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Pivoting During the Pandemic

Pivoting During the Pandemic with Ben Rector


Whether you had plans for your business, career, family, or personal life, COVID has probably derailed it to some point. Today, we talk about pivoting during the pandemic and turning our setbacks into new opportunities.

Ben Rector is a singer, songwriter, and record producer. Ben has appeared and performed on various television shows like Jimmy Kimmel Live! Conan, Live with Kelly and Ryan, and others. His songs make appearances on shows like American Idol, Ellen DeGeneres Show, World of Dance, Pretty Little Liars, and Castle.

In this episode, Ben talks about his music journey and how he’s had to restrategize his plans since the pandemic. He also shares his parenting insights and how he hits his reset button to stay on track.

What You’ll Learn

The Musician’s Journey

[03:21]

Ben had a humble beginning. He had no model to follow with no one in his family being musically-inclined. He grew up never thinking that music is something he would consider a job. He only started to embrace music professionally during college.

[04:48]

Ben loves playing any keyboard instrument or guitar.

 

Ben’s Appreciation for His Father

[07:19]

Ben appreciates his father for being stern while caring. His dad always showed up.

[08:35]

Ben witnessed his dad’s selflessness. He never doubted the love, care, and trust his dad had in him.

 

Pivoting during the Pandemic

[16:14]

Ben wants to make the best out of everything. He does not feel like there is any other option. Things will be difficult and challenging, and he will never be able to do any of it without his wife, Hillary.

[17:32]

The pandemic was the first time Ben was forced to slow down. It was the time he felt genuinely powerless. When his twins were born in such a time, it was peaceful yet weird for Ben.

[21:10]

Ben owns many aspects of his music. Any artist feels the sting in their income if they are highly-dependent on their record labels since they do not “own” the music.

 

Reset Button

[25:41]

Being honest with his feelings about situations has always been helpful for Ben. He is thankful that he and his wife have always been open with each other.

Being able to say out loud and name your difficulties is an affirmation that they exist and you are facing it. Everybody goes through challenges, and this rough time is a challenge for Ben and his wife—they are determined to take the challenge.

 

Parenting Legacy

[33:53]

Ben hopes to do an excellent job of letting his children know that he cares, loves, and supports them, just like how his father was for him. He hopes to gain their respect and to never doubt the love he has for them. He admires his father for the stern but caring approach, and he hopes to do the same thing.

 

What’s Next for Ben?

[37:40]

Ben envisions finishing his new record in the winter of 2022. His music and tours have been delayed due to the pandemic.

[39:04]

This pandemic was a luxury for Ben because, unlike pre-pandemic when things were chaotic, he now has space. He and his team take time to plan things out. Ben looks forward to being a dad, husband, and to moving around more before things start to get crazy again.

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To the Beat of Your Own Drum


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Ben Rector’s Links

Website: https://www.benrectormusic.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/benrector

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFSmphaPv6bT6CI3htrfu3Q

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/benrector

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ben_rector/

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MusicBed: https://www.musicbed.com/artists/ben-rector/69

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To the Beat of Your Own Drum

Are you living as your true self? Or have you built your life around someone else’s idea of who you’re supposed to be? And if you feel like you’re living a lie, how can you drown out the noise of the world and march to the beat of your own drum?

Today we have an everyday dad and extraordinary person from the Dad Edge Alliance. Chris Lesso is the founder of Your Best Self Through Drumming and is an expert on optimizing the power of drumming to improve focus, confidence, and self-expression.

Through the metaphor of music, Chris explains how each of us has a different drum beat and how we can connect with our best selves by letting our voices be heard. He teaches us how we can become aware of our unique rhythms so that we can better lead our families and keep the beat for our own song of life.

Chris Lesso

Chris Lesso is an expert on optimizing the power of drumming to improve focus, confidence, and self expression in music and in life. LTR (Life Through Rhythm) is an attitude and way of life, brought forth through drumming compositions, musical performance, and education, using drumming as a force to reach our fullest potential and live the art of possibility.

Chris began his journey early, drumming and playing piano at the age of 7, and has never looked back. He has studied with world renowned educators Dom Famularo, Jim Chapin, Jim Blackley, and in India with Swapan Chaudhuri. A lifelong student of the craft, he sought out to play with the best musicians in the world, touring internationally with Wild T & The Spirit, Cavalia Odysseo, and many others.

Combining a fascination of history with pushing the edges of future evolution, Chris leads his own band modus factor, featuring world renowned musicians Brownman (Jay Z, Dave Matthews Band) and Ian DeSouza (Juno Award winning Sisters Euclid). Described as ‘electro ambient bedlam’, modus factor uses improvisation and daring reinvention to create an energized sound all its own, drawing on textures from jazz, electronic, and world music.

A born teacher, Chris takes his LTR (Life Through Rhythm) philosophy around the world to empower drummers getting to their next level, but also to businesses looking for an edge in using drumming to come together as an energized team, using the power of flow states to rise above the competition.

What You’ll Learn

  • We all have a personal rhythm in life that includes our habits, our thoughts, and our speech
  • Drumming teaches us to be assertive leaders because drummers must keep the beat for the rest of the band
  • The f-word we must teach our kids
  • How playing music helps you focus, develop confidence and self-worth
  • Cultivating self-expression to grow confidence
  • Asking yourself, “What do you have to say?”
  • The maxims of the practice of drumming – movement (physical exertion), rhythm (daily practice), discipline (becoming a disciple of your best self), being childlike (not childish)
  • Controlling your emotional state
  • Why drumming keeps you humble
  • How learning something knew puts you back into your kids’ shoes, helping you relate to them when they’re learning something they’ve never done before
  • How learning an instrument like drums grows new neurons and muscle memory
  • Developing patience and staying fresh and in the moment
  • Letting your kids watching you do something your passionate about
  • Urgency is good, but self-importance is not.
  • Detach and welcome obstacles and circumstances beyond our control
  • Why smiling at someone is being creative
  • We’re all going to look back on this crisis and think about how we showed up during this time. What are you going to remember?

 

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink


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