Being a Lion Not a Sheep

Sean Whalen, founder of “Lions Not Sheep” comes on the GDP Podcast to share his views on masculinity, being a father, and taking ownership.

Blame. It’s what we do when we can’t face our own responsibility for failures in our life. It’s so easy for us to point to the plank in someone else’s eye when it’s too hard for us to look at our own plank. Sean Whalen, founder of Lions Not Sheep, explains his own struggle to get to the point where he could be the best person for himself and others.

Sean Whalen and Why Lions Eat First

It is so easy for us to take care of others, thinking that if we just do what we think everyone else wants us to do, that all will be well. When we aren’t getting the response from others we expect from these actions, then we get frustrated and tend to give up. The situation may seem counterintuitive, but if we look at investing in ourselves first, we can show up so much more for others. So, be the lion who eats first so you can be strong for your pride.

Wrong Signal

We have been taught through our upbringing, religion, society that we can’t be selfish. No, you shouldn’t step on others to get what you want, but taking time to get yourself right can only improve your relationships and make you a better person. Happiness can only come from within.  We find ways to block out that negative wrong signal by whatever means necessary to get to the best version of you.

Don’t Be Prideful

As men, when we struggle, we internalize the struggle. Where we fail is when we don’t turn to others who have been through a similar struggle, and we flounder. Giving ourselves the “ok” to get help, we find that we are more successful when we have the tools to get out of the proverbial hole.  Swallow that pride, get out and find the help you need from someone who’s been there, and get better.

Sean Whalen and Failing Forward

We have to be real. Real in every aspect of our lives: our kids, our spouse, our job. In a world where everything is politically correct, we need to learn it’s ok to fail, to learn to fail forward and be better because of our failures. Doing so will only set the correct example for our kids and those around us. Being the lion in your own life only resonates to others to be the best version of themselves.

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