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Amazing Sex in Your Marriage

How to Have Amazing Sex in Your Marriage with Dr. Emily Morse


When we’re married and have kids, the whole bedroom thing tends to take the backseat. It’s hard to make sex a priority, but we want it to be.

Today we have the host of the massively popular Sex with Emily podcast. Dr. Emily Morse is a celebrity relationship and sex expert with a doctorate in Human Sexuality.

Sex is always a huge topic on this show, and in this episode, Emily and I have a fun, laid back conversation about how to have amazing sex in your marriage. We cover just about everything a guy wants to know, so take notes!

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Dr. Emily Morse

Emily grew up in Michigan in a suburb of Detroit in a divorced family. After graduating from the University of Michigan, she moved to San Fransisco and worked in politics.

While directing a documentary, she realized that she loved to interview and explore people. Coming from a divorced home, Emily was curious about relationships and intimacy. She wanted to know what amazing sex was and how to have it, so twelve years ago when podcasts first began, she invited people over to interview them.

Her show has been a place for people to feel comfortable to talk about sex without shame. Emily knew this was her calling, and went back to school to earn her PhD in Human Sexuality. She went on to serve as a cohost on Loveline with Dr. Drew Pinsky, appear on major networks, and contribute regularly to major publications.

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Show Highlights

  • Why men have a communication block when it comes to sex
  • The common belief is that sex should be perfect without ever having to talk about it
  • Why sex is amazing in the beginning of a relationship and tapers off so quickly
  • Why couples must prioritize sex at the beginning of the relationship
  • What the married woman is thinking
  • Why sometimes women feel like the man is always wanting sex
  • How a man can make a woman feel rejected when she tries to initiate sex
  • How to start the sex conversation on a positive note
  • What tone to use when talking about sex
  • When is the best time and place to talk about sex
  • Why date nights should not be underestimated
  • The magical powers of vacation sex
  • Women’s number one complaint around sex
  • Why sex is so complicated with women (foreplay, moods, hormones)
  • How you can plant the seeds for great sex
  • Sensual experiences you can plan for your spouse without expectation of intercourse
  • Introducing sex toys, costumes, blindfolds
  • How masturbation, porn, and kegels can be helpful
  • What to do when your woman can’t orgasm
  • How to create a sexual bucket list
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Reignite Your Marriage After Having Kids

How to Reignite Your Marriage After Having Kids

When the kids are born, men focus on being a father. We cannot falter in our role as a provider and protector. Our spouses focus on being mothers, which is a twenty-four-hour, seven-days-a-week job. Our marriages inevitably suffer, but many parents feel guilty for leaving the kids.

On today’s short episode, I’m going share my personal experience and why you need to leave the kids behind and spend some time getting to know your spouse again.


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Managing Happiness: Applying Business Success Principles to Family Life with David Henzel

David Henzel is a radically successful entrepreneur whose calling is to help people live happier lives. Most of us are trying to achieve a work life balance, but we tend to end up overwhelmed and stressed out. Our relationships with our family may be difficult or unfulfilling, but rarely do we give the same attention to detail to our home life as we do to our business. This show is about managing happiness by applying business success principles to your family life.

 

David Henzel

David Henzel is from Germany where his parents raised him in an unusual way – with no authority. David was given the freedom to make his own choices, good or bad, and deal with the consequences himself. He made a lot of stupid decisions, like beginning to smoke a pack of cigarettes a day at age twelve, but his parents gave him space to learn on his own while being a source of unconditional support. In his household, there was no violence or yelling. No matter what he did, he knew he could go to his parents. They were his allies, not adults to hide from.

My dad used to say, “If you have to yell, your argument is too weak.”

David always had the heart of an entrepreneur and dropped out of school early to pursue his dreams. He visited Los Angeles when he was eighteen years old, and felt the city was calling to him, but getting a visa was difficult. He had to open several businesses in Germany to raise enough money to set up his new life in the United States in 2009. David met his wife there, and they later they decided to move back to Europe to be closer to her family. They now live in Turkey with their three-year-old daughter.

Managing Happiness

At one point in their marriage, David’s wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. Thankfully she is cured now, but that dark time forced David to reflect on his life. Although he was a successful entrepreneur, he felt he wasn’t living up to his purpose. He was afraid he might die with regrets.

He pondered over what his purpose was and did a funeral exercise, imagining everyone he knew getting up and making speeches about him. What did he most want them to say?

From this he crafted his personal mission statement.

To be a change agent who’s transforming individuals and organizations so they can reach their full potential and consciously life the life they desire.

Applying Business Success Principles to Family Life

It was during an argument with his wife over who was responsible for changing their daughter’s diaper that David realized that one of the reasons for friction in the household was that no one knew what their roles were. Responsibilities and expectations were not defined like they were in a business environment.

So David and his wife made a list of who took care of which duties. He says this simple exercise took away 80% of arguments out of the relationship. We all spend time and money improving business structure, efficiency, and flow, but most of us don’t spend 1% of our time to make our family work.

David saw the amazing effect his experiment had on his household, and became passionate about sharing his methods. This is why he developed the Managing Happiness course so he could make an impact and, with feedback from participants, let his idea evolve.

The Epidemic of Stress

There is a tendency to want to keep up with the Jones’s. It’s ingrained in our culture that “living the American Dream” means having the big house, the top-of-the-line car, the jewelry for your wife, the latest toys for your kids. But many of those who are lucky enough to achieve this kind of success remain unhappy and don’t know why.

David Henzel says not to buy into what society or your parents think you need to be happy. Figure out what you want in life. Once you know, it’s easy to walk in the direction of your happiness.

A lot of people frantically climb the ladder of success.

David’s Two-Step Approach

David Henzel says happiness really does come from the inside. You can’t control what happens in your life, but you’re in full control of how you react to it. He uses these two simple guides to manage his happiness:

  1. Accept things, no matter how bad the situation is. Then you can react and plan your chess moves. Once you come to terms with reality, the noise in your head goes away. David suggests the Serenity Prayer, God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
  2. Practice gratitude. David has a gratitude rock that he keeps in his pocket all day. We tend to look at the biggest problem of the moment, which six months from now we won’t even remember. At the end of the day, we tend to remember the stressful parts instead of what went right. When we practice gratitude, we build up a gratitude muscle. Focus on the awesome stuff in your day, not the annoying things. You will realize there is so much to be grateful for.

The Managing Happiness Course

David Henzel admits that running a successful business while managing a great family life isn’t easy. Some would say you can’t have it all. But, by applying business principles to your family life, he can help you achieve happiness. That is why he is offering The Good Dad Project listeners 25% off his course.

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No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

Why are we not getting our needs met when we seem to be going out of our way for everyone? Dr. Robert Glover talks to us today about Nice Guy Syndrome and why it’s actually not so nice for you and for those around you. This show will change everything you thought you knew about being Mr. Nice Guy.

Dr. Robert Glover

Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life.

Dr. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications.

Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, consultation, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world.

As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men’s professional careers and intimate relationships.

Nice Guy Syndrome

Dr. Glover started discovering the dynamic of Nice Guy Syndrome in his thirties. He was in an unhappy marriage and couldn’t figure out what was wrong. He was doing everything to try to make his wife happy and avoid conflict. Somehow, no matter what he did it was never good enough. She was moody and had lost all interest in sex. Dr. Glover was bewildered why being a nice guy wasn’t working.

The problem was that being a nice guy on the outside made him hold in his frustrations. He became resentful and passive aggressive. His wife actually told him she’d rather be with an outright asshole than to be with him. He wanted to stay married so he went to support groups and therapy and began to understand what had happened to him.

A key piece to the development of Dr. Glover’s Nice Guy Syndrome was his childhood. He and his father were close and spent lots of time together, but there was one problem–his father was extremely moody. He would get angry for no reason and stay that way for weeks. Dr. Glover was determined not to be like his dad. He wanted to be different from all the jerks that women complained about. He would be the nice guy and women would desire him because of that.

Core of Nice Guy Syndrome

Nice guys live by three covert contracts. The problem is, no one knows they are operating by these unspoken rules.

  1. If I’m a good guy, I will be liked and loved (and women will desire me).
  2. If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, they will meet my needs without me having to ask.
  3. If I do everything right, I’ll have a smooth problem free life.

When nice guys don’t get the results they hoped for, they don’t give up. They tend to double-down and try harder. That’s when they need to look outside for help.

Some Nice Guy Traits

  • seek the approval of others.
  • hide their perceived flaws and mistakes.
  • put other people’s needs and wants before their own.
  • sacrifice their personal power and play the role of a victim.
  • tend to be disconnected from other men and from their own masculine energy.

How to Reclaim Your Personal Power

  1. Don’t try to do it alone.
  2. Don’t try to do it with your intimate partner.
  3. Find a safe person or safe place (friend, therapist, coach, mentor, support group).
  4. Practice talking about things you’ve hidden about yourself.
  5. Keep connected with a tribe.

 


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How to Pay Off Your Mortgage in Five Years with Andy Hill

Finances are a touchy subject that stresses the hell out of all of us. It can especially affect our relationships. Almost one out of every two marriages end in divorce, sixty percent of which are due to financial stress. For most dads, our main goal is to pay off our home mortgage. This seems impossible. How can we pay of a thirty-year mortgage in a matter of years? Today we have Andy Hill from MarriageKidsandMoney.com to tell us how he is paying off his mortgage in less than five years.

Pay Off Your Mortgage in Five Years?

Andy Hill and his wife have been married for seven years. They have two kids, a five-year-old girl and a three-year-old boy. Andy and his wife have been working hard since they’ve been married to create a life that is exciting and live their dreams. So when they bought their dream home, they knew they didn’t want to have the $200,000 debt hanging over them. They set an ambitious plan to work to pay the entire mortgage off in five years.

Today, they have only $29,000 left, which will be paid off at the end of the year. It sounds impossible, or painful, but Andy says it’s the little things that add up to big savings in their household budget that they funnel into paying off their house.

Budget Party

The first step is to get the spouse on board. This is not always easy, but Andy and his wife have a “budget party” once a month to discuss the budget strategy. Andy says not to start the conversation with what must be sacrificed. Make sure you highlight the benefits first. Imagine a life without a house payment? Where could you go? What could you do? Then do a detailed budget and see where all the money is going and start making cuts.

Where families can save money

  1. Pack lunches. You can stay healthier and not spend money this way. Andy saves $100 a month by packing his lunch for work.
  2. Analyzed grocery spending. Andy’s family spent an average of $900 a month on food. To cut back on this expense, they now shop once a week with a list and they stick to it. They switched from Kroger to Aldi and save about $300 a month now. Switch from more expensive stores to discount stores.
  3. Become an aspiring minimalist. Don’t let clutter accumulate. Don’t let things pile up in garage. Look around the house? Does anything you’re not using have value? Sell it online or have a garage sale. Spring cleaning can become profitable.
  4. Cut off the cable. There are so many alternatives to traditional cable. Look at your bill. Analyze the fees. Call and negotiate. Call all providers and find the best deal. Cut back to just internet service.
  5. Go to different stores for bulk items. Things like diapers and baby wipes tend to be more expensive at the grocery store. Go to bulk supermarkets like Costco for these items.

When you feel good about your money, you can do great things that make you feel like a great dad.

Structuring a Household Budget

Andy Hill and his wife set aside money for everything. They include date nights, vacations, and entertainment. Here is how he structures his budget categories:

  1. Transportation (car, public transport)
  2. Utilities, bills, cell phones
  3. Entertainment (game tickets, babysitters, dinners)
  4. Saving up for kids’ college
  5. IRA, retirement
  6. Food
  7. Giving (donations and charities, gifts)
  8. Health, doctor
  9. Home maintenance and improvement
  10. Kids activities (parties, swim lessons)
  11. Miscellaneous or forgotten stuff
  12. Emergency (three months of expenses saved up in case of job loss, natural disaster, etc.)

Andy Hill’s Dad Wisdom

Andy says it’s important to create dreams for yourself and put them out there. Set specific dates to get them done. Ask yourself how your financial goals can support the family you want to have. Do you want the next great thing? Or do you want to give to the world and have new life experiences?

 


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