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Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink


How can we detach from chaos and our emotions so we can make the best decisions in our lives? How do we know when it’s time to lead and time to follow? How do we apply the balance of leadership and detachment to our family and work life to reach a victorious outcome in any situation?

Today we are pumped to have Jocko Willink on the show. He is a former Navy SEAL, powerhouse podcaster, and co-author of The Dichotomy of Leadership: Balancing the Challenges of Extreme Ownership to Lead and Win with our former guest, Leif Babin.

Jocko tells us how to navigate life with a mindset of extreme ownership, humility, and wisdom. He also talks about raising kids with the dichotomy of leadership so that they can become more resilient, independent, and make the smartest choices for themselves.

Your kids are not going to be who you want them to be, they’re going to be who they are.—Jocko Willink

 

Jocko Willink

JOCKO WILLINK is a decorated retired Navy SEAL officer, author of the book Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, and co-founder of Echelon Front, where he is a leadership instructor, speaker, and executive coach.

Jocko spent 20 years in the U.S. Navy SEAL Teams, starting as an enlisted SEAL and rising through the ranks to become a SEAL officer. As commander of SEAL Team Three’s Task Unit Bruiser during the battle of Ramadi, he orchestrated SEAL operations that helped the “Ready First” Brigade of the US Army’s First Armored Division bring stability to the violent, war-torn city.

Task Unit Bruiser became the most highly decorated Special Operations Unit of the Iraq War. Jocko returned from Iraq to serve as Officer-in-Charge of training for all West Coast SEAL Teams. There, he spearheaded the development of leadership training and personally instructed and mentored the next generation of SEAL leaders who have continued to perform with great success on the battlefield.

During his career, Jocko Willink was awarded the Silver Star, the Bronze Star, and numerous other personal and unit awards. In 2010, Jocko retired from the Navy and launched Echelon Front with Leif Babin where he teaches the leadership principles he learned on the battlefield to help others lead and win. Clients include individuals, teams, companies, and organizations across a wide-range of industries and fields.

Jocko Willink had a fairly normal childhood. He grew up in a small new England town and his parents were school teachers. Jocko says he was a rebellious as a kid, and once he grew up, he joined the military to challenge himself and channel his headstrong personality. He chose the SEALs because he, “liked the water and heard it was really hard.”

Jocko is now a family man and has been married to his wife since 1997. He has four children—three daughters aged 19, 18, and 10 and a son who is 16. Jocko applies SEAL experience and leadership training to his household just as thoroughly as he did in the field. His secret is practicing a state of emotional detachment so that temporary feelings do not interfere with executing the best course of action.

When you detach, you make better decisions. You can see more. You’re just an infinitely better human being.—Jocko Willink

What You’ll Learn

  • How Jocko takes charge of his team and family by applying the same tools to both aspects of his life
  • Why it’s critical to distance yourself from chaos, mayhem, and your own emotions in order not to make rash decisions
  • How even though you may know the right course of action for your kids, you shouldn’t force decisions on them
  • Why you must explain to your kids the “why” behind everything you ask them to do and not to do
  • The red flags of emotion that signal it’s time to step back and reflect
  • How to think about the end result and the long game. How does your kid view you? How much leadership capital will you use one small argument? Be strategic.
  • Why yelling is self-defeating. Though there is a temporary outward respect for power, there is an inward disrespect and resentment.
  • Building trust by allowing your kids to execute things on their own
  • How to be realistic and recognize the limitations of your kids
  • How to push your kids beyond their limitations without overwhelming them
  • What happened when Jocko pushed his kids too hard
  • How to constantly modulate to make sure sports are fun
  • How sports and athletics help kids realize that suffering, discipline, and training will bring them fun (wins) and long-term gratification
  • Why specializing in one sport is not as effective as giving them a broad range of athletics
  • How to get your kids off screens and devices
  • The balance of ego and humility in parenting and leadership
  • Jocko’s guidance to his son about getting into fights (it will surprise you)
  • How to assess your kids for confidence, ego, and humility, fear
  • How to encourage low-confidence kids
  • How to humble cocky kids
  • Jocko’s most valuable lessons about marriage
  • Why he says that if you’re annoyed at your partner for something, it’s your fault
  • Why being 100% honest all the time is wrong
  • How to take ownership of what’s going on instead of blaming everyone else
  • How Jocko balances all the demands in his life to show up as the man he wants to be with his family
  • Why it’s not only about how Jocko interacts with his kids, but also about what they see from him
  • Why Jocko’s happy his family doesn’t need him
  • His advice to young SEALs who think about getting out of the military for their family
  • Why he wants his kids to see someone who succeeds from working hard and not because of natural gifts and abilities

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio


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Books

The Dichotomy of Leadership: Balancing the Challenges of Extreme Ownership to Lead and Win

Way of the Warrior Kid: From Wimpy to Warrior the Navy SEAL Way: A Novel

Marc’s Mission: Way of the Warrior Kid (A Novel)

Way of the Warrior Kid 3: Where there’s a Will… (A Novel)

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debrief to win accountable leadership

Debrief to Win with former Top Gun Instructor Robert “Cujo” Teschner

Who knows how to rapidly assess, respond, and adapt under extreme pressure better than a Top Gun fighter pilot? Today we are super-psyched to have Top Gun instructor Robert “Cujo” Teschner on the show! He’s releasing his book called Debrief to Win: How High-Performing Leaders Practice Accountable Leadership. He is also a husband, a father of five children, and a cancer survivor.

You don’t get to Cujo’s level without doing the work and prepping yourself to win at all costs. He reveals that even though his military career was taking off, he was failing in other dimensions of his life. One day he realized that if he applied his elite training to his health and family, he would dominate across the board.

Listen to his Debrief to Win system to set yourself up for a successful mission no matter what the dogfight of life throws at you.

Robert “Cujo” Teschner

Robert “Cujo” Teschner is a retired, multiple award-winning United States Air Force fighter pilot. He was the 125th F-15C Instructor at the Air Force Weapons School – the Air Force “TOP GUN” Program. He commanded the 7th Fighter Squadron “Screamin’ Demons,” one of America’s only front-line operational F-22 squadrons. He won multiple awards for flying excellence and was promoted to the rank of full-Colonel. He has multiple advanced degrees and also spent his entire career leading high-performance teams to success. This earned him the callsign “Cujo,” the warrior that flew combat missions over the skies of Iraq.

He’s proud to be a dad and believes his number one job is to raise his kids.

“I don’t lose. That’s my culture. We’re going to be facing adversity every day. It’s not a question of if it’s going to happen, it’s how you’re going to react to it.”—Robert “Cujo” Teschner

What You’ll Learn

  • How he got his call sign “Cujo”
  • How F15 pilots keep their call signs for the rest of their lives
  • How realistic the Top Gun movie is
  • What we all want to know—was that inverted flight move in Top Gun possible?
  • What it’s like going 2,000 miles an hour and experiencing 9 times the force of gravity
  • What is G-induced loss of consciousness and how pilots train to prevent it
  • The Top Gun training and selection process
  • How he went from pilot to instructor
  • The secrets behind successful teams
  • Why he began to apply his training to his family life
  • How children crave to be led by their fathers
  • The importance of getting kids to recognize that they are better as a team than individuals
  • Cujo’s system:
    • Mission planning
    • Communicate this plan to the team (family)
    • Defining the successful completion of that mission
    • Debriefing to look for ways to improve
  • Cujo’s basic standard operating procedure for clean rooms
  • Should parents motivate by offering rewards or delivering consequences
  • How he has used his Top Gun training to improve his marriage
  • The importance of carving time out each day to reflect
  • Learning for empowerment
  • Using a day to analyze the State of the Union of the family
  • His diagnosis of colorectal cancer
  • Why his cancer was totally avoidable but he chose to ignore it, allowing a solvable problem to become a life-changing issue
  • His advice to men to be aware of if they’re feeling sorry for themselves and if they should be asking themselves better questions
  • How to stop wasting time, energy, and money on the the wrong things by finding your “big why” and your “micro whys”
  • How to practice the mental exercise of preparing for all outcomes
  • Why hoping for the best but preparing for the worst allows you to keep the cool, composed attitude of a Top Gun pilot

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Battling Cancer as a Dad with Hal Elrod

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids with Lance and Brandy Salazar

All the Money You Will Ever Need with Grant Sabatier


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Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

What’s the most important quality of a leader? How can we use leadership to become a more effective father, husband, and man? And how can we teach our kids to be responsible and accountable for their actions?

Our guest needs no introduction. Former US Navy seal officer Leif Babin. He coauthored the #1 NY Time bestseller, Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, and The Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink. He is also cofounder of Echelon Front, a premier leadership consulting company that helps others build their own high-performance winning teams.

Leif Babin is going to tell us the most important quality of a leader—whether it’s in SEAL teams or at home—and his answer will surprise you. He’s also going to talk about how he applies combat rules to family life, how to detach from emotions to be more effective, and how to be proactive to find solutions and get things done.

“The most humbling lesson of fatherhood is that your control is quite limited.”—Leif Babin

Leif Babin

Leif Babin served thirteen years in the Navy, including nine in the SEAL Teams. He is the recipient of the Silver Star, two Bronze Stars, and a Purple Heart. He left active duty with the Navy in 2011 to start Echelon Front, which offers unmatched solutions in leadership, strategy, innovation, safety and risk mitigation, team building, and crisis management developed and proven in combat. He’s also the father of two “free-spirited” kids, a four year old son and a two year old daughter. Leif says from the moment they were born, it’s been a clash of wills and he now appreciates what he put his parents through.

“Humility is the most important quality in a leader.”—Leif Babin

What You’ll Learn

  • Why humility is the most important key to leadership
  • Why our ego prevents of from asking for help
  • How our ego makes us complacent and prevents us from innovating and adapting
  • How to do a brutally honest assessment in the mirror to improve and succeed
  • Why fathers must check their ego in conflicts with their kids
  • How to lead and communicate or set a better example for your kids
  • Why Leif says raising kids is harder than leading SEAL teams
  • How fatherhood is like combat leadership
  • Why you’ve got to come up with a flexible plan to adapt and react
  • The greatest lesson for Leif as a husband
  • Using the second law of combat in marriage – communication must be simple, clear, and concise
  • Why an indirect approach is more effective in communication with your wife
  • How Leif leans on his mom, dad, and Jocko Willink
  • Why strong people are the ones who ask for help
  • The cover and move technique – How can I cover my spouse so she can move?
  • Why you shouldn’t wait for you wife to ask for help
  • How day to day family issues are not about you, it’s about the mission
  • How to be proactive in getting things done
  • The mistake of waiting for society to solve your kids’ problems
  • Leif’s thoughts on bullying
  • How to let your kids brush up against the guardrails of failure from a young age
  • How to teach ownership and responsibility
  • To spank or not to spank?
  • Why as a father, it’s not what you preach, it’s what you tolerate
  • The importance of following through with your punishments
  • Setting reasonable expectations for little kids
  • Why constant yelling is ineffective and can be dangerous
  • How to prioritize your discipline and guidance
  • How to build resilience against emotional outbursts
  • How to detach from outcomes, analyze, and make the call on the highest priority action
  • Why Leif and Jocko Willink wrote The Dichotomy of Leadership
  • Leif Babin’s plans for the future for Echelon Front

“If you’re solving all your kids problems, they’re not learning how to solve problems themselves.”—Leif Babin

 


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likeability

The Art of Likeability with Arel Moodie

What is it about some people that makes us gravitate toward them? Why is it that sometimes we just don’t like certain people? How can we acquire that X-factor that makes some men so likeable and how can we use that to enhance our relationships at work and at home?

Today’s guest is Arel Moodie, the host of the wildly popular podcast called The Art of Likeability. He says that increased likability improves your leadership and builds deeper relationships to create more success in all areas of your life. He demystifies likeability and tells us how to leverage it for ourselves and also instill it in our children. You do not want to miss the fascinating interview!

'In every situation, either someone’s teaching you how to treat people or you’re teaching them how to treat people by your example, so you have to decide what’s going to be it.'—@arelmoodie #likeability #leadership #family Click To Tweet

Arel Moodie and The Art of Likeability

Arel Moodie has been married for ten years and is the father of two boys. His obsession with likeability began in school. He wasn’t a total outcast, but he considered himself a C- when it came to operating in social situations. He wondered what did the cool kids have that he didn’t have? This began his lifelong missions to find out the secret of likeability and make it available to everyone.

'Being a good leader is always about helping other be better.'—@ArelMoodie #leadership #fatherhood #dads #men #fathers Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • What makes us decide whether we like or dislike a person
  • Why in order to be interesting, you have to be interested
  • Unlocking the social superpower, which is realizing that the exact conversation you have in your head about your anxieties and insecurities is the same exact conversation other people have going on in their heads
  • How your level of warmth and confidence raises significantly with empathy
  • The real difference between positive and negative people (it’s not that positive people don’t have negative thoughts)
  • Why we are so hard on ourselves with our inner dialogue
    • Spiritually, our fear of our potential for evil.
    • Biologically, a survival instinct that says that if we play small and don’t risk, we stay safe
    • The fear that when we truly appreciate something, we’ll lose it
  • How to become the beacon of positive in the workplace
  • Taking our unhappiness at work out on others is a way of using power and control
  • How to choose to create something great in your work life
  • You can crush it in anything today if you’re passionate about it
  • How to learn how to love your spouse in the way they want
  • As a masculine mind, we look at fixing the problem while our partners want us to acknowledge their feelings
  • How a woman’s feelings are like a storm that passes
  • How men have to stand ground and acknowledge the woman’s feelings
  • How to teach likeability to your kids
  • Looking for the win-win in every situation, and why win-win makes you likeable
  • The mistake of sacrificing for other people
  • How Arel brainwashes his children
'I brainwash my children. If I’m not brainwashing them, someone else is.'—@ArelMoodie #parenting #fatherhood #family #moms #dads Click To Tweet

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Showing Leadership to Your Kids by Going First

Showing Leadership to Your Kids by Going First

Are you afraid to go first? We usually like to sit back and watch someone else go first, whether it’s being the first to raise our hand, the first to try something we’ve never done before, or the first to speak up and say what everyone else is afraid to say. But when we become dads, what happens if we continue to let others go first? What does that show our kids?

One of the lessons we want to teach our kids is leadership. We are the leaders of the family and it is our duty to go first, even if we fail. Today we have Kyle Ferris on the show. He’s one of our members from the Dad Edge Alliance and he attended our Dad Edge Summit last month. He shares his insights on how to be a leader to your kids by going first.

You are the star in your own movie and your kids are the audience. What role are you playing? Are you in a supporting role? The crew? Or the hero? #dads #men #fathers #parenting #leadership Click To Tweet

Are you afraid to go first? We usually like to sit back and watch someone else go first, but when we become dads, what does that show our kids? #dads #fathers #fatherhood #parenting #kids #leadership Click To Tweet

MENTIONED EPISODES:

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

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