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Why Men Are Better Together

Why Men Are Better Together


Today I’m sitting down with everyday dad and alliance member, Mike. He’s having a great time now being a father, but it wasn’t always this way.

Mike is the father of an 8 year old daughter and a 5 year old son. When his son was first born, he couldn’t understand why he didn’t feel a connection to his baby. He thought something was wrong with him but was afraid to tell anyone about it.

As his kids grew, his noticed his patience was thin, and he was worried he’d end up being “the dad that yelled a lot.” He was also afraid that he wouldn’t have all the answers to the questions his kids asked, and he suffered chronic anxiety. This was a huge catalyst for change.

One of the hardest things for men to do is ask for help, but Mike was tired of doing life on his own. He didn’t want to lean on his wife for everything either. That’s when he made himself a priority and joined The Dad Edge Alliance.

Listen to Mike’s journey as a dad, and why men are better together!


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The Dad Edge Mailbox for May 2019


We’re going to do something new for Thursday Throwdown. I receive a lot of emails from listeners, so in this episode I’m going to answer three questions from The Dad Edge mailbox. Send your email to support@gooddadproject.com and your question might be featured in the next show!

Today we’re going to cover three topics:

  1. How to get a child to listen and obey without yelling.
  2. How to stay motivated when you’re in a funk.
  3. How to start a side-hustle without sacrificing family time.

My son is two years old and he is currently at the stage where he is not listening. He’s actively trying to ignore us when asked to do things. He seems to respond immediately if my voice gets raised and I yell, although I don’t like raising my voice and I don’t want to make a habit of doing it. Any tips? — Ben

  • If you want kids to listen, get down on their level, touch them on the shoulder and look them in the eyes when you speak to them
  • Nobody likes being told what to do, even kids. Empower them by forcing them to make decisions. Give them a choice of how or when to do whatever it is they are refusing to do.

How do you tackle a slump of motivation and bring yourself back into focus?

  1. Give yourself grace for being in a slump. You’ll make it worse by beating yourself up about it.
  2. Remind yourself of what is it your chasing. What is your desired end-goal? What will you feel like once you accomplish it?
  3. Make a plan to jump back in. Remind yourself by looking at your map of what you need to do. The best time to take action is now.
  4. Find someone you can partner up with for accountability.

Do you have any suggestions on a side hustle or part time job that won’t take time away from my family?

  • Ask yourself, what do you like doing? You’ll be spending a lot of time working on it. Make sure it’s something you like.
  • Audit your time. It may feel like you don’t have enough time to develop a side-business, but how many hours are you spending watching Netflix?
  • We do more before 8 a.m. than the rest of the world if we wake up a few hours early. You can rack up 10 or 12 hours per week to devote to your new business this way. That’s 40 hours a month—a whole work week!
  • Think about ways to develop passive income that require minimal time and attention, like real estate investments.

Have a question for The Dad Edge? Send it to support@gooddadproject.com.

 


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A Father’s Journey Inward

On Thursdays we like to interview every day dads. Today we talk to Dad Edge Alliance member, Ben. His mission was to become the best father he could be to his 6 year old son and a 4 year old daughter. He knew that they were picking up on what he did, not what he said, but sometimes he had a hard time being calm. After struggling with anxiety most of his life, he realized he needed to find a way to stay patient, especially when the kids were crying and things were stressful with work.

Ben had to go inward to face his flaws, to confront the truth about who he was and who he wanted to be. This unlocked the journey to living his life according to his values, to staying calm through the storm by accepting others as they are and letting go of the need to control.

The less pressure you exert, the more influence you have. Accept others and don’t control.

 

 

 

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4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 3—Becoming Friends

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 4—Becoming Lovers

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood


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Chris Voss

The Art of Negotiating with Your Kids with Chris Voss

Getting children to obey can be a challenge that wears our patience down to zero. Today’s guest is going to show us how to apply FBI hostage negotiation skills to discussions with our kids in ways that not only get them to do what we want them to do, but also help them become more resourceful and confident.

Chris Voss is the author of Never Split The Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It. He was the lead kidnapping negotiator for the FBI and is the founder of the Black Swan group, whose mission is to help achieve exceptional results in business and personal negotiations using hostage negotiation skills. He shares simple, clever tactics that we can use every day to have productive discussions with our kids while training our own brains to react constructively instead of with frustration.

This episode will totally shift your approach to everyday family squabbles. Get ready to take some notes!

'Even irrational people are predictable. Every human being acts in patterns.'—Chris Voss @vossnegotiation #men #negotiation #leadership #emotionalintelligence Click To Tweet

Chris Voss’s Story

Chris Voss planned on being on the SWAT team, but he injured his knee and had to find a new career path. His application to become a negotiator was rejected at first, but he was determined to get the job. He began his training process and acquired most of his experience working a suicide hotline. Chris says that the suicide hotline was an in-depth course on emotional intelligence. He learned how to deal with irrational people and keep himself from getting emotionally engaged. He ended up becoming the lead hostage negotiator for the Federal Bureau of Investigation and has worked 150 incidents internationally.

The secret to negotiations is exhausting the other side. @vossnegotiation #dads #men #fathers #parenting Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • The voice technique Chris uses to calm both himself and his subject down
  • The state of ‘flow’ and the brain chemicals it releases
  • Why gratitude is crucial to flow
  • Why flow is more important than physical capability
  • The neuroscience behind smiling and your mood
  • How to use flow to become a better father
  • How to wear your kids out mentally
  • How to plant images into your kid’s brain
  • How to use ‘mirroring’ to exhaust kids
  • How to negotiate with your kids to force them to think critically
  • How to remove triggers to losing your temper in discussions with your kids
  • How to build new neural pathways by ‘mirroring’
  • Beginning with low-stakes conversations
  • How to use ‘how’ and ‘what’ questions to encourage kids to start making decisions for themselves
  • Chris Voss’s greatest lessons as a father
  • His advice to married men!

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Traits of a Warrior - The Soft Traits

12 Traits of a Warrior Part II: The Soft Traits


Last month, former Navy SEAL Chris Sajnog told us about the hard traits of a warrior. They are the qualities we most often associate with elite teams like confidence and aggressiveness. Chris also warned us that too much focus on the hard traits leads to an imbalance that can cause all kinds of problems, including post traumatic stress.

Today, he tells us about the six soft traits of a warrior and how we can develop these traits for rapid learning, improved relationships, and better peace of mind. He also talks about how these traits can make us a better dad.

'If you get down to an emotional level with anything you want to learn or do in life, the more likely you are to get up in the morning and pursue that dream.'- @ChrisSajnog #motivation #success #learning #mindset Click To Tweet

'Learning is changing your mind. The only way to learn something new, is to change the beliefs that you had before.'- @ChrisSajnog #learning #humility #dads #men #fathers Click To Tweet

Chris Sajnog

For those of you who don’t know, Chris Sajnog is one the most elite Navy SEAL snipers in the world and the bestselling author of ‘How to Shoot Like Navy SEAL’ and ‘Navy SEAL Shooting’.

As a shooting instructor, Chris noticed how people who were trained in the military learned so much more quickly than civilians. He realized that it was their warrior mindset that gave them the edge and that in order for his civilian students to learn how to shoot, he needed to make them better at learning and dealing with anything. This led him to develop The 12 Traits of a Warrior.

What You’ll Learn

  • What are the soft traits and why we need to learn them
  • The amazing benefits of meditation
  • How to start practicing meditation
  • What his son said to him that made him change is mind about reenlisting for a 250K bonus
  • How he is technically 100% handicapped
  • How you’re training your body to be in pain
  • How to use your mind to relieve pain
  • Why patience is important to living like a warrior
  • How meditation improves patience
  • How humility speeds up learning
  • How loyalty keeps us in the right track, especially loyalty to yourself
  • How an imbalance of the hard traits can lead to terrorism
  • His new work with Deepak Chopra
'Whatever your loyalty is, you have to stick to that. It's so easy to live your life when you have this compass that's always pointing you in the right direction.' - @ChrisSajnog #dads #fathers #men #warriors Click To Tweet

LISTEN TO 12 TRAITS OF A WARRIOR PART I: THE HARD TRAITS

The 12 Traits of a Warrior Part 1: The Hard Traits with Chris Sajnog

 

RELATED EPISODES:

Dad Edge Alliance Q&A: Allowing Your Kids to Have Their Feelings with Chris Sajnog

Leading Our Family With Confidence with Chris Sajnog

 

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