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A Dad’s Guide to Parenting After Divorce with Evan DeMarco

How can you be the best dad after your marriage fails? What can you do to use post-divorce life as an opportunity to grow into the best version of yourself? Today’s show is a dad’s guide to parenting after divorce.

Evan DeMarco is the host of the Single Parents Daily and the Complete Human podcasts. Evan tells his harrowing story of his parents’ divorce, and how his father kidnapped him when he was a toddler. He reveals how his abandonment issues led to his own divorce, forcing him to confront his issues. Evan gives divorced dads tips to reclaim their true selves while also giving married and dating dads insights on how to develop and keep the relationship they have or begin a new one.

This show is gets real, so get ready to face some hard truths.

Single Parents Daily

There comes a point when every single parent says “I can’t do this.” The catalyst for this declaration can range from an overwhelmingly large pile of laundry, to not being able to pay the rent, to seeing your child attach to an ex’s new significant other. Being a single parent is one of the hardest single things any one person can do. But, it is also one of the most rewarding. As two parents who have navigated painful divorces while trying to maintain business and most importantly, be the best parents to our children, we recognize that our moderate success is a result of the tools we developed and the people that we surrounded ourselves with. We invite all parents to join us on our journey of Single Parenthood, where we discuss everything from how we learned to deal with our exes and navigate dating while having children. Our hope is to share these tools in a way that helps all single parents raise happy healthy kids who are prepared for a successful future as well-adjusted adults. We are not experts on single parenting, if there is such a thing. We are two parents struggling to do our best. Sometimes we fail. Sometimes we succeed. But always are we two parents who love our kids more than anything and are excited to share our journey as Single Parents Daily.

Mia and The Go Away Monster Spray

Mia’s got a problem― she’s got a monster living in her closet and that’s not going to fly with her. Mia enlists her dad to help her get rid of it once and for all. Together, Mia and her dad brew a magic potion called the Go Away Monster Spray. The recipes vital ingredient is a single strand of Mia’s hair. Can Mia and her Dad concoct the potion and banish the closet monster?

What You’ll Learn

  • Even though 50% of marriages end in divorce, there is tremendous stigma for divorced parents.
  • Men screw up so many relationships because we don’t know how to be vulnerable. We are not allowed to own our feelings.
  • Trying to make everyone happy results in not being true to yourself anymore.
  • How to move past the victim mentality and finger-pointing
  • Refocus on who you want and need to be.
  • How to collaborate as parents after divorce
  • Advice for married guys who come from divorced backgrounds—get comfortable with being vulnerable and get comfortable with yourself. Not everyone has to like you or agree with you.
  • The grass is greener where you water it. Don’t look for another relationship. Feed the one you have.
  • In marriage you have to be yourself. Don’t sweep stuff under the rug. There is nothing wrong with disagreeing with your partner in a respectful way.
  • Look at the stuff you’re not okay with and find a way to fix those things.
  • We can always bring new things into an existing marriage.
  • The idea of “you complete me” is wrong. Both partners need to be complete people.
  • Give yourself space to respond. It’s okay to go to be angry.
  • Set a deadline for when you will resolve a discussion.
  • Make time for fun and play in your relationship. Find what makes you happy together and do it more often.
  • The Divorce Bucket List –Make a list of things we did not do for ourselves when we were married.
  • Creating an Individual and Married Bucket list.
  • You don’t need to find someone to find value in life. It’s okay to be single.
  • Evan’s goal is to raise 2 million dollars with his children’s book for Operation Underground Railroad, whose mission is to stop human trafficking. You can help by buying his book, Mia and the Go Away Monster Spray.

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TRANSFORMED: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey to Defying All Odds

TRANSFORMED: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey to Defying All Odds with Remi Adeleke


Today we have a story unlike anything you’ve ever heard before. Remi Adeleke is a former Navy SEAL, actor, entrepreneur, author, husband and dad. These are huge accomplishments for any man, but once you learn about Remi’s background, you will be astounded.

Beginning life as a son in a wealthy, royal Nigerian family and almost ending as a drug dealer in The Bronx, Remi Adeleke’s defining moment was his father’s death when he was five years old. Raised by his single mom, Remi was cast into poverty and turned to crime to fill the void of male leadership.

Remi talks about how growing up without a father impacted his journey and how he is is living proof that even when things seem hopeless, it’s possible to transform and live a life beyond imagining.

“Every boy is instinctively looking for father—to affirm us, to guide us, to teach us.” Remi Adeleke

Remi Adeleke

Remi was born into riches and wealth. His dad was the firstborn son of a Yoruba chief who had nine wives. His father went on to study in London and became a well-known engineer and entrepreneur in Nigeria. His biggest project was one of the first manmade islands in the world, now known as Banana Island. In 1987, the corrupt Nigerian government stripped his father of the island, robbing him of his largest investment. Shortly after that, his father died. Remi was so young that he didn’t comprehend his father’s death or the impact it would make in his life.

Remi’s American mother brought him and his brother to the US to settle in The Bronx, NY. As they struggled to get by, Remi finally felt the void left by his father’s death. The icons of the hip-hop culture and street lifestyle became Remi’s father figures, and he worked his way from petty stealing to running high level scams that could’ve landed him in federal prison.

After a drug-related death threat, Remi realized he wasn’t going anywhere and decided to act on a long-buried childhood dream of becoming a hero. He went directly to a recruiter’s office where a series of fortunate events led him to his chance of becoming a Navy SEAL.

After the birth of his sons, Remi chose to leave his military career. He knew how deeply his father’s death affected him, and he didn’t want to do that to his family. From there, he pursued a career in speaking and acting.

Remi holds a BS in organizational leadership and a MS in strategic leadership, both from the University of Charleston West Virginia. He now resides in Southern California with his wife, Jessica, and his sons. He wrote his book, Transformed, to show disadvantaged kids and adults that they are capable of defying all odds.

Transformed: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey from the Throne of Africa, to the Streets of the Bronx, to Defying All Odds

What are the odds? Statistics tell us that African American males who grow up in a single-parent household are nine times more likely to drop out of high school and twenty times more likely to end up in prison than any other demographic. But what would it take for one young man not only to rise above those statistics but also become a Navy SEAL, actor, entrepreneur, writer, and successful husband and father?

What You’ll Learn

  • How Remi associated everything with the absence of his father
  • How he attributed his survival in the crime life to his dad
  • The positive African American role models in movies who planted the seed in Remi’s mind that he could become a hero too
  • The moment of clarity that brought him to the Navy SEALs
  • His multiple failures during BUDs training
  • The secret to perseverance: having a deep-rooted emotional reason why he is doing what he is doing
  • How superficial reasons turn adversity into a bad idea, giving you excuses to start looking for a plan B
  • The inspiration and purpose of his book, Transformed
  • The unique challenges of writing a book
  • What Remi feels is most important about his role as a father
  • Remi’s motivation to be a good role model
  • How he wants his kids to honor women and how he’s had to set the example
  • Why love is not just a word, it’s an action.
  • How he knows the massive potential of his kids
  • How much farther he may have come with a father’s guidance
  • Teaching kids to hone their good qualities and exorcise the bad qualities
  • How his military intelligence experience translates to his life
  • Communication tips with his wife
  • His daily physical, mental, and spiritual self-care routine
  • His physical limitations due to injuries and how he gets past them
  • Advice for men who always put themselves last

 

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What Kind of Father Do You Want to Be?

What Kind of Father Do You Want to Be?


We have two choices when we become a dad. Are we going to be like our fathers? Or are we going to try to be different. Some men have a good sense of what a good dad should be by watching their fathers. Other men are trying to break a pattern of bad fathering, whether it be addiction, anger, or complete absence.

On today’s short show we have Dad Edge Alliance member Andy Nelson. He is a divorced dad who admits that he was not there mentally for his kids or their mother. He knew he had to break the pattern of his father’s parenting and began to proactively improve his relationship with both his kids and his ex-wife.

Andy tells us how he developed a framework to change his life and how he succeeded by focusing on his goals instead of running away from what he didn’t want.

'You have to embrace all your feelings. You won’t feel the extreme highs without the extreme lows.'—Andy Nelson #fatherhood #mentalhealth #menshealth #gratitude Click To Tweet

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How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

 

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