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Ultimate Guide to Demystifying Women with Robert Kandell


Men are supposed to be strong and silent, right? We think if we work hard and provide we will be rewarded. This is what our culture has taught us, and this is what we think women want. But this idea is becoming obsolete in today’s society.

The world has changed drastically when it comes to the roles of men and women. The patriarchy humans lived in for thousands of years has shifted. Women have evolved but men have stayed the same. It’s time for us to catch up.

Today’s guest, Robert Kandell, is the host of the Tuff Love podcast and the author of the upcoming book unHIDDEN: A Book for Men & Those Confused by Them. He gives us the ultimate guide to demystifying women and tells us how to connect to ourselves so that our women can have what they want most, which is all of us.

'Women want the evolved man. The complicated man. The dynamic man ... They want to see all of you.'—@RobertKandell #men #marriage #women #relationships #vulnerability #masculinity Click To Tweet

Robert Kandell

Robert Kandell is a veteran of many worlds. He has spent time in corporate America, a start-up, a small computer shop, and then built an international 8-figure business based on relationship, intimacy and sexuality. He currently runs a successful consulting firm helping small businesses to become marketable and profitable. In addition to his business and management skills, Robert is an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer, helping men find themselves and utilize their internal power.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why men are so quiet about what’s going on in their minds
  • How most men know something is wrong with themselves and their relationships, but they can’t tell what it is
  • How hiding your fears and weaknesses from your woman hurts your relationship
  • How women want both Spartan strength and little-boy vulnerability at the right times
  • Why women want all aspects of their men
  • Why men need to connect to all aspects of themselves to give their woman everything she needs
  • What judgements block you from making those connections
  • How to get into the flow of self-discovery instead of fighting it
  • Confronting issues with your partner
  • Investigating different ways around communication
  • Practicing ways to implement new information
  • Integrating all you’ve learned into your life
  • Why withholding your struggles from your wife is an unconscious form of chauvinism
  • Difference between connecting with your wife and being a whiny baby
  • Why shaking things up is a huge turn on
  • The shame that runs our lives and blocks us from growing
  • Confronting sexual shame and guilt
  • How Robert Kandell opened up to his wife about his porn issue
  • The butterfly effect of free porn and how it leads to erectile dysfunction and prevents us from connecting with our wives
  • How porn activates the hunter and trains our brain to be addicted to novelty
  • The magical powers of communication
  • How to create communication containers
  • How to be a listener as well as a communicator
  • Robert Kandell’s most important advice as a dad raising two preteen step daughters

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The Infinite Game of Marriage with Cara Miller


If we think of marriage as a game, we immediately strategize on how to win our spouses’ hearts the way we did the very first time. The problem is that our partners grow and change throughout life. To keep dating your spouse like you did in the past is not going to work anymore. As you will hear on our show today, the game of marriage is infinite. The goal is not to win, but to keep playing.

Today we have our fourth female guest on The Dad Edge. Her name is Cara Miller and she a developmental coach with a unique academic background, including wealth of insightful knowledge about how people connect and feel that sense of belonging that is so important for a rich, fulfilling life.

In this episode, Cara Miller tells how to initiate change in our relationships by dating our spouses for who they are today instead of who they were when we first met them.  She reveals simple, actionable steps we can take to become experts on the people we love, including kids, friends, and coworkers.

'Dating in marriage is an infinite game.'—Cara Miller #marriage #relationships #dating #wife #husband #love Click To Tweet

About Cara Miller MDIV PHD

Cara T. Miller ​is a professor, executive developmental coach, organizational design and change consultant in the fields of leadership, organizational development, adult development, and spiritual formation. Cara received a Master of Divinity from Princeton Theological Seminary and a PhD in Leadership Studies at the University of San Diego.

Cara draws on developmental psychology to coach people in many contexts (executives, partnerships, teams), adaptive leadership theory to consult to diverse organizations engaging in change efforts (military, higher education, finance, ministry), and is committed to first, second, and third person, here-and-now practices that support the sustainability of this integrative work.

'Our families are a school of love.'—Cara Miller #family #dads #men #fathers #parenting #communication Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why we pursue learning, yet resist change
  • How we can build neural pathways to change our habits and thinking
  • Why in focusing on ‘being’ first, the doing will follow
  • Why it won’t work if you try to keep dating your spouse the way you did the first time
  • Why the goal of the game of marriage is not to win, but to continue playing
  • How to learn who your spouse is now
  • How to get out of the loop of expectation
  • How to make yourself date-able again to your spouse
  • How to fill the tank of your relationships ahead of time to prepare for stressful situations
  • How to fulfill her needs based on what you want from her
  • How you can practice these communication techniques on your wife before moving on to your kids
  • How to be an interesting father to each of your kids
  • How to warm up for a heavy conversation with a pre-conversation
  • How your relationship is not something you have, it’s something you’re in
  • Why guessing what your partner wants is not going to work
  • How to create a way to be together as a couple that is different than it was and fits who you are right now
'We are not the experts on the people that we love.'—Cara Miller #love #marriage #connection #communication Click To Tweet

 

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The Mindset Shift That Will Transform Your Relationships

The Mindset Shift That Will Transform Your Relationships

Who are we supposed to be in relationships? As men, no one gives us a manual on how to communicate, be emotionally available, and give our spouse or partner what they need.

Today we have Dad Edge Alliance member Ed Dillon on the show. He is a single father of four who’s had two failed marriages.

Ed spent years wondering why his relationships, including the ones with his kids, were falling flat.

He talks about what mindset shift took place that shed light on all he was doing wrong and how this lead to some of the most profound moments of connection in his life.

'Reaching out for help is the biggest thing. I tried to be an island. It doesn’t work.'—Ed Dillon #men #mastermind #fathers #marriage #divorce #singledads Click To Tweet

How can we have conversations that enhance emotional connection and foster intimacy with our spouses? #men #dads #fathers #marriage #relationships #vulnerability #communication #intimacy Click To Tweet

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One of the Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Marriage

One of the Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Marriage

In this short episode, I’m going to talk about a huge mistake most men make when it comes to marriage. We do it with the best intentions, believing we are protecting our wives and doing what’s best for them. In reality, we do more damage than we can possibly imagine.

I share a personal experience where I was in danger of losing my marriage because of this one mistake and I’m going to tell you how to avoid it.

Communication is key, even if it's ugly sometimes. #communication #marriage #men #fathers #dads #relationships Click To Tweet

MENTIONED EPISODE: Using the Past to Become a Better Dad with Former NFL Player Billy Miller

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Make Huge Improvements to Your Sex Life

5 Small Ways to Make Huge Improvements to Your Sex Life


In the previous episode, I had “Sex with Emily” on this show. As a female, a doctor of Human Sexuality, and a beautiful woman, Dr. Emily Morse gave us some fantastic tips on how to break the silence when it comes to talking about sex with our spouses.

Most of us men in The Good Dad Project community have been married for a while and things have cooled off in the bedroom department. Dr. Emily Morse said that it only takes 6 months to 2 years for the honeymoon phase to wear off. When kids enter the picture, making sex a priority is harder than ever.

Whether you are a husband or a wife, most of us can agree that we want amazing sex lives with our partner. In this short episode, I go over 5 small ways to make huge improvements to your sex life.

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