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The Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance with James Sudakow

The Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance with James Sudakow

Is work-life balance an unattainable myth? Most of us have tried everything to evenly distribute our time and energy across work, life, and family. Many of us may have also discovered that this is one of the most difficult things to achieve. It almost seems impossible. But it’s not.

Today’s guest is James Sudakow. He is the father of four kids and the author of Out of the Blur: A Delirious Dad’s Search for the Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance. He used to suffer from superhero syndrome, trying to be everything to everyone all the time. Eventually, he realized that he wasn’t showing up in the way that he wanted to at home or at work and came up with his own plan to analyze his behavior and change his ways.

In this episode, James Sudakow talks about the superhero syndrome and outlines the common traps we fall into when it comes to prioritizing our to do list. He gives practical solutions for breaking common habits that suck our time and energy and shows us that a sane, productive, fulfilling life is not as mysterious as we think. Behold, the holy grail of work life balance!

James Sudakow

James Sudakow serves as the principal of CH Consulting, Inc., a boutique management and organizational effectiveness consulting practice he founded in 2010. He specializes in helping companies manage organizational transformation, create talent management strategies and programs that maximize employee capabilities and improve business performance. Sudakow is a contributing columnist to Inc.com, and has been featured in The Chicago Tribune, Forbes.com, Fast Company online, Mic., The Business Journals, LifeHacker, Bustle, SiriusXM, Psychology Today and more. Before starting his own consultancy, Sudakow held leadership roles in several global multibillion-dollar organizations across the technology and health care industries. He and his wife are raising four kids, along with one dog, one rabbit and 7 chickens in San Diego, Calif. For more information, visit www.jamessudakow.com.

What You’ll Learn

  • What inspired James Sudakow to write Out of the Blur: A Delirious Dad’s Search for the Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance
  • How to tell if you’re suffering from superhero syndrome
  • Why the notion that you can do everything is debilitating
  • The 3 main traps that make work-life balance impossible
    • Artificial urgency
    • Undefined boundaries
    • Multi-tasking
  • How to analyze your average to-do list and practice ruthless prioritization
  • How to prevent from taking on someone else’s urgency
  • How we manufacture our own stress
  • How to get out of constant triage mode (where everything is an emergency)
  • How modern accessibility is making it more difficult for us to set boundaries between work and home life
  • The multi-tasking fallacy that is destroying your productivity
  • Why thinking about the next thing on your to do list is robbing you of the present moment
  • How to set urgency filters
  • How to compartmentalize your tasks
  • Work-life balance will not happen overnight. It took James Sudakow 6-9 months to break the habits that were cluttering his life
  • How to continuously monitor your behavior to not revert back to you old SOP
  • How to enlist your spouse to help keep you in check
  • Identifying mission critical tasks
  • Can the work-life blend lifestyle work?
  • How to be more present in both work and life by setting boundaries on both

MENTIONED EPISODES:

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

How to Optimize The Structure of Work, Family, and Fulfillment with Dave Hollis

Turn On Your Superhero Brain with Jim Kwik


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Everything MEN NEED to KNOW About PORN

Everything Men Need to Know About Porn with J.K. Emezi

Today our show is about porn, sex, and masturbation addiction. This subject constantly comes up in The Dad Edge community and our episodes about pornography have massive downloads. In this age where we can watch it anytime and anywhere on our phone, it is becoming a huge problem. This crucial, controversial topic is not discussed enough because of the taboo, but porn addiction is real and we need answers.

J.K. Emezi is a sex and porn addiction coach for the last 9 years and is the founder of Elevated Recovery, where he helps men overcome sexually compulsive disorders. He tells us everything men need to know about porn—how it changes our brains, affects our relationships, and alters our perspectives. He gets real about how to tell if porn is a problem and what to do about it. He also tells us how we can prepare our kids for their inevitable encounter with porn, which is happening at startlingly earlier ages.

Pornography changes your values as a man.—J.K. Emezi

 

The Porn Addiction Problem

When it comes to internet porn, we have no idea what we’re up against. In the olden days, porn was hard to get. It was in the magazine rack behind the counter or the back room of a video store. Now it is available at anytime of day, in any place, at the tip of our fingers. J.K. Emezi says the most common place men watch pornography is at work.

The most disturbing thing about internet porn is that our kids are being exposed to it before they understand what they are looking at. In decades past, kids may not have run into porn until their teens, but in 2016, 11 was the average age of a child’s first exposure. Now, the age is 8.

J.K. Emezi had his own struggle with pornography and discovered that many of the men he worked with did too. Forums were filled with men who were seeking help, but there weren’t any resources. J.K. first began blogging anonymously about recovering from his porn addiction, but he eventually came out into the open to help others end their out-of-control behavior with porn, sex and masturbation.

What You’ll Learn

  • J.K. Emezi’s background as a bible salesman
  • Where and when the porn problem begins
  • How parents are getting too lax with computers and devices
  • How there is actually Minecraft porn now
  • Why one talk with your kids about porn is not enough. It must be randomly brought up from time to time.
  • Why porn is just as bad as drugs or alcohol
  • When porn is okay
  • Why men watch porn, especially at work
  • The role of brain chemicals in porn addiction
  • How to rewire your brain for monogamy
  • How to reconnect and become aroused again by your partner
  • How porn addiction, little by little, destroys your values
  • Why some women view porn as cheating and suffer ‘betrayal trauma’
  • How to define a compulsive sexual behavior
  • If, when, and how to disclose a porn problem to your spouse
  • Why masturbation is normal, but porn is not
  • What can men do when their wife is pregnant or has just given birth and can’t have sex
  • Why watching unrealistic bodies is unfair to your wife
  • How to use a rubber band to snap out of physical urges
  • How to anchor yourself in the morning to stick to your recovery goals
  • How to clean up your online environment to avoid triggers
  • How to interrupt porn urges by journaling and visualization
  • Advice for men in sexless marriages

 

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Porn – Why We Watch It, When It’s a Problem, and How to Stop with Nell Daly

Porn Addiction and Affair Recovery Mentoring

How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography with Kristen Jenson

Video Game, Porn, and Social Media Addiction with Cam Adair


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Strategies to Keep Calm Through the Chaos

4 Strategies to Keep Calm Through the Chaos

Sometimes, life throws us a curveball. We might be cruising along, meeting all our goals, right on track for the future. Our family is thriving. Life is good, then suddenly we are launched into chaos.

That is what happened to our guest today, Gene Villeneuve. Gene is a Canadian who moved with his wife and kids to work in Paris, France. They were living the dream until two years ago when his wife was diagnosed with breast cancer.

Gene was on The Dad Edge previously to talk about how to love a spouse with cancer. He did the best he could to be a good husband and dad as his wife went through grueling treatments and surgeries. But just when his wife was recovering from her last surgery, Gene found out that his status with his job in France had changed and he would have 6 weeks to move his family back to Canada.

Gene tells us about how coped with this huge upheaval in his life and four of his personal strategies to keep calm through the chaos.

'I’ve learned that it’s not worth adding more drama into chaos. The more drama you add to an existing chaotic situation, the more drama you’ll beget.'—@genevilleneuve #dads #men #fathers #change #adversity Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

Keep Calm Through the Chaos

  1. Make a short list of things that need to be done, persevere, and check them off. Focus on the long-term objective.
  2. Believe in yourself. Know that whatever is going on around you, you can figure it out.
  3. Take care of yourself—relaxation, fitness, sleep, nutrition.
  4. Spend quality time with family in any little way you can.

 

 

MENTIONED EPISODE:

How to Love a Spouse with Cancer with Gene Villeneuve

 


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Diets Suck: The Ultimate Blueprint on Enjoying Food and Getting Lean with Josiah Novak

Diets Suck: The Ultimate Blueprint on Enjoying Food and Getting Lean with Josiah Novak


What’s the best diet? Keto? Paleo? Low-carb? High-fat? What about fasting? What’s the best workout? Today we are inundated with diet fads and extreme workouts. How do we know which nutrition and exercise program is best for us?

Today we have Josiah Novak. He’s the author of Diets Suck: The Ultimate Blueprint on Enjoying Food and Getting Lean. Josiah gets real about fad diets and exercise. He talks about how we need to focus on our health before aesthetic results. He also discusses his own personal crisis and how his foundation of healthy habits helped him get through an emotionally difficult time.

To men who feel guilty for taking time to workout: 'You have to remind yourself you can’t serve from an empty vessel.'—@josiahfitness #dads #men #fathers #dadbod #menshealth #stress Click To Tweet

 

Josiah Novak

Josiah Novak is a fitness coach, author, host of the True Transformation Podcast and creator of The True Transformation Body Transformation System.

His lifestyle-friendly, real-life, simple and long-term focused approach has helped thousands of men and women to achieve permanent results when it comes to their body, fitness, life and health goals.

His work has been featured in Fitness RX magazine, Mind Pump Media, Order of Man, and many popular outlets.

What You’ll Learn

  • How Josiah felt when his 4-year-old son got sick
  • How he used his healthy habits to cope with stress and worry and show up best for his family at a critical time
  • How to become healthy without living at the gym
  • How food, alcohol, and drugs are only a temporary fix that mask the problem
  • How to replace vices with good habits to avoid the guilt and be your best self
  • Understanding fad diets
  • How to design a healthy nutrition plan that doesn’t leave you feeling imprisoned or deprived
  • The secrets of fasting and if you should try it
  • Why you should base your fitness and nutrition plan for health goals rather than aesthetic results
  • How he came up with his book title
'If you aren’t taking care of yourself, you can’t take care of other people.'—@josiahfitness #menshealth #selfcare #dads #fathers #dadlife Click To Tweet

True Transformation with Josiah Novak

How to Get Rid of the Dad Bod with Josiah Novak

Getting Real About Insomnia, Depression, and Anxiety

The Realistic Way to Transform Your Body This Year with Josiah Novak


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holiday stress

Giving Yourself Grace During the Holidays

The holidays are here and so is the holiday stress. We have the financial strain, our children’s high expectations, house guests, and maybe some family friction. Combine that with the fact that we eat more, drink more alcohol, and neglect ourselves. We’re supposed to be enjoying the holidays, but instead we dread it.

But what if we approached holidays differently?

Today we talk about giving yourself grace during the holiday season. Men tend to be hyper-critical and beat themselves up over not being able to do everything perfectly. It’s time to let that go. We’re going to make mistakes. We’re going to fall back into bad habits. We’re not always going to be the perfect husband or father, and that’s okay.

We all want to create the perfect Christmas, but beware of the holiday stress. Don't want to end up like Clark Griswold. #men #dads #fathers #dadlife #holidays Click To Tweet

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