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How to be the Go-To Guy for Your Kids


How insane is it to be a parent these days? Now, think about what your kids are going through. How can you be the go-to guy for your kids when they are struggling?

Today we have Dad Edge Alliance member and elementary school teacher Charlie Moynahan on the show. Not only is he fathering two boys, as a teacher in a poor area, he is often the only consistent person in his students’ lives.

Charlie tells us how to help kids become resilient and self-reliant. He reveals how he helps students deal with learning challenges, bullies, and adversity. He also teaches us the tools he uses to raise respectful, responsible, and loving kids.

Childhood is not for the faint of heart.

Charlie Moynahan

“If you realized your ability to shine – in the classroom, in your career, in your community – was simply a result of you focusing on productive choices, how much more impactful would you be, and for whom? This question rattles me daily as I struggle to show up and be the best dad I can be to my two young boys (ages 4 and 2). Proudly, I spend a lot of time in reflection and am on a quest to help my boys (and in turn, other people) find their shine. Over the past seven years, I have sharpened my saw as an elementary educator in Sacramento, California, working with multi-generational families to improve their outlooks and align their children’s goals towards success. My first published book, Tanzen and the Yellow Light, appeals to upper elementary/middle school grade fiction readers.”

Tanzen and the Yellow Light

Tanzen is a 5th grader at Luther Elementary School, and while he doesn’t fully understand his dreams lately, he soon realizes that his core group of buddies is having similar dreams. When Tanzen wakes one morning and sees orange and black fur on his arms, a million questions start popping into his head. Questions like, “What is happening to me?”, “Can I roar super awesomely?”, and “What’s for breakfast, again?”Tanzen soon finds out that his friends are also experiencing odd abilities that don’t quite add up. Famed school bullies, Brenda and Jeremy, are working alongside a dangerous group of Shifters that have the same abilities as Tanzen and his friends, but come together for damaging purposes. When one of Tanzen’s crew gets taken and sent to the Zanimal World, they have no choice but to pursue, at all costs. A surprise schoolhouse attack pushes the group towards a battle of good versus evil before they’ve even had a chance to train with their teacher and mentor, Mr. Cherry! Will the crew be able to band together, face increasingly complex Zanimal challenges, and save their friend… in between classroom chaos, cooties, and cafeteria food? Find out by joining Tanzen, Amaya, Leo, and Jay as they stumble, crash, slip and slide their way into… Zanimal World!

I don’t want to drive their life. I want to help them figure it out.

What You’ll Learn

  • How to become the go-to guy for your kids
  • What it means to give kids solid counsel
  • Affirmation for kids—be respectful, be responsible, be loving
  • How to get kids onboard to work for a common goal
  • Teaching kids to regroup and restrategize when things don’t go their way
  • Understanding why bullies behave the way they do and teaching kids how to handle them
  • Showing kids how to rise to challenge
  • Making it clear to kids that their parents, their grades, and their clothes don’t make them who they are. It’s character.

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Strong Fathers, Strong Kids with Meg Meeker

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A Father’s Guide to Bonding with Sons and Daughters with Michael Gurian


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The World’s Toughest Lifelong Learner


Today, Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman revisits The Dad Edge. He is a former Spanish teacher turned UFC Champion who now hosts The Spaniard Show podcast and is the author of Driven: My Unlikely Journey from Classroom to Cage.

Charlie is here to talk about his new book, Becoming the World’s Toughest Lifelong Learner: A Book for Anyone Who Wants to Pursue Anything. He shares his principles for overcoming the fear of starting something new and pushing through obstacles in business, health, and relationships. He gives us a template on how to tap into courage and the mental tools we need to keep moving forward not matter what. Learn how to become the world’s toughest lifelong learner in this episode!

 

Becoming the World’s Toughest Lifelong Learner

Whatever idea or passion you pursue, you’ll face obstacles, mess and doubt. I know because I’m chronicling the ups and downs in real time as I build my life and career: TOP 7 ranked UFC fighter, reality TV champion, nationally-ranked Division I wrestler / 1st Team All-Academic, podcaster with 1200+ episodes. This book is a combination memoir and how-to for hanging tough as you find the best way forward. In it, I share 11 principles that have helped me transition from professional fighting into podcasting, speaking and writing. I hope you’ll join me in trying to live them out and learn from the best. In the first three years of my podcast, I’ve recorded 128 talks with world-class guests, and I’ve systematically shared insights from studying 89 books. This is how I pursue my mission to embody and inspire lifelong learning that will help you make the most of your life. I’m out to sharpen the same hunger in you so you can take my title: World’s Toughest Lifelong Learner.


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How to Persevere In Spite of Fear with Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman

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Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

How To Dream Big and Conquer Your ​Aspirations with Diamond Dallas Page​

Pulling the Positive from Failures with UFC Champion Frankie Edgar


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Parenting Your ADHD Kid with Confidence Angela Pruess


Parenting is always a challenge. We aren’t given a manual when our kid is born. Parents whose kids have ADHD are even more unprepared. The Dad Edge constantly receives emails from dads who are struggling with their ADHD son or daughter. Most feel frustrated and helpless. They don’t enjoy parenting, and their kids can sense that. But there is hope for ADHD parents. All we need is the right skillset.

Angela Pruess is a licensed family therapist with a background in Child Psychology, Child Development, and Play Therapy. She is the founder of Parents with Confidence and also the mother of three children, two having special needs.

Angela explains the 3 different types of ADHD and the best way to manage each one. She talks about how to create an environment that encourages emotional intelligence and a growth mindset. She also tells us how to develop and leverage our parent-child connection, understand the true motivation behind our child’s behavior, and discipline our children without emotional damage.

Empower yourself to grow emotionally resilient ADHD kids who will live their best lives!

Angela Pruess

Angela Pruess, LMFT, is a Child and Family Therapist and special needs parent on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging kids. Over at parentswithconfidence.com, she wants to make life easier for you by decoding your child’s maddening behaviors, as well as their developmental and emotional needs. When she’s not supporting parents, or seeing kids in her private practice, she is at home being challenged (a lot) by her own three kids (and sometimes husband).

“Kids do better when they feel better.”—Angela Pruess, LMFT

What You’ll Learn

  • Parents forget to try to understand their kids. We need to know what drives them.
  • There is no quick fix for helping an ADHD child.
  • How amazingly resilient kids are. Their high-plasticity brains keep them openminded to learning about themselves.
  • How to manage emotional resentment towards your child.
  • ADHD cannot be helped. There are differences in the child’s brain structure since birth. Executive functions are limited as well as a broad range of important skills that bleed into everything.
  • Has ADHD always been around? How come we haven’t heard of it till now?
  • The outdated diagnostic criteria for ADHD.
  • The 3 different types of ADHD: Hyperactive, Inattentive, and Combined
  • Hyperactive: Physically hyper, but also impulsive, these children have a hard time stopping and thinking before the act. They show a limited ability for self-control and taking time to make best decisions.
  • Inattentive: It may look like these children are lazy and not paying attention, but there is an invisible piece. They don’t know where to start and get stuck. Parents have to be on child’s back to get things done. These are the dreamers, staring out the window. They are observant, curious.
  • Combined: These children present both aspects of ADHD. All of these children struggle with emotional control and regulating their attention.
  • How does ADHD show up besides hyperactivity and poor academic performance?
  • How to tell if your child has ADHD and is not just misbehaving.
  • Playing too much video games, not getting sleep, and too much sugar are some habits that lead to ADHD behaviors.
  • Parents expect to treat each kid the same, but they must seek to better understand each individual child’s neurobiology and personality.
  • The more you know about how each child ticks, the more you can influence your kids.
  • Use a humble, open approach instead of being authoritarian.
  • Kids put their needs out in the form of their behavior.
  • Unwanted behavior will not end until your child’s needs are met.
  • Their behavior is just the tip of the iceberg. Underneath is a huge variety of internal factors and drivers.
  • Be aware of your child’s sensory needs. Some are triggered by noises or being touched.
  • Being the “behavior police” with your ADHD child breeds disconnect and resentment.
  • How to draw the line between positive parenting and giving into bad behavior.
  • Get into the habit of thinking of the golden rule when interacting with your child. How would you want to be addressed? What would inspire you to do better?
  • ADHD kids are bright and advanced in other ways. They want to be acknowledged and respected for their gifts.
  • When children are upset, they shift into stress brain and their thinking brain goes offline.
  • How to teach your child to be aware of their emotions and help him/her be genuinely motivated to learn how to cope with their feelings.
  • All humans are wired with a negativity bias. Try to focus on the positives and achievements instead of everything your child does wrong.
  • Growth Mindset. Think of the whole picture when it comes to dealing with your ADHD child, not just right now. Instead of putting out fires, use challenging situations as a learning experience.

 

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Faster than Normal: Secrets of the ADHD Brain with Peter Shankman

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Anxiety and Depression in Kids: A Parent’s Survival Guide with Natasha Daniels

How to Help Kids with Anxiety and Depression – Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Natasha Daniels

Strategy Guide for Parenting ADHD Kids with Brian King

 


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Chris Voss

The Art of Negotiating with Your Kids with Chris Voss

Getting children to obey can be a challenge that wears our patience down to zero. Today’s guest is going to show us how to apply FBI hostage negotiation skills to discussions with our kids in ways that not only get them to do what we want them to do, but also help them become more resourceful and confident.

Chris Voss is the author of Never Split The Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It. He was the lead kidnapping negotiator for the FBI and is the founder of the Black Swan group, whose mission is to help achieve exceptional results in business and personal negotiations using hostage negotiation skills. He shares simple, clever tactics that we can use every day to have productive discussions with our kids while training our own brains to react constructively instead of with frustration.

This episode will totally shift your approach to everyday family squabbles. Get ready to take some notes!

'Even irrational people are predictable. Every human being acts in patterns.'—Chris Voss @vossnegotiation #men #negotiation #leadership #emotionalintelligence Click To Tweet

Chris Voss’s Story

Chris Voss planned on being on the SWAT team, but he injured his knee and had to find a new career path. His application to become a negotiator was rejected at first, but he was determined to get the job. He began his training process and acquired most of his experience working a suicide hotline. Chris says that the suicide hotline was an in-depth course on emotional intelligence. He learned how to deal with irrational people and keep himself from getting emotionally engaged. He ended up becoming the lead hostage negotiator for the Federal Bureau of Investigation and has worked 150 incidents internationally.

The secret to negotiations is exhausting the other side. @vossnegotiation #dads #men #fathers #parenting Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

    • The voice technique Chris uses to calm both himself and his subject down
    • The state of ‘flow’ and the brain chemicals it releases
    • Why gratitude is crucial to flow
    • Why flow is more important than physical capability
    • The neuroscience behind smiling and your mood
    • How to use flow to become a better father
    • How to wear your kids out mentally
    • How to plant images into your kid’s brain
    • How to use ‘mirroring’ to exhaust kids
    • How to negotiate with your kids to force them to think critically
    • How to remove triggers to losing your temper in discussions with your kids
    • How to build new neural pathways by ‘mirroring’
    • Beginning with low-stakes conversations
    • How to use ‘how’ and ‘what’ questions to encourage kids to start making decisions for themselves
    • Chris Voss’s greatest lessons as a father
    • His advice to married men!

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How to Coach Your Kids for a Growth Mindset

How to Coach Your Kids for a Growth Mindset


I used to focus on results as a dad. I would ask my kids, “Did you win? Did you score? Did you get an A?” But what I’ve learned from many of my podcast guests is that while results are important, they’re not as important as developing a growth mindset.

Today my amazing older son Ethan is in the studio with me to show how we go over his latest challenges in school and sports in a way that praises effort and encourages a growth mindset.

Results are important, but not as important as developing a growth mindset. #parenting #parentingtips #growthmindset #dads #men #fathers Click To Tweet

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