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Warrior Toughness for Real Life with Navy SEAL Stephen Drum

Warrior toughness is the ability to make the correct decision at the right time, no matter how stressful, painful, or frightening that moment may be. This is not only achieved by rigorous discipline and training, but also a fine balance of body, mind, and soul.

Today we are pumped to have Stephen Drum on The Dad Edge. He is a combat-tested retired Navy SEAL Master Chief with 27 years of experience leading teams and executing mission-critical performance strategies.

Stephen tells us a 4-part process for developing Warrior Toughness that we can apply to real life. He reveals the surprising mix of performance psychology, mindfulness, and problem-solving that makes up the warrior mindset. He also talks about how we can organize the caring of our families while keeping ourselves adaptable and ready to pivot in any situation.

Learn to operate under pressure—day in, day out—no matter what life throws at you!

What You’ll Learn

  • Although Stephen admits he was a rebellious and difficult kid, his parents’ guidance set a foundation for making good decisions in adulthood.
  • Stephen reveals his experience with BUDs training and SEAL life
  • Fight like a warrior, and act from character.
  • How to have frank conversations with yourself about where you made mistakes
  • The qualities of a warrior mindset
  • Problem solving skills
  • Using personal sources of strength like religion, values, and belief to power you through tough situations
  • The powerful combination of performance psychology, mindfulness and meditation
  • Exercises to reduce stress and anxiety: visualizations, progressive muscle relaxation, recalibration breathing.
  • The 4-Part Process of Warrior Toughness
    1. Commit – fully invested in yourself and process
    2. Preparation – acquiring the skillsets you need
    3. Execute – how to make clear, composed decisions under fire
    4. Reflection – step back and check if your actions were aligned with your values
  • On motivation versus discipline—discipline is more important because we won’t always be motivated.
  • You must conjure a visceral picture of what the finish line looks like so you can reconnect to it when you fall off track.
  • Detaching from emotions to make the right decisions. For example, you can feel angry instead of becoming angry.
  • Where Stephen admits he has failed as a husband and father
  • How Stephen incorporates warrior toughness into his parenting and marriage
  • Establishing consistency in household—Approach things from process. Be deliberate. Detach emotionally from experiences. Provide structure.
  • Led, fed, and educated—How Stephen organizes the leading and caring of his family
  • How to keep the family unit informed and prepared during crises like Covid-19, yet remain focused and engaged in life.
  • Don’t be mired down by negativity and political bias. Instead, see where you can pivot and adapt in a rational way.

RELATED EPISODES:

The 12 Traits of a Warrior Part 1: The Hard Traits with Chris Sajnog

12 Traits of a Warrior Part II: The Soft Traits

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink


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IT’S TIME TO REINVENT HOW WE SHOW UP FOR OUR FAMILIES

Coronavirus is forcing our evolution as fathers.  We are all going to build a whole new set of superpowers.  And these superpowers are needed right now.  For many of us, we are multiplying our future ability to serve, exponentially.

YOU WILL NOT WANT TO MISS THIS.

Guest Speakers

Dr. Meg Meeker
New York Times Bestselling Author of “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” and “HERO”
Anthony Trucks
Former NFL Football Player and American Ninja Warrior
Aaron Walker
Founder of View From the Top and bestselling author of “View from the Top” and coming soon “Isolation is the Enemy of Excellence.”
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Bestselling author of “Design Your Future.”

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How to Thrive in the Face of Uncertainty


We all want to survive this crisis, but how can we leverage the challenges we face to actually accelerate our growth as men, husbands, and fathers? How do we use adversity as an opportunity to connect and learn in ways we never have before?

It is possible to thrive in the face of uncertainty if we look at every problem as a stepping stone to greater self-awareness and purpose. In this exclusive episode, we will teach you how.

Today we talk about the first Dad Edge Virtual Summit and the 3rd annual Dad Edge Live Summit. You will witness exactly what happens behind the scenes in The Dad Edge Alliance and the changes that take place in the lives of men who work as a tribe. Jeff Bouwman and Jason McKenzie join us, along with our members for an amazing session that shows just how everyday regular dads are reframing their challenges, using them as catalysts for extreme transformation.

What You’ll Learn

  • What is the appreciative inquiry technique?
  • The power of bringing people together to connect in meaningful ways
  • How to reframe challenge into opportunity
  • How crisis can force an evolution of the family in a positive way
  • How to be present during times of stress, see the beauty in every moment, and find something to be grateful for no matter what
  • How to stay curious
  • The power of asking yourself the right questions
  • Stop thinking about all we can’t do during this crisis. What can we do?
  • Letting go of expectation to become open to possibility
  • Being aware of the stories you tell yourself
  • How to tell if you’re acting from a place of fear

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IT’S TIME TO RE-INVENT HOW WE SHOW UP FOR OUR FAMILIES

Coronavirus is forcing our evolution as fathers.  We are all going to build a whole new set of superpowers.  And these superpowers are needed right now.  For many of us, we are multiplying our future ability to serve, exponentially.

The lessons we are learning now will only enhance what’s possible in the future.  Pause for a second.  Consider what we are really in service of.  There’s a good chance that we are going to serve a mission much… much… bigger than the one we thought we were here to serve.

Somewhere on the other side of this, maybe we are ushering in a golden era of sorts.  The thing that has taken so much blame for causing distraction, disconnection, even isolation – technology… is now the only solution we have, to bring us all together.  And it will.  History shows that hardship is always the pathway to breakthroughs!

YOU WILL NOT WANT TO MISS THIS.

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June 4th: Connecting to Shared Identity

– 10:30am to 12:30 CST (Morning Session)
– 2:00pm to 4:00 CST (Afternoon Session)

June 5th: Moving from Surviving to Thriving

– 10:30am to 12:30 CST (Morning Session)
– 2:00pm to 4:00 CST (Afternoon Session)

Guest Speakers

Dr. Meg Meeker
New York Times Bestselling Author of “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” and “HERO”
Anthony Trucks
Former NFL Football Player and American Ninja Warrior
Aaron Walker
Founder of View From the Top and bestselling author of “View from the Top” and coming soon “Isolation is the Enemy of Excellence.”
Dominic Quartuccio

Bestselling author of “Design Your Future.”

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Techniques for Deep Communication with Your Spouse

3 Techniques for Deep Communication with Your Spouse


We feel like communication with our wives and children should come naturally. If we love them, and they love us, it should be easy to understand each other. Right?

Wrong. What most of us don’t realize is that communication is a skill that can be learned. If we master the way we approach conversations, we will drastically improve our relationships.

In this episode, we share three techniques for deep communication with your spouse. These simple skills will put an end to stress, arguments, and misunderstandings.

At the same time, they will create a space of connection, safety, and intimacy in your marriage. Don’t miss this short, incredibly effective episode!

What You’ll Learn

  • Why women get so frustrated when trying to talk to men
  • How to practice tactical empathy to create a space of psychological safety
  • How to ask generative questions
  • Why we should exclude the word “why” when our spouse is sharing with us

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5 Practices to Make You a Mentally Tougher Man with Dominick Quartuccio

5 Practices to Make You a Mentally Tougher Man with Dominick Quartuccio

The only thing we can count on in life is change, and that means having the mental toughness for life’s challenges. We don’t want to spend our entire lives reacting out of fear and frustration. We want to know that no matter what happens, we can handle anything.

Dominick Quartuccio returns to The Dad Edge. He is a speaker, coach, and the author of Design Your Future: 3 Simple Steps to Stop Drifting and Take Command of Your Life. He is going to share 5 practices to make you a mentally tougher man so you can train your body and mind to operate from a place of power, presence, and resourcefulness.

Get ready to work out your mental toughness muscles!

Dominick Quartuccio

Dominick Quartuccio is a keynote speaker, trainer and executive mentor. He’s dedicated his life to helping the best-of-the-best accelerate individual and team performance. He’s the author of Design Your Future: Stop Drifting and Start Living.

Drawing upon 15 years of experience as an executive for Fortune 100 financial services firms, Dominick saw the demands on leaders go up every year, forcing those leaders to sacrifice the most important areas of their lives: personal health, personal relationships and personal freedoms.

That model is broken. The consequences to leaders, their families and their businesses are unsustainable.

Dominick offers a new way. He works with high performance individuals, teams and businesses (small and large) to accelerate them to the next-level by aligning the most important areas of work and life. Dominick is a student of life, constantly disrupting himself in pursuit of raising performance and living a definiteness of purpose.

What You’ll Learn

  • Most men wildly overestimate their mental toughness.
  • Men think they are handling a situation, but they are collapsing in some way.
  • When men are triggered by a stressful situation, they divert their emotions with porn, fantasy, food, drugs, alcohol, isolation, avoidance, and overworking. Either that, or they shoulder everything and let it kill them in the process.
  • Dom’s addiction to sex and porn lead him to cheating on the only woman he ever loved.
  • By building mental and emotional capacity, the breadth of what you can endure increases and their are few situations you cannot handle from a place of power, presence, and resourcefulness.
  • How to be disciplined about how much pornography you consume
  • 5 Practices to Make You a Mentally Tougher Man
    1. The Breath Hold Challenge – Hold your breath as long as you can. Wait till you start to feel your fight or flight response to kick in. Try to assume a place of stillness despite your chaotic thoughts.
    2. The Cold Shower Challenge – Most of us can’t anticipate or get past the initial shock of an uncomfortable situation. Train yourself to brace for the blast with a cold shower. Breathe into it and wait for the shock to pass.
    3. The 100 Push Up Challenge – Try to do 100 consecutive push ups with your only relief being able to take a break in plank before continuing. This changes your relationship with pain, allowing you to look at it and disassociate from it.
    4. The Meditation Challenge – This long form stillness builds your endurance for pain. Sit and meditate without moving. Watch your feelings without judgement.
    5. Temporary Abstinence – What are the things you crave? What habits do you lean on to get through the day? Junk food, porn, Netflix, alcohol? Removing the crutch quickly illuminates why it was there in the first place. Then you can work on the source of the craving and reintroduce these elements in a healthier way.


MENTIONED EPISODES:

A Good Dad Masters These 5 Life Skills – Larry Hagner on A Man Amongst Men

Get Lit: Forget the Pressure to Find Your Why with Dominick Quartuccio

Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio

The Secrets to Achieving Wildly Important Goals with Mark Divine

What Doesn’t Kill Us with Scott Carney


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Busy Dad's Guide to Total Health

Busy Dad’s Guide to Total Health


We don’t realize how important our health is until we lose it. No man wants poor health to get in the way of becoming the best version of himself, but how do we make health a priority when life gets in the way?

Today Dr. Ryan Wohlfert is back on The Dad Edge to give you the busy dad’s guide to total health. This list of simple hacks for fitness, nutrition, and sleep will fit into any lifestyle. Best of all, these habits can be incorporated into your existing schedule without having to give up other aspects of your life.

Don’t wait to improve your health. Start today!

Busy Dad’s Guide to Total Health

FITNESS

  • Save the drive time to the gym by working out at home.
  • Take advantage of opportunities to take walks and runs with the dog or your family.
  • Do isometric exercises in the car or at your desk.
  • Be active and get involved while coaching kids.
  • Do 10-minute mini workouts of squats, push ups or burpees throughout the day. These will have a cumulative effect.

DIET

  • Ensure you’re getting greens, fruits, healthy fats, and proteins by setting up daily smoothies.
  • Plan your meals out for the week to avoid the last-minute need for fast food and take out dinners.
  • Make easy nutritious dinners ahead of time in the crock pot, like soups and stews.
  • Use apps to make sure you and your spouse are on the same page with meal planning and shopping.

SLEEP

  • If you can’t increase your quantity of sleep, increase the quality.
  • Set a time to turn off all devices and TVs.
  • Take the TV out of your bedroom.
  • We need thirty to thirty-five 90-minute sleep cycles per week, so it is possible to catch up on sleep cycles by napping and catching up on your days off.

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The Dangers of Internalizing Stress


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