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A Wife's Thoughts on The Dad Edge Alliance and Summit

A Wife’s Thoughts on The Dad Edge Alliance and Summit

Today is a first. We not only have a longtime Dad Edge Alliance member on Thursday Throwdown, we have his wife! If you have been thinking about joining The Dad Edge Alliance or attending our Dad Edge Summit this summer, but are wondering how your wife will feel about the idea, this interview with Javier and Suzanne will show you what happens when a man finds his tribe.

Javier and Suzanne have been together for 14 years and are parents. They had a fairy tale beginning, but once real life kicked in, intense fights and break ups left open wounds. Javier opens up about his struggles as a man. He tells us how The Dad Edge Alliance helped him grow and how the Dad Edge Summit catalyzed all he had learned into a clear vision for the future.

His wife, Suzanne, gets real about the marriage problems they had and how beneficial The Dad Edge Alliance and Dad Edge Summit have been to their relationship as a couple and a family.

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becoming a great husband

Black Belt Husband with Quentin Hafner

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the expectations placed on you as a husband? Are you confused about what exactly your wife needs from you? Is your marriage in a rut but you don’t know the first step to getting out?

Today’s guest is Quentin Hafner, author of Black Belt Husband: A Marriage Book for Men. He’s a couples counselor by day and a Brazilian jujitsu practitioner by night. Quentin has developed a methodology to becoming a great husband inspired by the martial arts belt system.

There is no need to feel hopeless when your marriage hits a wall, even if the sex has all but disappeared and you and your spouse at moments hate each other. Quentin Hafner breaks it all down for us in this episode!

'What’s different about a relationship today is that women have an expectation that men can fulfill them emotionally...'—Quentin Hafner, Black Belt Husband #marriage #men #manhood #relationships Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why did Quentin Hafner decided to write Black Belt Husband
  • Why most guys aren’t interested in mainstream relationship books
  • How your actions are a choice, your feelings are not a choice
  • How marital bliss will naturally subside in between 6 and 24 months
  • How to stop judging your own feelings
  • How having uncomfortable feelings about your marriage is common
  • How everybody has the feeling of hating their spouse at some time
  • How negative feelings doesn’t mean your marriage is broken, only that a problem needs to be addressed
  • Quentin’s mission to normalize these feelings so men don’t panic
  • How not to react to your feelings, but instead correct your course
  • The two main things that silently destroy a marriage
    • Apathy – being too casual, leaving the relationship on cruise control. Marriages are like a living organism that needs nurturing and tending to.
    • Understanding the importance of offering your wife an emotional connection – Marriages from 2018 are hugely different from 1975. Women have an expectation of emotional fulfilment. Being a provider is not enough and most guys struggle with how to do that.
  • How to understand your own needs as a man
  • How to communicate those needs to your wife
  • Why listening to your wife is only half the equation
  • To offer the full emotional connection requires you to share
  • Women are desperate for men to share, to find out about the person they are with
  • A man’s options in an argument
  • Why shutting down emotionally is like drinking your own poison
  • How taking risks and being honest about your feelings is like magic to your marriage
  • How being “the rock” for your spouse is the biggest myth
  • The similarities between the journey through marriage and jujitsu
  • Quentin’s belt system for becoming a great husband
    • White belt – being coachable and open minded
    • Blue belt – building self-confidence and internal strength
    • Purple belt – becoming well-rounded
    • Brown belt – being a great leader in marriage
    • Black belt – mastery
  • How sex for women is a completely emotional experience and they need to feel extremely secure and attached to have a healthy libido
  • Advice to men in a sexless marriage
  • Why you shouldn’t hesitate to get professional help
'Your job as a husband is not to become a mini-therapist to your wife.'—Quentin Hafner, Black Belt Husband #marriage #husbands #men #fathers #manhood #communication Click To Tweet

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guide to women

Ultimate Guide to Demystifying Women with Robert Kandell


Men are supposed to be strong and silent, right? We think if we work hard and provide we will be rewarded. This is what our culture has taught us, and this is what we think women want. But this idea is becoming obsolete in today’s society.

The world has changed drastically when it comes to the roles of men and women. The patriarchy humans lived in for thousands of years has shifted. Women have evolved but men have stayed the same. It’s time for us to catch up.

Today’s guest, Robert Kandell, is the host of the Tuff Love podcast and the author of the upcoming book unHIDDEN: A Book for Men & Those Confused by Them. He gives us the ultimate guide to demystifying women and tells us how to connect to ourselves so that our women can have what they want most, which is all of us.

'Women want the evolved man. The complicated man. The dynamic man ... They want to see all of you.'—@RobertKandell #men #marriage #women #relationships #vulnerability #masculinity Click To Tweet

Robert Kandell

Robert Kandell is a veteran of many worlds. He has spent time in corporate America, a start-up, a small computer shop, and then built an international 8-figure business based on relationship, intimacy and sexuality. He currently runs a successful consulting firm helping small businesses to become marketable and profitable. In addition to his business and management skills, Robert is an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer, helping men find themselves and utilize their internal power.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why men are so quiet about what’s going on in their minds
  • How most men know something is wrong with themselves and their relationships, but they can’t tell what it is
  • How hiding your fears and weaknesses from your woman hurts your relationship
  • How women want both Spartan strength and little-boy vulnerability at the right times
  • Why women want all aspects of their men
  • Why men need to connect to all aspects of themselves to give their woman everything she needs
  • What judgements block you from making those connections
  • How to get into the flow of self-discovery instead of fighting it
  • Confronting issues with your partner
  • Investigating different ways around communication
  • Practicing ways to implement new information
  • Integrating all you’ve learned into your life
  • Why withholding your struggles from your wife is an unconscious form of chauvinism
  • Difference between connecting with your wife and being a whiny baby
  • Why shaking things up is a huge turn on
  • The shame that runs our lives and blocks us from growing
  • Confronting sexual shame and guilt
  • How Robert Kandell opened up to his wife about his porn issue
  • The butterfly effect of free porn and how it leads to erectile dysfunction and prevents us from connecting with our wives
  • How porn activates the hunter and trains our brain to be addicted to novelty
  • The magical powers of communication
  • How to create communication containers
  • How to be a listener as well as a communicator
  • Robert Kandell’s most important advice as a dad raising two preteen step daughters

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How to Make Your Wife Fall in Love with You Again and Again with Spencer Burnett

How to Make Your Wife Fall in Love with You Again and Again with Spencer Burnett

Why would we bring on a dating coach when most of our listeners are married? If we’re not mindful in our marriage, it will fizzle out. After so many years with the same person, we get comfortable, complacent, and lazy. Whenever we do try to do something new, our wives may reject us and we shut down.

Today we have dating coach and relationship expert Spencer Burnett on the show to talk about how to make your wife fall in love with you again and again. He shares his secrets on pursuing a woman confidently and from a place of service for better communication, intimacy, and attraction.

Married, divorced, and single dads will walk away from this show with a game plan for the relationship they want with the woman they truly desire.

'A good woman makes a good man great.'—@SpencerBurnett #men #dads #marriage #dating #relationships Click To Tweet

Spencer Burnett

It’s Spencer Burnett’s mission to help men embody the best version of themselves so that they can attract and keep the women they truly desire. His journey began when he was a successful guy with everything going for him. All he needed to complete his life was the girl he always dreamed of, a girl he had been close to for years. Spencer assumed she shared the same feelings for him, but when he finally professed his love to her, she told him she thought of him as a really, good girlfriend.

He was completely blindsided. Being friendzoned so harshly turned his world upside down. He wondered, what was he doing wrong? Spencer realized he was going along with what he’d been told by society to attract the woman he wanted, but it was a lie. The old alpha male persona wasn’t working. Spencer spent the next ten years trying to figure out how to stop impressing and start connecting with women. Now he is ten months into a new relationship with a woman he’s crazy about.

'True service is the highest form of empowerment.'—@SpencerBurnett #men #dads #fathers #husbands #wives #marriage #marriagetips Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • That men’s IQ lowers when they approach women
  • Why being programmed to breed as animals gives us conflicting thoughts
  • Why our hunting instincts turn off and we get lazy in relationships with the women we wanted so badly
  • Why we don’t see it coming when our wives are unhappy
  • Our role as conscious creators and kings
  • How to view ourselves as kings without taking on arrogance
  • How to see yourself as royalty and allow yourself to serve your queen
  • Changing to the mindset of service
  • The pointlessness of looking to the external world for validation
  • How to naturally emanate confidence (not arrogance)
  • How to create the evidence of your greatness to build unshakeable confidence
  • How taking away all worldly vices helps you to meet yourself
  • How today’s independent women don’t need the same alpha male type anymore
  • How men can cultivate more beta traits (vulnerability, listening, honesty) in an empowered way to give women what they need
  • Examples of communication starters and communication mistakes
  • The danger of avoiding ourselves
  • The mistake of diving into hobbies, habits, and work when things go wrong instead of connecting
  • How to start dating our wives again without seeming needy
  • Creative ideas for acts of service for your woman
  • How to have conversation with your wife on topics besides the kids
  • How to get more sex
  • Advice for divorced guys and single dads
  • How to put action behind your love instead of just words
'When you ask a woman for her help, she’s going to love you so much more.'—@SpencerBurnett #women #men #love #marriage #vulnerability Click To Tweet

 

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The Dangers of Perfection

The Dangers of Perfection


Do you go at life alone? If you’re like 99% of the men out there, you probably are. Most men bear the weight of the world on their shoulders and tell everyone who asks that they’re “good” and “fine”. They don’t want to ask for advice or help because their afraid of looking weak.

But the dangers of perfection are real and the stress that accumulates from internalizing our fears and worries seeps into everything we do as men, husbands, and fathers.

Thursday Throwdown is our short show with everyday, relatable dads. Today we have Dad Edge Alliance member Brian Auten on to share his experience.

Being raised in a church, Brian was taught that he was supposed to be a good boy, the nice guy who took everything with a smile. It was important to not have any issues and to maintain the appearance of perfection, but the truth was that he was living a lie. Brian did get angry about things. He did have stress and worries. He realized that he didn’t have the perfect marriage, and he wasn’t the perfect dad either.

He decided that enough was enough. Holding in negative emotions put him in a bad mood with his wife and kids. Pretending everything was okay made his life stagnant. He needed help, and he needed to be proactive about getting it.

'I’m not going to tolerate crap in my life anymore.'—Brian Auten, The Dad Edge Alliance #men #dads #fathers #brotherhood #ownership #tribe Click To Tweet

'It’s like priming the pump. If you give a little, you realize there’s a lot more inside you to give.'—Brian Auten, The Dad Edge Alliance #mastermind #men #manhood #brotherhood Click To Tweet

 

MENTIONED EPISODES: 
How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Showing Leadership to Your Kids by Going First

7 Reasons Why Men Don’t Ask for Help

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