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Don’t Use the Word Why, Here’s Why with Larry Hagner

Don’t Use the Word Why, Here’s Why with Larry Hagner

The word “why” should be eradicated from our vocabulary for several reasons. First, every time we use the word “why,” we instantly put the person we are talking to on the defense. We don’t necessarily mean to. It sometimes occurs because we are curious why the other person thinks that way, or why someone did something.

The reason we hate hearing the word “why” stems from our childhood. When we were younger, we heard a lot of, “What are you doing? Why are you doing that?,” if you were doing something you weren’t supposed to. The problem with this is that we probably didn’t know it was wrong, and we were immediately thrust into defensive mode. This made us cringe at the word “why” because we associate it with something bad, even though it doesn’t always mean that.

For example, you might have an employee that does something really well, and you want to know why they did that. However, when you ask your employee why they did that, it immediately puts them into a defensive state. Instead of asking them “why,” ask them to tell you about it. They will be much more open to explaining why they did what they did, without being defensive about it.

Another example could be a person asking you why you gave your child their name. They might not be asking in a bad way, but it makes us feel like we named them something wrong. The person might actually be thinking that they’re name is really cool and wants to know the meaning behind it. However, we don’t see it this way when they say the word “why.”

Providing an environment of psychological safety is the number one way to get someone to open up to you. Instead of feeling defensive about something, they will feel invited to communicate why it happened or what they did. For example, if your child gets a bad grade on a test, our immediate response is “why.” This propels them into becoming defensive and coming up with excuses why they got a bad grade. Instead of asking them why, try saying, “tell me about that.” This opens the door for communication and lets your child feel comfortable telling you what went wrong.

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How to Use the Art of Persuasion in Everyday Life

Jason Harris

Jason Harris is a CEO, co-founder, best-selling author, and father of 2 boys. He is the CEO and founder of the company Mekanism, and co-founder of the Creative Alliance. He is also the best-selling author of the book titled The Soulful Art of Persuasion.

We see persuasion in our lives every single day. Persuasion is not about facts and argument, it’s about your personal character. What persuades people is the person doing the persuading, not the facts themselves. The soulful element of persuasion makes you more inspirational and more persuasive as a person. Another thing we’re going to touch on today is how to develop the habits you were not born with, and how you can perfect the ones that you were born with.

There are a couple principles in life that we should strive to live by, according to Jason. Number one is “be yourself, everyone else is already taken.” This is when you tap into whom you really are and figure out your passions and interests in life. Being yourself is the building block of persuasion, and to pass this notion onto your kids. The second principle is generosity. The whole purpose of this principle is to make that person better off than when you found them. Generosity goes a long way in the art of persuasion, because it shows people that you care. If you show someone that you care, you can easily persuade them. However, the goal is simply to be generous, not always to persuade. If we apply these principles to our lives, we’ll find it a lot easier to influence and inspire people.

What You’ll Learn: 

[6:50]

Jason talks about his childhood.

[11:29]

Jason talks about the glue holding his parents together in their 55 years of marriage. He also starts talking about what it was like growing up with his family.

[19:50]

Jason talks about his book, The Soulful Art of Persuasion.

[24:25]

Jason talks about the 11 habits in his book and which ones are the most meaningful for husbands and fathers.

[29:20]

Jason talks about the role models in his life. Vulnerability and authenticity are key in persuading people.

[40:24]

Jason talks about the difference between being generous in intention and attention.

[42:23]

Jason talks about keeping a gratitude journal with his kids.

[43:20]

Jason talks about the attitudes that come about when doing the gratitude journal.

[45:41]

Jason talks about what soulfulness means. Create a life full of learning.

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Understanding How Food Impacts Our Lives with Barton Scott

Barton Scott

Barton Scott is a Chemical Engineer, Nutritionist, and founder of UpgradedFormulas.com. Barton is passionate about helping people combat the stressors of daily life, the toxicity of the modern world, the utter lack of nutrients, and the mineral absorption issues that we all face. He has made it his mission to reduce suffering by increasing the public’s understanding of the human body’s interrelationships.

Scott started his business, Upgraded Formulas, when he began to have short-term memory loss and brain fogginess. Scott, a Chemical Engineer, had a very sharp mind and was always on top of his game. However, when he started to experience brain fog, he knew something was up. It was after years of reading and research that Barton realized he was deficient in minerals. After performing multiple tests, he discovered a test that actually delivered meaningful results. Barton knew all the supplements he would have to take in order to remedy his problem. However, Barton knew that mineral supplements had trouble dissolving into the body. The purpose of Upgraded Formulas was to upgrade the mineral formulas, so they could better absorb into the body and produce astronomical results.

Using his background in Chemical Engineering and nutrition, Barton created mineral supplements that actually worked. The website provides an at-home hair test that you send in to the company, so they can test what minerals you are deficient in, and recommend a product for you. Barton’s research and knowledge is astounding and enlightening in our world today. We are so consumed with food, but we don’t realize that most of the foods we eat, don’t contain the minerals we need for health. Barton’s mission is to educate people to understand the purpose of how the food we eat affects our health, and what we can do to fix it.

What You’ll Learn: 

[2:39]

Barton introduces himself and talks about his journey.

[4:52]

Barton talks about his ADHD diagnosis and his decisions from there on out.

[9:16]

Barton tells us why physicians are so quick to handout medication to people with ADHD. You have to make your own health decisions when it comes to your body.

[10:08]

Barton talks about how important getting your nutrition aligned is and how we eat way more than we need to.

[16:16]

Medicine doesn’t fix everything.

[22:30]

Barton talks about the main deficiencies in children with ADHD and how packaged food isn’t adequately providing the nutrients they need.

[25:08]

Barton talks about what different vitamins and minerals the body needs.

[31:22]

Barton talks about how the food we eat affects our daily functions and deficiencies.

[37:00]

Barton talks about ED and its causes.

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