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Money and Your Marriage

Money and Your Marriage with Jesse Mecham

Financial issues are one the biggest causes of divorce. Not only do money problems make life stressful, they can lead to conflicts that can damage a marriage and destroy a family. But what if you could take a few, simple steps right now to totally change your money situation? Today, we talk about money and your marriage and how you can make budgeting decisions with your spouse easily and argument-free.

Jesse Mecham is the creator of the YNAB (You Need a Budget) app. He is back on The Dad Edge to talk about how to approach the money discussion in a way that will stop friction and encourage intimacy. He outlines his 4 Money Rules to future-proof your finances and gives guidelines for trimming the fat on your expenses without feeling deprived.

After listening to this show, you will feel confident about budgeting, prepared for the unexpected, and hopeful about your dreams for the future.

“Money’s not always simple, but it can get a lot simpler.”—Jesse Mecham

Jesse Mecham

Jesse Mecham founded YNAB in 2004 to help him and his wife, Julie, watch their money. Studying for his master of accountancy at Brigham Young University at the time, he put his numbers wizardry to work to develop a system to track their expenses, and that became YNAB. He lives in Utah with Julie and his seven kids!

YNAB – You Need A Budget

You Need A Budget is award-winning software and a proven method—that works.

What really makes You Need A Budget different is that we can teach you how to manage your money and get ahead—for good.

What if your bills rolled in, and instead of piling up, you just paid them? No sweat.

What if you didn’t even realize it was payday because you had money in the bank and weren’t desperate for that check to arrive?

Forget everything you think you know about budgeting and prepare to experience total control.

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What You’ll Learn

  • A money dysfunction in your marriage is a landmine that will eventually go off.
  • You can make huge leaps in your marriage even when you think it’s already good.
  • You don’t get commitment without conflict, and you don’t get conflict without trust. You must trust your spouse enough to handle whatever you’re going to tell them.
  • On patience—increase the gap between stimulus and response and fill it with curiosity.
  • Jesse’s morning habit of reading “hard books”
  • As a couple, ask yourselves … What do you want? What are you dreaming about? Not in the distant future, but in the next few years? Most couples don’t have this conversation.
  • All the questions that used to add tons of stress are easy decisions when your visions are aligned.
  • You can feel more peace in as little as an hour and a half after you have this money talk with your spouse.
  • Do whatever you want with your money as long as it means something to you.
  • In Jesse’s experience working with men on their budgets, eating out is the easiest, most effective expense to cut.
  • Rediscover cooking at home.
  • Becoming more self-reliant to save.
  • Tip: Only budget money you have on hand. Don’t give money a job you don’t actually have yet.
  • How to pre-budget for big experiences, upcoming expenses, and emergencies.
  • How to keep your budget changeable.
  • Age your money—the dollar you spend today you should have made 30 days ago.
  • Make reviewing your budget part of your morning coffee routine.
  • Getting to where you want to be financially won’t happen overnight. Be patient with yourself.
  • 4 Rules of YNAB
    1. Give every dollar a job
    2. Embrace your true expenses
    3. Roll with the punches
    4. Age your money

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Budget for Your Goals Jesse Mecham

The Easy and Effective Way to Budget for Your Goals with Jesse Mecham


Do you wince when you hear the word budget? It’s about as painful as the words diet or jail, but if you don’t budget for your goals now, you will never be able to enjoy life to the fullest and neither will your family. The majority of families are living paycheck to paycheck. Minor emergencies quickly send most people into debt. It’s no wonder that money issues are the number one cause of divorce.

Jesse Mecham is our guest today. He is the founder of YNAB (You Need a Budget) and is here to share his no-nonsense takeaways that will help you effortlessly budget money for everything you need and want in life. This show will outline the easy and effective way to budget for your goals so that you can live with less stress and make the most of the money your work so hard for.

You can call (a budget) whatever you want. But at the end of the day, you’re just saying 'what do I want my money to do for me?'—Jesse Mecham, founder of @ynab #finance #familyfinance #savings #debt #debtfree #money Click To Tweet

'I wanted to be a little bit in people’s face about the fact that they need a budget.'—Jesse Mecham, founder of @YNAB #budget #dads #fathers #men #family Click To Tweet

Jesse Mecham

Jesse has been married for fifteen years and has six kids! That’s right, three boys and three girls. With this size of a family, it’s no surprise he is passionate about budgeting.

Back when Jesse was still in school before finishing his masters in accounting, he and his wife Julie struggled to get by. What gave them their solid foundation and a good trajectory was that they knew their non-negotiables. Julie’s was to stay at home and raise her children. Jesse’s was to never, ever borrow money.

Jesse knew that in order to finish school without borrowing any money, he’d need an extra $350 a month to cover expenses. This vision didn’t change for a while, but these first steps to helping people budget were the beginnings of what YNAB is today.

'Once we transform our effort and time into currency, we don’t give it the attention it deserves.'—Jesse Mecham, founder of @YNAB #business #finance #work #money #savings #budget Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • The ‘YNAB’ budgeting methodology
  • What it means to ‘give every dollar a job’
  • How to discover what your true expenses are
  • How to be proactive instead of reactive about money
  • How a following a budget reduces stress and benefits your health, work, and relationships
  • Why not having enough money is almost never an income issue
  • The wrong ways couples go about money
  • How to deal with a spouse who is resistant to a budget
  • Why checking your bank balance is a poor source of information on your financial situation
  • YNABs revolutionary budgeting app
  • How the YNAB app relieves dads from being the bad guy who always have to say ‘no’ to spending
  • How budgeting can end up being fun
  • The huge monetary rewards of budgeting
  • What’s next for YNAB
  • Jesse’s dadly advice as the father of six kids!

YNAB. You Need a Budget

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Money Mindset

Changing Your Money Mindset

What does the word ‘budget’ bring to mind? It’s about as fun as the word ‘diet.’ We think of sacrifice. We think of depriving ourselves. We think of boredom. But what if you could change your money mindset so that living on a budget is something that you and your family can be passionate about?

It’s possible, and in this episode of Thursday Throwdown, we have one of our Dad Edge Alliance members on to tell us how he paid off a huge debt and how he and his family have changed their money mindset so that they enjoy budgeting for their financial goals together.

How to rethink a budget so that it’s not about what you can’t have, but what you will gain. #dads #men #fathers #finance #familygoals Click To Tweet

 


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6 Ways to Set-up Your Family for Financial Success

Talking about money with your spouse is always tricky. This is why we avoid it at all costs, but that only leads to more tension because spending issues go unresolved. But, when we come together with our spouses about finances, it’s a beautiful thing. We have more intimacy in the relationship and we are happier when we succeed in reaching financial and family goals together.

Today I’m going to highlight a discussion we had in the Dad Edge Alliance with financial guru and Your Income, Your Life author Jeff Bouwman, and share six ways we can have peaceful conversations about money, lifestyle, and spending habits.

1. Carry Cash

In our society, it seems crazy to carry cash, but you can reduce your spending by 12-20% by using cash for coffee, restaurants, or groceries. These little items you buy when you’re out and about sum up to the second largest expense to the house payment. If you pay for these items in cash you spend less because you question the purchase before you make it, and you won’t buy it unless you have the money in your wallet.

2. Create a Yearly Family Plan

Once a year, gather your family, sit down, and start talking about the things you want to do in the coming year. Create an annual goal for vacations and experiences. Estimate the cost for each one and prioritize it. Agree to save the money needed each month to fund each goal.

3. Talk to Your Spouse Like This

When you approach your spouse about spending, don’t put the spotlight on her. Recognize that the only spending behaviors you want to focus on are your own. We identify our own bad habits first and how we can change them. Then she will probably offer to find where she can improve as well.

4. Recognize Value

Although you are trying to save money, don’t scrimp on the things that are important to you. Spending money on things like filtered water, exercise equipment, gym memberships, or organic food is costly, but nothing is more important than your health and wellbeing. Investing in quality items intelligently will avoid costs in the decades to come.

5. Talk About Spending Before It has to Happen, and Not After

If appliances or electronics seem like they’re on their way out, prepare for it. Talk about the fact that you’re going to need to save money to replace them.

6. Look at Budget as a Forecast

Usually people don’t view a budget as a good thing. It’s important to be open and reward yourself. Spend some money that you saved and enjoy it once in a while.

 

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Chores and Allowance: How to Teach Kids Money Management

In a recent Good Dad Project episode with Jim Sheils, we talked about how kids aren’t taught how to manage money in school. It’s up to parents to make sure our children know what it means to work for a living and how to manage the money they earn.

I was against giving allowance until about thirty days ago. In this episode I share why I decided to give my kids an allowance for chores and how it changed the way our whole family thinks about money.


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