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Do the Work: How to Stop the Cycle of Self-Sabotage with Gary John Bishop

Most of us are sabotaging ourselves without even knowing it. How can we become aware of the negative self-talk that’s holding us back in life? And more importantly, how can we teach our kids to debunk their own self-limiting beliefs?

In this episode, we have one of our most popular guests back just in time for 2020—the one and only Gary John Bishop.

He’s the NY Times Bestselling author of Unf*ck Yourself and Stop Doing That Sh*t. He was a speaker at The Dad Edge Summit 2018, and this is his 4th interview with us on The Dad Edge Podcast.

Gary has just released a workbook to accompany Unf*ck Yourself called Do the Work, and he is going to make us do that work today!

Gary talks about the three categories we need to address in life to break free from self-limiting beliefs. He tells us how to get real with our own bullsh*t and about how we interact with others. He also talks about why the idea of “finding” your purpose is flawed and what you really need to show up big in your life.

If you’re familiar with Gary John Bishop, you already know what’s coming. Brace yourself for some hard truths!

GARY JOHN BISHOP

Gary John Bishop began his life journey in Glasgow, Scotland. The grit and wit of his early life have contributed to his irreverent, tough-love, in-your-face approach to personal growth and development. Coupled with his world-class training, Gary has created the kind of message that cuts through the crust of people’s lives to root out the deeper issues that consume and anchor them to their self limiting behaviors and beliefs.

Gary’s many years of experience as a Senior Program Director for one of the world’s leading personal development organizations is proof of his professionalism, dedication and commitment to what is possible for all human beings. He authentically doesn’t claim perfection. Like most people his life has been both challenging and at times seemingly overwhelming. He has experienced the same kind of defeat, despair, loss, burden, shame and guilt that we all do at various points in our lives and has used his background, both personal and professional, to unleash a unique and vital message that blasts a hole through the BS of the self help industry. He is unnervingly real, on point and his words make a difference.

As one of the leading Personal Development experts in the world with a reputation that has impacted hundreds of thousands of people, his “urban philosophy” approach represents a new wave of personal empowerment and life mastery that has caused miraculous results for people in the quality and performance of their lives.

DO THE WORK: THE OFFICIAL UNREPENTANT, ASS-KICKING, NO-KIDDING, CHANGE-YOUR-LIFE SIDEKICK TO UNFU*K YOURSELF 

Based on the New York Times bestseller Unfu*k Yourself comes an all new book of prompts, questions, and exercises, giving you the tools to intentionally commit to finally unfu*king your life.

In Unfu*k Yourself, Gary John Bishop inspired people to put his words into action to transform their fu*king lives. Through seven paradigm shifting assertions such as: “I am wired to win,” “I embrace the uncertainty” and “I expect nothing and accept everything,” Bishop helped millions of readers to move past their self-imposed limitations.

Still, Bishop knows it’s hard to go from reading the book, feeling inspired, and then actually doing the necessary work. That’s where Do the Work comes in: it’s the kick in the ass you need to get moving and create the life you want. The workbook drills down into three categories — self, people, and purpose — to help you identify and remedy the challenges that frustrate and often cripple us.

Filled with entirely new material, including personalized prompts and exercises with ample lined space to journal and process, Do the Work expands the lessons in Unfu*k Yourself, giving you the tools to intentionally commit to taking on your life.

“This is a personal workshop for your brain, a legit resource where you can work your life out, what matters to you, what’s going to make the biggest difference and empower you to act in ways that make some palpable change to the direction your life is currently taking.”

The truth will set you free, right? So what are you waiting for?

“All the bad traits your kids have, they picked up from you.”—Gary John Bishop

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

  • How men/fathers suffer with self-sabotage and internalize it.
  • What to do when your kids come to you with self-sabotaging beliefs (dads need to do more than just tell them to believe in themselves).
  • Look at your thoughts about a situation. It never means what you’re making it mean. Can it mean something else?
  • If we don’t pay attention, we interpret life in the same way, using the same destructive filter.
  • Why dads must give up the illusion that they have the say in how things turn out for their kids.
  • More often than not, all kids want is to be in communication. They don’t want your solutions.
  • Ask your kids questions instead of telling them how they should react or what they should do.
  • As a dad, give yourself a break when you don’t have all the answers.
  • Be authentic with your kids. Don’t pretend you know everything.
  • Don’t hide arguments with your spouse. Show your kids how you resolve conflict.
  • Questions to help your kid snap out of a negative or victim mindset
  • As a father, strive to show consistent character rather than creating defining moments of wisdom.
  • How willing are you to consider that your life is not a result of your circumstance, but of the self-talk that is brining you down?
  • The way you talk about life is giving you the emotional state you experience.
  • How being authentic is something you must be constantly doing in the present moment
  • You’re the most inauthentic with yourself first. Then it branches into your relationships.
  • The way you filter life starts with you replaying dynamics from your childhood with your parents.
  • The final bullshit is that “you’re not good enough,” a line you sold yourself so you can avoid taking your life head-on.
  • Question to ask yourself: What it’s like to live with you? Observe yourself doing life.
  • Your personal integrity. Do you follow through with your promises?
  • Even your darkest secrets are insignificant in the universe.
  • You must walk through your darkness to transcend it.
  • Purpose does not have to be mystical. You don’t find your purpose. You create your purpose.
  • If you don’t insert purpose into your life, what you’ll have is a life of distractions—answering emails, paying your electric bill, going to the movies, buying shoes, etc. Content with the absence of purpose is a shallow existence.
  • To have purpose in your life, you don’t have to change your life. You only have to change who you are in it!
  • When you change, life shows up in new ways.
  • If you don’t do the work 100%, your life will be a reflection of what you declare.
  • If you DO THE WORK and take an unflinching look at yourself, over time, your life will start working
  • How do you know when your life starts to work? You’ll notice nothing is wrong. Everything is okay.
  • Trust yourself. You can figure this out.
  • Gary John Bishop’s upcoming book about making yourself wiser about love, loss, success, and fear.

MENTIONED EPISODES

How to Unf*ck Yourself with Gary John Bishop

Coming to Terms with Your Own Bullsh*t with Gary John Bishop

Stop Doing That Sh*t with Gary John Bishop


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Stop Doing That Sh*t Gary John Bishop

Stop Doing That Sh*t with Gary John Bishop

What do you constantly tell yourself you can’t do?

Do you look for all the reasons why you’re not capable of change?

How often do you let yourself off the hook by saying, “Well, that’s just the way I am?”

Today we have Gary John Bishop on the show to talk about his new book, Stop Doing That Sh*t: End Self-Sabotage and Demand Your Life Back. He’s going to tell us why we develop negative conclusions about ourselves and how we seek to validate these false beliefs even though they prevent us from living a full life. Gary reveals how we get caught up in destructive cycles and why positive thinking alone does not work. He also talks about how to deconstruct self-limiting beliefs and live in alignment with a vision that allows us to live passionately as we step into our future selves.

If you’ve listened to our previous shows with Gary John Bishop, you know that this interview will be full of no BS, in-your-face insights that will make you face some hard truths. Brace yourself!

'If you’re a father and you haven't lost your shit with your kids at some point, you’re probably self-medicating too much.' @garyjohnbishop #fatherhood Click To Tweet

Gary John Bishop

Gary John Bishop began his life journey in Glasgow, Scotland. The grit and wit of his early life have contributed to his irreverent, tough-love, in-your-face approach to personal growth and development. Coupled with his world-class training, Gary has created the kind of message that cuts through the crust of people’s lives to root out the deeper issues that consume and anchor them to their self limiting behaviors and beliefs.

Gary’s many years of experience as a Senior Program Director for one of the world’s leading personal development organizations is proof of his professionalism, dedication and commitment to what is possible for all human beings. He authentically doesn’t claim perfection. Like most people his life has been both challenging and at times seemingly overwhelming. He has experienced the same kind of defeat, despair, loss, burden, shame and guilt that we all do at various points in our lives and has used his background, both personal and professional, to unleash a unique and vital message that blasts a hole through the BS of the self help industry. He is unnervingly real, on point and his words make a difference.

As one of the leading Personal Development experts in the world with a reputation that has impacted hundreds of thousands of people, his “urban philosophy” approach represents a new wave of personal empowerment and life mastery that has caused miraculous results for people in the quality and performance of their lives.

We’re waiting for life to inspire us, but you need to populate your life with what inspires you.

Stop Doing That Sh*t: End Self-Sabotage and Demand Your Life Back

Why do you act the way you do? Do you ever feel like you get stuck in destructive cycles that hold you back from living the life you really want? In a dynamic, compelling and aha-filled journey, Stop Doing That Sh*t helps you connect the dots of your “stuff” all the way from your past to the present. You’ll make sense of yourself as you uncover how to interrupt those destructive cycles of yours and make the kind of profound shift needed to get your life on track.

If you can’t save money, if you keep ending up in the same types of toxic relationships, if you feel unloved, don’t fit in, not enough or any one of the myriad of ways that a human being trashes an otherwise good life, this is the book for you.

Written in the same irreverent, in-your-face style that resonated with the hundreds of thousand of fans who read Unfu*k Yourself,Stop Doing that Sh*t skillfully reveals our deepest subconscious machinery, with a real-world approach to powerfully translate our most negative thoughts and behaviors into a vitalizing, sabotage-free future. “Stop indulging yourself with fantasies and dramas and unresolved issues.  Wake the hell up!” Bishop writes.

Look, you might have fu*ked up in the past, so what? Stop Doing That Sh*t reveals how you can break free of those deep-seated patterns to live the life you always knew you wanted but could never quite seem to have. As Bishop says, “The future has arrived. Now what the hell are you going to do about it?”

When you know what your values are, making decisions is easy.

What You’ll Learn

  • The difference between a conclusion and a belief
  • Why you can change beliefs, but not conclusions
  • Why we try to validate negative conclusions and seek proof that they are true. E.g. if you try to find evidence that you’re not loved, you’ll find it.
  • How labeling yourself limits you
  • Why you need to tell yourself you’re full of sh*t
  • How human beings are hardwired to get better, and how to leverage that to grow
  • Why the future leaves us with a yawning gap in life—once we get there, we want to get to the next “there”
  • How to have a future in mind that impacts you today
  • Why aspiring to become something is better than setting a goal
  • How to be inspired by what’s to come, allowing the future to fill the present
  • How to create your own game and stop letting life happen to you
  • How to deal with the major pitfalls life throws at you while staying true to your commitments
  • How fathers can create a parenting vision
  • How men mostly live their lives as some reflection of how they feel, influenced by circumstances, moods, and feelings
  • How to operate on something other than your temporary emotional state
  • How to use your vision to check in and make sure your behavior is in alignment with your future
  • Why positive thinking doesn’t work
  • How to pivot your thoughts and redirect your brain when you slip into a negative cycle
  • Gary John Bishop’s amazing upcoming projects!

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Perfection is the Enemy of Becoming a Better Dad

Why Perfection is the Enemy of Becoming Better Dad


All of us want to be a perfect father, but things never turn out the way we expect. Even for those men actively striving to become a better dad, perfection eludes us. Holding ourselves to this impossible standard leads to frustration and hopelessness. It might make us feel like giving up altogether.

Today, we have Dad Edge Alliance member Sam on the show. He’s from Sydney and was part of the Australian Special Forces. He’s married and is the father of three boys. He lost his band of brothers when he left the military and live and work in Abu Dhabi. Sam was desperately searching for guidance in his relationships with his wife and kids. He didn’t consider himself a great dad and reached a point where he was just going to accept it.

Today he talks about how perfection was his enemy and how he moved past it to grow as a husband and a father.

Why Perfection is the Enemy of Becoming Better Dad

As a dad, holding ourselves to impossible standards leads to frustration and hopelessness. We won't ever be perfect, but we can become better together. Here's how: #dads #men #fathers #thedadedge #Podcast Click To Tweet

 

 

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