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It’s Time to End the Social Isolation Epidemic Among Men

Most of us men live isolated lives because we feel it’s noble, selfless, and the right thing to do. We pay most of our attention to two things – our family and our jobs. When it comes to relationships with other men, we don’t have them. In this week’s Thursday Throwdown, I talk about why it’s time to end this social isolation epidemic among men.

When was the last time you made friends with a likeminded man? Have you developed a relationship where you could feel safe to call and lean in for help or advice?

99% of the guys I talk to have not made any true connections in a long time. We have a lot of acquaintances, but no close friends. This is unhealthy, because humans are community beings. We die a little bit inside when we don’t belong to a social group. We try to solve the problems of the world alone.

When we’re bottled up without a tribe to turn to for guidance and support, we live life overwhelmed, low on patience, irritated, and pissed at ourselves that we’re living life stressed-out and unhappy. It’s not supposed to be that way, and it doesn’t have to be.

Social isolation is bad for our health and well being. If you’re feeling alone with no one to turn to, find support at a local level. It could be through your church, or a local organization like the Freemasons or the Knights of Columbus. If you’re having trouble finding likeminded men in your community, reach out online.

For example, we have the free Dad’s Edge Alliance Facebook Group, and we also have the Dad’s Edge Alliance Membership Group. There are hundreds of similar groups online now. Find the one that resonates with your values and goals and join in. There is no need to deal with all the challenges of life, work, and family alone.


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Prevailing Through the Crucibles of Life

Prevailing Through the Crucibles of Life

We all go through times in our lives when the carpet is pulled from under us. Through no fault of our own, our lives spin out of control. We go through a hell that seems unending. We feel all that’s important to us slipping through our fingers. Today we talk about prevailing over the crucibles of life.

I just went through thirty-three days of horrendous insomnia. I only could get ninety minutes to three hours of sleep a night. I went to the ER twice and was hospitalized for four days. I tried all the meds, and nothing would put me down for more than three hours. I went to bed every night in fear, knowing I wouldn’t be able to sleep. I lost fifteen pounds. My blood pressure and blood sugar went up. As my health deteriorated, I worried about my business, the GDP podcast, and my family. For the first time in my life, I experienced anxiety and depression. I felt like I had no control as a I watched everything that was important to me slipping away.

In this episode I tell you how I got through this crucible in my life and how you can too.

 

Did you catch our previous episode? Reclaiming the Art of Manliness with Brett McKay

 


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Why Every Man Needs a Rope Team

Why Every Man Needs a Rope Team

Last week on the Good Dad Project, we had Erik Weihenmayer, the first and only blind man to summit Mount Everest. On this week’s Thursday Throwdown, I’d like to expand on his concept of a rope team and why every man needs one.

It seems that, as men, the older we get, the more and more isolated we become. We’ll go it alone as a husband, a father, and a man. We live our lives in quiet desperation. We may even achieve success on our own and find ourselves lonely at the top. That is why every man needs a rope team. We need a group of other men to turn to for advice. We need to be able to share our experiences to help others.

Do you have a rope team? Join the The Dad Edge Private Facebook Group

Referenced Episode: How to Live Life with No Barriers with Erik Weihenmayer


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How to Live Life with No Barriers with Erik Weihenmayer

Defying the odds, overcoming adversity and summiting the top of Mount Everest as a blind person – you do not want to miss today’s episode on how to live life with No Barriers with Erik Weihenmayer.

Erik Weihenmayer is an American athlete, adventurer, author, activist and motivational speaker, and the only blind person to reach the summit of Mount Everest.

Erik was affected by a rare genetic disease called retinoschisis. He went completely blind a week before his Freshman year in high school, a difficult age even for sighted kids. He remembers having to be lead into school as a newly blind person. It was a sad time. He sat by himself in the cafeteria and heard all the excitement and joy of kids around him. He knew he didn’t want to be sitting at a table by himself listening to life go by. He wanted to be in the action.

But Erik’s first reaction to going blind was anger, frustration, blaming, and lashing out. He fell off docks and slammed into walls. With support from his family and friends, he got got through it. He realized he needed to find his own way and had to decide what he feared most – fear of living inside a prison vs. fear of getting out.

Erik chose to take the road that had potential to lead him out of the darkness. He found blind friends who went rock climbing. He learned to use his hands and feet as his eyes. He learned to read Braille and use a cane, and this led him back to the world. Through his struggles, Erik realized that the fun of life is discovering your own way forward.

 

You’re not going to do it like the next person. Challenges bring new discoveries.

 

Erik found his own way of doing things as a blind man, and achieved his dream of climbing Mount Everest. It’s unbelievable that eighteen years before, he couldn’t even find the bathroom by himself.

 

What within us is stronger than what’s in our way.

 

Having a Rope Team

One of the most important elements of mountaineering is having a rope team. Erik says men also need to have a rope team for daily life. We all need help to do the great things we need to do.

Erik says life for men without rope team is lonely and brutal. He tells the tragic story of his brother who died from complications due to alcoholism. His brother was a great person, but he wouldn’t let anyone in. Not accepting help from others leads to a short and unhappy life. We’re all in the same boat, reaching to overcome obstacles, and having a support system is crucial.

On Fatherhood

Erik has two teenagers and admits that climbing Everest doesn’t make him a cooler dad in their eyes. In his family, they try to get back to the basics. When his kids were little, he always got down on the floor and played with them. Now that his kids are teenagers, they sit at the table together. Erik makes sure they’re not just talking at each other, but being open and listening. I’m here for you always, he tells his kids a lot, and tries to demonstrate that same message through his actions.

The family also gets away as much as they can. They do summer trips together in the wilderness and on the white water. Erik says they each push themselves in different ways and experience the learning process together.

During breaks, they talk about their adventures, the ups and downs, and the triumphs. Erik believes that the outdoors is the richest laboratory for parenting his kids. They get a chance to step away from all the high-tech stuff and immerse themselves in the creative process.

Live Life with No Barriers

It’s in our nature to avoid failure, to shy away from risk and fear. Sitting around, watching TV, and eating pizza is much easier. It’s safe. It’s comfortable, but it’s not living life to the fullest.

Erik says as parents, we must sweep our children out into the world. They will get broken, and it will be hard. They’ll get bombarded. Sometimes a blow or setback makes a direct strike. At this point, Erik tries to get his kids to stretch their barriers. They will have to decide if they are going to shrink in retreat, or use the challenge to get bigger and better. They practice taking adversity, using it as fuel, and converting into light.

Erik Weihenmayer’s Dad Wisdom

Erik keeps an open heart policy in his household. He had to figure out how to make himself vulnerable and lean into bad experiences. He teaches his kids to do the same.

He also makes sure his kids understand that their dreams are credible and that their thoughts matter. Let them know they have inside what it takes to blaze into the world.

Erik’s last piece of dad advice is to send kids over the fence and into the wilderness. Give them unsupervised, unstructured time outdoors. The creativity they develop will lead to pioneering spirit that will take them through the adventure of life.

 

Referenced Episode: How to Teach Our Kids to Win at Losing with Sam Weinman

 


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How to be the rock for your kids

How to Be the Rock for Your Kids

As much as we want to encourage our kids to do their best, we might be unintentionally causing them undue stress. That is why it’s crucial – whether in sports, school, or life – that our kids see the same us when they look to us for support.


This means that no matter what our kids are going through, we should always be a safe place for them to turn to. We have to be aware of our reactions. When our kids fail, will we look ashamed or disappointed? Do we tell them what they should’ve done? Do we seem overly protective? Or will we always be open, receptive, listening – the rock for our kids?

 

Referenced Episode: How to Instill the Growth Mindset in Your Kids with Larry Yatch


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