Forging Strength in your darkest hour!
I have gotten a ton of feedback from our last podcast on “How to Discover Daily Grit and Gratitude.” From what I have heard, most people were surprised that my family went through such a life altering event by losing my son Gabriel.
I have had a lot of emails, texts, and communication through the GDP community about how much the last episode effected them personally. What I am finding is that there is a vast majority of families out there who are afflicted with miscarriage or death of an infant. I have even had questions asking why I have opened my life up so much about what happened during that six weeks and how it ended.
The bottom line is this…I shared it for several reasons.
When we go through something that is literally life altering it changes us forever. It’s easy to fall into a mindset up anger. It’s also very common that an event like what our family went through can easily tear the strongest families apart. When we share the events of our life to give strength to others, we heal. Simple as that. When we heal, we help heal others through our own struggles.
Forging Strength of the Family
Losing my son not only effected me, but it also effected my entire family. My wife and two older sons took the loss of our son very hard. To be honest, I underestimated how much it would effect my two oldest boys (Ethan 10 and Mason 8). I can tell you without a doubt a ten year-old and an eight-year old child feels the devastating effects of loss when something like this happens. However, here we are eighteen months later and I can tell you without a doubt our family is stronger now than it ever has been.
Forging Strength through Gratitude
My family learned firsthand the power of the right perspective even in our darkest hour. Our family literally went through six weeks of hell that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. Knowing you are going to lose your son will rattle even the strongest man. However, I learned the power of having the right perspective in the midst of absolute uncertainty. I kept a daily gratitude journal during this six-week long process and I believe it literally saved me from insanity.
Take 5 Minutes of Gratitude Every Morning
Every morning during that six-week journey, I wrote down three things that I was grateful for every morning. I can tell you without a doubt, that most mornings it was very hard to see the positive aspects in my life. However, I can tell you without a doubt that there were several things in my life that were positive. It took a great deal of discipline to decide to focus on the right things in my life despite the chaos. I would write down things like:
- “I’m grateful I have a job.”
- “I’m grateful my three boys and my wife all have their health.”
- “I’m grateful we have a roof over our head.”
I will admit, on some days I stretched to find gratitude. However, I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, it was the best thing I did every morning.
My Hope for You
I share this story and this daily routine of:
Morning Gratitude – write down 3 things you are grateful for
Your Power Statement – write down your statement that you will use when the fear wolf starts to whisper in your ear.
Your Mission of the Day – what will you do today. Come hell or high water, what will you accomplish today?
Evening Gratitude – write down 2-3 highlights through the day. Get back into the mindset of gratitude. The highlights are there every day if we decide to reflect on them.
Eradicate Regret from your Life – What was the lowest point of your day? Write it down. Get it out there. Now, instead of focusing on how deeply you regret that low point, ask yourself “what is the lesson?”
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