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Brenneman vs. Hagner: The Good Dad Project Interview

In this episode, Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman turns the tables and puts Good Dad Project creator and host Larry Hagner in the spotlight. Learn all about the humble beginnings of The Good Dad Project and what it’s like to interview amazing guests. You’ll also hear about Larry’s mastermind groups, how he balances work and family, and why he hates his first name.

Larry Hagner

Larry had been married to his wife for fourteen years and is the father to four boys. Yes. Four. Aged eleven, nine, three, and one. He says parenting four boys is chaos and he couldn’t do it without a sense of humor. He and his wife refer to the kids as “the drunk people” because they talk nonsense, miss the toilet when they pee, and show up to dinner without pants.

The Good Dad Project

The Good Dad Project is a blog and a podcast with over 200 hundred shows logged featuring NY Times bestselling authors, professional athletes, famous fighters, motivational speakers, and Navy SEALS. Larry Hagner is the author of two books, a children’s book and a guidebook for dads. He is a mastermind facilitator and manages huge community of dads from across the world.

Larry offers The Dad Edge free private Facebook group where men discuss anything and everything. He also has two tiers of mastermind groups: The Dad Edge Alliance and the Elite Mastermind. He credits his business model from combining what he’s learned from his close friends and mentors, Aaron Walker from View from the Top and Ryan Michler from Order of Man.

On Being a Connector

Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman knows Larry Hagner’s connecting abilities first hand. Larry agrees that being a connector is his strength. Larry relies heavily on the radical relationships he has formed and feeds those relationships by branching out to other likeminded individuals. Why not share fantastic people with other fantastic people?

The Power of Talking

In a society where everything is automated and fast, talking is grossly underrated. But Larry Hagner believes in getting personal in the men his mastermind groups. He hosts calls every week on the Zoom platform where everyone can talk and view each other on video.

He could easily have a landing page where anyone can access the group, but Larry calls each and every man to approve them first. This takes a lot of time and effort, but what goes on in the mastermind is very personal and the call beforehand starts the relationship off on the right foot.

These groups create a dynamic, ever-changing synergy. In one-to-one coaching, the client only gets one perspective, but in a mastermind group, he will get a variety of perspectives, answers, and strategies. This is the value of a tribe, something we’ve lost as a society and mastermind groups fill that void.

The Vision

When Larry first started his groups, he was terrified. Would they men like it? Would they stay? Because of this, he constantly asks for feedback and remains open to criticism. What is the need out there? Negative feedback used to hurt his feelings, but now he sidesteps his ego so he can get better. He strives to bring more value to his shows and groups every day.

The Growth of GDP

After one year of steady podcasting, Larry only hit 50K downloads. He was frustrated, but stayed the course. He started really paying attention to which shows the audience responded to according to download numbers and audience emails.

Just one more year of sticking with the show, The Good Dad Project has reached 1 million downloads and is gaining momentum.

Playing the Long Game

Growing a show and cultivating a community took extreme patience on Larry’s part. At one point, he had to take out of his retirement for website and production expenses, but he kept the faith.

He says that if you would do what you’re doing for free, and you pay attention to the needs of the people you are helping, then you will eventually be successful. Passion will not do it alone. You also need the right recipe and you must keep learning and changing till you find the right one.

There’s no way around putting in the hard work.

Overcoming Self-doubt

Larry always had the desire to educate and improve himself. Five years ago, he was not the man or the father he wanted to be, and the GDP was his way of educating himself.

He now can’t imagine being a father without The Good Dad Project in his life. His kids would suffer and he would suffer. This is why Larry is determined to keep the project growing. It has become larger than himself. At this point, he knows he has to deliver to his audience all the time and in a big way so he can also deliver these same things home.

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Charlie Brenneman: How to Live a Life of Excellence

Working to Live, Not Living to Work with Aaron Walker

How Your Tribe Will Make You a Better Man with Ryan Michler


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48 Days to The Work You Love with Dan Miller

Episode Overview on 48 Days to The Work You Love with Dan Miller:

Larry and Shawn interview Dan Miller, international best-seller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, No More Dreaded Mondays, and Wisdom Meets Passion. He has appeared on the CBS Morning Show, MSNBC’s Hardball With Chris Matthews, Moody Midday Connection and the Dave Ramsey Show. He reaches over 130,000 listeners on his podcast and speaks across the country helping others find fulfillment and the work they love. And it all started in a Sunday school class…

Key Takeaways:

There you sit-Superman logo on the t-shirt the kids gave you last Father’s Day, #1 Dad mug perched on the coaster imprinted with your progeny’s latest snapshot; their adorable smiles glaring back at you. To them you are Superman, but some days you feel more like Superman after a bout with Lex Luthor and Kryptonite.

Not only are you “dad”, you are spouse, provider, and friend. You “have” to bring in that paycheck so you can provide everything your family wants and needs. But at what cost? Ever feel like you’re working tirelessly for that paycheck and then you have nothing mentally or physically to give your family when you do go home? Are you working to live or are you living to work? Maybe it’s a quiet desperation you are living because you think you are trapped in a less-than-stellar job just to provide for your family.

If you’re not passionate about what you are doing to bring home that paycheck, maybe it’s time to reevaluate your work life. We’re not saying go ahead and quit your day job, but it’s worth exploring the possibility of finding what you really want to do with your life.

It takes a true mind-shift. We’ve been conditioned to think that if we just work harder or put in more time, we will make more money or get that promotion. It’s not like that anymore. The economy has shifted from paying for time to paying for value. In other words, paying for the finished product or service rather than paying for the time put into that service or product. So, the old 9-5 model isn’t really driving the work force any longer.

Wouldn’t it be great if you could make what you needed to provide for your family, have more time for your family and enjoy doing it? Sounds like a pipe-dream, right? Dan Miller has done it and helped many others do it, too, by simply helping people tap into their passion. He outlines three steps to accomplish this goal:

  1. Identify your unique passion. What can you bring to other people that would benefit them? Maybe you have a great talent at creating something or maybe you are wonderful at motivating others.
  2. Be clear about what you want to do and put it into an economic model. Once you have found your passion, be specific about it and the goals you have for its success.
  3. Actually do it. It’s one thing to have a great idea; it’s another to execute it.
    Once you have aligned your work with what you love, your passion, you will have that work-life balance. Those around you will take notice and be inspired, especially your kids. Achieving this balance will no doubt rub off on your own children and they, in turn, will be able to carry this into their adult lives.

So, go back to your chair in your Superman shirt and your #1 Dad mug and smile gleefully back at that snapshot of your kids. Now you have hope that you can have time for your family and love what you do to provide for them. Goodbye “work Kryptonite”, hello leaping from tall buildings in a single bound.

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How to Develop a Gold Medal Mindset

How to Develop a Gold Medal Mindset with Jake Herbert

Episode Overview on How to Develop a Gold Medal Mindset:

Larry and Shawn interview Olympic wrestler, co-founder of Base Wrestling and Double Leg Ninja, Jake Herbert. Jake’s unique background and rise to the top of wrestling are wonderful guides to help you teach your own kids to learn from their failures and rise beyond their expectations. His endearing story will inspire and challenge you to be the best possible parent you can be.

Key Takeaways:

In a world demanding perfection, it’s refreshing to hear someone say that it’s ok to fail. Not only is it ok, it’s necessary to be able to grow and become a better person. Olympic wrestler, Jake Herbert, knows exactly what it means to fail and come out of that failure with a grateful mindset.

After dealing with the pressures of drug and alcohol use in his early high school years, wrestling literally saved Jake from a potential downward spiral. During his junior year, Jake realized that he had strong potential in wrestling and decided to direct all of his energies toward this end. The more wins he got under his belt (or in his case, singlet), the more confidence he gained. He decided to aim high. Very high. Olympic high. Drafted by the elite Northwestern University, Jake enjoyed a $250, 000 scholarship, allowing him to continue his passion of wrestling while furthering his education. Eventually, Jake’s success on the mat led him to his dream: the 2012 Olympic stage. His quest for gold, silver, bronze, even fourth place did not, however, come to fruition. When it was all said and done, he finished 7th-in the world.

Seventh in the world. Let that sink in for a moment. Out of the over 7 billion people in the world, Jake ranks 7th in wrestling. That is astounding in itself. He aimed very high, and even though he did not medal, he still reached a level in his field that not many will ever achieve. Because of his success, Jake was able to meet world leaders and have a wealth of other opportunities that would not have been afforded to him had he not aimed as high as he did originally. Some would say, that’s a win in itself.

Jake states this idea of dreaming big needs to be cultivated early with kids. In other words, kids need to have fun in whatever they are doing and parents need to allow their kids to fail. This means allowing your kids to go outside of their comfort zones and letting them struggle just enough for growth.

In Jake’s own words, “If they don’t learn to like it when they are younger, they won’t want to bleed for it or suffer for it later.” By helping kids to train their minds to enjoy the activity even though it may have its struggles, they will learn resiliency. How do you, as a parent, make this happen? Try making it a game. Kids love games. Even if something is challenging, kids are more apt to want to stick with an activity in a game-like setting.

Of course, there are those times when continuing to push your child when they don’t want to continue can result in a negative outcome. So how do you know when enough is enough? Know your child. Your child has limits and you know what they are when you pay attention to the unique signs. But knowing that fine line between struggle for growth and when it’s too much is key.
So maybe your child isn’t a wrestler, or even in a sport, but the lessons of being present for your kids and knowing when to push and when to hold back can be used in every area of their lives. You, as the parent, are their example and their guide.

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How to Boost Your Physical, Mental, and Emotional Health

Episode Overview:

In their BIG 4-0 podcast, Larry and Shawn go even deeper into 3 of the 5 Mountains introduced in episode 28’s interview with Sealfit’s Founder, Mark Divine. Packed with life-changing take-aways, the guys discuss immediately actionable ways to improve your daily life.

Key Takeaways:

The Physical, Mental, and Emotional Mountains of our lives are intertwined. Let’s face it: if our body is out of whack, our mental and emotional states aren’t going to fare too well, either. Easy to say, but working on these Mountains can be a task if you don’t know how to address them. So, take out your pick axe and let’s climb them.

Breathe in, breathe out. Sounds simple enough, but many of us only use 50% of our breathing capacity throughout the day, aggravating our fight or flight response. Feel edgy during the day? It might be the way you’re breathing. Try inhaling deeply (using your diaphragm-you know, that muscle right below your ribcage) for a count of 5, then exhaling deeply for a count of 5. You just might find your stress levels decrease significantly.

As much as we need air, we need sleep. We may think sleep is over-rated, but even The Guiness Book of World Records won’t allow any entries related to sleep deprivation. Yeah, it’s that important. Our bodies truly need 7-8.5 hours of sleep per night, but the quality of sleep we get is just as important. The “magic hours” (as Shawn coins them) are between the hours of 10pm and 2am. This is when our bodies get the most regenerative benefits from sleep. Not convinced? Sleep deprivation is proven to lead to lower testosterone and is directly related to erectile dysfunction. Yikes! The lack of those Z’s can really mess with a guy.

So how do you get that quality sleep? It’s starts the minute you wake up.

  1. Try exercising upon waking; it could simply be a brisk walk.
  2. Get your room as dark as you can (in other words-no iPad time in bed)

How you start your day is just as critical as how you finish.

  1. Begin with 20-32 ounces of water
  2. Think about 2-3 things you are grateful for
  3. Spend a couple minutes a day deep breathing
  4. Adopt a positive mantra like, “I got this”
  5. Dirt drive your day-what do you want to accomplish?

Once your day’s going, how do you deal with your stress and emotions? Keep in mind that your emotions don’t define you; they are simply felt thoughts. The trick is not letting them control you. So, create some space to shift your mind-set. Is this a reactionary emotion? If so, think about what the best course of action would be in the situation. What is going to lead you to victory in that moment?

Ahhh. Finally, the end of the day. Sometimes we don’t have the best days. Even on our worst, we should take some time to reflect on the top 3 things that really made an impact. If you didn’t have the best day, what are 2 things you learned from that day? This mind set helps to get us to appreciate the epic moments and learn from our not-so-stellar times.

Happiness-we have 40% control over this (50% from genetics and 10% circumstance). So take the 40% you can control and direct your focus on what brings you happiness now-don’t postpone it!
Part of your happiness resides in your relationships with others. Biologically, we view isolation as a threat. Let’s say you have a disconnect with your spouse. Your mind sees this as a biological threat. In order to overcome this, look at the 3 pillars of an emotionally healthy relationship: Accessible, Responsive, Engaged (ARE). ARE you there in these ways? See? Knowing how to use the skills you already have in your arsenal will help you climb your everyday Mountains. Of course, there are 2 more that need to be addressed in more depth, but we’ll climb them another time.

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Jon Vroman Ep 39

Uncover Your Front Row Factor in Your Relationships, Career, and Life

Episode Overview:

How engaged are you? Larry and Shawn speak to The Front Row Factor for Dads with Jon Vroman, award winning speaker, host of The Front Row podcast, and chairman and founder of The Front Row Foundation about being in the front row of life: yours, your kids, those you love. Jon recounts his courageous life choices and explains how you can take an active seat in life’s front row.

Key Takeaways from The Front Row Factor for Dads with Jon Vroman:

You’re enough. Those words are powerful. Right here, right now, you are everything you need to be in this moment. The world needs you to be the best version of yourself instead of trying to be something you really aren’t. So, how do you do this? Define your front row.

Who is in your front row? Think about it. Your inner circle supports you and cheers you on in your life; that’s how important that front row is. At the same time, are you in the front row of those who are most important to you (your kids, your significant other)? Are you present? See life from your kids’ perspective and think about how they see you. Put yourself in your kids’ world and vie life from their perspective. Be in their front row. This is the Front Row Factor for Dads with Jon Vroman.

This also means being flexible and engaged. Life can throw you plenty of curve balls, but if you are flexible and engaged, you are better equipped to take those challenges in stride. You’ll find you grow and evolve and be the best example for your kids by demonstrating these qualities.

Being in your kids’ front row shows them you are their biggest fan. You have earned a right to be in your child’s front row, so take advantage of that privilege.

The front row demands that you take action and be courageous in your life. Whatever you are impassioned about or have longed to do are only going to happen if you take the lead. And your children are watching the choices you make and how you make the most out of life’s opportunities.

If you have a seat you don’t like, change it. If you have a seat you can’t change, adopt the philosophy that this seat is the best seat in the house. Choose to make the most of the seat you’re in.

Do you choose to play it safe in life or do you choose to take the risk and see what happens…down in front?

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