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Chris Sajnog

Leading Our Family With Confidence with Chris Sajnog

Chris Sajnog, retired Navy Seal Sniper and father, comes on teh GDP and talks about lessons learned in the Seal Teams and how it relates to fathers and family.

There are always choices in every moment in our lives. Even when we think we don’t have a choice, we are always responsible for our response. Chris Sajnog, father, husband, former Navy SEAL, author and trainer shows the GDP what it takes to face those choices as our best self.

Chris Sajnog Background and Life

Chris comes from a struggling upbringing, but took those struggles and turned them into a successful life. Overcoming great adversity, Chris has developed a program that motivates individuals and teams to become their best versions. As a father, Chris inspires kids, including his own, to take responsibility for their own actions, through TEAM: Take responsibility, Encourage others, Ask for help, and Master yourself.

Taking Responsibility

It’s not always easy to do; owning our failures is hard. Not owning them, however, doesn’t teach us how to better ourselves. Instead, avoiding ownership simply delays the high probability we will make the same mistake in the future.

Encourage Others

When we help others to nurture their own talents, we are helping the greater cause. Each of us has skills and gifts that support each other; not one of us is completely equipped to handle it all. Encouraging others while sharpening our own talents strengthens the individual while providing a stronger outcome in any situation.

Ask For Help

It’s hard, but necessary. Swallowing your pride to ask when you need a hand shows that you have faith in others and are confident enough in yourself to know when you need an extra hand. Asking for help also helps to avoid embarrassing pitfalls when it’s clear you would have benefitted from another.

Master Yourself

This is critical. When we have a grip on our strengths, weaknesses and emotions, we can handle pretty much anything. When we don’t really know our true limits or how to control ourselves, our world can spiral out of control.

TEAM is not only critical for ourselves, but for those around us. As always, being the model for our children is the best way to teach them how to be their best selves.

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Eric Davis Raising Men

Eric Davis on Leading from the Front.

At the GDP, we’ve had story after story of men overcoming numerous challenges, only to become stronger men and better fathers. Through all of these stories, the common thread is grit and determination. In this episode, we talk with Eric Davis, Navy SEAL and author of Raising Men, continues this trend and brings a fresh perspective on how to become the best version of yourself as a father.

Eric Davis on the Seal Way of Life

Eric explains how the principles from his SEAL training gave him the keys to be the best father he can be. As observers, we, as the general public, see images of SEALs in film or TV, we are only exposed to the exciting and heroic moments. What isn’t revealed, Eric says, is dealing with the times when he has to be away on deployment, no phone calls, no contact with family. It takes a certain discipline, on his behalf and that of his family, to deal with those times.

Embrace Failure

One of the principles Eric Davis uses is to embrace failure. This seems counterintuitive for a SEAL, but it is exactly what they do. Instead of sulking over a loss or failed mission, they look at what they can learn from it and move on (sound familiar? Attitude of gratitude?). Apply this to your life: we aren’t perfect as humans-we will make mistakes. So, what better lesson to teach our kids when life does not go as planned, to take the failure and deliberately turn it in to a lesson on how to approach similar future situations.

Eric Davis on Leading from the Front

Be a winner. Eric says that in the SEALs, when they are training there are multiple drills run. They compete against each other, even in training, and when they don’t complete first or second, they are made to continue the grueling workout. So why don’t we do the same with ourselves? In other words, continue to improve. This way, when our kids see ourselves continuing to strive for our best selves, they will do the same.

Take Care of YOU

It’s ok to focus on you. Too many times as dads, we are driven to continue to provide for our families, often to our own detriment. And what does that teach our kids? That life is over when you have a family? As men, we still need to feed our own needs for self-care and strong friendships. It’s the common scenario of making sure you take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else.

It doesn’t take Navy SEAL training to be a great dad; it takes the drive and desire to want to better yourself on a daily basis. It takes showing up for your kids on your toughest days.

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Mark Divine

How To Create An Unbeatable Mind with Navy Seal Mark Divine – GDP028

Episode Overview

“Movies do no justice to Seal Training.  There is no amount of grimaces that can capture the emotional and mental trauma that Seal Training puts you through.” – Mark Divine

We had the honor and privilege of having Navy Seal and NY Times Best Selling Author, Mark Divine come on our show.  Mark has two New York Times Best Sellers, “Unbeatable Mind” and “The Way of the Seal.”  He has such an amazing background and one that is different from any other.

Key Takeaways

  • How to develop an unbeatable mind and forge mental toughness
  • Discover how to “witness” negative thoughts and feelings
  • Uncover ways to relieve stress and anxiety through proper breathing
  • Learn how breathing is our most important fuel source
  • Learn about the “5 Mountains of Character” (Emotional, Spiritual, Intellectual, Physical, and Intuition)
  • Discover how developing an unbeatable mind will improve all aspects of fatherhood

About Mark Divine

Mark Divine

Mark Divine is a highly sought after speaker, coach, author and makes frequent media appearances to discuss Seal way of life.

He is from upstate New York with a degree in economics from Colgate University and an MBA in Finance from New York University Stern School of Business. Mark’s first career was with Coopers & Lybrand (now PriceWaterhouse Coopers) as a Certified Public Accountant..

Four years after being with Coopers, Mark left behind the corporate world to pursue his vision to become an elite Navy SEAL officer. At 26 he graduated as honor-man (#1 ranked trainee) of his SEAL BUD/s class number 170. Mark served for nine years total on Active Duty and eleven as a Reserve SEAL, retiring as Commander in 2011.

Mark embarked on his third career as an entrepreneur in 1996 by co-founding the successful Coronado Brewing Company (CBC) and founding the web e-commerce site www.NavySEALs.com. He later sold his interest in CBC, but continues to run NavySEALs.com as the leading web site for gear and information about the SEALs. In 2006 he launched US Tactical, a government contracting business where he gained contracts with Naval Special Warfare Group ONE for training support and with the Navy Recruiting Command for a nationwide mentoring program for SEAL trainees. This latter program was credited with increasing the quality of Navy SEAL candidates and reducing the attrition rate at BUD/s by up to 5% and was the inspiration for SEALFIT.

Mark Divine’s Unbeatable Mind and Fatherhood Connection

In this episode, Mark gives several examples of improving our fatherhood journey by forging mental toughness.

Proper Breathing will drastically help you reduce stress in every area of your life.  The average person takes 16-20 breaths per minute and breathe from their mouth.   These short breaths result in higher stress levels, reduced levels of energy, and higher levels of anxiety.  Breathing completely through the nose and with our diaphragms results in a full breath and utilization of 50% more lung capacity.  Proper breathing also results in more energy and less anxiety.  In the show, Mark explains the exact physiology behind proper breathing and exactly what it does.

Developing an Unbeatable Mind Through the Five Mountains of Character

In this episode, Mark talks about how we develop “the five mountains of character” to forge an unbeatable mind and mental toughness.

Physical:  Mark talks about the importance of taking care of our bodies physically and how we become better fathers if we take time every day for physical activity.

Spiritual:  Gaining clarity of why we are on this earth and following through on our commitments no matter what.

Emotional:  Mark explains why emotions are nothing more than a “felt thought” and how we can purposefully reduce negative thoughts, stress, and anxiety.

Mental:  developing mental toughness and a resilient character

Intuition:  Learning how to feel and sense things before they actually happen

Mark Divine on Developing an Unbeatable Mind by “Feeding the Courage Wolf”

In this episode, Mark goes into a ton of detail of how we can feed our confidence and positivity.  He also goes over a 4 step process to handle any difficult or stressful situation (kids acting out or stressful situation at work).

  1. Breathe:  Three full breaths (4 seconds in and 4 seconds out) through the nose.
  2. Take action you’re your initial “reactionary thoughts.”
  3. Maintain an internal positive mantra
  4. Decide on the next action step that will lead to success or victory.

Final Thoughts on Developing an Unbeatable Mind and How to be a Good Dad:

“One of the hardest leadership domains is parenting.  If you can master parenting, you can be a leader in any aspect of your life.” – Mark Divine

“One day, one life.” – Mark Divine

Mark concludes our interview with the above 2 quotes.  He explains that he lives by the quote “One day, one life.”  This means if today was your last day on earth, how would you live your life?  He explains that we literally need to live our lives like it is our last day, because realistically, there is always a possibility that it could be.  Be prepared to win the day every day.

Episode links mentioned in this show:

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