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How to Persevere In Spite of Fear with Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman


Today I’m having a conversation with former UFC fighter and bestselling author of Driven: The Unlikely Journey from Classroom to Cage. He is also a podcast host, a speaker, a husband and a dad. Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman is back on the show for his third episode!

We’re going to have an authentic conversation about how to approach life as a constant learner, how to live by your core values, and how to find work that makes you come alive. We also discuss how to teach our kids extreme ownership, how to accept our fears and take action in spite of them, and how to keep momentum while pursuing our goals even when we feel like giving up.

I’m talking to the inner voice in all of us that feels alone and that feels like we can’t do it.

 

Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman

Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman is a professional mixed martial arts fighter, speaker and mentor. Following a successful high school wrestling career, Charlie took his talents to Lock Haven University where he achieved a top 12 finish at Division I Nationals and 1st Team All-Academic. After teaching Spanish for three years and winning Spike TV’s Pros vs. Joes, Charlie decided to leave his job to pursue a master’s degree and begin his professional fighting career—“The Spaniard” was born. In 2011, he was ranked as high as #7 in the world. “The Spaniard” has fought at the highest level of the sport in three countries. He currently lives in PA with his wife, daughter and son where he has transitioned to speaking, writing, and hosting The Spaniard Podcast about learning, acquiring wisdom and toughness through books, conversations and interviews, and training.

To do anything great, to pursue anything worthy, it takes hard work, it takes consistency, and it takes commitment. Sometimes people need an example.

What You’ll Learn

  • How to be physically and mentally primed to be a dad and husband
  • Charlie’s 3 fitness goals
    • to be able to kick butt
    • to defend himself and his family
    • be able to run a 15 mile obstacle race on any day
  • How he does 1000 pushups in 40 minutes
  • How physical fitness instills confidence
  • How Charlie transitioned to speaking and writing after his fighting career was over
  • About his 7 episode-a-week podcast, The Spaniard
  • How, contrary to belief, fighters do experience fear
  • How Charlie acknowledges that he is afraid, self-conscious, and anxious and keeps going anyway
  • Why we need to get over the idea that fear is weakness
  • How to distract yourself from negative thoughts
  • Charlie’s greatest fears as a father
  • How he had to reframe his ideas about his kids, allowing them to become what they want and not who he wants them to be
  • Resisting the trap of living vicariously through your kids’ activities
  • How to teach kids integrity and live that example as well
  • Why as a father, you must be open an honest when you make a mistake, explaining things and admitting your faults not matter how young your kids are
  • How to find the work that makes you come alive
  • Charlie’s mission for his podcast—to help listeners of all ages develop character, perseverance, and resilience
  • His advice for those who want to create something
  • How to have the courage to keep going even when times get tough
  • How to get beyond surface doubt and tap into your heart and soul
  • How to overcome the overwhelm of getting started
  • Being prepared to play the long game
  • How to enjoy the moment of the success in the face of new goals
  • His best marital advice—Read The 5 Love Languages
  • The best part of his marriage—How his wife’s body has changed since becoming a mother
  • The most satisfying part of being a father and the most challenging parts
  • Charlie’s challenge! Read a book, take a pic, post it tagging Charlie, and he’ll retweet/share it to his audience @charliespaniard.

Don’t take your frustrations out on other people, especially your kids

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Charlie Brenneman: How to Live a Life of Excellence

Brenneman vs. Hagner: The Good Dad Project Interview

How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

How to Instill the Growth Mindset in Your Kids with Larry Yatch

Secrets of the Navy SEAL Mindset: Courage, Confidence, Perseverance and Resilience

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin


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How to Start When You're Stuck Jason Womack

How to Start When You’re Stuck with Jason Womack


Today’s show is going to ramp you up! Jason Womack is an executive coach and bestselling author of Your Best Just Got Better and Get Momentum: How to Start When You’re Stuck.

He’s going to talk about why men are so good at starting things but not finishing them, and how to surround yourself with people who will instantly rocket you to where want to go.

He also shares two of his forward thinking tools that will completely blow your mind and crush the limited view you have of your future.

You show up, you do good work, and you stay in touch.

Jason Womack

Jason Womack is a force of energy. He is a speaker, coach, and author advising leaders worldwide. He invests his time, energy and focus serving as an agent of change. He is now a Professor of Leadership studies for the US Air Force

Jason Womack is not a father, but he does have advice that will alter every dad’s view of their future and how to prime ourselves for huge opportunities and experiences beyond our wildest dreams.

I’ve got to give myself the gift of my own attention.

What You’ll Learn

  • How to create the right conditions for success
  • How to be prepared to do the good work
  • How to differentiate yourself from others
  • Why it’s crucial to take care of ourselves—Chaos, surprise, and opportunities are coming you won’t be able to take advantage of it if you are not 100%
  • What you can do to be ready to before you need to get ready
  • The big 3 of self-care – Rest, Movement, and Nutrition and what they really mean
  • How to track your behavior and results and do objective/subjective analysis
  • Advice for men who feel guilty for spending time and money on self-care
  • Why journaling is important to your future
  • Stop judging until you journal for 6 months
  • Prove that who you were before was better than who you are today
  • Why you don’t realize how much you ARE growing through time (The Zeigarnik effect)
  • Why it’s better to control your direction instead of focusing a definitive goal
  • Two-way analysis
    • Past to present – Where you were and where you are now
    • Future to present – Where you are going to be and how you are going to put yourself on that course
  • Jason’s 2 powerful forward-thinking tools
    • 30-30 rule
    • Ideal Day Process
  • How to backfill the time the Universe gives you
  • How people limit themselves by what they think is possible
  • Write down what’s impossible, and it may drop in your lap
  • Larry’s live example of how to do the Ideal Day Process
  • Why Jason writes with his non-dominant hand
  • How to open up your consciousness to let new information in
  • If you want to change your health, wealth, or relationships, hang out and ask the person who has what you want
  • Why American men don’t ask for help
  • The moment you start hanging out with someone who is where you want to be, your life already changes
  • How to build your team
  • How to keep momentum
  • Not start stop and judge
  • What do you want to be known for?
  • Why awkward eye contact and vulnerability will change the world
  • Why cognitive diversity is the gateway to a better future
  • You don’t want likeminded men on your team, but those who think differently than you
  • Personal development advice – drop what doesn’t work for you, pick up what does, and make it your own
  • How to stop “shoulding” on yourself
  • Why practice does not make perfect – it makes it comfortable, normal, and accepted
  • Why and how to share what you’re working on
  • If you do not walk in armed with what you already unconsciously want, then you’re just going to listen to someone else and what they did and how they did
  • The fear of success and the thoughts that hold us back e.g. Don’t want more than you have. Share with everyone else. Who are you to want that?
  • Why we don’t finish what we start
  • What to do when you’re stuck
  • Clearing out ‘shoulds’ that are getting your way
  • Focusing on rituals and measuring results

Change who you spend time with and you’ll change your life.


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Never Give up No Matter What

Never Give Up No Matter What with Mason Hagner

How do we teach our kids to be resilient? How can we be encouraging and supportive while still building mental toughness? Wouldn’t it be great to have a kid’s perspective on how to do the right thing as a dad?

Today we have the most amazing guest ever on The Dad Edge, my ten-year-old son, Mason Hagner. He is releasing his book called Never Give Up No Matter What, an illustrated story about a situation where he wanted to give up, how he pushed past his desire to quit, and what he achieved by persevering even though it seemed that all hope was lost.

Mason’s book is a wise lesson for both parents and kids. Listen to why he wrote his inspiring book and what advice he has for parents when their kids feel like giving up.

'I just wanted to show people that you should never quit no matter what.'—Mason Hagner #kids #children #parents #parenting #resilience Click To Tweet

Mason’s Story

Mason wrote this story about his season in tackle football. He worked hard through sweltering practices loaded with heavy equipment. He tried his best, but for some reason he wasn’t getting any play time. Mason got to the point of feeling hopeless and he wanted to give up. But even though he was discouraged, he decided to follow through with what he started. He gave it his all to the very end, and then something amazing happened.

What You’ll Learn

  1. The challenges Mason faced at practice
  2. How he felt when he stopped getting playing time
  3. What it was like to sit on the sidelines and watch his friends play after he worked so hard to get in the game
  4. Why he didn’t give up even though he really wanted to
  5. What happened after he committed himself to keep going
  6. The best thing parents can do with their kids want to quit
  7. How learning not to give up will teach you to persevere as you get older
  8. How Mason got the idea to write a book
  9. His experience working with an illustrator
  10. Why, according to Mason, teaching resilience to your kids is not hard

Buy Mason’s Book

Never Give Up No Matter What children's book

And don’t forget you can support Mason with a book review on Amazon!


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Coaching Kids for Greatness with former NFL player Anthony Trucks

Coaching Kids for Greatness with former NFL player Anthony Trucks


If you are the coach or parent of a youth athlete, this episode is an absolute game changer. I invited former NFL player Anthony Trucks to my home in St. Louis to do a live Q & A session with dads, kids, and coaches to answer questions about adversity, perseverance, and practice.

Whether it’s football, dance, baseball, soccer, martial arts or track and field, Trucks gives us amazing insights on how to coach the right way and help our kids optimize their mental game for greatness.

'You want something big? Find a solution before you find an excuse.'—@AnthonyTrucks #coaching #mindset #youthsports #kids #children #parenting Click To Tweet

Anthony Trucks

Anthony Trucks was the poster child for “disadvantaged youth.” His mom gave him away along with his siblings when he was three years old. They were separated when he was put into the foster care system where languished for eleven years until he was adopted at the age of fourteen.

Anthony knew he didn’t want to keep going down the path he was on. He didn’t know what greatness was, but he knew he wanted to achieve it. He discovered football and chose to be good at it. Anthony was determined not to become another statistic and practiced obsessively. His superhuman effort paid off when he received a college scholarship and went on to play for the NFL.

Anthony Trucks now owns a gym and appears on American Ninja Warrior. He says he’s had a blast on his roller coaster of a life. His mission is to try to improve peoples’ lives by sharing his experiences.

'Trust in your hustle.'—@AnthonyTrucks #hustle #perseverance #motivation #inspiration Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Anthony Truck’s advice for men growing up in adversity (drugs, alcohol, abuse) who believe they can’t live a successful life
  • Why we feel comfortable with the “crazy we know”
  • How it was as a kid without a real mom to support him.
  • How he made childhood adversity into his teacher
  • Why the biggest thing we can do for our families is carve out a golden block of focused time
  • Which parent should do the disciplining
  • What motivates Anthony when he wants to give up
  • The two anchors that keep Anthony grounded, yet inspired to push harder
  • Advice he would give if he were eleven years old, “Find someone who cares about you and do what they tell you to do.”
  • How to push through moments of hopelessness and the urge to give up
  • What it felt like to walk into a crowded stadium as an NFL player
  • His advice for kids who want to be in the NFL
  • How to balance coaching skills to help kids stay motivated without pushing them too hard
  • How kids hear parents differently
  • How kids need to be loved by parents and coached by coaches
  • How to help kids get clear about their goals
  • How coaches can get kids to summon their aggression
  • How to coach kids when they are on social media comparing their athletic performances
  • Why parents are responsible for giving their kids a sense of self-worth
  • Why as a parent, you can’t let the outside world define who you are
  • What advice Anthony Trucks would give his 10-year-old self
  • Anthony’s advice for a long-term relationship
  • How pressure has helped him find greatness
  • How to handle pressure by thinking of the end result
  • His favorite thing to do with his family!
'The more work you put into something past the point of difficulty, that’s how you separate yourself from the pack.'—@AnthonyTrucks #youthathletes #dreams #goals #perseverance Click To Tweet

MENTIONED EPISODE: Defying All Odds with Anthony Trucks


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Releasing Emotions in Front of the Kids

Releasing Emotions Safely in Front of the Kids

No matter how hard we try to separate home life from our jobs, work stress affects our families. Children pick up on all our cues and can become frightened if they see us behaving in ways they don’t understand. How do we release emotions safely in front of the kids?

Today we have Dad Edge Alliance member Jon McKinney on the show. He is an officer in the Royal Canadian Mounted Police and deals with intense emotions and extreme stress on a daily basis. As a single dad, he has his own challenges to contend with. And as a cop, he also has to help resolve other people’s personal problems.

Jon gives us an intimate look at how he demonstrates bravery, perseverance, and resilience to his kids while also showing them that it’s okay to breakdown, let your emotions out, and share them with other people.

'Finding ways to leak out emotion in a healthy manner is safe, it’s okay, and it’s part of life.'—Jon McKinney #dads #men #fathers #fatherhood #manhood #stress Click To Tweet

 


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