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Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio


Neuroscience research shows that 95% of what we think and feel falls below our conscious detection, meaning almost all of what we do is beyond our conscious control. Instead of creating our lives, we drift. We fill our time with distractions and bad habits instead of living to our full potential.

Our guest today is author, speaker, and executive coach Dominick Quartuccio. He is here to talk about his book Design Your Future: 3 Simple Steps to Stop Drifting and Take Command of Your Life. He outlines how to upgrade our environments, discipline ourselves efficiently, and rewrite the narrative in our heads so that we can live to our ultimate potential.

The definition of hell—On your deathbed you meet the man you could’ve become.'—Dominick Quartuccio #men #dads #fathers #regret #mindset #potential #breakthrough Click To Tweet

Dominick Quartuccio

Dominick Quartuccio is one of the few guests we’ve had on The Dad Edge that is not a father yet. He is an aspiring dad who works with many high-performing family men.

Dominick spent fifteen years in the corporate arena. He was very successful, but something was missing. He felt a higher calling and in 2016 left his career to become a speaker and coach who helps men take command of their lives.

'Drift is the single greatest thing that keeps us off the path.'—Dominick Quartuccio #men #dads #fathers #distraction #technology #pornaddiction #selfdevelopment Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why many of us feel lost and uninspired in life because we’re not connected to what means most to us
  • How we drown out our existential anxiety using vices like porn, technology, and even workaholism
  • How apps, social media, and technology are designed with psychological hooks to keep you using them
  • How social media notifications use variable rewards to make them more addictive
  • Dominick’s own recovery from porn and sex addiction
  • The 3 Fs that shape our sexual development.
    • Family
    • Faith (or lack thereof)
    • Friends
  • The best way to prevent getting sucked into the internet vortex
  • How to design effective and efficient no-brainer boundaries for yourself that don’t tax your willpower
  • Why you should never use your cell phone as an alarm clock
  • How to relate to other men instead of compete with them
  • What it takes to break free from drift
    • Catalyze your own awakenings
    • Disrupt your patterns and habits
    • Replace with designing a conscious, intentional future
  • How to stop self-sabotage
  • How to curate a relationship with your inner self
  • How to rewire your inner-narrative to live to your full potential
It's easier for men to fight battles than to go inward.—Dominick Quartuccio #personaldevelopment #wisdom #selfdiscovery #selfsabotage Click To Tweet

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What Happens When You Take Away Your Kids’ Devices

What Happens When You Take Away Your Kids’ Devices


We have no idea what we’re up against when it comes to the longterm effects of technology. With the viral popularity of games like Fortnite and gaming disorder being declared a mental health condition, video game addiction has become a hot topic. That’s why we had Cam Adair on The Dad Edge for the past two episodes to talk about how devices affect our brains and what we can do to mitigate unhealthy habits when it comes to our digital lives.

Cam’s interview inspired me to make some changes in my own home when it came to devices. With four young boys, it was a challenge. At first, life without tablets and video games was miserable for all of us. I also realized that I was part of the problem and that I had to work on my habits to set an example to my family.

Listen to what happens when you take away your kids’ devices and how it can change your family life for the better.

Thinking about planning a digital detox with your family? Here's what happened when I tried it. #devices #parenting #gamingdisorder #dads #men #fathers Click To Tweet

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Video Game, Porn, and Social Media Addiction with Cam Adair

Dad Edge Alliance Q&A: Video Game, Porn, and Social Media Addiction with Cam Adair


Technology is changing our lives and habits more quickly than ever before in history. We live a life of instant gratification and constant entertainment. Smart phones, tablets, and computers enrich our lives in many ways, but they can also be overstimulating and keep us from interacting with the real world. What can we do for ourselves and our families to prevent video game, porn, and social media addiction?

We had Cam Adair on last week to talk about the epidemic of gaming disorder. This topic is so important and we as a society are just beginning to understand the implications. And it’s not just video games. Pornography and social media can alter our brain chemistry in the same destructive ways. We asked Cam back to do a live Q&A session with the Dad Edge Alliance so real dads could share their concerns about raising kids in the digital age.

'I realized that if I never quit gaming I would never do anything else.'—@camerondare #gaming #gamingdisorder #addiction #videogames #kids Click To Tweet

'...that’s tragedy in this technology conversation. We’re not giving these kids the opportunity to just be kids, to have to figure it out and learn how to play.'—@camerondare #kids #children #parenting #techonolgy Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • The immersive powers of video games and the internet
  • Why kids go into meltdown mode when you take their devices
  • How to give kids the chance to develop skills to interact with the environment and people around them.
  • Strategies to control technology use outside the house or when coparenting:
    • Develop relationships that make it comfortable to have the tech conversation
    • Come up with ideas of other things kids can do without technology
    • Inspire your kids to take charge of thinking of alternative activities to do with their friends
    • Controlling duration and frequency of screen exposure
  • How gaming can be a gateway to pornography addiction
  • The effect of violent video games on children’s minds
  • The shocking statistic: the first viewing of porn starts at the age of 8 and regular porn viewing begins at age 11
  • How porn, gaming, internet, and social media are all linked to digital addiction
  • The harmful sexualization of women in games and media
  • The structural brain changes that occur in regular gaming, social media, and porn
    • Numbed pleasure response
    • Hyper reactivity
    • Willpower erosion
  • The detox symptoms such as cravings, anxiety, boredom
  • Why binging makes the problem worse.
  • Why the lack of a father figure is a huge risk factor for violence
  • Why empathy is stunted by gaming
  • The dangerous myth that gaming friends aren’t “real” friends
  • How to regulate screen time when schools are pushing techonology
  • How to be intentional about screen time in your home
    • Being open and honest
    • Keeping devices in a visible, central area of your home
    • Taking conversations about technology outside the home and away from the computer
    • Apps that help regulate screen time
    • Getting a your kid a flip phone instead of a smart phone
  • Why you need to be okay about allowing your kids to go through the process of being bored
  • Why you shouldn’t use technology to engage with your kids
  • Why entertainment leads to entitlement
  • How to empower kids to take control of their screen time
  • How to keep your kid’s playful spirit and love of the outdoors
  • 3 things you need to do to be proactive about gaming and screen time
    • Be aware of you own emotional experience
    • Encourage your kids to create instead of consume. Programming, designing,
    • Take action when you see red flags. It’s so much easier to prevent it than to try to find a way to deal with it once it becomes a problem.
  • How to help boys specifically
'Playing violent video games doesn’t mean you’re going to be the next school shooter. It does mean that you’re being desensitized, and that can be a risk factor.'—@camerondare #gaming #gamingdisorder #violence #isolation Click To Tweet

 

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TT 76 - How to Disconnect from Your Phone and Reconnect with Your Family

How to Disconnect from Your Phone and Reconnect with Your Family

How are mobile devices affecting our physical and mental health? How are they affecting our relationships? In this age of constant internet connection, we are facing an epidemic of living inside our phones instead of with the real live people in front us.

In this short episode, I talk about four reasons why spending too much time on your phone is harmful and what The Dad Edge Alliance is doing to set boundaries for screen time.


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How to Raise Strong, Confident, Resilient Girls with Bas Rutten

Bas Rutten is retired UFC Heavyweight Champion and three-time King of Pancrase world champion. He’s a regular on TV, has also appeared in movies, and even makes a cameo in the Grand Theft Auto video game.

It’s hard to believe that Bas Rutten, also known as “El Guapo” or The Handsome One, suffered extreme eczema and asthma during his childhood. He was bullied on a regular basis in his native country of Holland. One day when he was on vacation with his family in France, he snuck into the movie theatre to see Enter the Dragon. Bas knew that if he became like Bruce Lee, the bullying would stop. This sparked a passion for martial arts that took him through a glorious career and taught him many life lessons he would pass on to his three daughters.

How to raise strong girls

Learn to say “no”

Bas admits to being a sucker for the sad look he gets from his girls when he refuses to give into them. But it’s important to put your foot down. If they know they can influence you early on, they will never take you seriously in the future. Bas’s parents instilled good morals and work ethic in him. If he wanted something, he had to work for it and started delivering newspapers and washing dishes at a very young age. He has done this with his daughters as well.

Don’t lose your girls to social media

In this world of Instagram and Snapchat, it can be challenging to get your daughters’ attention. Bas Rutten says that it is important to connect with your daughters on social media. This might seem daunting for those of us who didn’t grow up with social media, but Bas says fathers must evolve with technology so they are fully aware of what is going on.

Bas also knows that being obsessed with social media diminishes the present moment. When you’re taking a video of the moment instead of absorbing it with all your senses, you don’t experience it fully. You’re not likely to watch the video again anyway, so he teaches his family to put the phone down and disconnect.

Be consistent

If you give your daughters multiple warnings and they still fail to meet their obligations, you must follow through with the punishment you decided on. Bas recalls one time when he warned his daughter that if she didn’t finish her homework, he wouldn’t allow her to go to prom. She didn’t finish her homework, and even though it broke his heart to do it, he stood his ground and did not allow her to go to prom. It wasn’t an easy lesson, but it changed everything. Bas says, “If they don’t take you seriously, they won’t take life seriously.”

Teach them to speak up

Girls are taught to be quite and submissive. “If you set yourself up for being bullied, you’ll get it,” Bas says. The best way to teach daughters to be strong is to show them how to project confidence. If someone speaks the them or treats them the wrong way, teach your daughters to speak up. They must say something right away before others think they can get away with treating them that way.

He also says girls need to stand their ground when it comes to relationships. They should project what they expect, maintain their independence, and not cave into their partner’s wishes all the time. It’s important for them to establish this behavior from the beginning so that they don’t become the weak person in the relationship.

Have fun with life

Although Bas struggle with his health problems throughout his childhood, he didn’t feel sorry for himself. It actually made him more optimistic because he knew there were people even worse off than him. He also developed a great sense of humor to cope with and compensate for the ostracization he suffered from his peers. Bas considers his childhood curses a blessing. His experiences shaped him and after the challenges he faced as a kid, his life is easy now. He feels it’s important for daughters to be strong and disciplined, but it’s also important to remember to have fun. Life goes by quickly and no one knows how much time we have.

Bas Rutten’s Parting Piece of Dad Wisdom

Bas recalls how he surprised his daughter with a puppy by coming up with an elaborate trick. A small effort and a little ingenuity on his part created and unforgettable memory for her. Make memories with your kids. Do a little more to make an impact.


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