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Living Your Most Authentic Self as a Husband, Father, and Business Owner with Scott Holman

Scott Holman

Scott Holman is a husband, father, business owner, and founder of the program Stop Clowning Around. Scott’s day job is the Director of Sales for national accounts for a very large security company. Scott’s organization, Stop Clowning Around, is about developing human beings into a level of mastery. He has also recently taken on two properties that he has flipped for financial investment.

Scott’s number one asset that he pushes is learning how to view things from someone else’s perspective. Perspective drives everything in life, especially our interactions. Everyone has a different set of lenses they see the world through, and we can’t change that. You will be much better as a person and as a business leader if you learn to look at things from someone else’s perspective.

Another thing that Scott practices regularly with his wife and children is communication. Communication is key to healthy marriage, along with being each other’s best friend. Communication and time are the key to raising your children to be strong men and women. Being there for your wife and kids, and not telling them how to do things or “fix it” for them is the driving factor in successful relationships.

Asking someone a series of questions that will lead them down the path of discovery is much better than fixing the problem for them. Most people don’t need us to tell them that we’re doing something wrong, they need us to walk the path with them and allow themselves to vocalize it, so they can take the action step at the end. This means, being intentional and allowing yourself to sit and listen, when you’d rather take control of the situation.

As men, we are the leaders and masters of 3 areas – ourselves, our families, and our businesses. In order to live legendary, we have to understand that life is always about the journey of mastery. It isn’t about the destination of mastery, and never having to learn. We are constantly learning along the journey, and that’s how we become legendary!

What You’ll Learn: 

[3:10]

Scott talks about how Monday’s are the best days, right after Friday’s because you don’t need to wait for a fresh start.

[4:32]

Scott talks about how he shifted his mindset about Monday’s.

[6:31]

Scott talks about his family and how he has one set of biological children, and another set of adopted biracial children. He has been married to his wife for over 24 years.

[9:22]

Scott talks about how he has been able to have such a successful marriage.

[11:42]

Scott talks about how his kids to be strong confident men and women.

[16:09]

Scott talks about how he has been successful with changing his perspective when he communicates with his wife.

[21:55]

Scott recalls the things that will be different in his marriage from now until his 25th year of marriage.

[24:18]

Scott talks about all of his current projects.

[28:01]

Scott talks about the secret behind his success.

[33:20]

Scott talks about what it means to live legendary.

[37:07]

Scott thinks about what his family would be talking about if they were to all sit around the table 25 years from now.

[39:12]

Scott talks about Stop Clowning Around.

[42:36]

Scott talks about what things have been happening in his life the past year.

[46:13]

Scott talks about the vision for his brand for the next 12 months.

RELATED EPISODES:

Living Your Authentic Life

Parenting with Leadership with Stewart Friedman and Alyssa Westring

Communication with Your Wife: What You’re Missing


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Mindset is the Key to Success with Vernon Fox III

Vernon Fox III

Vernon Fox III is a retired football player, husband, father, coach, consultant, and international public speaker. Fox played for the San Diego Chargers, Detroit Lions, Washington Redskins, and Denver Broncos. He was awarded MVP for Special Teams He was raised in a strong Christian household where his father was physically and emotionally present in his life. Vernon speaks fondly of his father as a positive role model; he was a faithful and stable figure in Fox’s life. When it comes to success, it’s really about your mindset that makes you successful, not your skill set. If you have a strong mentality to persevere through hard times, you’ll be ten times more successful than the person with just a strong skill set. Mindset requires training and practice, it doesn’t just happen overnight.Excuses are justifications for losers; it’s you trying to find an escape route. A reason is something that’s outside your control. Most people will try to find a way to turn their excuse into a reason, and you can’t live life that way. If you own up to what you can control, and you understand what you cannot control, you can separate it from the beginning. When you do this, you end up not living by the excuses. Perseverance is not something you are born with. It’s something you learn and adapt to. You have to decide within yourself that you aren’t going to quit, no matter what life throws at you. You’re going to pick yourself and try again tomorrow. This is how you become successful no matter what your skills are and no matter where you come from.

What You’ll Learn: 

[3:42]

Vernon talks about his childhood and how much his parents had an influence in his life.

[10:31]

Vernon recalls how he implements the values he learned from his parents in his own life with his marriage and children.

[12:15]

Vernon talks about the things his mother taught him about what a woman needs.

[15:36]

Vernon talks about mindset lessons he learned while playing professional football.

[18:02]

Vernon talks about how he had to strengthen his mindset when he would move every couple of years to play for different teams.

[21:17]

Vernon talks about the strength of his faith during his professional football years.

[23:08]

Vernon talks about his 2 children, a son and a daughter, and the differences between raising each one.

[29:12]

Vernon talks about how he’s been able to cultivate strong leadership out of his son’s stubborn, competitive attitude.

[32:27]

Vernon talks about what is most important to raise a strong, confident daughter.

[34:29]

Vernon talks about a reason versus an excuse.

[36:40]

Vernon talks about a quote that he lives by and takes a lot of pride in, “Work like it all depends on you, and pray like it all depends on God.”

[39:19]

Vernon talks about what it means to live legendary.

[41:22]

Vernon discusses a quote by Napoleon Hill and what it means to him.

[44:48]

Vernon talks about sustainability as a man, and what it means to keep on the right path.

RELATED EPISODES:

Pressure, Perseverance, and Fatherhood with UFC Fighter James Krause

How to Optimize and Integrate Your Mindset For a Fantastic Life with David Anderson

How Fatherhood is Leadership with TEDx Speaker Devon Bandison


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Embracing Fear and Living Life to the Fullest with Sal Frisella

Sal Frisella

Sal Frisella is a husband, father of three children, and the President of 1st Phorm Supplements, which was founded by his brother Andy. He was a Minor League Baseball player who was drafted by the St. Louis Cardinals and played for the Single A New Jersey Cardinals.

Sal went from a baseball player to selling copiers to medical sales where he worked for Johnson and Johnson as a successful sales agent. After these phases of his life, Sal realized that these jobs were not meant for him. Sal knew that he had to take a chance on himself and live the best possible life ever. Becoming the President of 1stPhorm gave him the best life that he could want.

However, Sal’s goals weren’t always clear. The fear of rejection and fear of the word “no” often held him back during his younger years. Yet, fear didn’t stop him from trying. Sal’s success in his life can attest to this because even through doubt and others negative opinions, he was able to push through and achieve the life he wanted. Sometimes, we are so afraid of rejection that we live with the regret of not trying at all.

Take advantage of every single day and live as if it were your last, or you’ll live with regret. The greatest strikeout of life is never stepping up to the plate. In order to live a fulfilling life, we have to embrace fear and live life to the fullest. 

What You’ll Learn: 

[3:45]

Sal begins talking about his wife and children.

[7:35]

Sal talks about the meaning behind his son’s name, “Enzo,” which means champion in Italian. He talks about how a name can be a unique identifier in a child’s life.

[11:29]

Time goes by so quickly when you have kids. Try to slow down and embrace the moments. Sal and his wife bought a farm to slow down in life.

[15:34]

COVID-19 caused a force to be present and break away from technology because we were home with our kids, and we had nothing but time to spend with them. Your phone becomes a pillar of your life and takes away your attention.

[17:53]

Sal talks about how he learned discipline when it comes to technology and putting the phone away in order to have quality time with his children.

[27:51]

Sal talks about how he makes his wife the Queen by letting her choose what they do because it’s her time to lead in the relationship. Setting boundaries is extremely healthy in a relationship.

[30:20]

Meeting in the middle goes a long way. It’s not always about being right. God gave you a mouth and two ears for a reason.

[32:44]

Guys don’t want to ask for help and admit that they’re struggling.

[38:04]

Sal talks about building a legacy so powerful that his stories and life lessons will live on beyond him. He wants to build relationships so meaningful that his kids will have someone to take care of them and tell them memories about their dad.

[43:37]

Sal talks about how he wasn’t always like this during his younger years. He recalls how he has been extremely blessed in the sense of having perspective. He says that his advantage has been being able to live a lot of really cool lives.

[45:58]

If you could treat every day as your last at bat, how hard would you swing?

[47:55]

Coming to 1st Phorm allowed Sal to go from being a jellyfish to being a shark; he got to hunt for what he wanted. With that, comes a little selfishness.

[50:01]

Most men are afraid of rejection and failure. You never know unless you try.

[53:33]

Sal says he would tell his younger self, 7 years ago, to be more adventurous in life. It gives you the opportunity to see what you like and what you don’t like.

[1:04:48]

Sal talks about what he and his family would be talking about in the next 25 years. He would want to say that he gave everything he could in order for them to have the best life.

RELATED EPISODES:

The Disease of Busyness

You Are More Than What You See with Darryll Stinson

How to Feed Your Courage and Starve Your Fear

 


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How to Raise Confident, Mentally Tough Daughters with Emily McCarthy


What kind of father do we need to be to raise girls into strong, empathetic, and emotionally resilient women? Today’s show is all about how to raise confident, mentally tough daughters.

Emily McCarthy is a former case officer for the CIA and the cofounder of GORUCK, a brand with Special Forces roots that leads backpacking events all over the world.

Emily lost her father when she was just getting out of college. It was a devastating blow, but the foundation he laid will echo for generations.

Emily talks about how her dad gamified safety and defense so she would always be ready to protect herself and others. She also talks about the many ways her father showed up in her life that made her into the incredible woman she is today.

Emily’s story is proof of the ripple effect a father leaves on his children’s lives, even if his time is cut short. Don’t miss this moving episode.

My father was a big part of my life because he showed up.

How to Raise Confident, Mentally Tough Daughters

  • What it was like for Emily to witness her father dying
  • The void left by the pillar of the family
  • In the wake of his death, she traveled the world as a language teacher.
  • How Emily’s father taught her and her brother important lessons veiled in fun activities
  • How her dad showed them to protect themselves through the gamification of safety and defense
  • How Emily’s father expected her to protect her brother and anyone who needed help
  • The many large and small ways her dad showed up for her
  • Emily’s father technique to train her “not to be a wuss”
  • How Emily’s father’s lessons helped her through bullying
  • How to instill healthy fear in your children
  • If you shelter a child too much, they will not have the healthy fear to protect themselves.
  • The unusual relationship between her and her husband/GORUCK cofounder, Jason
  • How once, in 5 years of their marriage, they never lived together
  • Her experience as a case officer for the CIA post-911
  • The happy accident of the GORUCK idea
  • How GORUCK events make people excited about life and bring about a sense of community
  • The benefits of GORUCK Events for parents and kids
  • How kids in a group setting self-correct­­–”the village teaches”
  • Rucking is just like life–you don’t know what to expect.
  • How Emily sees her father in her children, even though they never met him.

RELATED EPISODES:

How to Protect Your Daughter Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally with Warren Petersen

Being a Coach, a Dad, and Raising Strong Daughters with Bret Johnson

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

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How to Raise Strong, Confident, Resilient Girls with Bas Rutten

Bas Rutten is retired UFC Heavyweight Champion and three-time King of Pancrase world champion. He’s a regular on TV, has also appeared in movies, and even makes a cameo in the Grand Theft Auto video game.

It’s hard to believe that Bas Rutten, also known as “El Guapo” or The Handsome One, suffered extreme eczema and asthma during his childhood. He was bullied on a regular basis in his native country of Holland. One day when he was on vacation with his family in France, he snuck into the movie theatre to see Enter the Dragon. Bas knew that if he became like Bruce Lee, the bullying would stop. This sparked a passion for martial arts that took him through a glorious career and taught him many life lessons he would pass on to his three daughters.

How to raise strong girls

Learn to say “no”

Bas admits to being a sucker for the sad look he gets from his girls when he refuses to give into them. But it’s important to put your foot down. If they know they can influence you early on, they will never take you seriously in the future. Bas’s parents instilled good morals and work ethic in him. If he wanted something, he had to work for it and started delivering newspapers and washing dishes at a very young age. He has done this with his daughters as well.

Don’t lose your girls to social media

In this world of Instagram and Snapchat, it can be challenging to get your daughters’ attention. Bas Rutten says that it is important to connect with your daughters on social media. This might seem daunting for those of us who didn’t grow up with social media, but Bas says fathers must evolve with technology so they are fully aware of what is going on.

Bas also knows that being obsessed with social media diminishes the present moment. When you’re taking a video of the moment instead of absorbing it with all your senses, you don’t experience it fully. You’re not likely to watch the video again anyway, so he teaches his family to put the phone down and disconnect.

Be consistent

If you give your daughters multiple warnings and they still fail to meet their obligations, you must follow through with the punishment you decided on. Bas recalls one time when he warned his daughter that if she didn’t finish her homework, he wouldn’t allow her to go to prom. She didn’t finish her homework, and even though it broke his heart to do it, he stood his ground and did not allow her to go to prom. It wasn’t an easy lesson, but it changed everything. Bas says, “If they don’t take you seriously, they won’t take life seriously.”

Teach them to speak up

Girls are taught to be quite and submissive. “If you set yourself up for being bullied, you’ll get it,” Bas says. The best way to teach daughters to be strong is to show them how to project confidence. If someone speaks the them or treats them the wrong way, teach your daughters to speak up. They must say something right away before others think they can get away with treating them that way.

He also says girls need to stand their ground when it comes to relationships. They should project what they expect, maintain their independence, and not cave into their partner’s wishes all the time. It’s important for them to establish this behavior from the beginning so that they don’t become the weak person in the relationship.

Have fun with life

Although Bas struggle with his health problems throughout his childhood, he didn’t feel sorry for himself. It actually made him more optimistic because he knew there were people even worse off than him. He also developed a great sense of humor to cope with and compensate for the ostracization he suffered from his peers. Bas considers his childhood curses a blessing. His experiences shaped him and after the challenges he faced as a kid, his life is easy now. He feels it’s important for daughters to be strong and disciplined, but it’s also important to remember to have fun. Life goes by quickly and no one knows how much time we have.

Bas Rutten’s Parting Piece of Dad Wisdom

Bas recalls how he surprised his daughter with a puppy by coming up with an elaborate trick. A small effort and a little ingenuity on his part created and unforgettable memory for her. Make memories with your kids. Do a little more to make an impact.


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