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How to Stop Being A Miserable F*ck with John Kim

How to Stop Being A Miserable F*ck with John Kim

Sometimes, the men who seem to have it all together are the ones who are suffering the most. Today’s guest John Kim was a licensed therapist and a life coach who was unfulfilled and hating life. A divorce forced him to begin looking inward and start his blog called The Angry Therapist to share his journey from being a boy to becoming a man.

John Kim just published his book, I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck: An Everyman’s Guide to a Meaningful Life, in which he shares his “self-help in a shot glass” tips on how to step into manhood and live a life of purpose and passion! Learn about man dates, bedroom mistakes, and why you shouldn’t pee in the shower.

'Now’s the time men are making their return.'—John Kim @angrytherapist #men #dads #fathers #manhood #fatherhood Click To Tweet

John Kim

John Kim practices complete authenticity and transparency with his many clients (frowned upon in the clinical world) and continues to look for new and unconventional ways to help people. He created the Catalyst Life Coaching Course, an online life coaching certification program, and recently started a new platform called SHFT, an app that gives people support in their pocket when they need it and the chance to become a life coach themselves. John Kim lives in Los Angeles where he makes videos on his phone, CrossFits, and rides his motorcycle to coffee shops to do sessions.

His parents did the best with what they had. They came to America from Korea with no money. They were always working and living in survival mode. His father wasn’t available emotionally and was an alcoholic. A child of the 80s, pop culture raised John and he found self-worth in skateboarding and breakdancing.

As John became and adult, he realized that all he thought he wanted wasn’t bringing him happiness. When he became a therapist and began working for non-profits, he witnessed the byproducts of dads being absent—physically and emotionally. He thought about his own childhood and how the cycle of dysfunction, codependency, and addiction starts with fatherless homes. He often wondered, what are men missing?

'We live in a fatherless nation.'—John Kim @angrytherapist #men #dads #fathers Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • The difference between responding and reacting
  • How being reactive recreates damaging patterns of the past
  • How to respond in order to change all your human collisions throughout the day
  • How to create emotional space by trying to understand before trying to be understood
  • The most toxic sentences for men—be a man, or man up
  • Why instead of being a man you should practice being human
  • How to give yourself a break when you react negatively
  • How to”re-worth” yourself
  • Why men resist the idea of self-care
  • Why self care helps you to create a stronger life-container so that you can show up better for everyone else
  • How the silliest white lies create hairline cracks of trust in a relationship
  • Why you shouldn’t perform in the bedroom
  • How porn gives a warped definition of what good sex looks like
  • How performing during sex disconnects you and breeds resentment with your partner
  • The goal of John Kim’s book
  • The best way to teach your kids not to lie
  • How to get your kids’ respect by adding an extra layer of vulnerability
  • His parting piece of wisdom for dads—look inward

MENTIONED EPISODES:

All the Money You Will Ever Need with Grant Sabatier

F*ck Your Feelings with Ryan Munsey

How to Unf*ck Yourself with Gary John Bishop


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Everything MEN NEED to KNOW About PORN

Everything Men Need to Know About Porn with J.K. Emezi

Today our show is about porn, sex, and masturbation addiction. This subject constantly comes up in The Dad Edge community and our episodes about pornography have massive downloads. In this age where we can watch it anytime and anywhere on our phone, it is becoming a huge problem. This crucial, controversial topic is not discussed enough because of the taboo, but porn addiction is real and we need answers.

J.K. Emezi is a sex and porn addiction coach for the last 9 years and is the founder of Elevated Recovery, where he helps men overcome sexually compulsive disorders. He tells us everything men need to know about porn—how it changes our brains, affects our relationships, and alters our perspectives. He gets real about how to tell if porn is a problem and what to do about it. He also tells us how we can prepare our kids for their inevitable encounter with porn, which is happening at startlingly earlier ages.

Pornography changes your values as a man.—J.K. Emezi

 

The Porn Addiction Problem

When it comes to internet porn, we have no idea what we’re up against. In the olden days, porn was hard to get. It was in the magazine rack behind the counter or the back room of a video store. Now it is available at anytime of day, in any place, at the tip of our fingers. J.K. Emezi says the most common place men watch pornography is at work.

The most disturbing thing about internet porn is that our kids are being exposed to it before they understand what they are looking at. In decades past, kids may not have run into porn until their teens, but in 2016, 11 was the average age of a child’s first exposure. Now, the age is 8.

J.K. Emezi had his own struggle with pornography and discovered that many of the men he worked with did too. Forums were filled with men who were seeking help, but there weren’t any resources. J.K. first began blogging anonymously about recovering from his porn addiction, but he eventually came out into the open to help others end their out-of-control behavior with porn, sex and masturbation.

What You’ll Learn

  • J.K. Emezi’s background as a bible salesman
  • Where and when the porn problem begins
  • How parents are getting too lax with computers and devices
  • How there is actually Minecraft porn now
  • Why one talk with your kids about porn is not enough. It must be randomly brought up from time to time.
  • Why porn is just as bad as drugs or alcohol
  • When porn is okay
  • Why men watch porn, especially at work
  • The role of brain chemicals in porn addiction
  • How to rewire your brain for monogamy
  • How to reconnect and become aroused again by your partner
  • How porn addiction, little by little, destroys your values
  • Why some women view porn as cheating and suffer ‘betrayal trauma’
  • How to define a compulsive sexual behavior
  • If, when, and how to disclose a porn problem to your spouse
  • Why masturbation is normal, but porn is not
  • What can men do when their wife is pregnant or has just given birth and can’t have sex
  • Why watching unrealistic bodies is unfair to your wife
  • How to use a rubber band to snap out of physical urges
  • How to anchor yourself in the morning to stick to your recovery goals
  • How to clean up your online environment to avoid triggers
  • How to interrupt porn urges by journaling and visualization
  • Advice for men in sexless marriages

 

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Porn – Why We Watch It, When It’s a Problem, and How to Stop with Nell Daly

Porn Addiction and Affair Recovery Mentoring

How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography with Kristen Jenson

Video Game, Porn, and Social Media Addiction with Cam Adair


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sexy marriage

Simple, Sexy Marriage with Dr. Corey Allan

Today we have Dr. Corey Allan on the show. He is a marriage and family therapist and the host of the Sexy Marriage Radio podcast, which has been going strong for seven years. Dr. Allan outlines most common problems couples bring to his office, including sex. In this conversation, we get granular about sex issues along with intimacy and pornography.

In his experience, Dr. Corey Allan estimates that that man has the higher desire for sex in 70% of marriages, but men tend to follow a script and don’t get creative with their wives. He tells us what we’re doing wrong when it comes to trying to get more sexual with our spouses and how to talk about it without putting them on the defense. He also talks about the 30% of marriages in which the woman has the higher desire for sex and how couples can manage that.

You may be surprised by his advice. Download this episode because you’ll want to listen to it again!

'A woman knows very well if the goal for the day is in her pants.'—Dr. Corey Allan @simplemarriage #marriage #sex #intimacy Click To Tweet

'We’re quick to blame our spouse for our troubles.'—Dr. Corey Allan @simplemarriage #marriage #sex #intimacy Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • How to improve the marriage you have
  • How to stop the blame cycle
  • Why you need to stop trying to fix your wife and instead fix yourself
  • How to invite good changes into your life
  • The main complaints from women
  • How the fear of rejection is magnified to a woman
  • How to be a student of your wife
  • Non-sexual touch
  • The 4 Most Common Marriage Problems:
    • Sex
    • Money
    • In-laws
    • Children
  • How to succeed by respecting your wife’s differences rather than trying win her over to your way of thinking
  • The danger of being attached to outcomes
  • The difference between functional sex and sex for intimacy
  • Two components of intimacy:
    • Knowing your partner
    • Being known yourself
  • How intimacy can be just as likely comfortable as uncomfortable
  • Why there’s nothing wrong with a wife who doesn’t want to have sex
  • How the higher desire spouse has to recognize the lower desire spouse
  • How women were wired to be responsive, not initiative
  • How men often try to manufacture a way to penetrate instead of encouraging a response
  • Why you have to live a life beyond your wife, a life that’s inspiring to her
  • If you’re with her, be present with her. Quality time is more effective than the quantity of time
  • Why you shouldn’t hover around your wife waiting for sex
  • How foreplay is a long play in marriage
  • Why a fully turned on woman can be terrifying for men
  • The debilitating effects of porn
  • How women want to be led their husbands
  • How the way you conduct yourself in life translates in the bedroom
'Everything we do in marriage communicates. Everything we do NOT do in marriage communicates.'—Dr. Corey Allan @simplemarriage Click To Tweet

RELATED EPISODES

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Black Belt Husband with Quentin Hafner


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Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio


Neuroscience research shows that 95% of what we think and feel falls below our conscious detection, meaning almost all of what we do is beyond our conscious control. Instead of creating our lives, we drift. We fill our time with distractions and bad habits instead of living to our full potential.

Our guest today is author, speaker, and executive coach Dominick Quartuccio. He is here to talk about his book Design Your Future: 3 Simple Steps to Stop Drifting and Take Command of Your Life. He outlines how to upgrade our environments, discipline ourselves efficiently, and rewrite the narrative in our heads so that we can live to our ultimate potential.

The definition of hell—On your deathbed you meet the man you could’ve become.'—Dominick Quartuccio #men #dads #fathers #regret #mindset #potential #breakthrough Click To Tweet

Dominick Quartuccio

Dominick Quartuccio is one of the few guests we’ve had on The Dad Edge that is not a father yet. He is an aspiring dad who works with many high-performing family men.

Dominick spent fifteen years in the corporate arena. He was very successful, but something was missing. He felt a higher calling and in 2016 left his career to become a speaker and coach who helps men take command of their lives.

'Drift is the single greatest thing that keeps us off the path.'—Dominick Quartuccio #men #dads #fathers #distraction #technology #pornaddiction #selfdevelopment Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why many of us feel lost and uninspired in life because we’re not connected to what means most to us
  • How we drown out our existential anxiety using vices like porn, technology, and even workaholism
  • How apps, social media, and technology are designed with psychological hooks to keep you using them
  • How social media notifications use variable rewards to make them more addictive
  • Dominick’s own recovery from porn and sex addiction
  • The 3 Fs that shape our sexual development.
    • Family
    • Faith (or lack thereof)
    • Friends
  • The best way to prevent getting sucked into the internet vortex
  • How to design effective and efficient no-brainer boundaries for yourself that don’t tax your willpower
  • Why you should never use your cell phone as an alarm clock
  • How to relate to other men instead of compete with them
  • What it takes to break free from drift
    • Catalyze your own awakenings
    • Disrupt your patterns and habits
    • Replace with designing a conscious, intentional future
  • How to stop self-sabotage
  • How to curate a relationship with your inner self
  • How to rewire your inner-narrative to live to your full potential
It's easier for men to fight battles than to go inward.—Dominick Quartuccio #personaldevelopment #wisdom #selfdiscovery #selfsabotage Click To Tweet

RELATED EPISODES

ChooseFI: Stock Market, Tax, and Retirement Hacks with Brad Barrett

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Turn On Your Superhero Brain with Jim Kwik

Wild at Heart with John Eldredge

 


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Breaking the Addiction Mindset

Breaking the Addiction Mindset

What’s your vice? What relieves your stress? What do you turn to when times get tough? Drugs, alcohol, women, validation, gambling, validation, food? Even a healthy habit like working out can be unhealthy if it’s used to avoid people and escape reality.

Addictive behaviors drain our energy, suck our time, and prevent us from connecting with those we love. They keep us from operating at our true potential. This show is about becoming aware of destructive habits and breaking the addiction mindset. No matter what vice you have, today we’ll give you new tools to crush it.

Everyone has a vice. What's yours? Are you ready to crush it? #addiction #vice #porn #drugs #alcohol #badhabits Click To Tweet

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Stop Running Away: Break Free from Porn and Let God Do More in Your Life Than Ever Before

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