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How to Raise a Teen in Today's World

How to Raise a Teen in Today’s World with Marc Fienberg


Navigating the turbulent waters of raising a teenager is different now than when our parents raised us. With technology, they are exposed to so much more than they are ready for. We also are facing new challenges like the pandemic and societal issues.

In this episode, Marc Fienberg is going to teach us how to raise a teen in today’s world. He is the bestselling author of Dad’s Great Advice for Teens and we talk about the tough conversations we need to have with our kids. He tells us why we should encourage our kids to not focus on making us happy.

He also tells us how to get our kids to open up about sex, drugs, and other uncomfortable issues so that they can make the best decisions even when we aren’t around.

You have to change your strategies and reinvent yourself as a parent all the time.

Mark Fienberg

It doesn’t matter that Marc Fienberg is an author, movie director, strategy consultant, entrepreneur, owner of The Great Advice Group, husband, and all-around nice guy. What matters is that he is the father of four kids, two of whom are teens. He has served as a life coach to his kids for more than sixteen years, and since none of them have been rushed to the emergency room or spent a night in jail yet, it seems like his Great Advice is working.

Dad’s Great Advice for Teens: Stuff Every Teen Needs to Know About Parents, Friends, Social Media, Drinking, Dating, Relationships, and Finding Happiness

Being a teen ain’t easy. Luckily, Dad’s Great Advice for Teens provides 25 short pieces of unorthodox Great Advice, filled with humor, wisdom, and inspirational quotes, to help teens:

  • Build confidence
  • Make good decisions
  • Stay positive when problems arise
  • Be productive with their time
  • Take action toward their goals
  • Develop close relationships
  • Create new, positive habits
  • Follow their passion
  • Trust their gut
  • Take smart risks

What You’ll Learn

08:00

Marc began writing advice for his own four kids who needed different guidance at different stages. Each would receive their own book of advice on their 13th birthday.

09:21

Marc’s career as a Hollywood director.

13:15

Push kids to find out what makes them happy.

Even though you share your genes with your parents. You don’t share your dreams with your parents.

What is a condom virgin?

No one waits till marriage anymore. Sex is an adult thing to do, because the repercussions are adult. Kids need to know the real consequences of disease and pregnancy.

27:50

How to reconnect with a teen who is drifting away from you.

Marc says the later he stays up with his kids, the more likely they are to share.

As a parent, you will get the most information when you don’t look at them.

34:50

Dealing with the pandemic

Don’t shield your kids from the news. They need to know how serious this is. People are dying.

42:30

How to give kids the tools they need to make good decisions when we’re not with them

Tell your kids to go with their gut. There is science behind the instincts we feel.

Talk to your kids about the bad decisions you’ve made. They can learn vicariously through your mistakes and it also helps them feel like they can be honest with you.

Marc Fienberg’s Link

greatadvicegroup.com

 


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How to Access Your Power, Confidence, and Clarity with Shana James

Many of us are frustrated with our relationships. We’re settling for mediocre marriages that we don’t know how to revive. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Our relationships are not the problem. The problem is that we lack the skills to make them into what they could be. Today you will be empowered with those skills.

We are fired up to talk to Shana James. She is a coach, TEDx speaker, author, and the host of the Man Alive podcast. She is here to help us understand what women love most about their men. She is going to teach us how to ask for what we need and what we desire without fear. She also shows us how to access our power, confidence, and clarity so that we can live truly extraordinary lives.

Shana James

For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers, and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle the spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

She’s been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in her clients’ professions and love lives. Then she creates a clear and unique path for them to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, she cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, Coaching training, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses, and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, her range of skills is unlike many other coaches.

What You’ll Learn

About Shana

[11:14] Shana had a hard time connecting during the pandemic. One thing that brings Shana joy is nature, getting out, and hiking.

[12:30] Shana tries not to take life too seriously as a parent.

 

Things she finds attractive about a man

[13:43] Shana finds it attractive when a man expresses a range of strength, and at the same time, expresses emotions of sadness and fear. She also feels attracted to honesty and communication, and a man with a vision and purpose.

 

Vulnerability among men

[19:34] What surprises Shana is men’s vulnerability towards how they feel. A lot of men don’t have an opportunity to share without fear. This shows up through frustration.

[23:33] It is not just about physicality, it is even harder for men to say that they need love.

 

The biggest problem of a relationship

[25:54] Shana said that one of the biggest pain points of a relationship is communication and be willing to take the risk of having a difficult conversation. What happens outside of the bedroom affects what happens inside the bedroom.

 

Problems and factors that affect sex

[28:46] Women often fall out of the mood when they have on their minds. Sometimes we need to put ourselves in our wife’s shoes in order for us to realize what is affecting their reactions to us asking for physical attention.

 

Difference between Masculine and Feminine Energy

[32:20] Men often slow down if their wife is a stronger woman, but for men, getting things done gives us a more empowered feeling.

 

Listening to your partner

[37:52] Listening to your partner is important. You need to understand how they feel and what they have to say in order for you to understand where they are coming from. This connection will help loosen each other up and lead to understanding.

[40:52] Context of the conversation is important as well. You need to make your partner feel that you will listen to understand, and you need to tell them where your mind is. This will remove her fears and anxiety.

[43:34] On the opposite side of every complaint is a desire. Women tend to have the stereotype to nag. Instead of letting it go, seek to understand why something is wrong.

 

Knowing you can explore more in your relationship

[45:12] You don’t need to know what you are supposed to do. You can explore together. Stay humble and curious.

 

Men Asking for What They Need

[46:34] Men often do not want to feel inferior, so they resist asking for what they need.

[52:41] Rejection does not feel good, especially when you feel that it’s personal.

 

Receiving and accepting your partner’s feedback

[56:37] You need to take in what is happening with your partner, not just in an intellectual way, but in physical and emotional way.

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Stop Being the “Nice Guy” with Dr. Robert Glover

Many of us take pride in being the “nice guy.” But could being the nice guy be ruining our lives?

We are all probably guilty of Nice Guy Syndrome on some level. We sometimes give only to receive in a passive attempt to get what we want without directly asking for it. We avoid conflict to get the acceptance, validation, approval, and even the sex that we need. Some of us might not even realize we suffer from Nice Guy Syndrome and wonder why we are anxious and unhappy.

Dr. Robert Glover is back on The Dad Edge for a discussion we all need to hear. He talks about how to stop being dependent on external things for our happiness. He shows us how to reclaim our identities after losing ourselves in relationships. He also explains why we need to get comfortable with our existential fears to become empowered men.

Stop being a nice guy and start living true to yourself!

If you have to give up anything that’s important to you to be in a relationship, it’s going to create a toxic environment.

Dr. Robert Glover

Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life. Dr. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications. As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men’s professional careers and intimate relationships. Dr. Glover is the creator of Dating Essentials for Men, the director of TPI University, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Washington. Dr. Glover divides his year between Bellevue, WA and Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.

What You’ll Learn

  • Nice Guy Syndrome, at its core, is codependency.
  • Borrowed functioning means your wellbeing depends on the happiness of those around you.
  • It’s an anxiety and shame-based disorder. You manage people and situations to avoid anxiety or feelings of worthlessness.
  • Losing ourselves in relationships is not healthy, even though we’ve been taught that it’s noble to throw ourselves on the sword for our wives and kids.
  • The difference between fusion and differentiation
  • What most of us call “intimacy” is losing ourselves in another person so much that there is no distinct otherness anymore.
  • Fusion kills sexual passion.
  • The “Alpha Male” in human society who takes all is a myth. Things (including women) were shared.
  • Marriage emerged much more recently with the patriarchy.
  • Up until 100 years ago, marriage was an economical arrangement. Romantic love is a new idea.
  • Pair bonding in modern times doesn’t work well for happiness.
  • What you can count on in a relationship is that your childhood baggage is going to reveal itself.
  • Tension is healthy. Anytime there is tension, there is growth.
  • It used to take a whole tribe to meet our needs. Expecting one person to fulfill all our needs is impossible and unfair.
  • Differentiation is two complete adults who choose to be together.
  • If we are acting as an independent person, we are more attractive to the opposite sex.
  • Almost no one is sexually monogamous, even if they aren’t physically cheating on their spouse.
  • Men give up control in their marriage and then get resentful. Then we sneak around to get our needs met.
  • Friends are often the first thing men sacrifice.
  • Angst from being disconnection from our tribe
  • It’s human nature to try to find connection because we’re afraid of disappearing into nothingness. Practice getting comfortable with existential fears to be more self-reliant.
  • Men load up their to-do lists, don’t get everything done, go to bed stressed, and wake up the next day with even more to do. If we stay busy, we don’t have to feel anything.
  • Learn to be with stillness.
  • Schedule unscheduled time. Build chunks of time into your day for unscheduled things and things that matter.
  • Appreciate life right now. Today is the best day of your life.

 

RELATED EPISODES:

Love Languages and Other Marriage Tips for the Pandemic with Gary Chapman

No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

Why Nice Guys Don’t Get Their Needs Met

 


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Sexploration and Intimacy Tips for Married Men with Dr. Corey Allan


Do you want more sex in your marriage? Many of us do, but have you ever asked yourself if the sex in your marriage is even worth having more of? Today, our guest gives us the intimacy tips for married men to have both MORE sex and BETTER sex with our spouses.

Dr. Corey Allan is the host of Sexy Marriage Radio and is back on The Dad Edge to teach us everything we’re doing wrong when it comes to approaching our wives about sex. He tells us to stop trying to fix our women and how to fix ourselves. Corey reveals women’s most common complaints on how their men derail their arousal, and what we can do to make sure our desire is clear without being needy or demanding. He also talks about how to get your woman on board with sexploration and games to fire up the bedroom.

Get ready to become the sexpert in your marriage!

Dr. Corey Allan

Dr. Corey Allan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Professional Life and Relationship Coach. He’s also an author, blogger, speaker, husband, and father. His podcast, Sexy Marriage Radio, features straight-forward, honest conversations about what goes on behind closed doors in your marriage.

Naked Marriage

Many couples have a false notion of what married life truly is – and these rose-colored assumptions tend to heighten expectations to such unrealistic levels that couples find themselves frustrated and feeling alone.

What if marriage were designed for a specific purpose?
What if some of the problems faced in marriage are not meant to be solved, they’re meant to be lived through?

Because many people don’t understand what marriage is and could be, they hide from each other. To keep the peace, they continue the charades, each spouse reluctantly believing, “I guess this is just how it’s supposed to be.” Consequently, they refuse to get naked with each other in all of that word’s scary yet glorious permutations: emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

Naked Marriage encourages you to find yourself and fully reveal yourself, so you and your marriage can become fully alive.

What You’ll Learn

  • The dynamic of higher vs. lower desire partners
  • In 60-70% of marriages, the man is higher desire partner
  • Men have more testosterone (the horny hormone) and are visually aroused
  • Men associate their sex life with their identity and tie self-worth to their appendage and performance
  • Is the sex you’re having together right now even worth wanting more of?
  • Men think the woman is broken if they do not need as much sex, but being the lower desire person is not wrong.
  • What women really need to be enthusiastic about having sex
  • A women’s body takes more time to catch up biologically and her desire can easily get derailed.
  • However, the woman must play her part in getting into the mood. It’s not just the man who is responsible for arousing her.
  • To get a wife going, work on yourself. Do you display consistency, character, and integrity?
  • Trust equals lust! Men must live trustworthy in all ways, big and small.
  • You can’t overly try to not disappoint the woman. Don’t try to be the nice guy. Be honest and real.
  • To truly have something of meaning and value there has to be some conflict.
  • The feminine is a security seeking creature. A woman needs the man be the captain.
  • Foreplay begins right after orgasm.
  • Should you accept mercy sex from your wife?
  • It’s not what you do. It’s how you operate and who you are.
  • Whenever your wife presents you with an option, make a decision. Do not defer to her. She is looking to you to make the call.
  • How to make sure your wife knows you’re into her without scaring her away
  • Husband’s do a bad job of setting the tone of the family. Don’t be a dictator. Be a decision maker.
  • Are you conscious and engaged with your family? Don’t try to split your attention when you are with them.
  • Stop with manipulative coverts and hints. A woman knows when a man wants to have sex with her.
  • Is it about satisfying your needs or being with her? Are you looking to get off or have an experience? She will be able to tell if you don’t want to connect more than just physically.
  • Sexploration techniques and bedroom games that add variety, spice, and opportunities to connect
  • Recovering from sexual experiences that didn’t turn out as expected is part of the intimate connection.
  • Laughter is a great aphrodisiac.
  • Corey Allan’s new Intimately Us app that makes conversations, date ideas, and sexploration easy.
  • How to present Intimately Us or any new sex ideas to your wife

RELATED EPISODES

Simple, Sexy Marriage with Dr. Corey Allan

No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

Why Nice Guys Don’t Get Their Needs Met


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The Highly-Evolved Father with Adam Schafer from MIND PUMP


Today we talk to a previous guest whose story about his father’s suicide is one of our top shows ever in the history of The Dad Edge. Adam Schafer from the hugely popular Mind Pump Podcast is back. He wasn’t a father the first time he was on the show, but now he’s the proud new dad to his one-year-old son Maximus!

Adam talks about how having a baby has changed his lifestyle and relationship with his wife for the better. He opens up about his struggles with empathy, trauma, and childhood insecurities. He also talks about manufacturing adversity for our kids so that they will build resilience and character.

You’ve never heard this side of Adam Schafer before. This show is full of insights that will take your fathering skills to the next level. Listen now!

Adam Schafer

Adam had a lot of adversity to overcome as a child. He lost his father to suicide at the age of seven and bounced around to nine different homes by the time he was seventeen. Adam was bullied in school which ultimately led to him being home-schooled.

In the midst of his childhood turmoil one constant in Adam’s life was his love for sports. He was a natural athlete who loved snowboarding, water skiing, basketball and anything else sports related. Adam’s love for sports led him down the path of learning about fitness and nutrition.

Adam got started with his career in fitness in 2001. His first entrepreneurial venture was as a child of ten so it seemed natural for Adam to become an entrepreneur in fitness. As a part of his ongoing quest to learn and grow in his career Adam has obtained certifications from top fitness training institutions. Adam has found a way to train and teach even more people through Mind Pump.

Adam found that combining his passion and expertise with that of his Mind Pump cohosts, Sal, Justin, and Doug, gives him the opportunity to make a big impact on the fitness industry.

What You’ll Learn

  • How to approach parenthood with intention instead of reaction
  • Will having a baby make you lose your identity as a couple?
  • Will you still find your wife attractive when she is pregnant?
  • Can sex actually be hotter after the baby?
  • Having a child brought Adam and his wife Catrina closer together.
  • As a couple, they knew that raising a new human being was going to change the awesome lifestyle they had created for themselves—dining out, going to sports events, traveling.
  • Even though they don’t do their favorite things anymore, they don’t feel like they’re missing out.
  • Marriage should not go on the back burner when the kids come. Your spouse must come before kids.
  • Most of us react based on the neurosis and insecurities we developed as a child. We must deal with unresolved anger towards our parents.
  • Be aware of displaying negativity as a couple in front of the kids. Do not react in front of the child. Show alignment.
  • There is always work to be done in a relationship.
  • Developing self-awareness and emotional intelligence is the key to evolving as a man and father.
  • We must make the choice to use trauma to become better instead of an excuse to be worse.
  • Why we have to manufacture adversity for today’s kids who have everything
  • Adam’s hacks on how to make sure you show appreciation to your partner.
  • Why Adam doesn’t say “I love you” without a deeper reason behind it.

MENTIONED EPISODES

When a Father Commits Suicide

Creating a Rite of Passage Experience for Your Son


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