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Money and Your Marriage

Money and Your Marriage with Jesse Mecham

Financial issues are one the biggest causes of divorce. Not only do money problems make life stressful, they can lead to conflicts that can damage a marriage and destroy a family. But what if you could take a few, simple steps right now to totally change your money situation? Today, we talk about money and your marriage and how you can make budgeting decisions with your spouse easily and argument-free.

Jesse Mecham is the creator of the YNAB (You Need a Budget) app. He is back on The Dad Edge to talk about how to approach the money discussion in a way that will stop friction and encourage intimacy. He outlines his 4 Money Rules to future-proof your finances and gives guidelines for trimming the fat on your expenses without feeling deprived.

After listening to this show, you will feel confident about budgeting, prepared for the unexpected, and hopeful about your dreams for the future.

“Money’s not always simple, but it can get a lot simpler.”—Jesse Mecham

Jesse Mecham

Jesse Mecham founded YNAB in 2004 to help him and his wife, Julie, watch their money. Studying for his master of accountancy at Brigham Young University at the time, he put his numbers wizardry to work to develop a system to track their expenses, and that became YNAB. He lives in Utah with Julie and his seven kids!

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What if you didn’t even realize it was payday because you had money in the bank and weren’t desperate for that check to arrive?

Forget everything you think you know about budgeting and prepare to experience total control.

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What You’ll Learn

  • A money dysfunction in your marriage is a landmine that will eventually go off.
  • You can make huge leaps in your marriage even when you think it’s already good.
  • You don’t get commitment without conflict, and you don’t get conflict without trust. You must trust your spouse enough to handle whatever you’re going to tell them.
  • On patience—increase the gap between stimulus and response and fill it with curiosity.
  • Jesse’s morning habit of reading “hard books”
  • As a couple, ask yourselves … What do you want? What are you dreaming about? Not in the distant future, but in the next few years? Most couples don’t have this conversation.
  • All the questions that used to add tons of stress are easy decisions when your visions are aligned.
  • You can feel more peace in as little as an hour and a half after you have this money talk with your spouse.
  • Do whatever you want with your money as long as it means something to you.
  • In Jesse’s experience working with men on their budgets, eating out is the easiest, most effective expense to cut.
  • Rediscover cooking at home.
  • Becoming more self-reliant to save.
  • Tip: Only budget money you have on hand. Don’t give money a job you don’t actually have yet.
  • How to pre-budget for big experiences, upcoming expenses, and emergencies.
  • How to keep your budget changeable.
  • Age your money—the dollar you spend today you should have made 30 days ago.
  • Make reviewing your budget part of your morning coffee routine.
  • Getting to where you want to be financially won’t happen overnight. Be patient with yourself.
  • 4 Rules of YNAB
    1. Give every dollar a job
    2. Embrace your true expenses
    3. Roll with the punches
    4. Age your money

MENTIONED EPISODES

The Easy and Effective Way to Budget for Your Goals with Jesse Mecham

The New Mindset for Money with Grant Sabatier

Staring Down the Wolf with ex-Navy SEAL Mark Divine

Battling Cancer as a Dad with Hal Elrod


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The New Mindset for Money with Grant Sabatier


Financial freedom is something we all dream of. Imagine being able to live life on our terms and have enough money to do all the things we want to do. What if we could teach our kids how to set themselves up to be millionaires too? Financial freedom is possible for parents and their kids with a new mindset for money and consistent, small steps in the right direction.

Grant Sabatier is back on the Dad Edge Podcast. He became a millionaire when he was thirty-five and is the creator of the hugely popular Millennial Money blog and the author of bestselling book Financial Freedom: A Proven Path to All the Money You Will Ever Need. Grant was also a speaker at our Dad Edge Summit 2019.

Today, Grant talks about how times have changed and how our perspectives on money, saving, and investing should change too. He also tells us how we can teach our kids to master their money from a young age so they can get a head start on making their wildest dreams come true!

“We live in a time where it’s never been easier to live a life you love.”—Grant Sabatier

Grant Sabatier

Grant Sabatier is the Author of Financial Freedom (Penguin Random House) and Creator of Millennial Money, which has reached over 10 million readers.

Dubbed “The Millennial Millionaire” by CNBC, Grant Sabatier went from $2.26 to $1 million in 5 years through entrepreneurship, side hustling and investing. After reaching financial independence at the age of 30, Grant Founded MillennialMoney.com, where he writes about making and investing money and co-hosts the Financial Freedom podcast.

Grant has been featured in over 200 international media outlets including The New York Times, The Washington Post, National Public Radio, Money Magazine, ABC Nightline, Chicago Tribune, USA Today, Inc. Magazine, Forbes, The Sydney Morning Herald, and many others.

Financial Freedom

In 2010, 24-year old Grant Sabatier woke up to find he had $2.26 in his bank account. Five years later, he had a net worth of over $1.25 million, and CNBC began calling him “the Millennial Millionaire.” By age 30, he had reached financial independence. Along the way he uncovered that most of the accepted wisdom about money, work, and retirement is either incorrect, incomplete, or so old-school it’s obsolete.

Financial Freedom is a step-by-step path to make more money in less time, so you have more time for the things you love. It challenges the accepted narrative of spending decades working a traditional 9 to 5 job, pinching pennies, and finally earning the right to retirement at age 65, and instead offers readers an alternative: forget everything you’ve ever learned about money so that you can actually live the life you want.

What You’ll Learn

  • 80% of people are disengaged with their jobs
  • Using your suffering as a launch point for change
  • Money means nothing if you can’t enjoy it
  • Taking time to explore your relationship with money
  • Becoming familiar with money until it stops making you uncomfortable
  • Why you should sit with your debt, literally
  • Shifting to a constructive money mindset
  • Getting quick wins to help motivate you
  • How to talk with your partner about money
  • Why it’s healthy for couples to have their own separate, private money to spend or save as they please
  • How much money do you really need to live the life you want?
  • Why you must keep in mind that money won’t solve all the problems you have
  • A simple saving hack that allows you to ditch the detailed budget
  • Why you should stop looking far into your financial future
  • Investing in who you’re yet to become
  • Being open with your kids about your financial situation
  • How to get kids excited about mastering money by reverse-mapping their wildest dreams
  • Nurturing your kids’ curiosity, adaptability, and instinct for risk-taking

MENTIONED EPISODES:

All the Money You Will Ever Need with Grant Sabatier

Optimizing Your Personal Relationship with Money — Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Grant Sabatier


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The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language with The Money Couple, Scott and Bethany Palmer


Money is the number one cause for friction between couples. Out of the 50% of marriages that end in divorce, 70% of them end because of financial issues. This is a staggering number, but money in marriage is not something we are taught to navigate, and we don’t know how to show our kids a good example either.

Today we have The Money Couple, Scott and Bethany Palmer on The Dad Edge. They are financial advisors who got tired of seeing their clients’ marriages destroyed because of money. Together they wrote The 5 Money Personalities and The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids at Every Age and Stage.

Scott and Bethany reveal the 5 money personalities, the reasoning behind each one, and how we can learn to work with our spouse’s and our children’s money personalities. They also discuss how harmful it is to argue about money in front of the kids and how to use money language to actually bring your marriage and family closer than ever before.

(Look for the link at the end of the show notes to money personality assessments for you and your whole family.)

Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple

“Over two decades ago, our passion to save marriages was born. As Financial Advisors, for over 25 years,  helping couples, we discovered: money “issues” are not about dollars and cents. Couples struggle to communicate about and agree on money which creates tension, fights, and even divorce.

Couples struggles along with ours,  broke our hearts and propelled us into a decade of research and work with a Stanford scientist to develop The Money Personality Assessment. We now have the Assessments, tools and resources for couples to agree about money and experience a magnificent marriage.”

The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language

The hidden key to a healthy relationship is not just managing money but understanding how the other approaches money.

Every couple argues about money. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for 40 years or dating for 4 months, money touches every decision you make as a couple―from the $5 cup of coffee to the $50,000 car. And when the two of you don’t see eye-to-eye on how much to spend or how much to save, that’s when arguments turn into ugly toxic fights that leave both persons feeling hurt and angry. It’s why money has become the #1 cause of divorce in the U.S. Obviously, something needs to change. The reason this crisis has not been addressed is because it has never been identified, defined, or given a name. Scott and Bethany Palmer, aka “The Money Couple,” have identified and defined this problem and offer concrete solutions to fix it.

Once you know your Money Personality, you can get to the root of money arguments and start really working together. You’ll discover what has an impact on your loved one’s money decisions, and you’ll learn how to talk about money in a way that’s actually fun! You’ll figure out how to put an end to money secrets and lies once and for all.

It’s not just about money management, and it’s definitely not just about overcoming debt. It is a whole new way of living that will change everything in your relationship. Tens of thousands have already been transformed. Are you ready?

The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids at Every Age and Stage

Raise your hand if your parents had “the talk” with you. No, not that talk. We mean the money talk.
Money affects you and your kids every day. Now there’s a way to talk about money in a way that actually brings your family closer.

With two kids of our own, we suspect our parenting goals are likely the same as yours—no spoiled brats, no crippling debt, and kids who know a dollar actually takes work. That’s why we wrote this book.

The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids at Every Age and Stage offers practical advice for dealing with three age groups (5–12, 13–17, and 18 and beyond). It is the parenting “how to” book you don’t want to live without.

  • Conquer the 5 toughest money conversations to have with your kids
  • Discover your kids’ Money Personalities by taking the age-based Money Personalities Assessment (access code included inside)
  • Learn their Money Languages so you can be heard

We give you relationship secrets, share our experiences, and make it fun. Whether your kids are 5 or 25, this book will change the course of your family forever!

What You’ll Learn

  • How huge arguments start from simple differences in how you spend money
  • How money personalities can come up in every conversation you have
  • Money arguments in front of the kids model a bad marriage to them.
  • We think that if we have the perfect cashflow, budget, and retirement, we’ll have a great marriage. This is not true.
  • Opposites attract and then attack.
  • There are no right or wrong money personalities, just different ones.
  • You have to understand which money personality you’re married to and accept that.
  • Why we’re not good at compromising when it comes to money
  • Why you should “never stop getting a PHD on your spouse”
  • How couples might have the same primary money personality, but different secondary money personalities that will cause conflict.
  • Exercises you can do to appease to your spouse’s money personality
  • Family money huddles to discuss E.N.D.s—Evaluation, Needs, Dreams.
  • Dreaming together is important for a couple.
  • What is financial infidelity and how it is damaging to marriages.
  • The importance of understanding a kid’s money personality
  • Teaching kids the financial and relational sides of money.
  • Encourage your kids to work from a young age to instill work ethic (and prevent them from living in your basement when they become adults).
  • You can’t just have one talk with your kids about money. You have to look for real-life opportunities to train them.

FREE MONEY PERSONALITY ASSESSMENT

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RELATED EPISODES:

Optimizing Your Personal Relationship with Money — Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&#038;A with Grant Sabatier

How to Raise Money-Empowered Kids with John Lanza

Reframing Your Life for Financial Independence


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financial independence

Reframing Your Life for Financial Independence with Brad Barrett


Do finances stress you out? You’re not alone. Most of us aren’t clear about what we have to do to achieve financial independence. The average 50-year-old has about 50K in savings. Most millennials are not saving at all. The majority of family households don’t even have a budget to know what they’re spending on.

Money problems wreak havoc on our physical and mental wellbeing as well as our relationships. The best time to take control and be intentional about financial independence is right now.

Financial legend, Brad Barrett, returns to The Dad Edge. He’s the cohost of the Choose FI Podcast, the co-author of Choose FI: Your Blueprint to Financial Independence, and cofounder of a financial independence movement that has spread worldwide.

Brad went from being a full-time CPA to retired and financially independent at the age of 35. Now he empowers others to design their paths to financial independence.

Today, Brad gives us simple, actionable steps you can take right now to cut expenses, save money, and build wealth without feeling deprived. He also talks about how to get your spouse in on the game to use your financial plan to bring you closer.

It’s not about what you’ll be giving up, it’s about making your life better. Don’t waste another day or another cent. It’s time to build a lifestyle according to what you value most.

Brad Barrett

Brad and his wife are both Virginia Certified Public Accountants (CPAs) and find themselves constantly looking for new strategies to make their lives less stressful and more financially secure.

Brad lives for finding smart and creative life hacks to make their lives easier and he looks forward to helping others do the same in in their lives on the path to financial independence.

Brad is passionate about everything from saving money, to living a more healthy lifestyle, to ‘boring’ things like tracking your finances and cutting down on your tax bill. But his favorite topic is leveraging credit card rewards to save more money, and take trips you never would have dreamed possible for pennies on the dollar.

What You’ll Learn

  • Living a life of intentionality with freedom as your goal
  • How to reframe and anchor to a 15-20 year working life instead of the traditional retirement age.
  • If you look at saving and budgeting as deprivation, you’re going to be bitterly unhappy.
  • Life is an experiment. Find out what makes you happy and what helps you interact best with your wife and kids.
  • How to figure out what you value.
  • Why you should never sacrifice date nights with your wife.
  • Cutting back in less important areas allows you to spend lavishly on the things you really value.
  • Cutting expenses on housing, food, and transportation
  • Brad’s $2 per person per meal family dinner plan.
  • Preparing food in advance to avoid scrambling for take-out or ready-to-eat food.
  • How intentionality and planning saves both money and time.
  • Having happy hour with your spouse at home to save the huge bar tab.
  • How FI can bring you closer together as a couple, turning life into a game you play together.
  • How to live the same middle-class life as everyone else without being chained to a job.
  • The FIRST STEP: Get an honest understanding of what’s going on in your finances.
  • Face your mistakes. Put your financial failures on paper without beating yourself up about it.
  • How the money story that comes from our childhoods affects us as adults
  • Think about what kind of security you need. Each person is different.
  • Sit with your spouse. Ask yourselves, what do you want your lives to look like, and is your current budget going to get you there?
  • Hiding or avoiding talking about your financial habits with your spouse is destructive. You don’t want to be enemies. You want to be teammates.
  • Make decisions and take action. It doesn’t help to learn of you don’t act on the information.
  • In the beginning, the easiest way to begin to save money is decide what to cut, like subscriptions you don’t really use.
  • Bolder steps you can take like moving to a less expensive city or selling your car.
  • Reframe your budget mindset as a path to a better life.
  • Think about how you can earn more—start a side hustle, ask for a raise at your current job, or add to your education and skills.
  • Get easy quick wins that will inspire you to do more.
  • Think about how much less stressful your life would be if you knew you had a few thousand in the bank as a cushion. You don’t have to take crap from your job when you have enough money saved up.
  • It’s not about deprivation, it’s about making your life better.

RELATED EPISODES:

ChooseFI: Stock Market, Tax, and Retirement Hacks with Brad Barrett

All the Money You Will Ever Need with Grant Sabatier

Choose FI Podcast with Larry Hagner


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Raising Financially Responsible Kids

Raising Financially Responsible Kids

Money is a generational issue. Most of us weren’t taught it, our parents weren’t taught it, and our grandparents weren’t taught it. Unless we break the pattern, our kids will have the same issues, overspending on credit cards and not investing enough to provide a secure future.

What lessons are you teaching your kids about money?

What about personal accountability, savings, and investing?

How do they see you spend money?

There is a balance between money management and enjoying life. We don’t have to teach a scarcity mindset for our kids to be money smart.

Today we talk to a special guest who tells us his dad’s approach to raising financially responsible kids and how it made him leagues ahead of his peers of the same age.

MENTIONED EPISODE: The Easy and Effective Way to Budget for Your Goals with Jesse Mecham


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