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The Pursuit of Happyness with Chris Gardner

Today, our guest is Chris Gardner, New York Times and Washington Post Best Selling author of the critically acclaimed The Pursuit of Happyness, which has been translated in over 40 languages and became a popular 2006 film starring Will Smith.

The book was the story of Chris’s life, a way to project onto the world that everyone can do anything, no matter what the obstacles are, no matter what the adversity is, because we all embrace the Power of Choice. That’s what this episode is all about!

In our conversation with Chris Gardner, we will talk about how we can make powerful pivots in our lives when we are confronted with adversities. We go over how we can show up as more empowered and compassionate fathers than we ever thought possible, even when we’re dealing with everyday stress and obstacles in our lives.

We also discuss how his upcoming book, Permission to Dream, lays out a blueprint for building a dream-come-true life, even during uncertainty.

Chris Gardner

“The first and most important decision that I ever made in my life was that, my children would always know who their father was. Without knowing the names, circumstances, social or social conditions I consciously chose to break every cycle that I was born into. Child abandonment, Child abuse, alcoholism, domestic violence, fear, poverty, and illiteracy. The second most important decision that I ever made in my life was that I would become WORLD CLASS as whatever I did in my life.”

Permission to Dream

A true fable, Permission to Dream is a timeless and timely manifesto for turning dreams into action—beginning right now.

At its heart, this book lays out a blueprint for building a dream-come-true life—even during uncertainty. Gardner delivers the secrets to achieving a prosperous career—from a method for identifying your ultimate dream to a playbook for becoming world class at it. His tools include the “new 3 R’s”—or the Rep, the Rap and the Rolodex—which reveal how to earn a stellar reputation, develop a rap for marketing yourself, and amass a Rolodex of rewarding relationships. No matter how much wealth you achieve, Chris notes, true success comes from enriching the lives of others—so all can still have access to the American Dream.

Toward the end, Brooke observes that in Atomic Time it’s never too late for anyone to reinvent themselves and change their fortune. Chris, hearing her, realizes what his next pursuit will be—to go back to high school and give permission to dream to the next generation of problem solvers and change makers.

What You’ll Learn

What His Childhood Looks Like

16:47

The first and most important decision that Chris ever made in his life was that his children would always know who their father was. Chris grew up with a stepfather constantly reminding him that he was not his father. Without knowing the names, circumstances, and social conditions, this decision allowed Chris to break all of the other associated links that he was born into, including child abuse, domestic violence, alcoholism, illiteracy, fear, powerlessness, and generational poverty.

Getting Through an Obstacle

21:50

You need to own your situation. Chris was reminded with the last conversation he had with his friend and mentor, Dr. Maya Angelou who was talking about struggle and how important it is to be mindful that there are people who came before us, who came up a steeper side of this mountain, carrying a bigger to heavier load, with little to no opportunity, but they kept going forward, onward and upward. And now, it’s our turn to experience and get through all these things.

23:45

As we go forward, we need to take baby steps. We take strides when the path is clear, when there’s no obstacles, no issues, and no challenges. But sometimes you need to take those baby steps in the dark. Part of taking that first step is embracing the joy that is yours, that has been presented only to you and the moment of the greatest darkness you have ever seen.

Meeting the Biological Father

34:24

Chris only met his biological father because of his son. Chris was reading this storybook where there are illustrations of a cow family with a mother cow, baby cow, and daddy cow, and as they were going through the story, Chris’ son gave his own interpretation and apply it in the human context of having both mother and father. That’s when Chris knew he needed to reach out to his biological father. The next time Chris saw his father was at his funeral.

The Blessing of the Curse

43:23

Chris’ stepfather showed him what Chris did not want to become. Because of what he has experienced with his grandfather, it made him strive harder to be the best for his children.

The Inspiration behind Permission to Dream

51:49

Since the day Chris’ granddaughter was born, the greatest gift that he ever got was the permission to dream. He also was motivated by his mother who told him every day that he can do or be anything.

53:06

Another big part of the book is Chris talking about the greatest export in the history of the United States is the American dream. And this ideal look that there’s a place where you could do or be anything that is the greatest export in the history of this country.

54:37

The biggest thing that we have to understand is that the American has changed. The biggest change is that because of globalization and technology, and that you’re competing with people around the world. While we are young and enjoying our time, it is important to know that the people that we are competing with are in someplace grinding. They’re studying, they’re practicing. They’re networking, they’re rehearsing their research.

 


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The Science Behind Procrastination with Tim Urban

In today’s episode, we have Tim Urban. He is one of the most popular bloggers in the US. He’s got a TED talk about procrastination and is here today to clear up why human beings procrastinate, why we don’t feel motivated, and why we don’t get things done. He’s also going to explain the evolutionary science behind procrastination, how to cultivate a sense of urgency, and how we can override our own voice of procrastination.

Even Elon Musk follows Tim’s blog, so learn how to get out of your own way, outsmart yourself, and just take action!

What You’ll Learn

Timeline of Procrastination.

[6:44]

According to Tim, our brain is not wired to do the obvious. We have to train ourselves.

Sharing what Tim knows about Procrastination

[18:05]

Tim started sharing his experiences through sharing his stories with his friends through emails. Then he started a blog which got him a bigger audience.

[22:30]

Tim created characters for the blog to emphasize the visualization they represent and the state or stage a person is currently in when they are procrastinating.

The Science Behind Procrastination 

[23:51]

According to Tim, his analogy on procrastination is that it is also an ongoing process like evolution.  Long ago, humans would get instant gratification for food and basic needs, unlike today, where you do not have to do much to get things done.

Solution to Procrastination

[41:17] Adults have an internal child to be managed. Hack your brain to activate the Panic Monster.

Strategies on navigating relationships and moments with your kids.

[48:48]

Training your kids to get super excited to finish their work.

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Do the work. Make a plan. Follow along with simple, yet powerful exercises and tap into the patience that is within you.

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Start Reaching Your Goals with an Accountability Partner

When it comes to committing to our goals, we often let ourselves down. We’ll sleep in instead of getting that workout in. We’ll give in to that junk food or extra beer. We’ll put off our big dreams for another day. No one will know that we didn’t follow through. But if we have to answer to someone else, the whole game changes. Today we talk about how you can start reaching your goals with an accountability partner.

In this episode, you will see the accountability partner dynamic in action in the Dad Edge Alliance. Ninety-six of our members signed up for #75Hard, a 75-day challenge that develops physical and mental strength. We matched everyone up with accountability partners. Today you’ll get to hear about some of the powerful transformations that happened just by having someone to answer to and give support.

What You’ll Learn

  • Having an Accountability Partner helps you reach your goals and:
    • Strengthens mental toughness
    • Helps you live with more intention
    • Increases self-sufficiency
    • Promotes calm
    • Enhances creative problem-solving
  • You can inspire other men by achieving what they think they can’t.
  • Serving others helps you to take the focus off yourself. Life is bigger.
  • Accountability trains you to show up.
  • It feels rewarding to tell someone you met your goals.
  • Following through with an accountability partner allows your family see your commitment and discipline.
  • You get the tough love you need to push through resistance
  • You will have someone who knows you can do it, even if you think you can’t.
  • 75Hard rules
    • Exercise twice a day for 45 minutes each. One workout must be outdoors.
    • Drink a gallon of water a day.
    • Choose any diet or eating plan and stick with it for 75 days. No cheat meals and NO ALCOHOL.
    • Read a minimum of 10 pages every day of personal development or business book
    • Take one progress photo each day.

MENTIONED EPISODES:

What It’s Like to Do the 75Hard Challenge

Pulling the Positive from Failures with UFC Champion Frankie Edgar

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

 


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Getting More Done In 12 Weeks Than Others Do In 12 Months with Brian Moran


How would you like accomplish in 12 weeks what you’d think would take you a year? The traditional habit of planning goals over a 12 month period has proven ineffective. Believe it or not, we can actually execute more in the next 12 weeks than we can in 12 months—not only in business, but also in our family lives.

We are excited to have Brian Moran on the show today. He’s the NY Times Bestselling author of The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks Than Others Do in 12 Months. Brian’s going to tell us how the 12 Week Year works and how we can apply this strategy to work, health, and relationships. He also teaches us how to get our spouses and kids on board to so you can make incredible progress toward your big visions as a family.

Don’t let another year go by without having accomplished your goals. Get started on your 12 Week Year now!

Brian P. Moran

Brian Moran has over thirty years of expertise as a CEO, corporate executive, entrepreneur, consultant and coach. His background as a corporate executive combined with his experience as an entrepreneur positions him with a unique skill set to help individuals and organizations grow and prosper.

Brian’s corporate experience includes management and executive positions with UPS, PepsiCo, and Northern Automotive. As an entrepreneur he has personally launched and led successful businesses and been instrumental in the success of many others. In addition, he has consulted for dozens of world-class companies including Coldwell Banker, Mass Mutual, Medtronic, New York Life, and Tiffany & Co.

Brian is a recognized expert in the field of leadership and execution. His realization that most people don’t lack ideas but struggle with effective implementation led him to the development of The 12 Week Year. In addition to his books, Brian has been published in many of the leading business journals and magazines. He is a sought after speaker, educating and inspiring thousands each year.

He is a visionary with a passion for helping others go beyond what they think they are capable of and achieve more than they ever thought possible. His greatest strength might be his ability to take success principles and strategies and help others apply them in a way that is powerful and effective, and gets results.

The 12 Week Year: Get More Done In 12 Weeks Than Others Will In 12 Months

The guide to shortening your execution cycle down from one year to 12 weeks

Most organizations and individuals work in the context of annual goals and plans; a 12-month execution cycle. Instead, The 12 Week Year avoids the pitfalls and low productivity of annualized thinking. This book redefines your “year” to be 12 weeks long. In 12 weeks, there just isn’t enough time to get complacent, and urgency increases and intensifies. The 12 Week Year creates focus and clarity on what matters most and a sense of urgency to do it now. In the end more of the important stuff gets done and the impact on results is profound.

  • Explains how to leverage the power of a 12-week year to drive improved results in any area of your life
  • Offers a how-to book for both individuals and organizations seeking to improve their execution effectiveness
  • Authors are leading experts on execution and implementation
  • Turn your organization’s idea of a year on its head, and speed your journey to success.

What You’ll Learn

  • The surprising reason quantity time with your kids is more important than quality time
  • How to maximize your personal leadership
  • You have to act on the knowledge or it’s worthless.
  • How we can start executing when we’re surrounded by distractions
  • The importance of understanding who you are and grounding yourself
  • Accept that there will always be more to do than you can pursue effectively.
  • Most people have not done deep vision work. What do you want your life to look like?
  • What you do daily and weekly is tied to your big vision, not day-to-day issues.
  • Closing the knowing-doing gap
  • When we execute undistracted long enough to see results, it starts compounding like interest.
  • Don’t measure daily results. Measure
  • You must want your vision badly enough to step into discomfort.
  • Why you shouldn’t pursue more than 3 goals at a time
  • How to apply the 12 Week Year to health, marriage, and fatherhood
  • Setting family visions together
  • Helping your kids to set goals and be intentional about how they want to show up in the areas of their lives
  • How to approach your spouse with a 12-week plan
  • How collaborating on a 12-week plan creates more intimacy and deeper conversations
  • To be a proactive dad, thank about what’s the experience do you want to create for your kids? What can you do to make that happen?
  • Looking at your children as gifts
  • Giving yourself grace when you lose your temper

RELATED EPISODES:

Digital Minimalism with Cal Newport

The Truth About Your Kids and Technology: Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Cal Newport

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less with Greg McKeown


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Resist Average with Tommy Baker

Resist Average with Tommy Baker

Most men are motivated by the same thing, and it’s the wrong thing—fear.

We run away from the life we don’t want, struggling to avoid discomfort and scarcity. We are under constant stress and have nothing left for ourselves. But fear is a bad motivator. We can only run so far and so fast before we become depleted and burned out.

Today I have an amazing guest who is no stranger to the spotlight. Tommy Baker is the host of Resist Average Podcast and helps dreamers create the lives they truly desire. He is the author of three bestselling books, and his most recent release, The Leap of Your Life, is about how we can resist average and make bold decisions toward the dreams that scare us.

Tommy talks about the myth of clarity, leveraging regret, and taking action despite never feeling ready. If you’re in survival mode or in a comfortable but boring rut, this show will change your trajectory!

Tommy Baker

Tommy grew up in two different cultures. His family moved back and forth between Columbia and US. Tommy had a life of solitude because he didn’t know where he fit in. This was a challenge that forced him to ask himself deep questions. Who am I? Why am I here? What am I capable of?

This led him on a path of entrepreneurship and self-discovery that helped him realize what prevented himself and others from living to their full potential. Today, Tommy Baker helps men make decisions into the unknown with faith trust and resilience and find ways to reverse engineer their success from the inside out.

Through his writing, high-performance coaching and Resist Average Academy podcast—he’s helped thousands of people take their next bold step and never look back.

Entrepreneurship is one the best ways to create personal growth in life.

What You’ll Learn

  • How all change is going to come from two places—a place of honesty about who you are and your pain and struggles, or by becoming inspired by something out in the future on the horizon that you are excited about
  • The three states of existence:
    • A state of survival- where you just make it through the day and make decisions out of scarcity and competition.
    • A state of comfort-where there is no urgency, but there’s nothing exciting or challenging in your life and you drift aimlessly.
    • A state of thriving—where you seek challenge every day and are willing to get to know yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually. You can tackle bigger and better problems and grow every day.
  • The importance of getting non-emotional data on our lives about what’s not working
  • Why comfort is the hardest state to change from
  • A powerful visualization exercise—5 years down the line, where will you be if you stay on the same path that isn’t working for you?
  • How to set your goals so that you will achieve them
  • Why you must go to environments that light you up in some form
  • Cutting negative stuff out of your space—relationships, environments, gossip, bad habits, and bad mindsets
  • How to break free from the “I’m not ready yet” syndrome
  • How to recognize fear in all its forms
  • By the time you feel ready, it’s too late
  • How in a distracted, over-stimulated world, we chase the wrong things for the wrong reasons
  • Regret can be a tool to leverage or a tool used to imprison yourself
  • Why ruminating leads to anxiety, depression, and despair
  • Dialing up your intuition
  • Why you may not be lacking clarity but courage
  • How lack of clarity can become an excuse to procrastinate
  • How to have the courage to step forward even if you lack a clear vision
  • Powerful exercise—how to take inventory of your foundation in life
  • That it’s okay to say, “I don’t know,” and give yourself space to figure it out

When we say we’re not ready, it becomes a convenient mechanism to let ourselves off the hook.


MENTIONED EPISODE: Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio


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