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TRANSFORMED: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey to Defying All Odds

TRANSFORMED: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey to Defying All Odds with Remi Adeleke


Today we have a story unlike anything you’ve ever heard before. Remi Adeleke is a former Navy SEAL, actor, entrepreneur, author, husband and dad. These are huge accomplishments for any man, but once you learn about Remi’s background, you will be astounded.

Beginning life as a son in a wealthy, royal Nigerian family and almost ending as a drug dealer in The Bronx, Remi Adeleke’s defining moment was his father’s death when he was five years old. Raised by his single mom, Remi was cast into poverty and turned to crime to fill the void of male leadership.

Remi talks about how growing up without a father impacted his journey and how he is is living proof that even when things seem hopeless, it’s possible to transform and live a life beyond imagining.

“Every boy is instinctively looking for father—to affirm us, to guide us, to teach us.” Remi Adeleke

Remi Adeleke

Remi was born into riches and wealth. His dad was the firstborn son of a Yoruba chief who had nine wives. His father went on to study in London and became a well-known engineer and entrepreneur in Nigeria. His biggest project was one of the first manmade islands in the world, now known as Banana Island. In 1987, the corrupt Nigerian government stripped his father of the island, robbing him of his largest investment. Shortly after that, his father died. Remi was so young that he didn’t comprehend his father’s death or the impact it would make in his life.

Remi’s American mother brought him and his brother to the US to settle in The Bronx, NY. As they struggled to get by, Remi finally felt the void left by his father’s death. The icons of the hip-hop culture and street lifestyle became Remi’s father figures, and he worked his way from petty stealing to running high level scams that could’ve landed him in federal prison.

After a drug-related death threat, Remi realized he wasn’t going anywhere and decided to act on a long-buried childhood dream of becoming a hero. He went directly to a recruiter’s office where a series of fortunate events led him to his chance of becoming a Navy SEAL.

After the birth of his sons, Remi chose to leave his military career. He knew how deeply his father’s death affected him, and he didn’t want to do that to his family. From there, he pursued a career in speaking and acting.

Remi holds a BS in organizational leadership and a MS in strategic leadership, both from the University of Charleston West Virginia. He now resides in Southern California with his wife, Jessica, and his sons. He wrote his book, Transformed, to show disadvantaged kids and adults that they are capable of defying all odds.

Transformed: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey from the Throne of Africa, to the Streets of the Bronx, to Defying All Odds

What are the odds? Statistics tell us that African American males who grow up in a single-parent household are nine times more likely to drop out of high school and twenty times more likely to end up in prison than any other demographic. But what would it take for one young man not only to rise above those statistics but also become a Navy SEAL, actor, entrepreneur, writer, and successful husband and father?

What You’ll Learn

  • How Remi associated everything with the absence of his father
  • How he attributed his survival in the crime life to his dad
  • The positive African American role models in movies who planted the seed in Remi’s mind that he could become a hero too
  • The moment of clarity that brought him to the Navy SEALs
  • His multiple failures during BUDs training
  • The secret to perseverance: having a deep-rooted emotional reason why he is doing what he is doing
  • How superficial reasons turn adversity into a bad idea, giving you excuses to start looking for a plan B
  • The inspiration and purpose of his book, Transformed
  • The unique challenges of writing a book
  • What Remi feels is most important about his role as a father
  • Remi’s motivation to be a good role model
  • How he wants his kids to honor women and how he’s had to set the example
  • Why love is not just a word, it’s an action.
  • How he knows the massive potential of his kids
  • How much farther he may have come with a father’s guidance
  • Teaching kids to hone their good qualities and exorcise the bad qualities
  • How his military intelligence experience translates to his life
  • Communication tips with his wife
  • His daily physical, mental, and spiritual self-care routine
  • His physical limitations due to injuries and how he gets past them
  • Advice for men who always put themselves last

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Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink


How can we detach from chaos and our emotions so we can make the best decisions in our lives? How do we know when it’s time to lead and time to follow? How do we apply the balance of leadership and detachment to our family and work life to reach a victorious outcome in any situation?

Today we are pumped to have Jocko Willink on the show. He is a former Navy SEAL, powerhouse podcaster, and co-author of The Dichotomy of Leadership: Balancing the Challenges of Extreme Ownership to Lead and Win with our former guest, Leif Babin.

Jocko tells us how to navigate life with a mindset of extreme ownership, humility, and wisdom. He also talks about raising kids with the dichotomy of leadership so that they can become more resilient, independent, and make the smartest choices for themselves.

Your kids are not going to be who you want them to be, they’re going to be who they are.—Jocko Willink

 

Jocko Willink

JOCKO WILLINK is a decorated retired Navy SEAL officer, author of the book Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, and co-founder of Echelon Front, where he is a leadership instructor, speaker, and executive coach.

Jocko spent 20 years in the U.S. Navy SEAL Teams, starting as an enlisted SEAL and rising through the ranks to become a SEAL officer. As commander of SEAL Team Three’s Task Unit Bruiser during the battle of Ramadi, he orchestrated SEAL operations that helped the “Ready First” Brigade of the US Army’s First Armored Division bring stability to the violent, war-torn city.

Task Unit Bruiser became the most highly decorated Special Operations Unit of the Iraq War. Jocko returned from Iraq to serve as Officer-in-Charge of training for all West Coast SEAL Teams. There, he spearheaded the development of leadership training and personally instructed and mentored the next generation of SEAL leaders who have continued to perform with great success on the battlefield.

During his career, Jocko Willink was awarded the Silver Star, the Bronze Star, and numerous other personal and unit awards. In 2010, Jocko retired from the Navy and launched Echelon Front with Leif Babin where he teaches the leadership principles he learned on the battlefield to help others lead and win. Clients include individuals, teams, companies, and organizations across a wide-range of industries and fields.

Jocko Willink had a fairly normal childhood. He grew up in a small new England town and his parents were school teachers. Jocko says he was a rebellious as a kid, and once he grew up, he joined the military to challenge himself and channel his headstrong personality. He chose the SEALs because he, “liked the water and heard it was really hard.”

Jocko is now a family man and has been married to his wife since 1997. He has four children—three daughters aged 19, 18, and 10 and a son who is 16. Jocko applies SEAL experience and leadership training to his household just as thoroughly as he did in the field. His secret is practicing a state of emotional detachment so that temporary feelings do not interfere with executing the best course of action.

When you detach, you make better decisions. You can see more. You’re just an infinitely better human being.—Jocko Willink

What You’ll Learn

  • How Jocko takes charge of his team and family by applying the same tools to both aspects of his life
  • Why it’s critical to distance yourself from chaos, mayhem, and your own emotions in order not to make rash decisions
  • How even though you may know the right course of action for your kids, you shouldn’t force decisions on them
  • Why you must explain to your kids the “why” behind everything you ask them to do and not to do
  • The red flags of emotion that signal it’s time to step back and reflect
  • How to think about the end result and the long game. How does your kid view you? How much leadership capital will you use one small argument? Be strategic.
  • Why yelling is self-defeating. Though there is a temporary outward respect for power, there is an inward disrespect and resentment.
  • Building trust by allowing your kids to execute things on their own
  • How to be realistic and recognize the limitations of your kids
  • How to push your kids beyond their limitations without overwhelming them
  • What happened when Jocko pushed his kids too hard
  • How to constantly modulate to make sure sports are fun
  • How sports and athletics help kids realize that suffering, discipline, and training will bring them fun (wins) and long-term gratification
  • Why specializing in one sport is not as effective as giving them a broad range of athletics
  • How to get your kids off screens and devices
  • The balance of ego and humility in parenting and leadership
  • Jocko’s guidance to his son about getting into fights (it will surprise you)
  • How to assess your kids for confidence, ego, and humility, fear
  • How to encourage low-confidence kids
  • How to humble cocky kids
  • Jocko’s most valuable lessons about marriage
  • Why he says that if you’re annoyed at your partner for something, it’s your fault
  • Why being 100% honest all the time is wrong
  • How to take ownership of what’s going on instead of blaming everyone else
  • How Jocko balances all the demands in his life to show up as the man he wants to be with his family
  • Why it’s not only about how Jocko interacts with his kids, but also about what they see from him
  • Why Jocko’s happy his family doesn’t need him
  • His advice to young SEALs who think about getting out of the military for their family
  • Why he wants his kids to see someone who succeeds from working hard and not because of natural gifts and abilities

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Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

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The Dichotomy of Leadership: Balancing the Challenges of Extreme Ownership to Lead and Win

Way of the Warrior Kid: From Wimpy to Warrior the Navy SEAL Way: A Novel

Marc’s Mission: Way of the Warrior Kid (A Novel)

Way of the Warrior Kid 3: Where there’s a Will… (A Novel)

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Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

What’s the most important quality of a leader? How can we use leadership to become a more effective father, husband, and man? And how can we teach our kids to be responsible and accountable for their actions?

Our guest needs no introduction. Former US Navy seal officer Leif Babin. He coauthored the #1 NY Time bestseller, Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, and The Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink. He is also cofounder of Echelon Front, a premier leadership consulting company that helps others build their own high-performance winning teams.

Leif Babin is going to tell us the most important quality of a leader—whether it’s in SEAL teams or at home—and his answer will surprise you. He’s also going to talk about how he applies combat rules to family life, how to detach from emotions to be more effective, and how to be proactive to find solutions and get things done.

“The most humbling lesson of fatherhood is that your control is quite limited.”—Leif Babin

Leif Babin

Leif Babin served thirteen years in the Navy, including nine in the SEAL Teams. He is the recipient of the Silver Star, two Bronze Stars, and a Purple Heart. He left active duty with the Navy in 2011 to start Echelon Front, which offers unmatched solutions in leadership, strategy, innovation, safety and risk mitigation, team building, and crisis management developed and proven in combat. He’s also the father of two “free-spirited” kids, a four year old son and a two year old daughter. Leif says from the moment they were born, it’s been a clash of wills and he now appreciates what he put his parents through.

“Humility is the most important quality in a leader.”—Leif Babin

What You’ll Learn

  • Why humility is the most important key to leadership
  • Why our ego prevents of from asking for help
  • How our ego makes us complacent and prevents us from innovating and adapting
  • How to do a brutally honest assessment in the mirror to improve and succeed
  • Why fathers must check their ego in conflicts with their kids
  • How to lead and communicate or set a better example for your kids
  • Why Leif says raising kids is harder than leading SEAL teams
  • How fatherhood is like combat leadership
  • Why you’ve got to come up with a flexible plan to adapt and react
  • The greatest lesson for Leif as a husband
  • Using the second law of combat in marriage – communication must be simple, clear, and concise
  • Why an indirect approach is more effective in communication with your wife
  • How Leif leans on his mom, dad, and Jocko Willink
  • Why strong people are the ones who ask for help
  • The cover and move technique – How can I cover my spouse so she can move?
  • Why you shouldn’t wait for you wife to ask for help
  • How day to day family issues are not about you, it’s about the mission
  • How to be proactive in getting things done
  • The mistake of waiting for society to solve your kids’ problems
  • Leif’s thoughts on bullying
  • How to let your kids brush up against the guardrails of failure from a young age
  • How to teach ownership and responsibility
  • To spank or not to spank?
  • Why as a father, it’s not what you preach, it’s what you tolerate
  • The importance of following through with your punishments
  • Setting reasonable expectations for little kids
  • Why constant yelling is ineffective and can be dangerous
  • How to prioritize your discipline and guidance
  • How to build resilience against emotional outbursts
  • How to detach from outcomes, analyze, and make the call on the highest priority action
  • Why Leif and Jocko Willink wrote The Dichotomy of Leadership
  • Leif Babin’s plans for the future for Echelon Front

“If you’re solving all your kids problems, they’re not learning how to solve problems themselves.”—Leif Babin

 


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The Secrets to Achieving Wildly Important Goals with Mark Divine

The Secrets to Achieving Wildly Important Goals with Mark Divine


At the start of the year, we are always thinking about goals like losing extra weight, eating healthier, and managing our finances more efficiently, but what about wildly important goals? Have you ever set a goal so challenging that it takes you beyond your limits and changes you forever?

Today’s guest is Mark Divine. He is a former Navy SEAL commander, founder of SEALfit, and author of The Unbeatable Mind. His book was the inspiration for The Dad Edge and he was the first big guest on the show. Mark Divine just completed a burpee challenge to raise money and awareness for veteran suicides, which occur at the horrifying rate of every 22 seconds. This wasn’t a one-time event, but a year-long commitment of doing 300 burpees every single day.

Mark talks about how he pulls through and even thrives on these kinds of challenges. It’s not all grit. He uses breathing techniques, yoga, meditation, and intuition. You will be awed by the insights he shares in this interview. Save this episode to stay connected to your goals so that you can enjoy the fruits of your labor at the end of this year.

'Life is suffering. When we embrace the pain and use it for personal growth, that’s when we start to experience the magic.'—Mark Divine @UnbeatableLife #personalgrowth #adversity #mindset Click To Tweet

 

'You’re not your story, you’re living your story, but you are not your story.'—Mark Divine @UnbeatableLife #yoga #mindfulness #meditation Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why he did the burpee challenge
  • How he and his team broke the burpee world record
  • The mantras he used to get him through 300 burpees every morning
  • How he continued the burpee challenge after he broke his foot
  • How the body and mind adapts to a new extreme normal if you have an audacious enough reason
  • How Mark practices intermittent fasting
  • How to chunk down huge goals into smaller SMART goals
  • How to turn goals into an integrative practice that combines mind and spirit
  • The Secrets to Achieving Wildly Important Goals
    • Be flexible – No plan survives contact with reality. You got to find a way to a make a way around obstacles.
    • Identify microgoals – no one can take away foundational successes
    • Be in the present – focus on the experience of life today, not your future goal
    • Organize your life so you can’t fail – eliminate friction points
    • Make it a non-negotiable goal or don’t set it – we have so many goals. Lump goals into one goal. Don’t hope, pretend, or wish. If you just put it on a list, you won’t get to it.
    • Go after your goals, not someone else’s – clarify who you are and why you do what you do. Once you define those things you realize all the efforts you’ve wasted time on.
  • Why you must properly asses your starting point
  • How comparing yourself to others is a huge mistake
  • The danger of becoming attached to the outcome
  • Why what we achieve isn’t that important
  • How SEALs fail their way forward to eventual success
  • What Mark Divine would say if he could have a conversation with his 21-year-old self
  • Embracing the suck
  • The yoga inquiry technique to discover who you are
  • How to connect to your “witness”
  • How killing as a SEAL fits into his perspective now
  • Slow down, simplify your lives, get comfortable in silence
  • Why learning how to be whole is the most important leadership skill
  • Why meditation apps are not real meditation
  • The benefits of box breathing
  • Why people fail at mindfulness meditation
  • How SEALs develop intuitive senses
  • Mark Divine’s new book Uncommon
'Failure is just a figment of one’s imagination.'—Mark Divine @UnbeatableLife #failure #goals #fear #courage #motivation Click To Tweet

RELATED EPISODES

How To Create An Unbeatable Mind with Navy Seal Mark Divine

Create an Unbeatable Mind, Body, and Become Sealfit with Mark Divine


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Ultimate Mastery of Your Emotional State with Navy SEAL Andy Stumpf


Emotions like fear and anger lead to shortsightedness and poor decision-making. How can you gain ultimate mastery of your emotional state?

Andy Stumpf is a former Navy SEAL who executed hundreds of combat operations all over the world. He is now a sought after public speaker and the host of the Cleared Hot podcast. Andy is an avid base jumper who holds the world record for having flown more than 18 miles in a wing suit. He is also a dad.

Listen to his amazing story—from the Navy SEALs, to base jumper, to father—and how he keeps his cool through it all!

'Don’t watch people doing amazing things. Go out there and do them yourself.' – @AndyStumpf77 #motivation #inspiration #men #dads #fathers Click To Tweet

About Andy Stumpf

Andy Stumpf considers his background to be incredibly average. He grew up in a beach town in a solid middle-class family. His mom worked in the administrative field and his father owned a masonry company. Andy began to learn the value of hard work when he started working for his dad at the age of eleven. It was also during that time that he dreamed of becoming a Navy SEAL. He read books and watched movies about the SEALs and was drawn in by the combination of intrigue and challenge.

As Andy grew older, he developed his comfort level in the water as a junior life guard and a water polo player. The SEAL dream never faded and he didn’t have a plan B. He brought home a waiver to his parents to leave school early and enlist in the military. He trained like a madman and passed the BUD/s training. He was pipelined straight through the SEAL program and served just one month shy of 17 years. Andy medically retired on the last day of June 2013.

'If there is one thing I’d change about our society, specifically for the men, I would advocate strongly for them getting out and struggling on their terms every day. Have a visceral physical experience.' – @AndyStumpf77 #men #dads… Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • What inspired him to fly more than 18 miles in a wingsuit
  • About his 7,000 sky dives
  • Why base jumping is so much more dangerous than skydiving
  • How base jumping calms him down and makes him a happier person for months
  • Andy’s advice for guys who do have an outlet like base-jumping in their lives
  • The difference in the way he fathers his sons and daughters
  • How his background experience with his own father and the Navy SEALs influenced him as a father
  • How he uses the morning drive to school as contained ‘dad time’
  • The motivational words he says to his kids every morning
  • How we must execute leadership
  • How to think through your problems
  • Why we shouldn’t detach from our emotions
  • How to find a healthy way to express your emotions
  • Why we should never make decisions in a heightened emotional state
  • What’s next for Andy Stumpf
'The things that come out of your mouth are important, but if you don’t back them up with action, they’re meaningless.' – @AndyStumpf77 #dads #men #fathers #leadership #fatherhood #manhood Click To Tweet

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Wild at Heart with John Eldredge


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