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The Strong, Mindful Father with Navy SEAL Jon Macaskill

The next generation is our responsibility. Our kids are watching us. What kind of world do we want them to build?

Today, The Dad Edge celebrates episode 300! Thank you to all of our listeners for being part of this community of men who want to Live Legendary. When we invest in ourselves, when we join together, when we level up, it changes the world. If you’ve been enjoying the show, please take a few seconds to leave us a review and let us know your thoughts.

Our guest for this milestone show is Jon Macaskill. He is a Retired Navy SEAL Commander, a husband, and the father of two. He is also the Executive Deputy Director of Veteran’s PATH, a nonprofit helping veterans rediscover meaning, purpose & joy through mindfulness, meditation and a safe community.

Jon talks about how he uses his training and experience in the SEAL teams to achieve seemingly impossible goals. He tells us how to respectfully cherish our spouses and parent as a cohesive team. He also teaches us how to become strong, mindful fathers by overcoming selfishness and practicing compassion.

Not for self, but for country.

Jon Macaskill

​Jon is a Navy SEAL Commander turned mindfulness and meditation teacher. He’s a Naval Academy graduate and has his masters in Operations Research from the Naval Postgraduate School. Jon has served in Iraq, Afghanistan, off the coast of Somalia, and in Panama. Jon brings mindfulness and meditation to high performing teams to aid in dealing with stress, anxiety and depression all while increasing focus, creativity, and productivity. He is dedicated to introducing meditation and mindfulness to veterans to bring them a sense of Peace, Acceptance, Transformation and Honor​ (PATH) after his 24 year military service career ended in June, 2020.

Jon’s wife also served in the Navy and is now a civilian Orthopedic Physician Assistant in Virginia Beach. They are both proud parents of two small children and currently live as a family in Chesapeake, Virginia.

What You’ll Learn

  • How and why Jon went to the SEAL teams
  • How he survived the grueling BUDs training—He didn’t come to go to the BUDs. He came to be a SEAL. BUDs was just a stepping stone to his dream.
  • When you feel like giving up, ask yourself, “What’s the larger goal?”
  • How you treat your wife as an equal.
  • The man is not the head of the household. The two of you make the head.
  • Cherish your bride. Become a parenting team with your spouse.
  • Why selfishness prevents you from accomplishing what you want in life
  • How to push past pain by solidifying your vision
  • Goal ladders–what are goal ladders and how to use them
  • Once you reach a goal, always ask, “What’s next?” Keep growing.
  • The most important lesson Jon wants to instill in his kids is compassion for others and compassion and for themselves.
  • We beat ourselves up for failures, but they are only failures if we don’t learn from them.
  • Jon’s new life as a mindfulness meditation teacher

RELATED EPISODES:

SEAL of God with Navy SEAL Chad Williams

The Full Monty: Dad-Life as an Ex-Navy SEAL with Monty Heath

Staring Down the Wolf with ex-Navy SEAL Mark Divine


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Armor Down/Daddy Up


We show up best when we are fully present in the moment, but we have a tendency to live in defense-mode based on fears from the past. It’s not that we’re not capable of being more open and mindful. It’s that we don’t know how. Today, Ben King gives us the skillset to armor down and daddy up.

Ben King is an Iraq War veteran and Purple Heart recipient who has helped hundreds of veterans “armor down” with mindfulness, meditation, and yoga practices. He tells us how he changed his perspective on what it means to be strong and how that has transformed him as a man and father. He explains how to get out of the stories we tell ourselves and get into our bodies to experience life more objectively. He also teaches us how to hone our skills of empathy and patience so that we can move with life instead of against it. Armor Down. Daddy Up!

Our greatest assets show up when we are fully present in the moment.–Ben King, Armor Down/Daddy Up

Armor Down/Daddy Up

The Armor Down/Daddy Up!™ (AD/DU!) program is designed to assist veterans and active-duty warriors with reentering their families in the most productive and rewarding ways possible. It is also designed to be of value to others who have been impacted by trauma-related experiences.

What You’ll Learn

  • Our skillset fails, not our patience.
  • Surviving on approval can create panic.
  • We often model parents’ triggering.
  • Down-regulate patterns that are built into your system.
  • Defeating meathead patterns.
  • Men are viewed as protectors, using physicality and violence in gesture.
  • How Ben King changed his idea of what it meant to be strong. It used to be a presentation. This had its limitations.
  • Identify the mindfulness tools that help you. What are the most efficient? Keep bringing them back.
  • Train every day to hone your skills on a regular basis.
  • As you become more mindful, the layers of being a father and a man become more nuanced and exciting.
  • Operating from the intellect and the culturally articulated idea of masculinity is ineffective.
  • Getting out of the way of our bodies.
  • The driver is the heart. Become heart-focused.
  • Ben discovered that the greatest version of himself was not the armored version, but the one that flowed.
  • Your story about yourself determines how you will act
  • If you’re operating from a place of threat, you cannot use your mind’s high-functioning processors.
  • Align your spine, straighten your shoulders to stimulate your parasympathetic system.
  • Love by its very nature conquers fear.
  • Trauma ruptures your relationship with what was a predictable normal life.
  • The rupture gets filled with maladaptive habits that are flawed.
  • Give your kid access to the information given them by their body when they are experiencing emotions. Tell them, “It’s okay to feel what your feeling. Let’s look at it.”
  • Press your kids to their edge and then let them take the next step on their own.
  • Ben’s simple but genius candy strategy to make sure “the walk home” after an event with your kids ends on a positive note.

MENTIONED EPISODES

The Challenges of Being a Military Veteran Dad

Staring Down the Wolf with ex-Navy SEAL Mark Divine

The Real, Transparent, Imperfect Dad with Tim Kennedy

 


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How to Be the Father Your Kids Need with former Navy SEAL Luis Rivera

How can you learn how to be a good dad if your father wasn’t there for you? What does it mean to be a good dad? How can you learn to be the father your kids need?

Today we have retired Navy SEAL Senior Chief Luis Rivera on the show. He served with the SEALs for 24 years and was featured in Discovery Channel’s documentary Navy SEALs BUDs Class 234. Luis has been married for 14 years and has three kids.

Growing up, Luis’s father never made an effort to be involved in his life. Luis admits, he wasn’t always a good dad either. Military life always came first, until he realized what an impact his behavior was making on his kids.

Luis is now a fully present and invested dad. He’s also part of Mighty Oaks Programs, an organization that helps veterans, active duty military, and first responders deal with PTS and life trauma.

Luis opens up about his struggles and failures as a husband and father. He tells us how he spent 9 days in a hotel with his daughter to help her through drug withdrawals. He also talks about the free 5-step program that helps men get a full understanding of who they are and what their purpose is in the world.

You’ve never heard this side of Luis Rivera before. Don’t miss this in-depth interview!

“If you somehow break up the family, you’ll break up a community, and you’ll break up the nation.”—Luis Rivera

What You’ll Learn

  • Luis gave up caring about things after his parents split up when he was 12 years old.
  • Luis’s older brother took over a fatherly role, showing him how to ride a bike and teaching him about life.
  • Luis remembers being angry at his dad for not being someone he could lean on and talk to, like his older brother.
  • His father paid no child support, and Luis’s mom put herself through the police academy to support her five kids. I was her work ethic that gave Luis the example he needed to become a SEAL.
  • Later, Luis discovered his dad, also a military man, was dealing with his own demons. He was sent home from Korea because after being involved in a grenade explosion that killed his cousin.
  • Even when Luis became an adult, the relationship with his father never rekindled. His father is now deceased.
  • Where Luis’s motivation to join the military came from
  • How the stress from consequences of his bad decisions made him give up on BUDs training the first time.
  • What helped him to grow up and start working hard to take care of his responsibilities
  • What made him go back to BUDs after having been in the military for ten years
  • Luis didn’t understand what he was doing to his kids at the time.
  • During his second attempt, Luis got swimmer induced pulmonary edema and was pulled from the class
  • Then he had to start over BUDs from the beginning for the third time.
  • Luis knew this last attempt would make him or break him, and he welcomed the challenge.
  • The thoughts that kept him going through the training
  • How he used the Bible selfishly to avoid pain
  • How passing BUDs was not a finish line, but a new beginning
  • His mistake in putting his military life before his family
  • The point when he decided to change things
  • Luis realized that he didn’t maintain the same morals at work and home.
  • When he finally felt good about who we was as a father and husband
  • The harrowing meth 9-day meth detox he helped his daughter through
  • How the experience with his daughter bonded them together and triggered his healing process
  • How he’s held his marriage together
  • His relationship with Christ and how it has changed his heart
  • The 5-day program that equips warriors to fight through life’s challenges and discover the very purpose for their lives moving forward
  • How veterans, active military, and first responders can apply for Might Oaks Programs, free of charge, including travel, food, and boarding
  • Might Oaks programs available for women and couples

RELATED EPISODES:

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

Owning Fatherhood with Dakota Meyer

Fighting the Battle Within with Chad Robichaux

Triumphing Through Dark Times: Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Chad Robichaux


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Triumphing Through Dark Times: Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Chad Robichaux


How do we take the first step in reclaiming ourselves when we’re navigating dark times? How do we harness the courage to move forward when it seems that there is absolutely no way out?

No one is safe from adversity. It could be a mental, physical, or spiritual crisis. We might have to cope with a failed business, a devastating loss, or a destroyed relationship.

Today we have Chad Robichaux back on The Dad Edge Podcast. We had such a powerful response to his first show with us, that we invited him to The Dad Edge Mastermind for a live Q&A session with our members.

Chad talks about triumphing through dark times. He shows us that no matter how hopeless and depressed we feel, there is always a way out with the right mindset, tools, and support.

MENTIONED EPISODES

Episodes with SEALs

Episodes with MMA Fighters

Fighting the Battle Within with Chad Robichaux


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Owning Fatherhood with Dakota Meyer

Dakota Meyer is a former Marine and veteran of the war in Afghanistan. He’s also the host of the Owning It Podcast and the divorced father of two little girls.

Dakota shares his experience with PTS and his attempted suicide. He talks about how to step out of the victim mentality to become a greater version of ourselves. He also tells us the secrets to owning fatherhood, how to be an emotionally intelligent parent, and why we need to always surround ourselves with a trusted team for counsel.

You will hear a side of Dakota Meyer you haven’t heard on any other show. Get ready to own your life as a man and a dad!

If you’re not living for something bigger than yourself, it’s hard to do the right thing.

Dakota Meyer

Dakota Meyer is a former United States Marine. A veteran of the War in Afghanistan, he was awarded the Medal of Honor for his actions during the Battle of Ganjgal on 8 September 2009, in Kunar Province, Afghanistan. Meyer is the second-youngest living Medal of Honor recipient, the third living recipient for either the Iraq War or the War in Afghanistan and the first living U.S. Marine in 38 years to be so honored.

Owning It

This Owning It podcast is about owning your life, about leaving a legacy and giving more than you take. It’s about making the most of each day and giving your life true meaning. When your last day comes, your living legacy is left only in the memories of your loved ones and on your tombstone. On that tombstone are only two of the important dates in your life, the day you were born and the day you pass on; The only two days you don’t control. Owning the dash is about taking control of the days in between: That dash between the day you’re born and the day you die.

What You’ll Learn

  • The first time Dakota realized he wasn’t a victim was the day he put the gun to his head
  • Whatever’s in your head is not true. It’s not necessarily reality.
  • You may tell yourself your life sucks, but is really only a day or a minute that sucks?
  • How you have the make the choice not to be a victim over and over again
  • Complain or do something about it
  • You’ll let yourself down before everything else
  • How to define a mission and purpose
  • How most men haven’t seen an example of being a good father and are just doing what they were taught
  • Why your entire life, you always need counsel
  • Dakota says his only real skill is to surround himself with incredible people
  • His advice for men who feel threatened when they’re surrounded by people more successful than them
  • Don’t bitch about a problem unless you’re willing to fix it yourself
  • The formula = 5% bitching (stating problem) 5% planning (how to fix it), 90% taking action
  • His perspective on the war on masculinity
  • Why domestic, violence, and rape are the result of masculinity being taken away
  • What’s important for him to emulate as a man for his daughters
    1. Be an example of what a man should be – He wants his daughters to know what qualities to look for in her partner.
    2. Show how a woman should be treated – He wants to show his girls how a man is supposed to treat a woman so they will expect the same from their future relationships.
    3. Divorce is an option if necessary – Dakota didn’t want to model that it’s okay to be miserable. Divorce was the best solution in his case.
  • The most difficult part of being divorced
  • How being divorced from his wife, Bristol Palin, makes them better parents
  • His unwavering commitment to quality time
  • Why we should call dads out who brag about not changing diapers
  • How society has set a low bar for men on what being a dad is about
  • How dads need to accept that parenting is hard and there’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t enjoy it at times
  • How Dakota didn’t feel the love with his second daughter and thought something was wrong with him
  • The most important life lessons he’s learned
  • Advice to fathers with sons on how to raise them to become better men
  • How men are not emotionally intelligent or mature, but we can exercise our empathy by feeling our emotions and connecting with people
  • The most destructive team to have around you are the people that buy into your bullshit and don’t call you out when you’re wrong.

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