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Strong Fathers, Strong Kids with Meg Meeker


This might be our best episode ever here on The Dad Edge! Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician, mother, and bestselling author. As the country’s leading authority on parenting, teens, and children’s health, she has been featured on all major media. Meg Meeker is also the host of the Parenting Great Kids Podcast and offers a wide range of online courses for parents.

Dr. Meg says fathers have been undervalued and belittled in today’s society, yet statistics show how crucial dads are to the development of both boys and girls and their potential to become a happy, healthy, successful adults.

It’s time to own our roles in the lives of our sons and daughters.

Parenting great kids is hard but simple. Meg Meeker tells how we can take an active and consistent role in our kids’ lives in just minutes a day. Whether raising sons or daughters, Dr. Meg explains how we can show up best as dads by embracing and following our male instincts.

You are wired with everything you need to be a good dad.”—Meg Meeker, M.D.

Meg Meeker

Meg Meeker, M.D., has spent more than thirty years practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine and counseling teens and parents. Dr. Meeker is a fellow of the National Advisory Board of the Medical Institute, is an associate professor of medicine at Michigan State School of Human Medicine. A popular speaker and bestselling author of several books, including the national bestseller, STRONG FATHERS, STRONG DAUGHTERS; THE 10 HABITS OF HAPPY MOTHERS; and BOYS SHOULD BE BOYS.

A popular speaker on pediatric health issues and child-parent relationships, she is a frequent guest on nationally syndicated radio and television programs. She works with the NFL Fatherhood Initiative and spoke at the UN in 2016 on family issues. Dr. Meeker lives in northern Michigan, where she shares a medical practice with her husband, Walter. They have four children.

Parenting Great Kids

Parents are trying to navigate children through a world they themselves don’t often understand. America’s Mom, Dr. Meg Meeker, the country’s trusted authority on parenting, teens, & children’s health, offers practical insights to help parents simplify. The pediatrician, mother, & best selling author engages with experts & parents to take on relevant issues, answer real questions, & provide simple hope & encouragement to every parent.

What You’ll Learn

  • Fatherlessness is the biggest problem in our country
  • Your presence as a man and father has enormous impact in your household.
  • Why Dr. Meg encourages dads to “get the big stuff right.”
  • Why it’s important to bring your kids into your world, like bringing them to work
  • In our culture, dads are belittled and often portrayed as morons. Moms are typically shown as having to take the lead, and not really needing dads for any meaningful role in the family except as the provider.
  • What is fear-based parenting?
  • Think about how your kids see you to inform the way you show up for them.
  • How to be a good dad after a hard day
  • Expecting yourself to be 100% engaged as soon as you get home is unrealistic.
  • It’s okay to take a half an hour to transition from work to family time.
  • How to keep a connection with your kids in simple, 5-minute gestures
  • Kids don’t need a lot of time and energy. They need quality.
  • You’ll never meet a more forgiving person in your life then your kids because your kids need you. If you make a blunder trying to connect with them, it won’t bother them as much as it bothers you.
  • Teaching kids to be affectionate, attentive, and good listeners
  • Why and how you should express yourself to your kids, especially when things aren’t going well. Tell them if you had a bad day. It teaches them that they can have a bad day and still have a good evening.
  • Why you set yourself up for failure if you try to engage with your kids as soon as they get home from school
  • Why the best time to talk to your kids is at bedtime
  • Kids often don’t know how they feel. You have to help them explore their feelings.
  • Boys connect better by doing activities together.
  • Girls connect better with talking.
  • Dads need to pull kids into what they like to do, but dads also need to get into their kids’ worlds. Get on their level and do what they like to do.
  • Parents shape who their kids become. Every time you surrender your role as the male figure to a coach or teacher, your kids are being shaped by them instead of you.
  • Limit extra-curricular activities. Your kids want more of you and less stuff to do.
  • How sports and extra-curricular activities can backfire your parenting strategy—when parents come to every event, the child feels that the only reason they get attention is because they are performing.
  • You have to have family time—like family dinners—at least twice a day, preferably four times a day.
  • When you have tension with someone in the family, you need more time with them, not less.
  • What to do when your daughter is becoming a teenager and wants to distance herself from you.
  • How much to control in your daughter’s dress and dating life
  • Your tone, manner, and voice are the standard of what male trust and respect will look like for your daughter all her life.
  • Every girl wants more healing from the relationship with her dad or more time with her dad.
  • How to give sons freedom to become their own men (and not try to make them into little copies of you)
  • Boys will develop strong character by their dads being a good example.
  • Make your kids know that you are there to link arms with them wherever they land.

Trust your instincts. You have male instincts, not female instincts. Good. Use them.—Dr. Meg Meeker


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Navy SEAL Tactics for Parents with Chris Sajnog

Retired Navy SEAL, Chris Sajnog, is one of our most popular guests. He is the premier firearms instructor in America, a bestselling author, and the host of the SEAL Training Podcast.

The Dad Edge went to his studio in San Diego for a live, in-person discussion about fatherhood, and we really went deep. Chris was abandoned by his father and carries the wound with him to this day. He vowed not to be like his estranged dad and gave up his accomplished military life to be there for his teenage boys.

Sadly, his sons don’t want to spend time with him. Chris opens up about dealing with the painful lack of connection with his sons, and how he maintains his fatherly presence in their lives.

Chris Sajnog also shares Navy SEAL tactics for parents to help us to learn anything quickly and effectively. He goes over the hard and soft traits we need to cultivate to be balanced men, and how we can apply the warrior mindset to everyday life.

For us to change our lives, we have to change who we identify ourselves as.—Chris Sajnog

Chris Sajnog

Chris Sajnog is a retired Navy SEAL Master Firearms Instructor, Neural-Pathway Training Expert, Speaker and Disabled Veteran Small Business Owner. He is one of the most experienced and respected firearms trainers in the world, being hand-selected to develop the training program for the US Navy SEAL Snipers. As a Navy SEAL he was the senior sniper instructor, a certified Master Training Specialist (MTS), BUD/S and advanced training marksmanship instructor.

After retiring from the SEAL Teams in 2009 to spend time with his family, Chris began training civilians and law enforcement officers. He is the founder of the New Rules of Marksmanship, a revolutionary approach to firearms training and has a passion for finding innovative ways to teach elite-level shooting skills online as rapidly as possible to his students.

He is a federal and state certified firearms instructor and has trained DOD, DHS, FBI, CIA, Law Enforcement, and multiple foreign allies in all aspects of combat weapons handling, marksmanship, and tactics.

He lives in San Diego, CA with his wife Laura and two boys, Caden and Owen.

What You’ll Learn

  • Chris’s mother was a flight attendant. His dad left when he was 2 years old.
  • Chris admits he was not a good student or son.
  • He was voted “most likely to end up in prison.”
  • Even though is dad didn’t want him around, Chris idolized him.
  • Chris’s dad was a manager at Hardee’s.
  • Chris forged documents and had eye surgery under a fake name to make it into the SEALs.
  • How Chris used his adversity as motivation
  • The importance of changing your identity
  • How to get your kid to identify themselves in a different way
  • How Chris gets his rebellious sons to do things that they refuse to do
  • How Chris’s boys don’t appreciate the fact that their father is a Navy SEAL
  • Chris has written his sons love letters and the life lessons he wants to pass onto them.
  • His sons don’t engage with him, but he doesn’t give up. He keeps trying to connect.
  • Navy SEAL tactics for parents
  • The importance of having a strong “why” when learning anything new or challenging
  • How to know whether or not you should quit something
  • How to assess if your path is serving you
  • Stop investing in a life for the wrong reasons that will not make you happy in the long run.
  • Why Chris won’t befriend men who aren’t good dads
  • How Chris turns civilians into warriors
  • The importance of meditation in a gunfight
  • It’s not what you train but how you train.

If you want to get better at being a dad, be around good dads.—Chris Sajnog

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Leading Our Family With Confidence with Chris Sajnog

The 12 Traits of a Warrior Part 1: The Hard Traits with Chris Sajnog

12 Traits of a Warrior Part II: The Soft Traits

Dad Edge Alliance Q&#038;A: Allowing Your Kids to Have Their Feelings with Chris Sajnog


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Bonding with Sons and Daughters

A Father’s Guide to Bonding with Sons and Daughters with Michael Gurian

According to Columbia University, children who have a poor relationship with their father are 68% more likely to drink, smoke, or use drugs. How we can strengthen the bond between father and son and father and daughter?

Michael Gurian is one of the world’s foremost experts on gender and the brain and has been called “The People’s Philosopher” for his ability to bring together people’s ordinary lives and scientific ideas. He is the NY Times bestselling author of thirty-two books, a keynote speaker, a husband and a father.

Michael tells us the top three reasons why today’s kids aren’t connecting with their dads. He teaches us to discover our assets as fathers and how to invite our kids to utilize them. He also shares the neuroscience behind the differences between bonding with sons and daughters, and how we be the best father to each gender.

Michael Gurian

Dr. Michael Gurian is the New York Times bestselling author of thirty two books published in twenty three languages. He provides counseling services in private practice.  The Gurian Institute, which he co-founded, conducts research internationally, launches pilot programs and trains professionals.

Michael has pioneered efforts to bring neuro-biology and brain research into homes, schools, corporations, and public policy. A number of his books have sparked national debate, including THE WONDER OF GIRLS, THE WONDER OF BOYS, BOYS AND GIRLS LEARN DIFFERENTLY!, THE MINDS OF BOYS and LEADERSHIP AND THE SEXES.

In the 1990s, Michael and his colleagues at the University of Missouri-Kansas City completed a two year pilot study that established best practices for educating boys and girls.  These strategies and Michael’s nature-based gender theory are now used in schools and communities worldwide.

One of the world’s foremost gender experts, Michael travels to approximately 25 cities per year to provide keynotes at conferences and speak at schools and in communities. Michael has served as a trainer and consultant to colleges, corporations, school districts, community agencies, faith communities, criminal justice personnel, and other professionals. His philosophy reflects the diverse cultures (European, Asian, Middle Eastern and American) in which he has lived, worked and studied.

Michael’s work has been featured in nearly all the major media, including the New York Times, the Washington Post, USA Today, Newsweek, Time, People Magazine, the Wall Street Journal, Forbes Magazine, Psychology Today, the Christian Science Monitor, Educational Leadership, the American School Board Journal, Family Therapy, Good Housekeeping, Redbook, and on the Today Show, Good Morning America, the 700 Club, CNN, PBS and National Public Radio.

What You’ll Learn

  • Michael’s mom had mental illness, and he grew up in an environment of violence and sexual abuse.
  • Michael’s father was mostly absent in his life until his dad was eighty years old.
  • It took 10 years of therapy for Michael to process his trauma. Therapy helped him recover and inspired him to become a counselor.
  • He’s been married to his wife 34 years, who is also a mental health counselor. They have two girls, aged 29 and 26.
  • Michael’s marriage advice: Establish domains as a couple. Figure out what each of you are good at and give each other space to do that. This prevents you trying to control each other.
  • Why you should compliment your spouse publicly.
  • Michael’s book, The Stone Boys, and why he wrote a story about traumatized boys.
  • The brain is not gender neutral. It shows differences according to sex beginning in utero.
  • Why we need to understand the male experience better
  • How culture is over-judging males and has lost the sense of value in a fathers’ masculinity
  • Dads are 50% of their kids support and development. They need to claim role in their kids’ lives.
  • Why kids aren’t connecting with dads
    • Divorce and child custody processes typically vilify the father.
    • The father abdicates to the mother or others because he doesn’t understand his role. He is afraid to assert himself as a father.
    • The father fails to invite the child to utilize him for the assets he has. He must be a presence. It doesn’t have to be deep conversation. Fathers and kids can bond with sports, movies, video games, and other activities.
  • Don’t be too permissive. Kids want structure.
  • How to be authoritative, not authoritarian.
  • The structure of a boy’s brain is wired to be more active. More blood flow goes to the doing part of the brain.
  • Females have more blood flow to the front and top of the brain. They solve problems internally by thinking and connect to emotive parts of brain.
  • Why females create rumination loops, leading to depression and anxiety.
  • How dads can listen to their daughters for ruminating, find the right time to step in, do a reality check, and offer suggestions.
  • Boys don’t have as many words for feelings as girls.
  • How dads can help their boys get their feelings out
  • What special activities dads can do with their daughters and sons to make the bond strong.
  • Figure out who you are as a dad and what your assets are.
  • Find common interests with your kids. Ritualize doing these things with your kids so you can establish your presence as the dad.
  • Gauge what your spouse is doing. What has she got covered? Where can you fill in the gaps as a husband and father?
  • The difference between maternal and paternal nurturing
  • How trauma effects boys and girls
  • Signs of trauma—if your child suddenly becomes withdrawn, angry, or isolated, he or she may have been traumatized.
  • More kids are traumatized than we realize.
  • How the dad spirit organically works in the family dynamic. Trust it and embrace it.

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Modern Rites of Passage for Today’s Boys

What is a rite of passage? What purpose did it serve in a boy’s life? How can we create modern rites of passage for today’s boys?

In this Thursday Throwdown, we are excited to have Tim Wright. He is a pastor, author, podcaster, and co-leader of The Helping Boys Thrive Summit with Michael Gurian. Today he talks about the history of the rite of passage and what significance it had in different cultures. He also tells us how we can create rites of passage or manhood ceremonies for our sons in every stage of life.

“If we don’t harness the energy of boys, they’ll either become passive or destructive.”—Tim Wright

Tim Wright

Tim Wright has been a pastor in the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America since 1984. In 2005, he started Community of Grace in Peoria, Arizona. He’s authored five books and has trained pastors and church leaders throughout the US and around the world. Along with Michael Gurian, he co-created the rite of passage program: Following Jesus: A Heroic Quest for Boys. He and his wife, Jan, raised a daughter and a son. They are now happily investing their lives in their three grandchildren.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why we should mark milestone events for boys (and girls)
  • Different stages in life to honor with ceremony: turning 16, turning 21, marriage, first child.
  • There are many men in boys’ bodies because they never made the transition into manhood.
  • The structure of the rite of passage process
  • How boys who don’t have rites of passage will create their own negative rituals, like college hazings.
  • Boys used to work alongside their fathers and grandfathers on the farm. Modern boys are raised by women and dads have outsourced their parenting to schools and coaches.
  • Boys are now behind in school and in the job market.
  • The ideal age to initiate a rite of passage.
  • Forming modern rites of passage around challenges your son will face like money, sex, and alcohol.
  • Instilling HEROIC values:
    • Honorable
    • Enterprising
    • Responsible
    • Original
    • Intimate
    • Creative
  • How to know when to help your son and when to let him help himself.

MENTIONED EPISODES:

The Transition from Boy to Man

Creating a Rite of Passage Experience for Your Son

Modern Manhood: What it Means to Be a Good Man Today with Cleo Stiller


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Wild at Heart with John Eldredge

Wild at Heart with John Eldredge

The Dad Edge Podcast is honored beyond words to have John Eldredge on the show. He is the author of the bestselling book Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul and is here to talk about our core needs as men and our constant quest for validation.

He also shares life-changing insights on how to become a student of our child’s heart and interpret their experiences for them so that they can become happier, stronger adults.

 

On being a dad: 'It’s not about perfection. It’s about love.' – John Eldredge @ransomedheart #dads #fathers #fatherhood #parenting Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • The inspiration for John Eldredge’s book, Wild at Heart
  • How we are in the midst of the collapse of gender
  • Why guys are confused on what it means to be a man
  • How men can be restored by doing internal work
  • Why most men don’t know they have a genuine strength to offer the world
  • How most of us ‘fake it’ through life, but inside, we doubt who we are
  • What things men are compensating for
  • Why men are so afraid to fail
'The number one ingredient for a child's success is having a dad who cares and who is involved.' – John Eldredge @ransomedheart #dads #fathers #fatherhood #parenting Click To Tweet
  • What it means to be a student of your child’s heart and why you need to become one
  • How to start giving your kids low-grade challenges to build their confidence
  • How to also implement low-grade failures so they can discover that they will survive through setbacks
  • How looking to your kid as a source of personal validation is damaging
  • How to wire your parenting for each child
  • How to be a dad to daughters
  • How a father defines his daughters identity
  • What a father can do to ensure his daughter trusts masculine strength
  • What to do when you blow up and anger
  • How to not let your child’s feelings turn into ‘agreements’ or negative conclusions about life
  • How to take the power of validation away from high-pressure situations
'A man will design his entire life to avoid anything that might expose him, and to only stay in the areas where he is getting some validation.' – John Eldredge @ransomedheart #men #dads #fathers #masculinity #comfortzone #fear… Click To Tweet

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