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Modern Manhood: What it Means to Be a Good Man Today with Cleo Stiller


Do you consider yourself to be one of the “good guys?” What is the truth about masculinity? What does it mean to be a good man in today’s rapidly changing society? The old ideas of the male being a lone pursuer, protector, and provider are evolving, leaving many men confused about their role in family and society.

Today we have Cleo Stiller on The Dad Edge. She is the author of Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today. Cleo has had conversations with men all over the cultural, economic, and geographical spectrum, along with experts in psychology and sociology, to get a deeper understanding of what men really want and need.

In this episode, Cleo Stiller provides context for men and women when it comes to friendship, sex, parenting, money, and work. She also tells us how dads can become better human beings and raise their sons to confidently navigate the modern world.

There’s no way you’re going to raise a son who is comfortable expressing himself if you aren’t comfortable expressing yourself.—Cleo Stiller

 

Cleo Stiller

Cleo Stiller is a Peabody Award and Emmy Award-nominated journalist, speaker and television host on a mission to inspire positive social action around the world — and now an author with Simon & Schuster.

Stiller’s latest project is a new book Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today based off of years of Stiller’s reporting with men as they reconcile what it means to be “a good man” in a #MeToo era.

Modern Manhood is a #1 New Release on Amazon and has received coverage in Fortune Magazine, Rolling Stone, ABC News, The Independent, PBS, LinkedIn’s Weekend Essay and many more.

Prior to this, Stiller spearheaded health-focused digital and social video content for Univision’s cable news network for Millennials, Fusion. This culminated in the creation of an original docuseries about relationships, technology and culture. It’s the network’s second highest performing original series and has received multiple award nominations, including a prestigious Peabody Award for public service.

Stiller is an Emmy nominated and Gracie winning journalist with a background in digital video reporting — and a passion for women’s health. She’s a frequent conference speaker, most recently at New York University’s Center for Global Affairs Women’s Global Health Conference and her work has been covered by The New York Times, Self.com, Variety,Bustle, Essence,LifeHacker and a Reddit AMA.

Stiller now consults with media companies, brands and organizations to create and execute video campaigns optimized for digital reach that educate, humor and inspire viewers.

Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today

Emmy and Peabody Award–nominated health reporter Cleo Stiller’s fun(ny) and informative collection of advice and perspectives about what it means to be a good guy in the era of #MeToo.

Here are a few self-evident truths: Predatory men need to go, sexual assault is wrong, and women and men should be equal. If you’re a man and disagree with any of the aforementioned, then this book isn’t for you.

But if you agree, you’re probably one of the “good guys.” That said, you might also be feeling frustrated, exasperated, and perhaps even skeptical about the current national conversation surrounding #MeToo (among many other things). You’ve likely found yourself in countless experiences or conversations lately where the situation feels gray, at best. You have a lot to say, but you’re afraid to say it and worried that one wrong move will land you in the hot seat. From money and sex to dating and work and everything in between—it can all be so confusing! And when do we start talking about solutions instead of putting each other down?

In Modern Manhood, reporter Cleo Stiller sheds light on all the gray areas out there, using conversations that real men and women are having with their friends, their dates, their family, and themselves. Free of judgment, preaching, and sugarcoating, Modern Manhood is engaging, provocative, and, ultimately, a great resource for gaining a deeper understanding of what it means to genuinely be a good man today.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why Cleo doesn’t use the phrase “toxic masculinity”
  • This is the most progressive generation and cultural norms are changing quickly.
  • Cleo’s book, Modern Manhood, seeks to provide context for men and women all over the country about gray areas when it comes to dating, parenting, money, and work.
  • Class, ethnic, and regional background affect our ideas of what being a good man means.
  • The loss of friendship and loneliness of modern men
  • The reason men don’t have meaningful friendships once they reach adulthood
  • “Woke,” the new term for politically aware
  • Should you call out a friend for being inappropriate?
  • Men don’t know how to talk about their problems, so they turn to humor (sometimes inappropriate) to bond.
  • Women are increasingly out earning their male partners.
  • Men are hardwired to provide, but most men don’t want to be THE provider, but a provider.
  • Men being the sole provider is new in human history. Historically, it was a dual income society, where men hunted and women gathered, both providing food.
  • Single income households developed after agriculture started.
  • Strip the idea from your mind that the only way you can provide as a man is through money. There are so many other ways.
  • Questioning stereotypical idea of masculinity as the lone wolf, stoic, protector, and pursuer
  • Most men get their idea of what being a good man means from their father for what he did or did not do.
  • If there is something about your idea of a being good man that is making you miserable, you can reframe it.
  • We often equate work with misery and feel like we’re doing something wrong if we’re happy.
  • Sex and dating in the age of the #metoo movement
  • We don’t see connected, intimate sexual interactions in media and in our culture, so we don’t practice them either.
  • Get comfortable with your feelings within. Everything that makes you uncomfortable will come out in your children. If you’re afraid of your feelings, they will be too.
  • How to teach your sons to process emotion.
  • It’s not so much about what a good guy does, but what a good person does. You are a human, you should be able to rely on and open up to the people that you love.

MENTIONED EPISODES

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio

Become Irresistible to Your Woman with Allana Pratt

 


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Become Irresistible to Your Woman with Allana Pratt


Is it possible to become absolutely irresistible to your woman?

Whether things cooled off after the kids or your marriage is in serious trouble, today’s show is going to dive deep into what your woman requires to deeply connect with you on an emotional and sexual level.

Allana Pratt is a relationship coach and intimacy expert who has been featured all over the media, including CBS, Forbes, People Magazine, and FOX.

She is going to reveal some surprising insights about why your woman may have lost desire for you. She talks about what men should do if they are being emasculated. Allana also explains how to articulate what you truly want without seeming needy, how to make your woman feel safe and seen so she is receptive to you physically, and how to remove the fear of rejection in all your conversations, inside and outside the bedroom.

Women love sex. They like to have lots of it. What they require is safety. If you want more sex, how can you make her feel safer, more seen, more understood, more held, more able to surrender?—Allana Pratt

Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt

Allana Pratt inspires open hearted living, with delicious sass. Her inspiring vulnerability and courage has landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as Guest Expert on The Jenny McCarthy Show, Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS, TLC and FOX. This cum laude graduate of Columbia University is the Author of 4 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg, Alanis Morissette and Dr. Bernie Seigel and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn to thrive after heartbreak and find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With over 4 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup so followers can create healthy, thriving intimate relationships with themselves first, which naturally attracts their ideal match.

After working with thousands of men and women who struggle to open their hearts again in the aftermath of a harsh breakup, Allana helps them learn how to date again and find lasting love. She inspires women to embrace their sacred erotic nature to attract all the love and attention they can handle. She heals men’s emasculated hearts, cures their ‘nice guy’, and awakens their ‘noble badass’ so they can create hot, healthy intimate relationships.

What You’ll Learn

  • Men tend to shame themselves for their sexual desires
  • Why men don’t feel free to communicate their needs.
  • Most men avoid asking for what they want sexually from their wives because they don’t know how to respond to rejections (e.g. “you want it all the time, you didn’t take out the trash, I’m tired”).
  • Men haven’t learned to sit in the fire and burn through conflict, but it’s through conflict that we learn.
  • Men usually run away, hide, or pretend nothing is wrong and never address the root problem. Intimacy issues perpetuate.
  • When you approach your woman, the degree to which you hesitate is the degree to which you will receive hesitancy. The degree to which you doubt yourself, is the degree to which your woman will doubt you.
  • Whatever you’re afraid she’ll say, she’ll say. You’re creating her response.
  • How to take your power back to become irresistible to your woman
  • Why you must integrate shame, guilt, and fear instead of trying to bury it or destroy it
  • Men must tell themselves that their worth is not based on their woman’s behavior, approval, or agreement. They are the masters of their realities.
  • If you’re totally present and able to be with any truth your woman has, she will respect you.
  • Own what is your responsibility.
  • Your unattachment to the result is the key to getting what you want.
  • How to connect with the past-rejected part of yourself and love it without condition so you can approach life as a whole person.
  • We clamber for pleasure and avoid pain, but too much pleasure is detrimental, and the avoidance of pain prevents us from becoming stronger.
  • Certainty is sexy—even being certain that you don’t know the answer.
  • When men aren’t authentic and vulnerable, the women steps into a masculine role.
  • When men share only to get attention, the woman senses the agenda and it backfires.
  • What men need most from women
  • Keep your heart open in the face of trauma and fear. Know your worth and truth no matter if anyone agrees or not.
  • Being emasculated by your woman is wrong
  • How man can deal with a woman who emasculates them
  • What a woman who is centered and conscious can awaken in a man
  • How a man can awaken the radiant goddess in their woman
  • The ideal time and environment to have deep conversations with your wife
  • How to proactively choose what to see out of perceived failures
  • How to appeal to your wife’s love language
  • How to penetrate your woman in three ways—physically, mentally, and spiritually.

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Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids

The Unexpected Secrets of Men, Women, and Sex with Nell Gibbon Daly

How to Light Your Woman Up with Brandy Salazar


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How to Argue and Other Marriage Tips with Zach Brittle


Today, we’re going to give you marriage tips that you can use to turn your marriage around or make it even better than it already is.

Many of us might say we have good marriages, but we don’t hear about a lot of great marriages that are full of happiness, connection, intimacy, and sexual desire. This is probably because most couples wait 6 years to seek help when they feel unhappy in their marriages, and by that time they’re often ready to give up.

Today we have Zach Brittle on The Dad Edge. He is a marriage counselor and the co-host of the Marriage Therapy Radio podcast. Zach is going to give us some marriage tips we’ve never heard before. We discuss the DNA of conflict, ingenious ways to navigate arguments, and how to break the same frustrating relational patterns. He also tells us how to create a marriage with absolutely no sexual rejection. All married men (and women) will benefit from the marriage tips in this episode!

 

 

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Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage with Mort Fertel

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5 Practices to Make You a Mentally Tougher Man with Dominick Quartuccio

5 Practices to Make You a Mentally Tougher Man with Dominick Quartuccio

The only thing we can count on in life is change, and that means having the mental toughness for life’s challenges. We don’t want to spend our entire lives reacting out of fear and frustration. We want to know that no matter what happens, we can handle anything.

Dominick Quartuccio returns to The Dad Edge. He is a speaker, coach, and the author of Design Your Future: 3 Simple Steps to Stop Drifting and Take Command of Your Life. He is going to share 5 practices to make you a mentally tougher man so you can train your body and mind to operate from a place of power, presence, and resourcefulness.

Get ready to work out your mental toughness muscles!

Dominick Quartuccio

Dominick Quartuccio is a keynote speaker, trainer and executive mentor. He’s dedicated his life to helping the best-of-the-best accelerate individual and team performance. He’s the author of Design Your Future: Stop Drifting and Start Living.

Drawing upon 15 years of experience as an executive for Fortune 100 financial services firms, Dominick saw the demands on leaders go up every year, forcing those leaders to sacrifice the most important areas of their lives: personal health, personal relationships and personal freedoms.

That model is broken. The consequences to leaders, their families and their businesses are unsustainable.

Dominick offers a new way. He works with high performance individuals, teams and businesses (small and large) to accelerate them to the next-level by aligning the most important areas of work and life. Dominick is a student of life, constantly disrupting himself in pursuit of raising performance and living a definiteness of purpose.

What You’ll Learn

  • Most men wildly overestimate their mental toughness.
  • Men think they are handling a situation, but they are collapsing in some way.
  • When men are triggered by a stressful situation, they divert their emotions with porn, fantasy, food, drugs, alcohol, isolation, avoidance, and overworking. Either that, or they shoulder everything and let it kill them in the process.
  • Dom’s addiction to sex and porn lead him to cheating on the only woman he ever loved.
  • By building mental and emotional capacity, the breadth of what you can endure increases and their are few situations you cannot handle from a place of power, presence, and resourcefulness.
  • How to be disciplined about how much pornography you consume
  • 5 Practices to Make You a Mentally Tougher Man
    1. The Breath Hold Challenge – Hold your breath as long as you can. Wait till you start to feel your fight or flight response to kick in. Try to assume a place of stillness despite your chaotic thoughts.
    2. The Cold Shower Challenge – Most of us can’t anticipate or get past the initial shock of an uncomfortable situation. Train yourself to brace for the blast with a cold shower. Breathe into it and wait for the shock to pass.
    3. The 100 Push Up Challenge – Try to do 100 consecutive push ups with your only relief being able to take a break in plank before continuing. This changes your relationship with pain, allowing you to look at it and disassociate from it.
    4. The Meditation Challenge – This long form stillness builds your endurance for pain. Sit and meditate without moving. Watch your feelings without judgement.
    5. Temporary Abstinence – What are the things you crave? What habits do you lean on to get through the day? Junk food, porn, Netflix, alcohol? Removing the crutch quickly illuminates why it was there in the first place. Then you can work on the source of the craving and reintroduce these elements in a healthier way.


MENTIONED EPISODES:

A Good Dad Masters These 5 Life Skills – Larry Hagner on A Man Amongst Men

Get Lit: Forget the Pressure to Find Your Why with Dominick Quartuccio

Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio

The Secrets to Achieving Wildly Important Goals with Mark Divine

What Doesn’t Kill Us with Scott Carney


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The Secret Language of Your Woman’s Desire with Karen Brody


How can we get back the amazing sex and emotional connection we had when we first met our wives? Where do we go wrong when it comes to exciting our women and igniting their passion? How can we change the direction of our relationship with our spouse when it seems like everything we do is wrong?

Karen Brody is a man coach and bestselling author of Open Her: Activate 7 Masculine Powers to Arouse Your Woman’s Love & Desire.

Karen goes in-depth about how we, as men, lose our power in marriage, how we kill the attraction our wives have for us, and how we can understand our women better than they understand themselves.

You will have some major epiphanies during this show as Karen Brody reveals the secret language of your woman’s desire. Put this episode on repeat!

You don’t want to rely on your partner to fill a hole in you. When you have a sense of fullness you will be more attractive to her.—Karen Brody

Karen Brody

Karen Brody is a Relationship Coach for Men and a former journalist, who lives in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico, with her sweetheart and her cat. Her favorite things to do are Salsa dancing, road trips with no destination, and weekends in nature hiking, reading and writing. Karen’s life purpose is to help awaken a healthy masculinity in men, and to guide men and women to discover each other in a deeply connected, eyes wide open dance of love.

If a man’s going to negotiate a woman well, he has to learn to not take what she feels personally, because it’s always changing.—Karen Brody

What You’ll Learn

  • How Karen Brody helps men orient to their power, goodness, and sexuality
  • The false ideas women have about men
  • How married men are invested in their relationships
  • The richness of a man’s sexuality
  • When men are starved for sex, their focus becomes about sex.
  • The most common problems men have in relationships:
    • A lost spark
    • The woman isn’t sharing anymore
    • The woman has lost desire
    • The woman is not trusting the man’s decisions and makes her own way
  • Most men think the more accommodating they are to their woman, the happier she will be. It is the opposite.
  • Women want positive tension with a man. They will test their partner’s strength and resolve. When the man backs down, the sexual attraction decreases.
  • Don’t tell women what they want to hear to secure sex. They will know.
  • Weak listening is how a man loses connection with his wife.
  • Women want a man’s acceptance.
  • Men want to resolve problems. Women just want to be heard.
  • Why women will nag about what’s negative and what’s missing. A man must learn how to listen between the lines.
  • Don’t take criticism literally but interpret what’s going on behind her complaints.
  • A woman must be open emotionally to be open sexually.
  • Invite your woman to express her emotions.
  • The smallest thing men can do is focus on the quality of their attention.
  • Women pull away when their men seem bored, tense, or irritated.
  • Ask her how she is and really mean it.
  • Women always look for safety and turn to men to be a safe harbor.
  • Men should take time for themselves to become calm before reaching out to connect.
  • The more a man doesn’t get upset at his woman’s emotional storms, the more he looks like her hero.
  • Why expectation diminishes your influence
  • When a relationship is in turmoil, the woman withholds sex. The man withdraws support.
  • Do things for your wife selflessly and because it makes you feel good, not to bargain for sex. Being needy robs you of power.
  • How we can communicate our needs without being demanding
  • How to ask for more affection in a way that won’t pressure a woman.
  • Women are turned on by men who are clear on what they want.
  • Scheduling sex is a good thing.
  • Give your woman space to miss you.


RELATED EPISODES:

Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage with Mort Fertel

How to Light Your Woman Up with Brandy Salazar

How to Have Amazing Sex in Your Marriage with Dr. Emily Morse

The Unexpected Secrets of Men, Women, and Sex with Nell Gibbon Daly

 


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