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Self-Care for Dads

When we become fathers, we have be in charge of caring for our families. We must step up and provide for them, protect them, and lead them. Fatherhood is an opportunity to become our best selves, but we can’t show up if we don’t invest in our physical, mental, and intellectual wellbeing.

Today we have everyday dad and Dad Edge Alliance member Eric Martinez on the show. He is the founder of Be Well Dad and is dedicated to helping men become their best selves, enabling them to give more to their families and lead on a confident and competent level.

Eric’s been with his wife for sixteen years and is the dad of a five-year-old son and a two-year-old daughter. He talks about how he and his wife overcome the most difficult obstacles, how he got out of his dad bod rut by losing 40 pounds, and how he steps off the hamster wheel of busyness to make time for self-care.

“Fatherhood is an opportunity. It’s an opportunity to show up in the best way you can. It’s an opportunity to influence the next generation of human beings.”—Eric Martinez

 

What You’ll Learn

  • Often spouses think their marriage problems are because of the other person when it’s themselves.
  • As challenges arise you must work as a team with your spouse.
  • There is nothing you can do better on your own.
  • How to make a decision as a family on how you will approach life
  • The family unit is bigger than all problems.
  • How to deal with emotionally sensitive children
  • Validating your kids’ feelings
  • How to support a spouse who suffers from mental illness
  • How CBD helped Eric and his wife mentally and physically
  • What he did to lose 40 pounds
  • The false narratives we create around being busy
  • What fitness will do for your sex life

MENTIONED EPISODES

Communication Mastery for Fathers with Chris Voss

Running Your Family as a Team with Marc Roberge from O.A.R.


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Building Your Band of Brothers with Stephen Mansfield

Building Your Band of Brothers with Stephen Mansfield

After getting married and having kids, most of us men dedicate ourselves to work and family. Any friendships we had in school or college fall by the wayside. We’re surrounded by people, yet not deeply connected to anyone. Then we feel guilty for taking time, energy, and resources for ourselves or to invest in relationships with other men.

Today we have Stephen Mansfield on The Dad Edge Podcast. He is a NY Times bestselling author, a speaker, and media consultant. His book Mansfield’s Book of Manly Men reveals the secrets and virtues of great men.

Stephen Mansfield is here today to talk about how we’ve lost the lore of men, why we need a band of brothers, and the skillset needed to form relationships that will help us become our best selves.

If you don’t have a friend who knows you without to having to have your life narrated to him, then you don’t have a friend that’s close enough. – Stephen Mansfield @MansfieldWrites #men #fathers #dads #tribe Click To Tweet

Stephen Mansfield

Stephen Mansfield rose to global attention with his book The Faith of George W. Bush, which was the source of Oliver Stone’s movie W. He appears frequently on TV and speaks all over the world. He believes not just in being a man, but a great man.

As a kid, Stephen’s dad was in the military. They moved around the United States and spent a few years in Germany. Stephen went onto college and spent some time as a pastor. As he got married and had kids, he realized something was missing. He was not given the skillset needed to handle all the challenges of manhood.

In history, men had a built-in male community of extended family members, villagers, and other men whom they depended on for survival. There was a craft of manhood that was shared among these close-knit bands of brothers.

In modern society, these relationships are no longer built-in. After marriage, men’s relationships drop off or deteriorate into what’s called a “rust relationship.” Rust relationships are those that once had meaning but end up being loosely maintained for nostalgia. They do not have enough substance to rely on in any deeper way.

Stephan currently lives in Washington DC with his wife Beverly. He has two adult children, a son and daughter with whom he maintains a close relationship. Stephen says he went through some tough times with marriage and parenting, and feels that he would’ve done much better if he had a tribe of men to pass the lore of manhood down to him.

Most men speak of their best relationships in past tense. – Stephen Mansfield @MansfieldWrites #men #fathers #dads #tribe Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why most men don’t have deep friendships in the western world
  • Why we have to be active and build relationships with intention
  • Why men need to put on their “oxygen masks first”
  • How your job, marriage, and kids will suffer if you don’t become the man you were meant to be
  • Why we must straighten out our own souls before coming to our wife and kids
  • How to stop feeling guilty for investing in relationships with other men
  • How the teaching about men in many churches or men’s groups typically has to do with being the man you’re supposed to be for your wife and children, not for yourself
  • How many men don’t know who they are before throwing themselves into domestic life
  • Why men end up unhealthy, unfulfilled, and dying inside
  • Why time spent investing in yourself is an investment in your wife and children
  • How to educate your wife and family about the value of time alone or with a band of brothers
  • What the skillset of a great man looks like
  • How men and women socialize differently
  • Why men socialize best with an indirect connection
  • How introverts can build connections
  • Why we don’t have to be engaging or charming to make friendships
  • How Stephen’s band of brothers saved the marriage of their friend who was having an affair
  • How he enlisted many valiant men in the raising of his son
  • How to get past the ego and accept help
  • Why the idea that we have to do everything by ourselves is a lie
  • How having a band of brothers speeds up your learning
  • Practical steps to connect with other men
  • How to explain this idea with your wife
You have to have men around you who will watch you, who will pay attention, who will help you fight the fights for your life, and who will say the things that need to be said to make you better. – Stephen Mansfield @MansfieldWrites… Click To Tweet

Stephen Mansfield’s Parting Piece of Wisdom

Stephen says that men often don’t realize the power of their words, but almost every man remembers something a significant man said in his life that has echoed in his soul ever since. Telling your children that you love them and believe in them will ensure that they don’t think negatively about themselves or let others treat them badly.

Words fashion destinies.

 

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Stop the Guilt- Why Dads Need Time with Their Tribe

Stop the Guilt – Why Dads Need Time with Their Tribe

Guilt. So many of us walk around with guilt and it’s crippling. We feel guilty handing over our time and resources. We feel guilty about too much time with work. We have no time for friends. We even feel guilty for reading a book. The guilt eats away at us. Almost every single guy I talk to has not made new friends in years. Life is centered around family and work. We feel like me must be everything to every single person until we become nothing and no one to ourselves.

Let it go.

We don’t have to live that way. It’s okay to spend a little bit of money on ourselves. It’s okay to spend time doing something that will make us a better person. It’s good to spend time with friends. Otherwise, we get burnt out. No one likes the burnt-out version of us. Then we can show up better for everyone else around us, including our wives, children, and co-workers.

Do something for your health.

Buy that book you want to read.

Find a tribe of likeminded men to spend time with.

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10 Minutes a Day to a More Fulfilling Life

Finding the time for self-care is one of the hugest struggles for dads. We always have another task to complete. We’re always being asked for another favor. We feel guilty for taking time away from our family and we leave ourselves last on the list. We can be overcome by exhaustion, frustration, and depression. This is why establishing a self-care routine is crucial. Listen to how as little as ten minutes a day can lead to a happier, more fulfilling life.


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How to Love a Spouse with Cancer with Gene Villeneuve

Gene Villeneuve shares his experience with the very difficult subject.

Today on the Good Dad Project, we have Gene Villeneuve, a successful business man who lives in Paris with his wife and two daughters. Last year, his wife was diagnosed with breast cancer and they have endured 11 months of emotional exhaustion as she has undergone treatment.

It’s more than likely we’ll all watch one of our loved ones facing a deadly illness during our lives. Gene talks about dealing with the pain and uncertainty of watching a spouse go through cancer treatment while keeping his career in balance and still being a good dad to his kids.

Three things he said were crucial to helping him know how to love a spouse with cancer.

1. Create a community of support.

Husbands of cancer patients tend to feel isolated and alone, but you will also need help. Just because you’re not the one with cancer, doesn’t mean you don’t need support.

2. Put your own oxygen mask on first.

Self-care might feel selfish during this time, but if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t be strong for your family. Exercise, good rest, and downtime are needed to restore your mental and physical reserves.

3. Listen to what your spouse needs.

As men, we might have a tendency to worry about filling in the practical gaps, like the keeping up with dirty laundry or washing the dishes in the sink. But in reality, a spouse with cancer is frightened and worried. They need to express themselves, and you need to listen to them on deeper level. Then you can love them in the way they need to be loved during this time.

Gene says he now loves his wife more than ever. He says facing a situation like this makes us realize the things we may have taken for granted. We must ask ourselves, what are the things most important to us? What can we do to show that appreciation?

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GENE AKA "JOHNNY DEPP" :)

GENE AKA “JOHNNY DEPP” 🙂