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Weird & Wonderful Ways to Build Mental Resilience with Ben Aldridge


What are the best ways to build mental resilience? Today’s guest teaches us how to create weird and wonderful challenges to push through resistance and overcome anxiety.

Ben Aldridge is the bestselling author of How to be Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable: 43 Weird & Wonderful Ways to Build a Strong, Resilient Mindset. Ben’s crippling anxiety prevented him from living fully. In his search for a solution, he discovered that the more he tested himself in controlled environments, the more his anxiety diminished. Since then, he continues to push himself by accomplishing the strange and seemingly impossible.

In this episode, Ben explains how to plan mental, physical, and skill-based challenges that will accelerate our growth and develop a tolerance for being uncomfortable. He talks about how we can leave our comfort zones, face our fears, and increase our confidence. He also tells us how we can help our kids build mental resilience with weird and wonderful challenges!

Are you ready to get uncomfortable and build a more resilient mindset?

Ben Aldridge

Ben Aldridge is a writer, teacher and musician from the UK. He writes about practical philosophy, comfort zones, mental health and adventure. His first book “How to Be Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable: 43 Weird & Wonderful Ways to Build a Strong Resilient Mindset” is an exploration of unique ways to leave our comfort zones and face our fears. Heavily influenced by Stoicism, Buddhism, Popular Psychology and CBT, Ben’s challenges encourage us to get uncomfortable and experience the personal growth that we can only gain from pushing ourselves to the limit.

Ben’s interests are extremely diverse. You’ll find him climbing mountains, learning Japanese, running marathons, solving Rubik’s cubes, eating bizarre food, taking ice baths and sleeping in unusual places. The challenges that he sets for himself and his readers are often quirky, fun and demanding.

How to Be Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable: 43 Weird & Wonderful Ways to Build a Strong, Resilient Mindset

After debilitating anxiety and panic attacks began to impact his daily life, Ben Aldridge decided to tackle his mental health issues in a creative way. His journey led him on a year of completing weird and wonderful challenges in the name of self-improvement. By deliberately leaving his comfort zone and enduring difficulties, Ben completely changed his life.

Ice-cold showers, eating repulsive insects, running marathons, sleeping in unusual places, wearing ridiculous clothes and learning to solve the Rubik’s cube in under a minute are some of the ways Ben has pushed his body and mind to learn more, endure more and conquer more.

Varying in length, difficulty and category, Ben explains how to complete each challenge, how it changed his life and how you can push yourself with this practical method of self-development.

From learning a new language to climbing a mountain, see how far you can challenge yourself to overcome your fears and self-imposed limitations.

Packed with useful tips and tricks from Stoicism, Buddhism, CBT and popular psychology, this book encourages us to face our fears, embrace adversity and leave our comfort zones.

What You’ll Learn

  • The variety challenges Ben has conquered.
  • Through these challenges, Ben went from a gray, fear-based existence to a colorful life.
  • The 3 types of challenges you should practice:
    • Physical (like working up to running a marathon)
    • Skill-based (like leaving your academic-intellectual comfort zone)
    • Mental (practicing discomfort, like cold exposure)
  • Struggling is good for the mind. You should put yourself in frustrating situations.
  • Pay attention to your thoughts when under stress and anxiety so you can develop strategies for dealing with them.
  • The stoics of ancient Greece and Rome would deliberately sleep on the floor to practice discomfort. Ben tried “bivvying” where he slept outside in a bag in scary environments.
  • You receive a boost in confidence each time you conquer a challenge.
  • Lean into your fears instead of avoiding them.
  • Why we should look at our anti-bucket list instead of our bucket list
  • Go where there is huge mental resistance. Ben had acupuncture because he was afraid of needles.
  • Prepare for chaos and in life because it will come.
  • These challenges are an insurance policy against future adversity.
  • How Ben climbed Mount Everest … on his stairs in his home during lockdown. Ben also ran a marathon in his yard.
  • Start small and break up your routine. Find pockets of time to challenge yourself.
  • Have something on the calendar you are working towards, like an event to train for.
  • Bring friends in with you to help with accountability.
  • Children should see parents step out of their comfort zones.
  • Inviting your kids to do challenge with you creates a special bond.
  • Using downtime for adventure instead of TV.
  • Develop your own system to deal with adversity and anxiety and use challenges as a controlled environment to test these strategies.

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transform your pain

Transform Your Pain into Explosive Inner Growth

All of us have endured some kind of pain in our past. We might not think about it, but we carry it through our lives, allowing it to contaminate everything we do. If we don’t acknowledge the pain, it will hold us back from reaching our true potential. But if we look at every rock bottom moment as an opportunity to learn, we can transform our pain into explosive inner growth.

Today’s story will blow your mind. Justin Schenck is creator of the wildly popular Growth Now Movement Podcast. He grew up in dark circumstances, with an addicted mother and a dad in jail. By all outward appearances, he was destined to fail in life.

But Justin would not give up. He shed his victim mindset and took charge of his future. In this amazing comeback story, he shows us that we all have the power to climb out of the pit of despair, generate our own happiness, and create the life we truly desire.

This is an interview you can’t afford to miss!

“Things are going to change and adversity is going to happen around you. That stuff doesn’t matter. What matters is the choices we make to create the better tomorrow for ourselves.”—Justin Schenck

Justin Schenck

Justin has been named a Top 8 Podcaster to watch in 2018 by INC.com and chosen as an ‘Icon of Influence’ in the new media space. What started out as a way to connect with top people and inspire others has become a way of life. Now getting played in over 100 countries every single week he is able to make a greater impact than he could ever imagine. He not only speaks to organizations on how to overcome adversity and utilize podcasting to grow your business but he helps others launch and grow their own podcasts. His vision? To teach the world how to live happy no matter where they are today. “It’s about the journey not the destination.”

“You have complete control over the outcome of everything in your life.”—Justin Schenck

What You’ll Learn

  • Why Justin says he would’ve been the least likely to succeed
  • Mom’s death after a 20-year opioid addiction
  • How he mended his relationship with his father who’d spent time in jail
  • Even though his parents could not get themselves together, Justin knew he was loved.
  • His upbringing taught him what he didn’t want.
  • Justin was introduced to self-development through a sales job.
  • He embarked on a life of constant learning, absorbing information, and finding mentors.
  • He realized that the pain that he went through could help people heal.
  • “Life is happening for me, not to me.”
  • Using rock bottom moments as an opportunity to learn
  • How to build a life you are truly happy living
  • No matter what’s happening, you have to take care of yourself first.
  • 3 Ways to Serve Yourself Every Day
    1. 5 minutes of mediation
    2. Learn something new every day
    3. Reach out to somebody who is dear to you and see how they are doing
  • What it’s like cohabitating with his girlfriend’s kids
  • Kids’ willingness to learn and to love
  • Bonding with children over shared interests
  • How to maintain a learning mindset when blending a family
  • How to love yourself through everything
  • Feel your emotions fully. Then move forward.
  • Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react.
  • Focus and what you can control.
  • It’s not going to be easy, but no matter what, don’t give up.
  • Whenever you hit a wall, focus on what you can do to improve yourself.

RELATED EPISODES:

The Good Dad (Human) Project with Larry Hagner on Growth Now Movement

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Frankie Edgar on Life Lessons from the Octagon

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warrior toughness

Warrior Toughness for Real Life with Navy SEAL Stephen Drum

Warrior toughness is the ability to make the correct decision at the right time, no matter how stressful, painful, or frightening that moment may be. This is not only achieved by rigorous discipline and training, but also a fine balance of body, mind, and soul.

Today we are pumped to have Stephen Drum on The Dad Edge. He is a combat-tested retired Navy SEAL Master Chief with 27 years of experience leading teams and executing mission-critical performance strategies.

Stephen tells us a 4-part process for developing Warrior Toughness that we can apply to real life. He reveals the surprising mix of performance psychology, mindfulness, and problem-solving that makes up the warrior mindset. He also talks about how we can organize the caring of our families while keeping ourselves adaptable and ready to pivot in any situation.

Learn to operate under pressure—day in, day out—no matter what life throws at you!

What You’ll Learn

  • Although Stephen admits he was a rebellious and difficult kid, his parents’ guidance set a foundation for making good decisions in adulthood.
  • Stephen reveals his experience with BUDs training and SEAL life
  • Fight like a warrior, and act from character.
  • How to have frank conversations with yourself about where you made mistakes
  • The qualities of a warrior mindset
  • Problem solving skills
  • Using personal sources of strength like religion, values, and belief to power you through tough situations
  • The powerful combination of performance psychology, mindfulness and meditation
  • Exercises to reduce stress and anxiety: visualizations, progressive muscle relaxation, recalibration breathing.
  • The 4-Part Process of Warrior Toughness
    1. Commit – fully invested in yourself and process
    2. Preparation – acquiring the skillsets you need
    3. Execute – how to make clear, composed decisions under fire
    4. Reflection – step back and check if your actions were aligned with your values
  • On motivation versus discipline—discipline is more important because we won’t always be motivated.
  • You must conjure a visceral picture of what the finish line looks like so you can reconnect to it when you fall off track.
  • Detaching from emotions to make the right decisions. For example, you can feel angry instead of becoming angry.
  • Where Stephen admits he has failed as a husband and father
  • How Stephen incorporates warrior toughness into his parenting and marriage
  • Establishing consistency in household—Approach things from process. Be deliberate. Detach emotionally from experiences. Provide structure.
  • Led, fed, and educated—How Stephen organizes the leading and caring of his family
  • How to keep the family unit informed and prepared during crises like Covid-19, yet remain focused and engaged in life.
  • Don’t be mired down by negativity and political bias. Instead, see where you can pivot and adapt in a rational way.

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Coronavirus is forcing our evolution as fathers.  We are all going to build a whole new set of superpowers.  And these superpowers are needed right now.  For many of us, we are multiplying our future ability to serve, exponentially.

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75hard

What It’s Like to Do the 75Hard Challenge


Do you want to win the war with yourself? The 75Hard is a 75-day mental and physical challenge created by Andy Frisella that will test the resilience of any man.

Today, we talk about the benefits of doing a challenge like 75Hard to improve our health and mental toughness. We also go over how to do the 75Hard without burning out, giving up, or sacrificing family time.

Think you can handle it? Find out!

75Hard rules:

  1. Exercise twice a day for 45 minutes each. One workout must be outdoors.
  2. Drink a gallon of water a day.
  3. Choose any diet or eating plan and stick with it for 75 days. No cheat meals and NO ALCOHOL.
  4. Read a minimum of 10 pages every day of personal development or business book.
  5. Take one progress photo each day.

 

 

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parenting your adhd kid

Parenting Your ADHD Kid with Confidence Angela Pruess


Parenting is always a challenge. We aren’t given a manual when our kid is born. Parents whose kids have ADHD are even more unprepared. The Dad Edge constantly receives emails from dads who are struggling with their ADHD son or daughter. Most feel frustrated and helpless. They don’t enjoy parenting, and their kids can sense that. But there is hope for ADHD parents. All we need is the right skillset.

Angela Pruess is a licensed family therapist with a background in Child Psychology, Child Development, and Play Therapy. She is the founder of Parents with Confidence and also the mother of three children, two having special needs.

Angela explains the 3 different types of ADHD and the best way to manage each one. She talks about how to create an environment that encourages emotional intelligence and a growth mindset. She also tells us how to develop and leverage our parent-child connection, understand the true motivation behind our child’s behavior, and discipline our children without emotional damage.

Empower yourself to grow emotionally resilient ADHD kids who will live their best lives!

Angela Pruess

Angela Pruess, LMFT, is a Child and Family Therapist and special needs parent on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging kids. Over at parentswithconfidence.com, she wants to make life easier for you by decoding your child’s maddening behaviors, as well as their developmental and emotional needs. When she’s not supporting parents, or seeing kids in her private practice, she is at home being challenged (a lot) by her own three kids (and sometimes husband).

“Kids do better when they feel better.”—Angela Pruess, LMFT

What You’ll Learn

  • Parents forget to try to understand their kids. We need to know what drives them.
  • There is no quick fix for helping an ADHD child.
  • How amazingly resilient kids are. Their high-plasticity brains keep them openminded to learning about themselves.
  • How to manage emotional resentment towards your child.
  • ADHD cannot be helped. There are differences in the child’s brain structure since birth. Executive functions are limited as well as a broad range of important skills that bleed into everything.
  • Has ADHD always been around? How come we haven’t heard of it till now?
  • The outdated diagnostic criteria for ADHD.
  • The 3 different types of ADHD: Hyperactive, Inattentive, and Combined
  • Hyperactive: Physically hyper, but also impulsive, these children have a hard time stopping and thinking before the act. They show a limited ability for self-control and taking time to make best decisions.
  • Inattentive: It may look like these children are lazy and not paying attention, but there is an invisible piece. They don’t know where to start and get stuck. Parents have to be on child’s back to get things done. These are the dreamers, staring out the window. They are observant, curious.
  • Combined: These children present both aspects of ADHD. All of these children struggle with emotional control and regulating their attention.
  • How does ADHD show up besides hyperactivity and poor academic performance?
  • How to tell if your child has ADHD and is not just misbehaving.
  • Playing too much video games, not getting sleep, and too much sugar are some habits that lead to ADHD behaviors.
  • Parents expect to treat each kid the same, but they must seek to better understand each individual child’s neurobiology and personality.
  • The more you know about how each child ticks, the more you can influence your kids.
  • Use a humble, open approach instead of being authoritarian.
  • Kids put their needs out in the form of their behavior.
  • Unwanted behavior will not end until your child’s needs are met.
  • Their behavior is just the tip of the iceberg. Underneath is a huge variety of internal factors and drivers.
  • Be aware of your child’s sensory needs. Some are triggered by noises or being touched.
  • Being the “behavior police” with your ADHD child breeds disconnect and resentment.
  • How to draw the line between positive parenting and giving into bad behavior.
  • Get into the habit of thinking of the golden rule when interacting with your child. How would you want to be addressed? What would inspire you to do better?
  • ADHD kids are bright and advanced in other ways. They want to be acknowledged and respected for their gifts.
  • When children are upset, they shift into stress brain and their thinking brain goes offline.
  • How to teach your child to be aware of their emotions and help him/her be genuinely motivated to learn how to cope with their feelings.
  • All humans are wired with a negativity bias. Try to focus on the positives and achievements instead of everything your child does wrong.
  • Growth Mindset. Think of the whole picture when it comes to dealing with your ADHD child, not just right now. Instead of putting out fires, use challenging situations as a learning experience.

 

RELATED EPISODES:

Faster than Normal: Secrets of the ADHD Brain with Peter Shankman

How to Unlock ADHD Superpowers with Peter Shankman

Anxiety and Depression in Kids: A Parent’s Survival Guide with Natasha Daniels

How to Help Kids with Anxiety and Depression – Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Natasha Daniels

Strategy Guide for Parenting ADHD Kids with Brian King

 


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