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Extreme Self-Realization with Chris Duffin


Are you the victim or the hero of your life? Did you know that the choice is yours? You have the power to leave the past behind and construct your own world by extreme self-realization.

Today’s guest is Chris Duffin. He is known as “The Mad Scientist of Strength” and holds the world record for dead lifts. He is also an entrepreneur and the author of The Eagle and the Dragon: A Story of Strength and Reinvention.

Chris Duffin has one of the most brutal childhood stories you will ever hear. His life was full of poverty, hardship, and confusion. But Chris refused to let the past define him and is now living the life he purposely created for himself, doing what he loves and thriving with his family.

Listen to Chris Duffin’s story of extreme self-realization and how you can decide who you want to be and how you will leave your mark on the world.

Chris Duffin

Chris Duffin is the Co-founder and Chief Engineer at Kabuki Strength, an organization devoted to optimizing human performance and making the world a better place through strength. He previously worked as a corporate executive and has turned around automotive, aerospace, heavy equipment, and high-tech manufacturing industries.

Chris was previously ranked number one in the world in various powerlifting disciplines and has held numerous world records. Now retired, he is known for his industry-changing innovations and education in the strength and clinical worlds. He’s a leading speaker on topics related to strength and human movement, and performs insane feats of strength to help charities and organizations whose work he believes in.

It’s very important to understand that the things that happen to you are not who you are.—Chris Duffin

The Eagle and the Dragon

The world may know Chris Duffin as “The Mad Scientist of Strength,” but you wouldn’t have ever guessed that if you saw the scrawny kid skinning rattlesnakes and chasing dragonflies in the early ’80s. The story of his unconventional life will take you from gripping tales of murder, trauma, heartbreak, and survival deep in the Pacific Northwest wilderness all the way to an idealization of the self-made man–still flawed, but never broken.

In The Eagle and the Dragon, you’ll follow one man’s journey into the darkness of his own heart and witness the transformation of alcoholism, pain, and defeat into vision, character, and victory. Through Chris’s powerful self-realization, you’ll see how the human spirit can be either shackled by circumstance or freed from it.

What You’ll Learn

  • Chris’s upbringing in a family of 7 living on $5,000 a year
  • He was homeless half his life, living in the wilderness among shady people who avoided society like murderers, serial killers, and human traffickers.
  • When Chris was in high school, they moved into a mobile home and he finally felt stability. It had no doors inside, and they had to cover the windows with plastic. When they moved out, the fire department burned it down because it was unlivable.
  • His mom grew marijuana for a living.
  • What it’s like reflecting back on his life and imaging his kids going through what he went through
  • Why Chris would still not change anything about his life
  • How Chris took custody of his three sisters while he was working through college
  • His mother was one of the strongest people he knows. She taught him discipline, perseverance, and how to live by your own rules. She was abused when she was younger and distrusted society, so she made a life off the grid.
  • Chris’s biological dad was a Mensa, intelligent and disturbed. He suffered major depression and alcoholism. They had a pen pal relationship.
  • How Chris watched his father attempt suicide
  • Chris’s stepfather was an artist, writer, and musician. He was a recovering heroin addict who got clean to be with Chris’s mom. Still, he had major mental health issues.
  • The impact of both Chris’s fathers dying in similar ways and leaving absolutely nothing behind to show for their lives.
  • When Chris realized he wanted to make his mark, to leave a legacy that he did good in the world
  • Chris’s mom wanted to create her own world, and she did. Chris followed her footsteps and created his own world, except one in society. Either way, it’s still freedom.
  • The stories we make up about ourselves take away our power. You’re the only one holding yourself back.
  • How to forgive people for their faults and look for positive things
  • The power of always looking to the future
  • You are defined by your actions and your response to your environment.
  • The story of the eagle—to break free from self-limitation and fly to the heights of what you can accomplish
  • How to begin the purposeful reinvention of oneself
  • Choosing who you are and taking the steps to become that version of yourself
  • Don’t dwell in the past. The only reason to look back is for evaluation.
  • Why you must understand your values before you set goals
  • Chris’s hobby of building custom vehicles
  • Why he doesn’t place job ads or look at resumes when hiring for his company
  • How men get blunted in a disengaged life.
  • Chris wants his children to know that they can form the world around them and shows this through his actions.
  • Why stress should NOT be avoided.
  • Strength is adapting to stress and makes us stronger and more resilient
  • Seeking physical, mental, emotional challenges to grow stronger.
  • Finding the balance to care for your children while teaching them strength and resilience
  • The key to success is finding the people with the same values.
  • Physical strength is the least important. Mental, emotional, and spiritual strength are the most valuable.

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Dad Fitness and Nutrition Bootcamp

The Driven Dad Fitness and Nutrition Bootcamp


Why do many of us fathers neglect our health? There are two main reasons. The number one reason is guilt. We feel bad for taking time away from work and family to spend on ourselves. The second reason is money. We would have to spend more to eat healthier, join a gym, or hire a personal trainer.

But not making our health a priority is the biggest disservice to ourselves and our families.

In this episode, we have a panel discussion with Dr. Adrian Chavez of Your Nutrition Prescription and Chris Hughes from The Driven Dad. They have put together a fully-customized 8-week fitness and nutrition bootcamp for dads. We also talk to members Rashad and Mickey about what made this bootcamp unique and how it has transformed their health and their lives!

OUR HEALTH: What is the cost if we don’t take action? #men #dads #fathers #manhood #fatherhood #selfcare #menshealth Click To Tweet

'There are a lot of things we don’t have control of in our lives, but much of our health we have control over.'—Mickey #menshealth #dads #men #fathers #mastermind #bootcamp Click To Tweet

Chris Hughes and The Driven Dad

Chris Hughes helps dads own their health and fitness. He created The Driven Dad to motivate, educate and inspire dads to take control of their mental and physical wellness for themselves, their family, and society.

Dr. Adrian Chavez and Your Nutrition Prescription

Dr. Adrian Chavez has a PhD in Nutrition and is a nutrition and natural health consultant who hosts the Your Nutrition Prescription podcast, which delivers a daily dose of information that will help you to learn more about your body and optimize your health.

'Seeing dads do something that’s going to positively impact multiple generations, that lights me up.'—Dr. Adrian Chavez #dads #men #fathers #health #kids #children #parenting Click To Tweet

The Driven Dad’s Bootcamp

The Driven Dads 8 Week Bootcamp is designed to establish new habits to help you take your health and fitness to the next level.

Dr. Chavez and Chris Hughes will set you up with a plan that is customized for you and coach you towards success.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why optimal health is your duty as a father
  • How to get over the guilt of investing in your nutrition and fitness
  • The role of accountability in the success of your health goals
  • Why you won’t get the best results with your typical personal trainer
  • How being intentional in the gym creates amazing results
  • How to get past all the excuses that keep you in bad health
  • The dangers of neglecting your health to you and your family
  • The vast diversity in individual needs for diet and exercise
  • Why some men need to eat more to reach their health goals
  • The power of a smoothie
  • How to create a healthy lifestyle that you can sustain beyond bootcamp
  • The importance of ‘cheat days’ for dads and how to factor them into your nutrition plan
  • How breaking the chain of bad habits and leading with a healthy lifestyle will affect your kids, your grandkids, and future generations
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The 12 Traits of a Warrior Part 1: The Hard Traits with Chris Sajnog


As men, we do battle every single day. Not only are we fighting to maintain and grow our careers, finances, and family, we fight an internal battle at all times. We have to deal with negative self-talk, bad habits, and anxiety. It’s not to say that life is always a warzone, but it can be challenging, and we can be prepared to face the challenges with a warrior’s skillset.

Chris Sajnog is a Navy SEAL sniper and our third more popular all-time former guest. He is back to teach us how master our thoughts and emotions, become solid leaders, and raise strong children by adopting the Twelve Traits of a Warrior. In this first part of a two-part series, we discuss the six ‘Hard Traits.’

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Chris Sajnog

Chris Sajnog is one the most elite Navy SEAL snipers in the world and the bestselling author of ‘How to Shoot Like Navy SEAL’ and ‘Navy SEAL Shooting’. He is on a mission to help men develop The 12 Traits of the Warrior in order to live a more balanced life. The hard traits are:

  1. Confidence
  2. Strength
  3. Aggressiveness
  4. Discipline
  5. Being Active
  6. Bravery
Every morning when you wake up, you can tell yourself what kind of day you're going to have. @ChrisSajnog #motivation #selftalk #mindset Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • How he teaches snipers
  • Why a warrior is able to learn and become great at whatever they want to do
  • How a civilian can learn the warrior mindset to learn and improve more quickly
  • What are the hard traits and why we need them
  • What are the soft traits and how do they balance the hard traits
  • What happens when someone is out of balance
  • How these traits affect PTSD
  • How to go from the mentality of an ordinary dad and worker to the mentality of a warrior
  • How warrior traits can be applied to everyday life
  • How to grow a set of N.U.T.S. (non-negotiable unalterable terms)
  • Why waiting for a situation to happen to decide how you’re going to react is a mistake
  • How to decide in advance how you will respond
  • How to feel confident doing something you’ve never done before
  • Why mental strength is superior to physical strength
  • Why being aggressive is necessary
  • Why constantly taking action is crucial to keep moving forward
  • What bravery really means
  • How to teach our kids warrior qualities
  • Why you should let your kids fight and wrestle
  • How to show your children the rewards of being disciplined
  • How to make your kids aware of the consequences of their own choices

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Forging Strength in Our Darkest Hour


Forging Strength in your darkest hour!

I have gotten a ton of feedback from our last podcast on “How to Discover Daily Grit and Gratitude.”  From what I have heard, most people were surprised that my family went through such a life altering event by losing my son Gabriel.

 

I have had a lot of emails, texts, and communication through the GDP community about how much the last episode effected them personally.  What I am finding is that there is a vast majority of families out there who are afflicted with miscarriage or death of an infant.  I have even had questions asking why I have opened my life up so much about what happened during that six weeks and how it ended.

 

The bottom line is this…I shared it for several reasons.

 

It’s Healing

When we go through something that is literally life altering it changes us forever.  It’s easy to fall into a mindset up anger.  It’s also very common that an event like what our family went through can easily tear the strongest families apart.  When we share the events of our life to give strength to others, we heal.  Simple as that.  When we heal, we help heal others through our own struggles.

 

Forging Strength of the Family

Losing my son not only effected me, but it also effected my entire family.  My wife and two older sons took the loss of our son very hard.  To be honest, I underestimated how much it would effect my two oldest boys (Ethan 10 and Mason 8).  I can tell you without a doubt a ten year-old and an eight-year old child feels the devastating effects of loss when something like this happens.  However, here we are eighteen months later and I can tell you without a doubt our family is stronger now than it ever has been.

 

Forging Strength through Gratitude

My family learned firsthand the power of the right perspective even in our darkest hour.  Our family literally went through six weeks of hell that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.  Knowing you are going to lose your son will rattle even the strongest man.  However, I learned the power of having the right perspective in the midst of absolute uncertainty.  I kept a daily gratitude journal during this six-week long process and I believe it literally saved me from insanity.

 

Take 5 Minutes of Gratitude Every Morning

Every morning during that six-week journey, I wrote down three things that I was grateful for every morning.  I can tell you without a doubt, that most mornings it was very hard to see the positive aspects in my life.  However, I can tell you without a doubt that there were several things in my life that were positive.  It took a great deal of discipline to decide to focus on the right things in my life despite the chaos.  I would write down things like:

  • “I’m grateful I have a job.”
  • “I’m grateful my three boys and my wife all have their health.”
  • “I’m grateful we have a roof over our head.”

I will admit, on some days I stretched to find gratitude.  However, I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, it was the best thing I did every morning.

 

My Hope for You

I share this story and this daily routine of:

Morning Gratitude – write down 3 things you are grateful for

Your Power Statement – write down your statement that you will use when the fear wolf starts to whisper in your ear.

Your Mission of the Day – what will you do today.  Come hell or high water, what will you accomplish today?

 

Evening Gratitude – write down 2-3 highlights through the day.  Get back into the mindset of gratitude.  The highlights are there every day if we decide to reflect on them.

Eradicate Regret from your Life – What was the lowest point of your day?  Write it down.  Get it out there.  Now, instead of focusing on how deeply you regret that low point, ask yourself “what is the lesson?”

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