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How Self-Sacrifice is Hurting You and Others with Cody Jefferson

How Self-Sacrifice is Hurting You and Others with Cody Jefferson


So many men are unhappy, exhausted, and overwhelmed, even when they have a life that would be considered perfect. Why is that?

Today we have mega guest Cody Jefferson on The Dad Edge. Cody is the founder and CEO of Embrace The Lion, and the creator of LION Method, the #1 Group Coaching Program for High-Achieving Men looking to adopt the right support, belief, habits and community to create success in their lives and businesses.

Cody tells us what happens when we are addicted to accomplishment and validation. He teaches us how to get honest with ourselves and step into the reality that is right for us. Most importantly, he tells us how stop sacrificing ourselves on the altar of success and find true fulfillment with our families.

Get ready to embrace the lion within!

“You can only be lead so far as your own awareness.”—Cody Jefferson

Cody Jefferson

Recognized as one of the country’s leading personal and professional coaches for men by Entrepreneur, USA Today and The Today Show, Cody has been walking alongside thousands of entrepreneurs, leaders and professionals on the subjects of personal ownership and development, communication, leadership, and marketing/branding for nearly 2 decades.

He is a nationally-recognized keynote speaker for conferences, colleges, corporations and churches across the country.

He resides in Tulsa, Oklahoma with his wife, 3 kids, 5 french bulldogs and 2 Harleys.

What You’ll Learn

• Cody used to be a “yes man,” and this created a dark dissonance within him
• Men of faith are not immune to the pressure. Cody lost 6 friends in ministry to suicide.
• Many men experience an extreme feeling of lacking something and not being good enough.
• We pile on stuff to compensate for our perceived shortcomings.
• Cody talks about his reliance on alcohol and why he stopped drinking.
• Alcohol is not a problem, but a symptom of the issues you’re not dealing with.
• Cody’s dark times of divorce and the sequential traumatic deaths of family and friends
• Cody’s addiction to outside validation destroyed his health.
• There was a gap in who he felt he was and who he said he was.
• Being all things to all people, you focus on others’ problems instead of your own.
• Prayer is not mental health treatment.
• How to find fulfillment outside of accomplishment.
• 3 Steps to Confronting Your Life
• Realize that you’re not alone. Many men experience this.
• get honest with yourself. Sit down and write your experience.
• Find someone you can be accountable to, who will give you truth to help you step into the reality that is really for you.
• This journey is simple but not easy.
• Cody continues to keep therapists and coaches in his life.
• We must seek out the frameworks to dealing with our problems instead of avoiding them.
• Be held accountable to who you say you want to be. Is the group of friends you have now going to get you to where you want to be?
• Be intentional about the information you consume.

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Becoming a King with Morgan Snyder

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Real AF Self-Discipline with Andy Frisella


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The Highly-Evolved Father with Adam Schafer from MIND PUMP


Today we talk to a previous guest whose story about his father’s suicide is one of our top shows ever in the history of The Dad Edge. Adam Schafer from the hugely popular Mind Pump Podcast is back. He wasn’t a father the first time he was on the show, but now he’s the proud new dad to his one-year-old son Maximus!

Adam talks about how having a baby has changed his lifestyle and relationship with his wife for the better. He opens up about his struggles with empathy, trauma, and childhood insecurities. He also talks about manufacturing adversity for our kids so that they will build resilience and character.

You’ve never heard this side of Adam Schafer before. This show is full of insights that will take your fathering skills to the next level. Listen now!

Adam Schafer

Adam had a lot of adversity to overcome as a child. He lost his father to suicide at the age of seven and bounced around to nine different homes by the time he was seventeen. Adam was bullied in school which ultimately led to him being home-schooled.

In the midst of his childhood turmoil one constant in Adam’s life was his love for sports. He was a natural athlete who loved snowboarding, water skiing, basketball and anything else sports related. Adam’s love for sports led him down the path of learning about fitness and nutrition.

Adam got started with his career in fitness in 2001. His first entrepreneurial venture was as a child of ten so it seemed natural for Adam to become an entrepreneur in fitness. As a part of his ongoing quest to learn and grow in his career Adam has obtained certifications from top fitness training institutions. Adam has found a way to train and teach even more people through Mind Pump.

Adam found that combining his passion and expertise with that of his Mind Pump cohosts, Sal, Justin, and Doug, gives him the opportunity to make a big impact on the fitness industry.

What You’ll Learn

  • How to approach parenthood with intention instead of reaction
  • Will having a baby make you lose your identity as a couple?
  • Will you still find your wife attractive when she is pregnant?
  • Can sex actually be hotter after the baby?
  • Having a child brought Adam and his wife Catrina closer together.
  • As a couple, they knew that raising a new human being was going to change the awesome lifestyle they had created for themselves—dining out, going to sports events, traveling.
  • Even though they don’t do their favorite things anymore, they don’t feel like they’re missing out.
  • Marriage should not go on the back burner when the kids come. Your spouse must come before kids.
  • Most of us react based on the neurosis and insecurities we developed as a child. We must deal with unresolved anger towards our parents.
  • Be aware of displaying negativity as a couple in front of the kids. Do not react in front of the child. Show alignment.
  • There is always work to be done in a relationship.
  • Developing self-awareness and emotional intelligence is the key to evolving as a man and father.
  • We must make the choice to use trauma to become better instead of an excuse to be worse.
  • Why we have to manufacture adversity for today’s kids who have everything
  • Adam’s hacks on how to make sure you show appreciation to your partner.
  • Why Adam doesn’t say “I love you” without a deeper reason behind it.

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When a Father Commits Suicide

Creating a Rite of Passage Experience for Your Son


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Surviving Suicide: A Dad’s Story


Suicide is the number one killer among men aged 35-50. The World Health Organization reports that suicide represents half of all male violent deaths worldwide. Why are men at such risk and what can we do about it?

Men are more likely to go for desperate measures for several reasons. Our culture teaches men to internalize emotions and hide distress. At the same time, men tend to lose their close friends and support systems as they step into the role of a provider. They’re also reluctant to seek help when struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal thoughts.

The first step in fighting suicide among men is raising awareness. Today, one of our Dad Edge Alliance Commanders courageously steps up to share his story of surviving suicide.

Nick Sotelo recounts his intense battle against rage, darkness, and suicide. He also tells us how to interrupt the negative scripts that run through our heads and what to do when overwhelmed with shame and hopelessness.

We never know what is going to send us or someone we care about down a dark road. This is an episode every dad should listen to for himself and any boy or man he knows.

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Surviving the Dark Night of the Soul

Finding the Strength Through the Struggle

Fighting the Battle Within with Chad Robichaux

Triumphing Through Dark Times: Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Chad Robichaux


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Triumphing Through Dark Times: Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Chad Robichaux


How do we take the first step in reclaiming ourselves when we’re navigating dark times? How do we harness the courage to move forward when it seems that there is absolutely no way out?

No one is safe from adversity. It could be a mental, physical, or spiritual crisis. We might have to cope with a failed business, a devastating loss, or a destroyed relationship.

Today we have Chad Robichaux back on The Dad Edge Podcast. We had such a powerful response to his first show with us, that we invited him to The Dad Edge Mastermind for a live Q&A session with our members.

Chad talks about triumphing through dark times. He shows us that no matter how hopeless and depressed we feel, there is always a way out with the right mindset, tools, and support.

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Owning Fatherhood with Dakota Meyer

Dakota Meyer is a former Marine and veteran of the war in Afghanistan. He’s also the host of the Owning It Podcast and the divorced father of two little girls.

Dakota shares his experience with PTS and his attempted suicide. He talks about how to step out of the victim mentality to become a greater version of ourselves. He also tells us the secrets to owning fatherhood, how to be an emotionally intelligent parent, and why we need to always surround ourselves with a trusted team for counsel.

You will hear a side of Dakota Meyer you haven’t heard on any other show. Get ready to own your life as a man and a dad!

If you’re not living for something bigger than yourself, it’s hard to do the right thing.

Dakota Meyer

Dakota Meyer is a former United States Marine. A veteran of the War in Afghanistan, he was awarded the Medal of Honor for his actions during the Battle of Ganjgal on 8 September 2009, in Kunar Province, Afghanistan. Meyer is the second-youngest living Medal of Honor recipient, the third living recipient for either the Iraq War or the War in Afghanistan and the first living U.S. Marine in 38 years to be so honored.

Owning It

This Owning It podcast is about owning your life, about leaving a legacy and giving more than you take. It’s about making the most of each day and giving your life true meaning. When your last day comes, your living legacy is left only in the memories of your loved ones and on your tombstone. On that tombstone are only two of the important dates in your life, the day you were born and the day you pass on; The only two days you don’t control. Owning the dash is about taking control of the days in between: That dash between the day you’re born and the day you die.

What You’ll Learn

  • The first time Dakota realized he wasn’t a victim was the day he put the gun to his head
  • Whatever’s in your head is not true. It’s not necessarily reality.
  • You may tell yourself your life sucks, but is really only a day or a minute that sucks?
  • How you have the make the choice not to be a victim over and over again
  • Complain or do something about it
  • You’ll let yourself down before everything else
  • How to define a mission and purpose
  • How most men haven’t seen an example of being a good father and are just doing what they were taught
  • Why your entire life, you always need counsel
  • Dakota says his only real skill is to surround himself with incredible people
  • His advice for men who feel threatened when they’re surrounded by people more successful than them
  • Don’t bitch about a problem unless you’re willing to fix it yourself
  • The formula = 5% bitching (stating problem) 5% planning (how to fix it), 90% taking action
  • His perspective on the war on masculinity
  • Why domestic, violence, and rape are the result of masculinity being taken away
  • What’s important for him to emulate as a man for his daughters
    1. Be an example of what a man should be – He wants his daughters to know what qualities to look for in her partner.
    2. Show how a woman should be treated – He wants to show his girls how a man is supposed to treat a woman so they will expect the same from their future relationships.
    3. Divorce is an option if necessary – Dakota didn’t want to model that it’s okay to be miserable. Divorce was the best solution in his case.
  • The most difficult part of being divorced
  • How being divorced from his wife, Bristol Palin, makes them better parents
  • His unwavering commitment to quality time
  • Why we should call dads out who brag about not changing diapers
  • How society has set a low bar for men on what being a dad is about
  • How dads need to accept that parenting is hard and there’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t enjoy it at times
  • How Dakota didn’t feel the love with his second daughter and thought something was wrong with him
  • The most important life lessons he’s learned
  • Advice to fathers with sons on how to raise them to become better men
  • How men are not emotionally intelligent or mature, but we can exercise our empathy by feeling our emotions and connecting with people
  • The most destructive team to have around you are the people that buy into your bullshit and don’t call you out when you’re wrong.

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