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The Full Monty: Dad-Life as an Ex-Navy SEAL with Monty Heath


Becoming our best selves is a choice. We can choose to watch life pass us by, sleepwalking to our deathbeds full of regret. Or we can make the decision to take destiny into our own hands, leaving a distinct mark on the world.

Today we have former Navy SEAL Monty Heath on The Dad Edge Podcast. Monty made the choice to leave the Navy SEALs before getting married and starting his family. He talks about how keeping calm is the most effective and important way to operate in life. He reveals how closely he came to divorce and the choice he made to never quit on his marriage. Monty also discusses his approach to dad life and teaches us how we can keep cool and rational through the inevitable chaos of fatherhood.

“I want to raise kids who are better than me.”—Monty Heath

Monty Heath

In 1993, Monty Heath became a U.S. Navy SEAL, completing one of his lifelong goals. He was fortunate enough to serve alongside America’s finest in Operations Enduring Freedom and Joint Forge. Monty credits SEAL Team Two and Red Squadron as adding significance to everything else he would do in life. During his service, Monty was twice awarded the Bronze star with combat Valor designation.

After eleven years of faithful service, Monty left the SEALS (admittedly one of the most difficult things he’s ever done) to start a family and change focus to the civilian sector. Through the years, he has lead a variety of successful military and civilian endeavors, including supervising the U.S. Navy’s SEAL mentorship program and BUD/S preparatory program. He has provided executive protection for several Forbes 400 individuals and their families. He is truly honored to be helping those he feels need and deserve it the most – America’s veterans and service members.

“Calm people are the best people.”—Monty Heath

What You’ll Learn

  • Monty considered himself to be an immature warrior.
  • The difference between approaching life with a subjective or objective mindset.
  • Avoid conflict when one or both sides are emotional instead of logical.
  • Monty’s advice to his younger self—You don’t have to classify and quantify everything in your sight. Mostly, people don’t want your unsolicited opinions and advice. If they did, they would ask you for it.
  • Seek mentorship and knowledge. Sometimes you have to step into the thick of it to grow.
  • Why Monty didn’t try to have kids until he felt he was ready
  • In life, try to get “mission focus.” Keep your eyes on the future and the goal, and all the pieces of uncomfortableness are just hoops you need to jump through to get there.
  • How to use empathy to help people in a heightened emotional state
  • The emotion/logic seesaw—We cannot judge people for their visceral reactions. Meet them where they are in their feelings and validate them.
  • Growing up in a dysfunctional family helped Monty in keeping calm through his experiences as a Navy SEAL.
  • How Monty and his wife have beat the odds when it comes to their marriage after being on the brink of divorce many times.
  • It’s a conscious decision to be married and monogamous.
  • Monty believes life is about more than casual sex. It’s better to have a wife, friend, and partner.
  • He credits his wife for putting up with his caveman antics for so long.
  • Marriage—If you love each other, then it’s worth it.
  • Choice—Tomorrow has nothing to do with today. You can choose to do something to make yourself better. Apply time, effort, and discipline.
  • Anything worth doing is hard. If you’re out of your comfort zone, you’re doing it right.

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

Staring Down the Wolf with ex-Navy SEAL Mark Divine

Warrior Toughness for Real Life with Navy SEAL Stephen Drum

COVID-19: How to Protect and Lead Your Family Through Crisis with Retired Navy SEAL Jason Redman

Navy SEAL Tactics for Parents with Chris Sajnog

 


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F*ck Your Feelings with Ryan Munsey

F*ck Your Feelings with Ryan Munsey

Up to 95 % of the decisions we make are based on what we feel. This means that in almost every situation, we are reacting instead of responding. Think about decisions you’ve made based on fear, selfishness, or anger. How did they serve you? How did they affect those around you?

Today’s guest is the author of F*ck Your Feelings, Ryan Munsey. He is a speaker, coach, and the host of the Better Human Project Podcast. He tells us how to recognize our feelings, understand them, and look at them from an objective point of view. He teaches us how to remove emotions from the equation and act on our values instead. He also talks about reframing frustrating situations so that we can make the right choice in our behavior and become the leaders our families need us to be.

'Show me a great father and I’ll show you a great leader.'—@ryanmunsey #dads #fathers #fatherhood #leadership Click To Tweet

Ryan Munsey

Ryan Munsey is a high-performance consultant, and thought leader in the wellness and personal development space. He has worked with professional and Olympic athletes, Navy SEALs, and entrepreneurs – helping them optimize their minds and bodies, win medals, further careers, and build multiple 6-figure businesses. His work has been featured in Fortune Magazine, Men’s Health, Men’s Fitness. F*ck Your Feelings is a neuroscience-based exploration of high performance and success.

'In parenting, relationships, business, fitness—we’re going to have to do what we know we’re supposed to do whether we feel like it or not.'—@RyanMunsey #parenting #relationships #business #motivation Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Where Ryan got the idea for his book
  • How his background in fitness and nutrition lead to his fascination with high-performance
  • How, “Fuck your feelings,” was a phrase Ryan used in his self-talk to get him through when he didn’t feel like doing something
  • The profound affect Ryan’s dad’s actions had on him
  • Why our feelings have such an impact on the decision-making process
  • How nothing has meaning, only the meaning we assign to it
  • How feelings affect our micro-decisions
  • Why feelings lead us off course
  • How to act according to your values instead of your feelings
  • How to find enjoyment in things you don’t feel like doing
  • The reframing technique
  • How to transcend temporary states like being tired
  • How awareness creates choice
  • Practicing the witness perspective
  • Practicing parasympathetic activities
  • Creating a toolbox to handle every challenge
  • The best way to create space in a heightened emotional state
  • Detaching from outcome
  • The danger of defining yourself by your child’s success


MENTIONED EPISODES:

Parents’ Guide to Video Game Addiction with Cam Adair

Dad Edge Alliance Q&A: Video Game, Porn, and Social Media Addiction with Cam Adair


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Embracing the Parenting Journey

Embracing the Parenting Journey

As men, we often feel alone on our journeys—especially when it comes to parenting. Today’s guest is Dad Edge Alliance member, Simon. He talks about how when his wife got pregnant he didn’t want to have a boy because it would force him to confront issues he didn’t want to deal with. The thought of becoming a parent baffled him, but once his son was born he realized that shedding his former self and embracing the parenting journey came naturally.

#ParentingTip: 'Drop all resistance. If you embrace it, it’s beautiful. If you resist it, it’s hard.'—Simon, Dad Edge Alliance member #dads #men #fathers #fatherhood #dadlife #newdads Click To Tweet

 

MENTIONED EPISODE:

Giving Yourself Grace During the Holidays

 


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