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How to Become a Patient Father in 37 Minutes

Today we talk about how to become a patient father.

The Dad Edge started on one of the worst nights of my life as a dad. I lost my patience and did something I regret to this day.

I didn’t grow up with my dad in the picture, and the men in my life were not good father figures to me. I was raised in an uncertain, sometimes abusive, alcohol-ridden household. When I became a parent, I didn’t have a clue. All I knew is what I didn’t want to do, but that wasn’t enough.

Losing our temper does not mean that we are bad, hopeless people. We are only lacking the skills to talk ourselves down so that we can respond instead of reacting to the daily challenges of fatherhood.

In this show, I give you a toolbox of strategies that you can use to understand the triggers, notice the signs, and disarm the bomb before it goes off.

Patience is the capacity to accept, tolerate, or delay trouble or suffering without getting angry or upset.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why focusing on what NOT to do as a parent backfires
  • Why it’s so hard to determine where our anger comes from
  • The shame and guilt we feel because we don’t understand why we sometimes verbally, or even physically, take our frustration out on our loved ones
  • The things we do in the morning that set us up for disaster when it comes to losing our tempers
  • The elements of patience
  • The physical triggers that signal that we’re about to react
  • How we unwittingly trigger our fight or flight mechanisms
  • How to create space between reaction and response
  • Why emotions are neither bad nor good
  • How to detach from outcomes
  • How to prepare for moments that will test our patience
  • How to give forgive ourselves when we make mistakes
  • Stopping negative self-talk
  • Executing an after-action review

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Choose Patience: How to Find Peace Amid Insanity


Sometimes living with kids can be insane, and we all have those times when we lose our temper. But we do have the ability to choose patience, and it’s up to us to show our kids what it means to be in control of our behavior. Learning how to choose patience can help us find chaos amid the insanity in any situation.

In this short episode, I talk about what we can do mentally and emotionally as fathers to pause, reflect, and create space between reaction and response.

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Not Losing It with Your Kids

3 Seconds to Not Losing It with Your Kids


In our last episode with Amy Morin, author of 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do, we discussed how to enhance mental toughness and emotional resilience in our kids. What does that mean for us dads?

As men, we are thrown so many things each day. Keeping up with work, finances, and family can be exhausting. It’s easy to become irritable and susceptible to knee jerk reactions, especially when our kids don’t listen to us. We usually yell and shout, and then feel terrible.

In this episode, I teach you how to use three seconds to create a mental space in your mind and use questions to give your kid a choice to obey.

'Most of the time our kids will fight us. They want to defend their ground just to have some power. You can get them to listen to you by giving them a choice.' #kids #parenting #dads #fathers Click To Tweet

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How to Get Your Kid to Listen Without Yelling

I’m going to talk about an issue most dads face on a daily basis–losing our temper. What do you do when you tell your son or daughter to do something over and over again and they just won’t listen? Usually we get frustrated and angry. We begin to raise our voice, but this doesn’t give us the respect we want. Today I’m going to share a secret I learned from a mentor on how to get your kid to listen without yelling.


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Prevent Angry Outbursts

5 Ways to Prevent Angry Outbursts

This episode marks 1 year of Thursday Throwdown on the Good Dad Project! Following up on our previous episode with Peter Sacco about Uncovering the Secrets of Anger, we’re going to go over five quick ways we can prevent angry outbursts.

Some of us have issues managing our anger. This is because most men hold things in for way too long. Then we explode when we’ve suddenly hit our limit. We feel shame, regret, and frustration over not being able to control ourselves. But we must remember that anger is a normal emotion and we can put preventative measures in place to prevent angry outbursts.

1. Breathe

We must respond instead of react. If take a moment to breathe first, we can calm ourselves and think before overreacting.

2. Walk away

Sometimes our kids need a time out. Sometimes, WE need a time out. We should find a quiet place and wait for the anger to pass. Then we can approach the conflict rationally.

3. Stay active

Exercise helps us handle stress better. Endorphins give us a sense of well-being. If we blow off some steam during workouts, we will be in a better frame of mind to handle difficult situations at home and work.

4. Surround yourself with right tribe

We are the average of the 5 people we hang out with the most. We must find friends and mentors who help us to be the best version of who we are – like the DAD EDGE ALLIANCE.

5. Apologize

When we apologize to our kids, we show them a tremendous lesson in humility. Just because we are dads doesn’t mean we’re always right. This is a great opportunity to show them that we can put our egos aside and admit when we’re wrong.

 

Did you catch our previous episode? Uncovering the Truth About Anger with Peter Sacco


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