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Do the Work: How to Stop the Cycle of Self-Sabotage with Gary John Bishop

Most of us are sabotaging ourselves without even knowing it. How can we become aware of the negative self-talk that’s holding us back in life? And more importantly, how can we teach our kids to debunk their own self-limiting beliefs?

In this episode, we have one of our most popular guests back just in time for 2020—the one and only Gary John Bishop.

He’s the NY Times Bestselling author of Unf*ck Yourself and Stop Doing That Sh*t. He was a speaker at The Dad Edge Summit 2018, and this is his 4th interview with us on The Dad Edge Podcast.

Gary has just released a workbook to accompany Unf*ck Yourself called Do the Work, and he is going to make us do that work today!

Gary talks about the three categories we need to address in life to break free from self-limiting beliefs. He tells us how to get real with our own bullsh*t and about how we interact with others. He also talks about why the idea of “finding” your purpose is flawed and what you really need to show up big in your life.

If you’re familiar with Gary John Bishop, you already know what’s coming. Brace yourself for some hard truths!

GARY JOHN BISHOP

Gary John Bishop began his life journey in Glasgow, Scotland. The grit and wit of his early life have contributed to his irreverent, tough-love, in-your-face approach to personal growth and development. Coupled with his world-class training, Gary has created the kind of message that cuts through the crust of people’s lives to root out the deeper issues that consume and anchor them to their self limiting behaviors and beliefs.

Gary’s many years of experience as a Senior Program Director for one of the world’s leading personal development organizations is proof of his professionalism, dedication and commitment to what is possible for all human beings. He authentically doesn’t claim perfection. Like most people his life has been both challenging and at times seemingly overwhelming. He has experienced the same kind of defeat, despair, loss, burden, shame and guilt that we all do at various points in our lives and has used his background, both personal and professional, to unleash a unique and vital message that blasts a hole through the BS of the self help industry. He is unnervingly real, on point and his words make a difference.

As one of the leading Personal Development experts in the world with a reputation that has impacted hundreds of thousands of people, his “urban philosophy” approach represents a new wave of personal empowerment and life mastery that has caused miraculous results for people in the quality and performance of their lives.

DO THE WORK: THE OFFICIAL UNREPENTANT, ASS-KICKING, NO-KIDDING, CHANGE-YOUR-LIFE SIDEKICK TO UNFU*K YOURSELF 

Based on the New York Times bestseller Unfu*k Yourself comes an all new book of prompts, questions, and exercises, giving you the tools to intentionally commit to finally unfu*king your life.

In Unfu*k Yourself, Gary John Bishop inspired people to put his words into action to transform their fu*king lives. Through seven paradigm shifting assertions such as: “I am wired to win,” “I embrace the uncertainty” and “I expect nothing and accept everything,” Bishop helped millions of readers to move past their self-imposed limitations.

Still, Bishop knows it’s hard to go from reading the book, feeling inspired, and then actually doing the necessary work. That’s where Do the Work comes in: it’s the kick in the ass you need to get moving and create the life you want. The workbook drills down into three categories — self, people, and purpose — to help you identify and remedy the challenges that frustrate and often cripple us.

Filled with entirely new material, including personalized prompts and exercises with ample lined space to journal and process, Do the Work expands the lessons in Unfu*k Yourself, giving you the tools to intentionally commit to taking on your life.

“This is a personal workshop for your brain, a legit resource where you can work your life out, what matters to you, what’s going to make the biggest difference and empower you to act in ways that make some palpable change to the direction your life is currently taking.”

The truth will set you free, right? So what are you waiting for?

“All the bad traits your kids have, they picked up from you.”—Gary John Bishop

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

  • How men/fathers suffer with self-sabotage and internalize it.
  • What to do when your kids come to you with self-sabotaging beliefs (dads need to do more than just tell them to believe in themselves).
  • Look at your thoughts about a situation. It never means what you’re making it mean. Can it mean something else?
  • If we don’t pay attention, we interpret life in the same way, using the same destructive filter.
  • Why dads must give up the illusion that they have the say in how things turn out for their kids.
  • More often than not, all kids want is to be in communication. They don’t want your solutions.
  • Ask your kids questions instead of telling them how they should react or what they should do.
  • As a dad, give yourself a break when you don’t have all the answers.
  • Be authentic with your kids. Don’t pretend you know everything.
  • Don’t hide arguments with your spouse. Show your kids how you resolve conflict.
  • Questions to help your kid snap out of a negative or victim mindset
  • As a father, strive to show consistent character rather than creating defining moments of wisdom.
  • How willing are you to consider that your life is not a result of your circumstance, but of the self-talk that is brining you down?
  • The way you talk about life is giving you the emotional state you experience.
  • How being authentic is something you must be constantly doing in the present moment
  • You’re the most inauthentic with yourself first. Then it branches into your relationships.
  • The way you filter life starts with you replaying dynamics from your childhood with your parents.
  • The final bullshit is that “you’re not good enough,” a line you sold yourself so you can avoid taking your life head-on.
  • Question to ask yourself: What it’s like to live with you? Observe yourself doing life.
  • Your personal integrity. Do you follow through with your promises?
  • Even your darkest secrets are insignificant in the universe.
  • You must walk through your darkness to transcend it.
  • Purpose does not have to be mystical. You don’t find your purpose. You create your purpose.
  • If you don’t insert purpose into your life, what you’ll have is a life of distractions—answering emails, paying your electric bill, going to the movies, buying shoes, etc. Content with the absence of purpose is a shallow existence.
  • To have purpose in your life, you don’t have to change your life. You only have to change who you are in it!
  • When you change, life shows up in new ways.
  • If you don’t do the work 100%, your life will be a reflection of what you declare.
  • If you DO THE WORK and take an unflinching look at yourself, over time, your life will start working
  • How do you know when your life starts to work? You’ll notice nothing is wrong. Everything is okay.
  • Trust yourself. You can figure this out.
  • Gary John Bishop’s upcoming book about making yourself wiser about love, loss, success, and fear.

MENTIONED EPISODES

How to Unf*ck Yourself with Gary John Bishop

Coming to Terms with Your Own Bullsh*t with Gary John Bishop

Stop Doing That Sh*t with Gary John Bishop


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sexy marriage

Simple, Sexy Marriage with Dr. Corey Allan

Today we have Dr. Corey Allan on the show. He is a marriage and family therapist and the host of the Sexy Marriage Radio podcast, which has been going strong for seven years. Dr. Allan outlines most common problems couples bring to his office, including sex. In this conversation, we get granular about sex issues along with intimacy and pornography.

In his experience, Dr. Corey Allan estimates that that man has the higher desire for sex in 70% of marriages, but men tend to follow a script and don’t get creative with their wives. He tells us what we’re doing wrong when it comes to trying to get more sexual with our spouses and how to talk about it without putting them on the defense. He also talks about the 30% of marriages in which the woman has the higher desire for sex and how couples can manage that.

You may be surprised by his advice. Download this episode because you’ll want to listen to it again!

'A woman knows very well if the goal for the day is in her pants.'—Dr. Corey Allan @simplemarriage #marriage #sex #intimacy Click To Tweet

'We’re quick to blame our spouse for our troubles.'—Dr. Corey Allan @simplemarriage #marriage #sex #intimacy Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • How to improve the marriage you have
  • How to stop the blame cycle
  • Why you need to stop trying to fix your wife and instead fix yourself
  • How to invite good changes into your life
  • The main complaints from women
  • How the fear of rejection is magnified to a woman
  • How to be a student of your wife
  • Non-sexual touch
  • The 4 Most Common Marriage Problems:
    • Sex
    • Money
    • In-laws
    • Children
  • How to succeed by respecting your wife’s differences rather than trying win her over to your way of thinking
  • The danger of being attached to outcomes
  • The difference between functional sex and sex for intimacy
  • Two components of intimacy:
    • Knowing your partner
    • Being known yourself
  • How intimacy can be just as likely comfortable as uncomfortable
  • Why there’s nothing wrong with a wife who doesn’t want to have sex
  • How the higher desire spouse has to recognize the lower desire spouse
  • How women were wired to be responsive, not initiative
  • How men often try to manufacture a way to penetrate instead of encouraging a response
  • Why you have to live a life beyond your wife, a life that’s inspiring to her
  • If you’re with her, be present with her. Quality time is more effective than the quantity of time
  • Why you shouldn’t hover around your wife waiting for sex
  • How foreplay is a long play in marriage
  • Why a fully turned on woman can be terrifying for men
  • The debilitating effects of porn
  • How women want to be led their husbands
  • How the way you conduct yourself in life translates in the bedroom
'Everything we do in marriage communicates. Everything we do NOT do in marriage communicates.'—Dr. Corey Allan @simplemarriage Click To Tweet

RELATED EPISODES

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Black Belt Husband with Quentin Hafner


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Traits of a Warrior - The Soft Traits

12 Traits of a Warrior Part II: The Soft Traits


Last month, former Navy SEAL Chris Sajnog told us about the hard traits of a warrior. They are the qualities we most often associate with elite teams like confidence and aggressiveness. Chris also warned us that too much focus on the hard traits leads to an imbalance that can cause all kinds of problems, including post traumatic stress.

Today, he tells us about the six soft traits of a warrior and how we can develop these traits for rapid learning, improved relationships, and better peace of mind. He also talks about how these traits can make us a better dad.

'If you get down to an emotional level with anything you want to learn or do in life, the more likely you are to get up in the morning and pursue that dream.'- @ChrisSajnog #motivation #success #learning #mindset Click To Tweet

'Learning is changing your mind. The only way to learn something new, is to change the beliefs that you had before.'- @ChrisSajnog #learning #humility #dads #men #fathers Click To Tweet

Chris Sajnog

For those of you who don’t know, Chris Sajnog is one the most elite Navy SEAL snipers in the world and the bestselling author of ‘How to Shoot Like Navy SEAL’ and ‘Navy SEAL Shooting’.

As a shooting instructor, Chris noticed how people who were trained in the military learned so much more quickly than civilians. He realized that it was their warrior mindset that gave them the edge and that in order for his civilian students to learn how to shoot, he needed to make them better at learning and dealing with anything. This led him to develop The 12 Traits of a Warrior.

What You’ll Learn

  • What are the soft traits and why we need to learn them
  • The amazing benefits of meditation
  • How to start practicing meditation
  • What his son said to him that made him change is mind about reenlisting for a 250K bonus
  • How he is technically 100% handicapped
  • How you’re training your body to be in pain
  • How to use your mind to relieve pain
  • Why patience is important to living like a warrior
  • How meditation improves patience
  • How humility speeds up learning
  • How loyalty keeps us in the right track, especially loyalty to yourself
  • How an imbalance of the hard traits can lead to terrorism
  • His new work with Deepak Chopra
'Whatever your loyalty is, you have to stick to that. It's so easy to live your life when you have this compass that's always pointing you in the right direction.' - @ChrisSajnog #dads #fathers #men #warriors Click To Tweet

LISTEN TO 12 TRAITS OF A WARRIOR PART I: THE HARD TRAITS

The 12 Traits of a Warrior Part 1: The Hard Traits with Chris Sajnog

 

RELATED EPISODES:

Dad Edge Alliance Q&A: Allowing Your Kids to Have Their Feelings with Chris Sajnog

Leading Our Family With Confidence with Chris Sajnog

 

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