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Embracing the Parenting Journey

Embracing the Parenting Journey

As men, we often feel alone on our journeys—especially when it comes to parenting. Today’s guest is Dad Edge Alliance member, Simon. He talks about how when his wife got pregnant he didn’t want to have a boy because it would force him to confront issues he didn’t want to deal with. The thought of becoming a parent baffled him, but once his son was born he realized that shedding his former self and embracing the parenting journey came naturally.

#ParentingTip: 'Drop all resistance. If you embrace it, it’s beautiful. If you resist it, it’s hard.'—Simon, Dad Edge Alliance member #dads #men #fathers #fatherhood #dadlife #newdads Click To Tweet

 

MENTIONED EPISODE:

Giving Yourself Grace During the Holidays

 


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The Dangers of Perfection

The Dangers of Perfection


Do you go at life alone? If you’re like 99% of the men out there, you probably are. Most men bear the weight of the world on their shoulders and tell everyone who asks that they’re “good” and “fine”. They don’t want to ask for advice or help because their afraid of looking weak.

But the dangers of perfection are real and the stress that accumulates from internalizing our fears and worries seeps into everything we do as men, husbands, and fathers.

Thursday Throwdown is our short show with everyday, relatable dads. Today we have Dad Edge Alliance member Brian Auten on to share his experience.

Being raised in a church, Brian was taught that he was supposed to be a good boy, the nice guy who took everything with a smile. It was important to not have any issues and to maintain the appearance of perfection, but the truth was that he was living a lie. Brian did get angry about things. He did have stress and worries. He realized that he didn’t have the perfect marriage, and he wasn’t the perfect dad either.

He decided that enough was enough. Holding in negative emotions put him in a bad mood with his wife and kids. Pretending everything was okay made his life stagnant. He needed help, and he needed to be proactive about getting it.

'I’m not going to tolerate crap in my life anymore.'—Brian Auten, The Dad Edge Alliance #men #dads #fathers #brotherhood #ownership #tribe Click To Tweet

'It’s like priming the pump. If you give a little, you realize there’s a lot more inside you to give.'—Brian Auten, The Dad Edge Alliance #mastermind #men #manhood #brotherhood Click To Tweet

 

MENTIONED EPISODES: 
How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Showing Leadership to Your Kids by Going First

7 Reasons Why Men Don’t Ask for Help

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Making Moments for Your Family with Jon Vroman

Making Moments for Your Family with Jon Vroman

We never know how many moments we have left. This is why we shouldn’t wait for special moments to spontaneously happen. It’s our responsibility as dads to create moments that enrich our lives and add to our family histories.

Motivational Speaker, Coach, and Author Jon Vroman is back on the show. He is here to tell us all about hope, celebration, and living in the moment. He also tells us how to prevent ourselves from projecting limiting beliefs on our kids, how to honor what’s in our hearts, and how to take a front row seat in our lives!

'You can learn a lot about living life from people who are fighting for it.' - @jonvroman #gratitude #livinginthemoment #dads #men #fathers #family #lifeanddeath Click To Tweet

Jon Vroman’s Story

Jon grew up with two great parents. His dad was a Navy captain who worked hard all his life and taught Jon integrity, discipline, and focus. His mom worked with special ed. kids until she became a stay-at-home mom. They moved around frequently and that is how Jon fell in love with adventure, travel, and meeting new people.

It’s hard to believe, but Jon was a small kid and got bullied in high school. In Sophomore year, he was told by a doctor that he had the body of a 9-year-old. He eventually received growth hormone treatment and became the strong man he is today. Even though it was a tough experience, Jon says it’s how he learned to care for people. This is why he focuses on loving people and lifting them up. He wants them to feel significant, validated, and celebrated.

Even as a young man, Jon realized he was lacking community. Then he started selling knives at 18 years old with Cutco Cutlery. This summer job turned into a 14-year career and the company became the community he always wanted and needed. His best friends are from the same group, some of whom have been on this show. Eventually he learned what he needed to know to become an entrepreneur. Now he speaks, writes books, and helps people live in the front row.

'I used to be a business man with a family. Now I’m a family man with a business.' - @jonvroman #dads #men #fathers #family Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • How easy it is to limit our children with our own fears
  • How we treat people and our children as who they were in the past instead of the now
  • How to make decisions for your kids with certainty
  • How to live life honoring your heart
  • How to transform your life with the magic of moment-making
  • Why it’s our responsibility as dads to make moment for our families
  • How to become not only moment-makers for our families, but for other people’s kids and families
  • How Jon Vroman’s charity helps individuals and families who are braving critical health challenges to “live life in the front row”
  • How working with people facing death has allowed him to live more fully
  • The difference between hope and wishful thinking
  • The importance of everyday celebrations
  • How to create anticipation
  • How to navigate the past, present, and future moments
  • How to make the most of your seat in life
'We write the story. We create the moments.' - @jonvroman #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #dads #men #fathers Click To Tweet

RELATED EPISODE:

Uncover Your Front Row Factor in Your Relationships, Career, and Life

The Art of Giftology: Energize Your Business and Personal Life With Strategic Gifts with John Ruhlin

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'We fall victim to treating people like we've remembered them, and that's their old story. That's their old identity, not who they've involved into.' - @jonvroman #dads #men #fathers #manhood #dadlife #parenting Click To Tweet

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How to Raise Mentally Strong Kids with Amy Morin

Mental strength is something most of us struggle with. Dealing with grief, fear, and disappointment is a constant challenge for adults. Children have even more difficulty navigating uncomfortable feelings. How can we raise mentally strong kids?

Today’s guest is Amy Morin, the bestselling author of the book called 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do. She is a psychotherapist, writer, and TEDx speaker. She is here to tell us how to become mentally strong parents so we can raise self-assured kids who are primed for happiness and success.

This show is full of incredible insights that will change the lives of adults and children. Save it, because you’ll want to listen to it more than once.

'Our tendency is to go around uncomfortable feelings instead of through them.' – @AmyMorinLCSW #parenting #dads #fathers #kids #children Click To Tweet

Amy Morin

Amy Morin recorded this episode from her boat which she has been living on for 2 years. From there she works on her computer writing articles and doing interviews. Amy Morin wrote a list called 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. This article went viral with more than 50 million readers. She wrote a book based on that list and wrote a second book especially for parents.

As a therapist, Amy’s goal was always to teach other people how to be mentally strong, but shortly after she began her work, her mother passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm at the age of fifty-one. This was Amy’s first big loss and she didn’t know how to cope. She saw people who went through loss in her office and they were still not over it even decades later. She knew she had to figure out how to get through it and emerge stronger than she was before. She accomplished this by turning her grief into a learning experience.

Just when she was getting a handle on her life again, her husband passed away on the anniversary of her mom’s death. He was twenty-six. To say it was painful is an understatement. She lost her partner and all the goals and dreams they had together. They had been foster parents and she wondered if she could continue as a single woman. It took a long time before she felt better and reestablished a new since of normal.

Four years later she found love again. She got married, sold her house, and got a new job. Her new husband joined her a as a foster parent. Things seemed to finally be looking up, but shortly after that, her father-in-law was diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Amy was beginning to feel like life was unfair.

She knew it wasn’t helpful to think like this. It wasn’t what mentally strong people do, so she wrote a list if all the things she could think of that mentally strong people don’t do. It turned out to be thirteen key things and she published the list online. The response was incredible. No one knew the tragic story behind why she created it.

Everyone assumed I mastered the list, but I struggled with it.

'We develop core beliefs about life when we're little kids, and as we grow older some of those beliefs don't serve us very well, but it's so hard to unlearn the things that you know.' – @AmyMorinLCSW #parenting #personalgrowth… Click To Tweet

What you’ll learn

  • An in-depth look at the 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t D0
    • They Don’t Condone a Victim Mentality
    • They Don’t Parent Out Of Guilt
    • They Don’t Make Their Child The Center Of The Universe
    • They Don’t Allow Fear To Dictate Their Choices
    • They Don’t Give Their Child Power Over Them
    • They Don’t Expect Perfection
    • They Don’t Let Their Child Avoid Responsibility
    • They Don’t Shield Their Child From Pain
    • They Don’t Feel Responsible For Their Child’s Emotions
    • They Don’t Prevent Their Child From Making Mistakes
    • They Don’t Confuse Discipline With Punishment
    • They Don’t Take Shortcuts To Avoid Discomfort
    • They Don’t Lose Sight Of Their Values
  • Why Amy decided to write a list of what mentally strong parents don’t do instead of what they do
  • What is a ‘calm down kit’ and how to create one
  • How getting kids involved in making the world a better place helps get them out of the victim mentality
  • What not to do when your kid says ‘I hate you!’
  • Why you must allow your kids to feel their emotions
  • How to give your kids firsthand practice on managing their feelings
  • How a child’s anxiety is reduced when the parent is a solid leader
  • How to empower kids without giving them too much power
  • How kids learn when they watch how parents deal with their own uncomfortable feelings
  • Amy’s parting wisdom on how to be a better parent

'Ask yourself what life lessons do I want my kids to learn, and do my priorities reflect my values?' @AmyMorinLCSW #parenting #values #raisingchildren Click To Tweet

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'You want kids to arrive at their own conclusions rather than us always telling them 'no don't think that way.'' – @AmyMorinLCSW #parenting #parentingtips #dads #moms Click To Tweet

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parenting adhd kids

Strategy Guide for Parenting ADHD Kids with Brian King

The diagnoses of kids with ADHD is at an all-time high. How do we raise them the best we possibly can so they can be the best versions of who they’re meant to be? Author, speaker, and parenting coach Brian King is here to give us a workable strategy guide for parenting ADHD kids.

Adults and children with ADHD think very differently, but as we discovered in the episode with Peter Shankman, this can be leveraged into a superpower. But what if you’re the parent of an ADHD child? The epidemic is growing past the resources parents have to educate themselves and cope.

Brian King

Brain King suffers from ADHD and dyslexia. He also has three boys who have ADHD and Asperger’s Syndrome, a form of autism. But he doesn’t feel sorry for himself or his family. Brian King’s core beliefs are to be resilient in every situation. He had experienced times of fear and helplessness, like cancer and divorce. Working through these obstacles made him determined to always be solution-focused and to see the opportunity in every adversity. Even today, after being diagnosed with a genetic connective tissue disorder, and discovering two of his sons inherited it too, Brian remains optimistic and open to learning.

See every thing as a teacher.

Unless you suffer from ADHD, it’s difficult to understand why a child simply can’t focus. There are different neural pathways involved in attention. It is believed that the release of dopamine allows a person to concentrate on the things that interest him. An imbalance of the brain chemistry is what prevents those who have ADHD from being able to focus. Most medications to treat ADHD are used to keep dopamine levels at optimum levels.

Brian King  says there are three factors he notices most in an ADHD family.

  1. Reactivity – ADHD kids are emotionally sensitive. This leads to bigger tantrums. Parents react to their child’s reactivity, compounding the problem.
  2. Incredible disorganization – Another common trait among ADHD children is disorganization. They have trouble following directions to clean up and organize, even when they’ve been told repeatedly.
  3. Parents’ Guilt – Many parents feel guilty for not being able to succeed on parenting their ADHD child on their own. The feel they’re supposed to be perfect and should not need to ask for help.

School and ADHD Kids

Most parents’ first concern is how can they get their kids to do better in school. Brian Kings says parents must look for clues as to why their kids might be resisting school. Are they being discouraged? Are they being embarrassed? Are they misunderstood?

There needs to be an alliance formed with the teacher.

Brain suggests creating a one sheet that lists what your child likes or dislikes. What frustrates him? What strategies have helped him in the past? Get the email address for every teacher your kid has and send them a copy. Let the teachers know that you will not be left out and that you will make sure that they have the resources they need to succeed. Instead of waiting till later in the school year when things start going wrong, be proactive.

Emotionally Supporting ADHD Kids

Brian King says that every parent must learn how to be mindful. When you’re mindful, you are aware of the present moment with your child. You leave the baggage from your own childhood behind and you can be in touch with your own thoughts and emotions without letting them overrule you. Then you’re in a place to choose a response. This gives your kids the space to do the same. They feel like they’re at home and safe in their own brain.

Brian King’s Dad Wisdom

Brian’s wisdom to others dads:

Always remember that we are in this together.

He says that nothing you’re experiencing is an isolated case or a new problem. Others have gone through it before you and are happy to pay it forward. Surround yourself with good dads. Humble yourself, and reach out for help.

Mentioned episodes:

How to Unlock ADHD Superpowers with Peter Shankman

Defying the Odds To Win at Life, Work, and Fatherhood with Brian King


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