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Breaking the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

Today’s guest needs no introduction. Larry Yatch from the SEALed Mindset is back on the Good Dad Project podcast to answer a few questions from our Dad Edge community about how to break the cycle of the fixed mindset in our kids and in ourselves.

Larry Yatch and the SEALed Mindset

For those of you who haven’t listened to Larry Yatch’s episodes, he is a former Navy SEAL who has used his elite training and past experiences to formulate a system to teach the fundamentals of leadership, teamwork, courage, and the growth mindset to school kids, civilians (like the SEALed Mindset GDP Special Membership), all the way up to executives and corporations.

How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset

The fixed mindset is the belief that intelligence, skill, and talent is given to us as traits, like the color of our eyes. We believe either we are good at something or we are not, which leads to a tendency to avoid trying difficult things. Many of us are stuck in the cycle of the fixed mindset and are unwittingly instilling it in our kids by praising them the wrong way.

Johnny’s really good at baseball.

The growth mindset is the belief that skills are developed and that the more work we put in, the better we will become at something. In the growth mindset, challenges are welcome. We embrace difficulty knowing that each experience forces us to get better. We instill this mindset by praising effort.

Johnny works really hard at baseball.

What to expect from adopting the growth mindset

“I love the concept of growth mindset, and both my wife and I are working hard to instill this in our parenting. A challenge that I face is being realistic with my own expectations. How can I invite and live a life with a growth mindset and positive attitude without immersing myself to the point where it has a negative effect?” – Jeff

If we see a negative effect and feel defeated, that means we’re still operating in the fixed mindset. Simply put, even when we’re trying to implement a growth mindset, most of us don’t know that we’re still reinforcing the fixed mindset. In the growth mindset, defeat and difficulty are positive things. There can not be a negative effect.

How do we know when we’re pushing to far?

I have a question about pushing my kids to face their fears and overcome obstacles. When do you ignore their cries and push them ahead, and what is too far?” – Andy

The problem we have with instilling the growth mindset at an early age is that we understand it at an adult level and try to implement it in a logical way. But, as all dads know, logic and reasoning don’t work with three-year-olds. These processes have to do with self-regulation, and this part of a child’s brain doesn’t exists yet. It’s our job as parents to be this part of the brain for them.

In the meantime, we can use operant conditioning to modify behaviors. This means offering positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement for particular behaviors. We have to be careful though. Our children can use the same techniques to get what they want and may actually be conditioning us.

What can we men do when faced with something beyond our control?

I took this opportunity to ask Larry Yatch my own question. Regular listeners know that I went through a debilitating 33 days of insomnia. I was at a point in my life where my business, mastermind group, and podcast were never better. I was in the best physical shape of my life and my family was thriving. Then it all was in danger of collapsing when I couldn’t sleep. I asked Larry what could I have done differently.

Larry Yatch first told me I should’ve asked for help earlier. We men tend to try to handle things ourselves. We’re supposed to have all the answers, but we don’t. This is when we need to ask others for their help an advice. Asking for help does show weakness. It is empowering, and the person whom you allow to help you will feel better about themselves. Asking someone to help you is a gift.

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Why Dads Should Praise Effort and Not Results

In episode 99 of The Good Dad Project, Larry Yatch from SEALed Mindset told us about the importance of instilling a growth mindset in our children. I think, like me, a lot of dads listening to that show experienced some major revelations about how we’ve been praising and encouraging our children. In this week’s Thursday Throwdown, I share my personal experience with my nine-year-old son and how I might have negatively impacted his attitude toward wrestling by praising him for the results instead of his effort.

Referenced Episode: Secrets of the Navy SEAL Mindset: Courage, Confidence, Perseverance and Resilience

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