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Armor Down/Daddy Up


We show up best when we are fully present in the moment, but we have a tendency to live in defense-mode based on fears from the past. It’s not that we’re not capable of being more open and mindful. It’s that we don’t know how. Today, Ben King gives us the skillset to armor down and daddy up.

Ben King is an Iraq War veteran and Purple Heart recipient who has helped hundreds of veterans “armor down” with mindfulness, meditation, and yoga practices. He tells us how he changed his perspective on what it means to be strong and how that has transformed him as a man and father. He explains how to get out of the stories we tell ourselves and get into our bodies to experience life more objectively. He also teaches us how to hone our skills of empathy and patience so that we can move with life instead of against it. Armor Down. Daddy Up!

Our greatest assets show up when we are fully present in the moment.–Ben King, Armor Down/Daddy Up

Armor Down/Daddy Up

The Armor Down/Daddy Up!™ (AD/DU!) program is designed to assist veterans and active-duty warriors with reentering their families in the most productive and rewarding ways possible. It is also designed to be of value to others who have been impacted by trauma-related experiences.

What You’ll Learn

  • Our skillset fails, not our patience.
  • Surviving on approval can create panic.
  • We often model parents’ triggering.
  • Down-regulate patterns that are built into your system.
  • Defeating meathead patterns.
  • Men are viewed as protectors, using physicality and violence in gesture.
  • How Ben King changed his idea of what it meant to be strong. It used to be a presentation. This had its limitations.
  • Identify the mindfulness tools that help you. What are the most efficient? Keep bringing them back.
  • Train every day to hone your skills on a regular basis.
  • As you become more mindful, the layers of being a father and a man become more nuanced and exciting.
  • Operating from the intellect and the culturally articulated idea of masculinity is ineffective.
  • Getting out of the way of our bodies.
  • The driver is the heart. Become heart-focused.
  • Ben discovered that the greatest version of himself was not the armored version, but the one that flowed.
  • Your story about yourself determines how you will act
  • If you’re operating from a place of threat, you cannot use your mind’s high-functioning processors.
  • Align your spine, straighten your shoulders to stimulate your parasympathetic system.
  • Love by its very nature conquers fear.
  • Trauma ruptures your relationship with what was a predictable normal life.
  • The rupture gets filled with maladaptive habits that are flawed.
  • Give your kid access to the information given them by their body when they are experiencing emotions. Tell them, “It’s okay to feel what your feeling. Let’s look at it.”
  • Press your kids to their edge and then let them take the next step on their own.
  • Ben’s simple but genius candy strategy to make sure “the walk home” after an event with your kids ends on a positive note.

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How to Be the Father Your Kids Need with former Navy SEAL Luis Rivera

How can you learn how to be a good dad if your father wasn’t there for you? What does it mean to be a good dad? How can you learn to be the father your kids need?

Today we have retired Navy SEAL Senior Chief Luis Rivera on the show. He served with the SEALs for 24 years and was featured in Discovery Channel’s documentary Navy SEALs BUDs Class 234. Luis has been married for 14 years and has three kids.

Growing up, Luis’s father never made an effort to be involved in his life. Luis admits, he wasn’t always a good dad either. Military life always came first, until he realized what an impact his behavior was making on his kids.

Luis is now a fully present and invested dad. He’s also part of Mighty Oaks Programs, an organization that helps veterans, active duty military, and first responders deal with PTS and life trauma.

Luis opens up about his struggles and failures as a husband and father. He tells us how he spent 9 days in a hotel with his daughter to help her through drug withdrawals. He also talks about the free 5-step program that helps men get a full understanding of who they are and what their purpose is in the world.

You’ve never heard this side of Luis Rivera before. Don’t miss this in-depth interview!

“If you somehow break up the family, you’ll break up a community, and you’ll break up the nation.”—Luis Rivera

What You’ll Learn

  • Luis gave up caring about things after his parents split up when he was 12 years old.
  • Luis’s older brother took over a fatherly role, showing him how to ride a bike and teaching him about life.
  • Luis remembers being angry at his dad for not being someone he could lean on and talk to, like his older brother.
  • His father paid no child support, and Luis’s mom put herself through the police academy to support her five kids. I was her work ethic that gave Luis the example he needed to become a SEAL.
  • Later, Luis discovered his dad, also a military man, was dealing with his own demons. He was sent home from Korea because after being involved in a grenade explosion that killed his cousin.
  • Even when Luis became an adult, the relationship with his father never rekindled. His father is now deceased.
  • Where Luis’s motivation to join the military came from
  • How the stress from consequences of his bad decisions made him give up on BUDs training the first time.
  • What helped him to grow up and start working hard to take care of his responsibilities
  • What made him go back to BUDs after having been in the military for ten years
  • Luis didn’t understand what he was doing to his kids at the time.
  • During his second attempt, Luis got swimmer induced pulmonary edema and was pulled from the class
  • Then he had to start over BUDs from the beginning for the third time.
  • Luis knew this last attempt would make him or break him, and he welcomed the challenge.
  • The thoughts that kept him going through the training
  • How he used the Bible selfishly to avoid pain
  • How passing BUDs was not a finish line, but a new beginning
  • His mistake in putting his military life before his family
  • The point when he decided to change things
  • Luis realized that he didn’t maintain the same morals at work and home.
  • When he finally felt good about who we was as a father and husband
  • The harrowing meth 9-day meth detox he helped his daughter through
  • How the experience with his daughter bonded them together and triggered his healing process
  • How he’s held his marriage together
  • His relationship with Christ and how it has changed his heart
  • The 5-day program that equips warriors to fight through life’s challenges and discover the very purpose for their lives moving forward
  • How veterans, active military, and first responders can apply for Might Oaks Programs, free of charge, including travel, food, and boarding
  • Might Oaks programs available for women and couples

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Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

Owning Fatherhood with Dakota Meyer

Fighting the Battle Within with Chad Robichaux

Triumphing Through Dark Times: Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Chad Robichaux


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Triumphing Through Dark Times: Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Chad Robichaux


How do we take the first step in reclaiming ourselves when we’re navigating dark times? How do we harness the courage to move forward when it seems that there is absolutely no way out?

No one is safe from adversity. It could be a mental, physical, or spiritual crisis. We might have to cope with a failed business, a devastating loss, or a destroyed relationship.

Today we have Chad Robichaux back on The Dad Edge Podcast. We had such a powerful response to his first show with us, that we invited him to The Dad Edge Mastermind for a live Q&A session with our members.

Chad talks about triumphing through dark times. He shows us that no matter how hopeless and depressed we feel, there is always a way out with the right mindset, tools, and support.

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Owning Fatherhood with Dakota Meyer

Dakota Meyer is a former Marine and veteran of the war in Afghanistan. He’s also the host of the Owning It Podcast and the divorced father of two little girls.

Dakota shares his experience with PTS and his attempted suicide. He talks about how to step out of the victim mentality to become a greater version of ourselves. He also tells us the secrets to owning fatherhood, how to be an emotionally intelligent parent, and why we need to always surround ourselves with a trusted team for counsel.

You will hear a side of Dakota Meyer you haven’t heard on any other show. Get ready to own your life as a man and a dad!

If you’re not living for something bigger than yourself, it’s hard to do the right thing.

Dakota Meyer

Dakota Meyer is a former United States Marine. A veteran of the War in Afghanistan, he was awarded the Medal of Honor for his actions during the Battle of Ganjgal on 8 September 2009, in Kunar Province, Afghanistan. Meyer is the second-youngest living Medal of Honor recipient, the third living recipient for either the Iraq War or the War in Afghanistan and the first living U.S. Marine in 38 years to be so honored.

Owning It

This Owning It podcast is about owning your life, about leaving a legacy and giving more than you take. It’s about making the most of each day and giving your life true meaning. When your last day comes, your living legacy is left only in the memories of your loved ones and on your tombstone. On that tombstone are only two of the important dates in your life, the day you were born and the day you pass on; The only two days you don’t control. Owning the dash is about taking control of the days in between: That dash between the day you’re born and the day you die.

What You’ll Learn

  • The first time Dakota realized he wasn’t a victim was the day he put the gun to his head
  • Whatever’s in your head is not true. It’s not necessarily reality.
  • You may tell yourself your life sucks, but is really only a day or a minute that sucks?
  • How you have the make the choice not to be a victim over and over again
  • Complain or do something about it
  • You’ll let yourself down before everything else
  • How to define a mission and purpose
  • How most men haven’t seen an example of being a good father and are just doing what they were taught
  • Why your entire life, you always need counsel
  • Dakota says his only real skill is to surround himself with incredible people
  • His advice for men who feel threatened when they’re surrounded by people more successful than them
  • Don’t bitch about a problem unless you’re willing to fix it yourself
  • The formula = 5% bitching (stating problem) 5% planning (how to fix it), 90% taking action
  • His perspective on the war on masculinity
  • Why domestic, violence, and rape are the result of masculinity being taken away
  • What’s important for him to emulate as a man for his daughters
    1. Be an example of what a man should be – He wants his daughters to know what qualities to look for in her partner.
    2. Show how a woman should be treated – He wants to show his girls how a man is supposed to treat a woman so they will expect the same from their future relationships.
    3. Divorce is an option if necessary – Dakota didn’t want to model that it’s okay to be miserable. Divorce was the best solution in his case.
  • The most difficult part of being divorced
  • How being divorced from his wife, Bristol Palin, makes them better parents
  • His unwavering commitment to quality time
  • Why we should call dads out who brag about not changing diapers
  • How society has set a low bar for men on what being a dad is about
  • How dads need to accept that parenting is hard and there’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t enjoy it at times
  • How Dakota didn’t feel the love with his second daughter and thought something was wrong with him
  • The most important life lessons he’s learned
  • Advice to fathers with sons on how to raise them to become better men
  • How men are not emotionally intelligent or mature, but we can exercise our empathy by feeling our emotions and connecting with people
  • The most destructive team to have around you are the people that buy into your bullshit and don’t call you out when you’re wrong.

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Fighting the Battle Within with Chad Robichaux

Fighting the Battle Within with Chad Robichaux


Most of us have been in a dark place at some point in our lives. What is the first step to reclaiming ourselves? How can we find the courage to move forward when it seems like there is no way out?

Today’s guest is Chad Robichaux. He is a former Force Recon Marine, a professional MMA fighter, and a bestselling author. After coming home from deployment, he was diagnosed with PTSD.

Chad became lost, depressed, angry, and suicidal. It got to the point where his children were afraid of him and he and his wife were filing for a divorce.

But Chad experienced a moment of clarity that allowed him to make the choice to step out of the darkness and into his true purpose in life. Now he helps other men as they fight the battle within.

The definition of manhood—When you come to that point where you decide you’re not living yourself, but living for others.—Chad Robichaux

Chad Robichaux

Chad M. Robichaux is the President and Founder of the Mighty Oaks Foundation, a leading military non-profit serving the US Military active duty and veteran communities with highly successful peer-to-peer faith based combat trauma programs and combat resiliency conferences.

Chad and his team are dedicated to helping America’s military warriors and their families suffering from the “unseen wounds” of combat such as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Their effort is on the front line to intercede and end the climbing 22 per day veteran suicide rate and the tragic divorce epidemic in military families. To date the program has over 1,000 alumni and has reached tens of thousands active duty service members through resiliency conferences.

Chad is a former Special Operations Force Recon Marine and DoD Contractor with eight deployments to Afghanistan as part of a Joint Special Operations Command (JSOC) Task Force. He has earned an MBA and is a Board Certified Pastoral Counselor with a focus on PTSD.

Chad and his wife, Kathy, have been married for 21 years, and have three children. After years of deployments their family personally faced the challenges of PTSD. They now share a story of a victory in Christ through the struggles our warriors face returning home and have dedicated their lives to sharing that story to mentor others like them.

Chad is a widely sought after public speaker and subject matter expert on PTSD, military and veterans’ issues. He has testified in Veterans’ Courts regarding combat trauma and PTSD, wrote a best-selling book on the subject and has been featured on such media outlets as Fox News, Forbes, The O’Reily Factor, USA Today, Christian Post, Focus on The Family, The 700 Club, and a short biography film by I Am Second.

In addition to Chad’s military service he has served our nation as a Special Agent with the US Federal Air Marshal Service and the US State Department as a Surveillance Detection Senior Program Manager. Chad is also a Medal of Valor Recipient for his bravery beyond the call of duty in law enforcement.

Outside of his work with veterans Chad and his sons train and teaches Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. He is a 3 Degree Black Belt and a Former Pro MMA World Champion who has used his platform to advocate for civilian support of America’s Warriors returning home while competing in the sport’s biggest event.

If you have breath in your lungs, you have purpose. Despite what’s going on in your life, you can at any time step into that plan. All of this requires a choice, and intentionality, and calibrating your life to align with your purpose.

What You’ll Learn

  • Chad’s traumatic childhood and how it informed his military career
  • His start in martial arts
  • Why making a broad decision to change is not effective
  • How to segment your personal goals
  • How to make the decisions in advance before chaos strikes
  • Why Chad says that by nature, men are lazy and selfish. Men have to make a decision that it’s important to be a good dad and be intentional about it
  • How to raise our kids so that they can make healthy decisions and realign when they go off track in adulthood
  • Chad’s 2-point action plan when his kids do something wrong:
    1. Put time and space between when the incident happened and when you address it
    2. Find the lesson in it and pass on wisdom instead of acting out in anger
  • Why you should not take personal offense to your kids misbehaving
  • About his job as a Recon Marine
  • His story of being in a car chase with the Taliban and how it’s his metaphor for life
  • His unrelenting and terrifying experience with PTSD and his loss of identity
  • How he stayed with his internal battle for 3 years and almost lost everything
  • How his return to Jiu-Jitsu and success in MMA replaced the fix for his ego, but did nothing to repair the unseen wounds in his soul
  • Chad’s affair and near divorce
  • How he would sit in a closet with his family’s pictures on the floor holding a gun
  • The moment Chad realized he was the problem
  • What men need to do when they are hopeless and stuck
  • Why it’s a choice not to move forward
  • How he discovered that through all his tragedies and trauma, he did not have to let his past define his future
  • How he found hope and restoration in a new relationship with Christ
  • About his new book and upcoming film
  • His most humbling lessons he’s learned about fatherhood
  • Chad’s marriage advice
  • Using The Bible as the blueprint for marriage
  • His parting wisdom for men who are fighting the battle within
  • His mission to help military veterans find spiritual resilience


MENTIONED EPISODES

Episodes with SEALs

Episodes with MMA Fighters

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood


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