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What Doesn't Kill Us Scott Carney

What Doesn’t Kill Us with Scott Carney

Would you climb to the top of Kilimanjaro in 30-degree weather wearing nothing but boots, shorts, and a knit cap? Today’s guest did it and he wrote the book on it. We have NY Times bestselling author of What Doesn’t Kill Us, Scott Carney to tell us why he put his body through such extremes and why we all should get out of our physical comfort zones for better health, mental resilience, and disease resistance.

We talk about dads’ health a lot on the GDP – diet, exercise, and finding the time to take care of ourselves, but we’ve never had a show like this. Scott Carney believes our comfortable modern lifestyle is making us weak and shows how to use 15 minutes a day to make ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally invincible.

Think about it. We get up from our warm beds into a warm shower. We walk from our front doors to our cars, from our cars to our workplaces. Whether we go to the store or the gym or the movie theater, our climate is controlled. We are never exposed to the elements. Our environment is always the same.

Our human evolution was not built for that. Our bodies developed systems for survival and adaptation, but we are never challenged. Our habitat is static and these systems aren’t exercised anymore. This is why Scott Carney believes there is more to human health than diet and exercise. He suggests there is a third pillar, the environment you inhabit.

If your environment is static, you’re not exercising your systems.

Scott Carney’s story

Grew up in Rhode Island with a good family. His father was a surgeon and was absent most of the time. He was a good man, but worked probably 100 hours a week. Scott and his father were not incredibly close because of that. But he had a close relationship with his mom, and spent most of his childhood whacking sticks at trees, pretending he was a knight.

Scott says that did everything he wanted to do as a kid. He played video games, went sailing, dug for mollusks on the beach. He played Dungeons and Dragons. The game was considered counter-culture at the time, but being dungeon master involved a great deal of storytelling. Scot was telling stories to his friends throughout his teens, and he thinks that’s why he became a writer.

Scott grew up in an exclusively white suburb. In 5th grade, his parents asked him to choose a school. When they visited a poorer school in low-income community, he saw his first black kid in a skull cap and he told his parents that this was the school he wanted to attend. He was a minority and he chose it for that.

I’m interested in finding places that make me uncomfortable. 

Scott’s mission before was debunking false gurus and selling his articles to magazines like Playboy and Details. One day he spotted a picture of Wim Hof sitting on an iceberg in nothing but a pair of shorts. Wim Hof had broken all kinds of records when it came to testing the limits of the human body, but when Hof claimed to be able to teach people to do the same, Scott had to go out and debunk him. He had seen deaths result from people with claims like this. Maybe Wim Hof was a genetic freak, but normal people would die if they followed him.

Scott meets him and is unimpressed with Hof’s appearance. His big ruddy nose from years of alcoholism, his bad balding head with long hair hairstyle, gave him the aura of a smelly homeless dude. Still, Scott went to Hof’s training center in Poland. The first thing Scott sees when he arrives at the dilapidated farm house is a guy outside his window, barefoot and only wearing his underwear in the dead of Polish winter. The man was throwing snow on himself and Scott could see the steam rising from his body. He wondered what he had gotten himself into.

But after hanging out with Hoff and training under his methods, Scott realized it wasn’t bullshit at all. He could learn to do the same things. He found out he could get comfortable with the cold, and he could learn these skills quickly.  At the end of the week, in 2-degree weather, Scott found himself in boots, shorts, and a hat climbing to top of a mountain and burning up all the time.

This started him on the path that would lead him to Kilimanjaro and his bestselling book, What Doesn’t Kills Us.

What Doesn’t Kill Us

We are hairless apes with billions of years of development behind us. Our bodies and cells are evolved to change in relation to the signals we receive from light, temperature, and elements.

But we have factored out our environment. The systems created to respond to changes have gotten lazy and weak.

Scott says that when those systems aren’t used, they turn against us, causing inflammation and chronic health problems from blood pressure to auto-immune diseases like Lupus, Crohn’s, and allergies.

15 Minutes to Exercise Your Systems

Scott says that when you start giving people environmental stimulus that is uncomfortable, you start to trigger the fight or flight response that modulates all sorts of systems in the body. If you learn to control your physical response, it can help with all kinds of problems, even anxiety.

Fathers don’t have a lot of time to train in the snow and climb mountains in their boxers, but staying in a comfort zone for a man is deadly. This quick 2-phase morning routine will help sync your systems.

  1. Wim Hof breathing protocol – You can do this exercise in bed. What you’ll essentially be doing is hyperventilating. Breathe deeply in and out thirty times. You’ll get lightheaded, and this is normal. Then after the last breath, hold it till you feel like you’re going to gasp (but don’t pass out). Then take a half-breath and hold it for ten seconds. After that, do another cycle of thirty breaths, then hold again. The second time you’ll discover that you can hold much longer. You might see colors behind your eyes. You will feel dizzy, amped, and full of adrenaline. Do one more rep of thirty breaths. Now, let all air out, get on the floor, and do as many pushups as you can while holding your breath. Tip: Do not eat beforehand. All your blood will go to your stomach.
  2. The Cold Shower – After your breathing exercise, you can eat breakfast. Then hop in the shower. Start off with warm water and at the end, turn the water all the way to cold (the colder the better). The goal is this: when the water is cascading, instead of clenching your body and shivering to create heat, learn to relax in the cold. Get the mental power to be at ease in this stressful environment. This teaches body to find another way to heat itself, thus raising metabolic rate. This exercise also helps anxiety by activating the fight or flight and then stopping it

Wisdom to Make Us Better Men

Dads are constantly faced with stressors. Work, kids, relationships. How can we be better responders instead of horrible reactors?

Scott Carney is not a dad, but he says to always try to do things that make you uncomfortable. Stay curious throughout your life. Explore. Find something weird, strange, new, or unfamiliar. When we lose our curiosity, we die a little bit.

Kids have great curiosity. Learn from them.


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Change Your Drinking Habits

Change Your Drinking Habits, Change Your Life – Join GDP Dry September!

If you’ve been thinking of the idea of whether to give up alcohol, now’s the time to do it. We’re doing a September 30-Day no alcohol challenge with the Good Dad Project Community. Join us on our free Dad Edge Facebook group and the Dad Edge Alliance membership group and share your experience. By making a commitment to quit drinking together, we will have the support and accountability we need to succeed.

 

 

Post your challenges and successes in our groups. We want to hear when it’s hard. We want to hear about the changes you see in your life. Help and inspire others in the group. Join our challenge today!

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Mentioned Episode: How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns


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Insomnia, Depression, and Anxiety

Getting Real About Insomnia, Depression, and Anxiety

What happens when we go through something so difficult that it rocks the very core of who we are? Today I have a real, raw discussion with Josiah Novak from True Transformation about my battle with insomnia, depression, and anxiety.

Regular listeners know that I just recovered from a 33-day bout of debilitating insomnia. It was the most insane thing I ever went through. It tested me mentally, emotionally, physically and I felt that I might lose everything that was important to me. For the first time in my life, I understood how awful depression and anxiety could be.

During this episode, I go through the story from beginning to end. Here are a few takeaway lessons from my experience.

Listen to your body

My insomnia began after vigorous training for SEALFIT 20X. After breaking my personal records, I didn’t feel right. Instead of listening to my body, I kept pushing myself and the adrenaline and cortisol from the intense workouts wouldn’t let my body calm down. I put myself through an unnecessary domino effect of absolute hell.

Ask for help right away

I couldn’t sleep for more than 90 minutes to 3 hours a night. I thought it would pass and go away on its own. It didn’t.

I couldn’t think right. I began to have panic attacks. If I had gotten help in the beginning, it may not had gotten to that point.

Don’t give up

My wife became a single mother during this time. I had gotten so depressed I didn’t know what to do with myself. There was tension in our relationship and I felt that if I couldn’t function, provide, or please her, what good was I as a man? At one point I thought I wouldn’t be able to hang on much longer. But eventually I broke the cycle. As desperate as I felt, there was an end to the nightmare.

The doctor isn’t always right

I tried all kinds of sleeping pills and psychiatric meds. I even swigged shots of Benadryl. One doctor told me that if my prescription didn’t work for me, there was no hope. Another doctor prescribed me four different powerful drugs to take everyday. They had awful side-effects. Against doctor’s orders, I tapered myself off and now use natural techniques to make sure I fall asleep.

Set boundaries

You can’t ‘yes’ to everything. In the end you spread yourself too thin and can’t give your attention to those who need it most, like your kids. Think about what’s important in your life and save your energy for your priorities.

Depression and Anxiety can happen to anybody

I now have tremendous compassion for people who have depression and anxiety. It’s not something anyone wants to have. It’s not something anyone can control. It represents emotional struggle, a cycle that no one knows how to deal with. It can seem like digging an endless hole. If you’ve never experienced it, you don’t know. Men do suffer depression and anxiety, and we should be talking about it.

 

Referenced Episode : How to Get Rid of the Dad Bod in 2017 with Josiah Novak

 


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Prevailing Through the Crucibles of Life

Prevailing Through the Crucibles of Life

We all go through times in our lives when the carpet is pulled from under us. Through no fault of our own, our lives spin out of control. We go through a hell that seems unending. We feel all that’s important to us slipping through our fingers. Today we talk about prevailing over the crucibles of life.

I just went through thirty-three days of horrendous insomnia. I only could get ninety minutes to three hours of sleep a night. I went to the ER twice and was hospitalized for four days. I tried all the meds, and nothing would put me down for more than three hours. I went to bed every night in fear, knowing I wouldn’t be able to sleep. I lost fifteen pounds. My blood pressure and blood sugar went up. As my health deteriorated, I worried about my business, the GDP podcast, and my family. For the first time in my life, I experienced anxiety and depression. I felt like I had no control as a I watched everything that was important to me slipping away.

In this episode I tell you how I got through this crucible in my life and how you can too.

 

Did you catch our previous episode? Reclaiming the Art of Manliness with Brett McKay

 


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How to Get Rid of the Dad Bod in 2017 with Josiah Novak

Fitness Coach, Josiah Novak, is back on The Good Dad Project to tell us the secrets to following through with health resolutions and getting rid of the dad bod in 2017.

The New Year is well on its way. Have you stuck to your health and fitness resolutions? If you haven’t, you’re not alone. As much as 70% of New Year’s resolutions are abandoned by March. Josiah Novak is here today to tell us why it’s so difficult to commit to a new health regimen. He also gives us simple and effective strategies to ensure great results without sacrificing precious free time or depriving ourselves of the foods we love.

Dad’s want to be the king of everything for their families, and we constantly compare ourselves with others. Social media, supplement companies, and magazines give us unrealistic expectations. So when we can’t keep up with the latest extreme diet or fitness program, or if we don’t instantly get the shredded body we hoped for, we ditch our efforts and go back to our old bad habits.

It’s time to break the cycle in 2017. Busy dads can apply these health and fitness strategies, no matter what kind of lifestyle they lead.

  1. Find a plan that fits.

Dads tend to go into the New Year with an all or nothing approach. But life gets in the way, and if our plan doesn’t go perfectly we give up. Trying to rearrange your entire life around a crazy diet and exercise program will set you up for failure. Josiah says that having a plan is just part of the game. You must keep pushing forward even if you caved into junk food or skipped a few workouts. There are many ways to add fitness and nutrition to your life, and you’ll have greater success if you arrange new habits to accommodate to your existing lifestyle and schedule.

  1. Go for progress, not perfection.

Exercise and eating habits are difficult to change. It might take up to 90 days to settle into new healthy habits. Don’t focus on where you may have slipped. Instead, focus on what progress you have made. Maybe you didn’t work out as much as you planned, but it was much more often than before you had started. Maybe you didn’t stick to your nutrition plan, but you did eat more healthy foods than you did before.

  1. A healthy lifestyle is an investment, not a cost.

One of the biggest issues that keep dads from optimal health is they feel like they’re being selfish when they want to take time for themselves for fitness. But it’s selfish NOT to invest in your health. It’s a requirement. Imagine if one day you are unable to take care of your family because of health problems. Heart disease, obesity, diabetes, and other illnesses can be prevented by committing to healthy eating habits and regular exercise. You can’t afford not to be in your best health as a man, and especially as a father.

  1. You don’t have to put in hours at the gym.

Some men know they’ll never be able to put in hours at the gym. They’ll never have the time or money or energy, so they give up on the idea of working out altogether. Josiah says this is another excuse. You don’t have to go to the gym to get the results you want. There are plenty of ways to workout at home that will get you in excellent shape.

  1. You don’t have to work out every day.

Consistency is the key. That’s why it’s so important to create plan that flows with your lifestyle.  You could train for hours in the gym every night, but give up after a few weeks, or you can find a routine that fits your schedule and stick with it. Even if it’s 20 or 30 minutes a few days a week, you can get surprising results.

  1. Keep healthy foods around.

Nutrition is the hardest part for busy dads, but it’s the most important. It’s impossible to exercise your way out of a bad diet. The key is to have a system that is simple and lifestyle-friendly. One of the easiest ways to avoid temptation is to keep healthy food around at all times. When you’re cooking lean protein, like chicken breast, make extra portions and keep them in the fridge for later. Make sure you have healthy snacks around like low-sugar protein bars and smoothies. If you go out for lunch, take the opportunity to order a low-calorie protein rich meal like a salad. That way when you get home and you’re tired, you can be a little less strict during your evening meal with the family.

  1. Take diet breaks.

As long as you have discipline and do not binge, you can take diet breaks during the week. Don’t deprive yourself of ice cream when you’re out with the kids. Enjoy a date night dinner with your wife. What’s the point of being healthy if you can‘t live a little every now and then? Then you’ll feel ready to recommit to your diet the next day.

 

Josiah Novak’s Dad Wisdom

There will be moments as in fitness, fatherhood, marriage, or career where you will want to give up and drop everything. It’s normal to feel that way, but good things always happen when you push through. NEVER QUIT.

 

Referenced Episode:

True Transformation with Josiah Novak

 


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