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what it means to be masculine today

What It Means to Be Masculine Today


In this episode, we have invited Nicky Billou, the host of The Thought Leader Revolution Podcast. He is inspired by achievement and is dedicated to assisting others in achieving outstanding results.

But there was a time when Nicky’s marriage was in ruins and he didn’t even want to live anymore.

Today, Nicky talks about the biggest mistakes men make when it comes to marriage and what it means to be masculine today.

What You’ll Learn

Childhood days

[4:36]

Nicky had a great childhood as a Christian boy from Iran. He grew up admiring his father and treated him as a hero as his father taught him how to be a man.

[8:29]

His father was an old-fashioned, masculine man who taught him to be humble. His father portrayed how to show love and affection despite being a manly man.

Marriage

[16:41]

Nicky was married to a wonderful woman. They have two wonderful boys. Their youngest was diagnosed with a condition called Subglottic Tracheal Stenosis, which required a hazardous surgery that caused his wife to panic.

[17:42]

The doctor explained that the surgery would require a tube on their son’s throat and grafts on his body. However, there is also a 20% chance of failure, which could worsen their son’s condition.

[18:55]

Nicky felt that he had to be tough and strong (different from what he would do today), which caused him and his wife to argue often. A couple of weeks after his son came out of the hospital, Nicky was presented with a divorce petition from his wife. This made him feel like he wanted to die.

[20:01]

One morning, Nicky reached out to one of his friends and shared his frustrations. His friend encouraged him that life is worth living, and Nicky was thankful he made that call.

[21:01]

Nicky insists on the importance of having friends around when you have troubles. He encourages people to avoid hurting themselves as it will make life infinitely worst for their children.

Dealing with relationship trauma

[21:41]

Nicky met Owen Williams, an expert in helping men dealing with relationship trauma. He helped Nicky to recover by joining several sessions with men’s group. Two things got in the way of Nicky and his wife getting back together. His wife was not receptive to it at the time and Nicky still held much anger toward her.

[23:06]

Nicky’s perspective changed the day he was asked when he’d stop blaming his wife and when will he would take responsibility for his mistakes.

[25:32]

Nicky learned from Owen Williams that a woman will think about leaving her marriage for two years before giving a hint of that possibility. By the time a woman comes to tell you that she wants a separation, it will be hard to turn that around. Before that happens, wake up, be wise, and be a father to your children.

Buildup of emotions

[29:47]

When Nicky’s wife decided to divorce, he lost his sense of self and self-worth, and it was one of his worst experiences. But when he was in the room with his fellow men, he felt a surge of love and life-force coursing through his body, as if God were speaking to him that everything will be all right through a messenger.

Strength to walk a new path

[32:37]

Nicky expresses his yearning for his children. But even though he could not speak to them, he knew that his children missed him. He trusts God, and he knew that he had a bigger purpose in life. Nicky knew that his calling was to go out there and guide men and families to be of service to their children.

Advice

[40:03]

Nicky admires women and their ability to help each other. That is why he encourages men also to aid each other in times of need.

[42:05]

Going through a divorce means losing 70% of the wealth you’ve accumulated, denied access to kids, and it also destroys your sense of self, making it impossible to be your best.

[43:05]

Nicky is honored to help men be their best for their children their wives. As a man, it is his job to make sure that his children do not suffer.

[48:10]

You need to draw a line when it comes to the people that you associate with. It is even more important as a couple.

RELATED EPISODES:

Strong Men, Strong Marriages with Dr. Mike Frazier

The Art of Masculinity with Johnny Elsasser

The Anatomy of Marriage Part 1: The Woman’s Side


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How to Protect Your Kids: Online Predators, Cyberbullying, and Sexual Content with Titania Jordan


As dads, we are the protectors, the warriors. But how can we protect our children when we don’t know what we’re up against? Whether it’s a tablet, phone, or computer—our kids are exposed to a minefield of predators, cyberbullies, and sexual content. We are the first generation with this problem. What is the best way to protect our children from this insidious danger?

This show is scary, but we are at war. As fathers, we have a duty and responsibility to keep our kids safe. We give our sons and daughters seatbelts in the car and helmets when they ride a bike. In this digital age, we need to give them the same kind of safety gear for navigating the internet.

Today we have Titania Jordan on The Dad Edge. She is the Chief Parent Officer at Bark, an app that helps families manage and protect their children’s online lives. She tells us the disturbing reality of what our kids are exposed to on the internet. She gives us a guide on how and when to talk to our kids about what they may encounter on the internet and the best way to protect them from online predators, cyberbullying, and sexual content.

This show will disturb and enrage you, but it’s the information parents desperately need. Don’t miss it!

Titania Jordan

As CPO, Titania drives Bark’s marketing, customer acquisition, and media relations efforts and is an industry-leading source of expertise and advice for the broader community. She has extensive experience at the intersection of families and technology, formerly serving as CMO at KidsLink, co-founder/CMO at Privet, and executive director of Band of Coders Girls Academy.

Titania holds a bachelor’s degree in marketing, and enjoys painting and building some pretty sweet LEGO cities with her family in her downtime.

Bark

As a busy parent, reading every text message, post, and email just isn’t realistic.

Instead, Bark was created by parents, for parents to offer a better, easier, and more effective way to keep children safe online.

Created in collaboration with child psychologists, youth advisors, digital media experts, and law enforcement professionals, Bark delivers a research-backed, kid-friendly solution for safeguarding families as technology changes how and where we communicate.

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What You’ll Learn

  • 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be the victims of sexual abuse in some shape or form before the age of 18.
  • Access frequency and points to the internet are exponential for our children.
  • 3 out of 4 tweens and teens are cyberbullied or have witnessed cyberbullying. Only 11% will talk to parents about it.
  • Half of tweens and 3 out of 4 teens engage in conversations on the internet about depression, self-harm, and suicide.
  • Suicide is 2nd cause of death 10 to 24-year-olds in US.
  • 70% of tweens (ages 8-12) and 84% teens have been exposed to sexual content.
  • 1 in 4 teens are sexting.
  • Your child can get into trouble for sending, receiving, or forwarding a nude of an underage peer.
  • Bark produced a documentary about what happened when a 37-year-old mom posed as young girl on social media. Watch it here.
  • Adult men, not women, are sexually exploiting children online.
  • Titania believes it’s our job as parents to raise men who do not become sexual predators.
  • Online predators do not look like criminals. They are often normal, everyday people—doctors, pastors, and fathers.
  • Some adult men abuse because they were abused themselves. These people need rehab, support, and therapy.
  • Kids are afraid to speak up because of shame or they’re afraid that their devices will be taken away.
  • Make sure your kids know it’s okay to come to you if they feel uncomfortable.
  • Be mindful of not only your child’s screen time, but also your own. Set the example.
  • With the Bark app, you will get an alert for suspicious activity, plus a report on how to discuss it with your child.

RELATED EPISODES:

How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography with Kristen Jenson

Protecting Your Family from Gaming Addiction with Cam Adair

The Truth About Your Kids and Technology: Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Cal Newport

 


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