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The 12 Traits of a Warrior Part 1: The Hard Traits with Chris Sajnog


As men, we do battle every single day. Not only are we fighting to maintain and grow our careers, finances, and family, we fight an internal battle at all times. We have to deal with negative self-talk, bad habits, and anxiety. It’s not to say that life is always a warzone, but it can be challenging, and we can be prepared to face the challenges with a warrior’s skillset.

Chris Sajnog is a Navy SEAL sniper and our third more popular all-time former guest. He is back to teach us how master our thoughts and emotions, become solid leaders, and raise strong children by adopting the Twelve Traits of a Warrior. In this first part of a two-part series, we discuss the six ‘Hard Traits.’

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Chris Sajnog

Chris Sajnog is one the most elite Navy SEAL snipers in the world and the bestselling author of ‘How to Shoot Like Navy SEAL’ and ‘Navy SEAL Shooting’. He is on a mission to help men develop The 12 Traits of the Warrior in order to live a more balanced life. The hard traits are:

  1. Confidence
  2. Strength
  3. Aggressiveness
  4. Discipline
  5. Being Active
  6. Bravery
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What You’ll Learn

  • How he teaches snipers
  • Why a warrior is able to learn and become great at whatever they want to do
  • How a civilian can learn the warrior mindset to learn and improve more quickly
  • What are the hard traits and why we need them
  • What are the soft traits and how do they balance the hard traits
  • What happens when someone is out of balance
  • How these traits affect PTSD
  • How to go from the mentality of an ordinary dad and worker to the mentality of a warrior
  • How warrior traits can be applied to everyday life
  • How to grow a set of N.U.T.S. (non-negotiable unalterable terms)
  • Why waiting for a situation to happen to decide how you’re going to react is a mistake
  • How to decide in advance how you will respond
  • How to feel confident doing something you’ve never done before
  • Why mental strength is superior to physical strength
  • Why being aggressive is necessary
  • Why constantly taking action is crucial to keep moving forward
  • What bravery really means
  • How to teach our kids warrior qualities
  • Why you should let your kids fight and wrestle
  • How to show your children the rewards of being disciplined
  • How to make your kids aware of the consequences of their own choices

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How to Commit to Life Goals

How to Commit to Life Goals the Navy SEAL Way with Thom Shea

Often when we confront obstacles – whether in work or at home – we want the map. We want the “how-to guide” to solving the problem. Today we have former Navy SEAL and author of Unbreakable: A Navy SEAL’s Way of Life, Thom Shea, to tell us why searching for the how-to is a waste of time and how to commit to our goals the Navy SEAL way.

Buckle your seatbelts, tie your shoes, because you’re really going to enjoy this show!

Thom Shea

Thom says he had a great childhood in southeast Indiana at a time when kids could do anything. He didn’t come from wealth, so if he wanted something he had to go out and get it, and he did.

At 10 years old, he had his own trap line to catch raccoons, muskrat, and other game. He kept a gun in his car and a knife on his hip. Now parents will get arrested for allowing their kids to carry weapons, but his parents were the best in the world. They told him, “As long as you can earn it, we endorse it.” This mentality took him all the way West Point and the SEAL teams. As long as he could accomplish it, they were supportive.

Of course, good support didn’t mean they agreed with his choices. They didn’t want him to go into SEAL teams. They were afraid of him being sent to war and getting killed. But, as a young man, he told them they could either support him or he wouldn’t come home. Now that Thom is a dad himself, he draws on that experience to inform his own parenting.

Your kids are going to do what they’re wanting to do. Keep encouraging them to be bold and brave. Say yes, instead of no.

Thom Shea has been married to his current wife of almost 13 years, Stacy. They have a boy named Chance who is going on eleven years old.  Thom also has two children from his first marriage, a seventeen-year-old son and a twenty-year-old daughter who is now attending West Point.

Thom said there is a huge difference between his first and second marriage. When Stacy came into their lives, everything changed. They all became better people.

If the woman is fully engaged as a mom, the kid flourishes. When the mom is checked out, the kid is checked out.

Thom says the are straightforward in their home life and that it’s the small things that keep the family together. They are physical and cuddly. His kids see mom and dad being affectionate. They eat as many family meals together as they can. They embrace failure because they know it’s the only way to learn and grow.

We love people making mistakes around here.

On Failure

Thom knows a lot about failure. He had to run home with his tail between his legs after flunking out of West Point. Then he had to endure BUD/s training five times in order to become a SEAL. He didn’t even know how to swim when he first signed up, but he didn’t bother on how to become a SEAL, he decided that a SEAL was who he was and committed to it until he succeeded.

Thom Shea says it’s never a matter of how-to. That’s not the place to look for the answer. The first place to look is at who you are is a human being. Being a dad is one of those challenges. When you become a dad, that is who you are and you must decide to commit to it. That means committing to your health, your business, your wife, and your spirituality.

It’s who you are and what you do. “How to” is tertiary.

Unbreakable

During deployment in Afghanistan, Thom didn’t know if he’d ever make it home alive. Each day, he wrote notes on what he was going through and what life lessons it taught him. At the end of a 6-month deployment, he had thirteen unbreakable lessons to share with his children.

After he came home, what would be a book sat on the shelf. His wife Stacy told him that she wanted him to complete the manuscript to print out five copies for immediate family. He organized his experiences and the lessons they taught him in a linear fashion and printed the first version.

They released it on Amazon and the book struck a chord with readers. It was soon picked up by a publisher and has been doing well ever since. Thom put the lessons online so every person can go through a guided process of the thirteen lessons outlined in Unbreakable. He also developed a course especially for executives.

Dad Advice

Thom Shea has a wealth of life-changing advice for men and dads, but his top words of wisdom are these:

  • Honor your word. Honor the fact that what comes out of your mouth is the most powerful thing you can give people.
  • Face everything that you’re afraid. Go do it.
  • Push beyond your self-imposed limitations and do it often.
  • Find love. Find a way to have love for the people in your life. Be one with the people around you and do it often.

 

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Why Finding Your Life’s Purpose Won’t Get You Very Far

Everyone on the internet seems to be talking about finding your life’s purpose, or finding your why. Your why is supposed to be your moral compass. It keeps you motivated and on track, but today we’re going to totally deconstruct that idea.

I have a clip from a guest speaker we had in our Dad Edge Alliance, Thom Shea. He’s a retired navy SEAL instructor and author of the book Unbreakable: A Navy SEAL’s Way of Life. Tom gives us examples of why finding your life’s purpose won’t get you very far and what you need to work on instead.

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Process to Build Unshakable Confidence

The 4-Step Process to Build Unshakable Confidence

In this episode of Thursday Throwdown, I’m going to share with you some very powerful information from former Navy SEAL Larry Yatch and outline his 4-step process to build unshakable confidence in every aspect of your life. You don’t want to miss this short, simple, yet life-changing podcast.

Mentioned Episodes:

How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

How to Instill the Growth Mindset in Your Kids with Larry Yatch

Secrets of the Navy SEAL Mindset: Courage, Confidence, Perseverance and Resilience

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How to Instill the Growth Mindset in Your Kids with Larry Yatch

Larry Yatch from the SEALed Mindset is back to share some mind-blowing insights on how to make our families work as high-functioning teams, how to instill the growth mindset in our kids, and how to persevere and show courage in the face of fear.

The SEALED MINDSET

The Navy SEALs are the most elite warriors on the planet. Larry Yatch and his partner, Eric Davis, worked together as SEALs and they now teach the SEALed Mindset proven performance principles. Larry is experienced with managing high-performing individuals and building high-functioning teams. He believes the most important team you’re on is your family.

What is a team?

SEALs couldn’t do anything without their team. It takes a whole group of people to help them accomplish their goals. When you’re in the SEALs it’s crucial that every team member does their part because your competition is trying to kill you. Imagine if one person slacks off for the day. The consequences could be deadly.

The same holds true in work and family. Whether we are aware of it or not, we are on several teams, in order to be a good team player we must first identify the teams we’re on.

A team must have:

  1. Common background of experience – Team members need to speak the same language so they can communicate.
  2. Common concerns and obligations – Team members must be worried about the same issues, or share issues that nest.
  3. The same future goal – All must want to achieve the desired end-state.

When a member of family doesn’t have one of these 3 things, the family becomes dysfunctional.

How to incorporate teams in family lives?

In a high-functioning team, everyone has to have the same definitions and expectations of the roles on the team. Just like in football and other sports, each player has a specific role. They know what they are supposed to and execute their job to the best of their ability. This allows the other team members to focus on their own duties.

The three functions of members in a family team or spousal unit are leading, managing, following. The leader calls the shots, the manager creates an environment in which the leader can successfully lead, and the followers execute the leader’s plan. This acceptance of team roles helps avoid family conflict and ensures goals are accomplished efficiently.

What is fixed versus growth mindset?

Our subconscious mind processes information exponentially faster than the conscious mind, and our mindset is the filter between conscious and subconscious. If we have a bad mindset, we’ll react to our environment with our ego and in a fearful way. If we have a good mindset, we will respond with confidence, perseverance, and responsibility.

A person with a fixed mindset believes their skills and intelligence are limited, and therefore fear failure and avoid challenges. A person with a growth mindset knows their skills and intelligence can grow as long as they work hard and don’t allow fear hold them back. They rise to challenges, learn from failure, and persevere until they succeed.

The fixed mindset doesn’t have to stay fixed.

The good news is that our mindset is not permanent. It is a habit of thinking and reacting, not a physiological trait. We can change the way we operate. However, if we’ve been using a fixed mindset since our childhood, it will take a long time and a great effort to change.

How can we instill a growth mindset in our kids?

Many of us have unknowingly brought our kids up with the same fixed mindset we were raised with. When kids are told they are good at a sport or smart at a subject, they expect to accomplish everything with ease. When they run into a challenging situation, they feel fear and shame. If the task wasn’t easy for them, they think they are a failure. Their ego can’t handle it. In the future, they will avoid challenges or quit soon after undertaking them to avoid failing again.

Children with a growth mindset are praised for their hard work and effort. Instead of believing they’re simply “good” at something and that there is nothing beyond that, they know that as long as they keep working hard, they can keep getting better. Instead of avoiding difficulties, challenges, and criticism, they turn them into opportunities to learn.

Amazingly, it only takes a changing a few words when you’re praising your children to begin to change the mindset. Stop telling them they are “good” or “smart” and start telling them what a great effort they put in and how courageous they were to try their best in the face of fear and failure.

Stop rewarding the result. Reward the hard work.

 

Referenced Episode: Secrets of the Navy SEAL Mindset: Courage, Confidence, Perseverance and Resilience

 

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