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Digital Minimalism with Cal Newport


Today’s show is about distraction. Tech can be our best friend and worst enemy. Our devices are no longer normal telephones. They’ve become our constant companions. Texts, emails, social media and loads of content compete for our attention every hour of the day. We are more distracted and overwhelmed than ever before. It not only affects our work life but can do irreparable damage to our family life as well. Will our kids grow up missing their parents who are always on their phone?

Cal Newport is a bestselling author and the father of three boys. You won’t find him on any social media, because he doesn’t have any. He the author of six books, including, most recently, the New York Times bestseller, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World.

Cal is going to tells us how tech is engineered to keep us on our phones and steal time away from our lives. He also talks about how it affects our memory and anxiety levels. Cal teaches us what boundaries to set for screen time with our kids and gives us a 30-Day plan to step away from tech and rebuild our digital lives in a way that serves us.

Don’t waste another minute being distracted from the things that are most important to you.

If you demonstrate to your kids that you’re always on the phone, there is damage from that.

 

Cal Newport and Digital Minimalism

Minimalism is the art of knowing how much is just enough. Digital minimalism applies this idea to our personal technology. It’s the key to living a focused life in an increasingly noisy world.

Digital minimalists are all around us. They’re the calm, happy people who can hold long conversations without furtive glances at their phones. They can get lost in a good book, a woodworking project, or a leisurely morning run. They can have fun with friends and family without the obsessive urge to document the experience. They stay informed about the news of the day, but don’t feel overwhelmed by it. They don’t experience “fear of missing out” because they already know which activities provide them meaning and satisfaction.

Common sense tips, like turning off notifications, or occasional rituals like observing a digital sabbath, don’t go far enough in helping us take back control of our technological lives, and attempts to unplug completely are complicated by the demands of family, friends and work.

Cal Newport shows how digital minimalists are rethinking their relationship to social media, rediscovering the pleasures of the offline world, and reconnecting with their inner selves through regular periods of solitude. He then shares strategies for integrating these practices into your life, starting with a thirty-day “digital declutter” process that has already helped thousands feel less overwhelmed and more in control.

Technology is intrinsically neither good nor bad. The key is using it to support your goals and values, rather than letting it use you.

 

It was much more recently than we remember that we were reprogrammed into a relationship with our phone where we look at it all the time.

What You’ll Learn

  • The unintentional consequences of technology in the workplace, and the scarier and more impactful consequences to our personal lives
  • How the smartphone of today was not what Steve Jobs had intended
  • How today’s internet culture is the outcome of business model (Facebook) to reengineer apps so that people want to take their phone out of their pockets all the time.
  • How as our economy shifts toward knowledge work, one of the most important skills is to concentrate and any company who makes focus a priority will have the upper hand
  • Preserving and practicing the ability to concentrate
  • What constant screen time does to our memory
  • How screen time affects our ability to do spatial location
  • How it affects our ability to concentrate even when we’re not on the internet
  • How tech deprives us of insights and self-reflection
  • What it does to our anxiety levels
  • How solitude is a maintenance mode for our brain
  • How up until 10 years ago, we had many moments alone with our own thoughts
  • Your brain can always be processing info from other minds
  • Our hardware is not equipped to handle the constant processing of information from other minds
  • To extract insight from content for your own life, you need time to think about the information
  • How setting a 1 to 1 ratio of content intake to contemplation to extract 5X more value
  • Is there an ideal number of minutes per day of screen time?
  • Breaking the idea that the phone is what you do when you don’t have anything to do
  • The digital minimalism philosophy
  • Using tech only for big wins on what you really care about
  • Why maximalism is not a winning path
  • Why it’s much better to deal with the problem of your kid being mad for not being allowed to have a phone rather than him being up till 4am playing Fortnite
  • Why boys are more susceptible to game addiction
  • Why girls are more susceptible with social media, leading to self-harm and suicide
  • Why teenagers should not get cell phones
  • The “phone foyer” method
  • What can parents do when their kids will not get off the phone
  • Teaching kids how to build a good day instead of using the phone
  • Teaching them high friction activities, like mastering an instrument or sport
  • Cal Newport’s 30-Day Plan to digital minimalism
  • Examples of what kind of apps serve you and which do not
  • The leisure renaissance that makes it easier to participate in high quality activities
  • Simplest thing to do take all apps off the phone. Don’t save your passwords. Use your computer a designated time
  • Leaving a legacy, memories, experiences by putting the phones down
  • Cal Newport’s upcoming book, A World Without Email

 

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The Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance with James Sudakow

The Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance with James Sudakow

Is work-life balance an unattainable myth? Most of us have tried everything to evenly distribute our time and energy across work, life, and family. Many of us may have also discovered that this is one of the most difficult things to achieve. It almost seems impossible. But it’s not.

Today’s guest is James Sudakow. He is the father of four kids and the author of Out of the Blur: A Delirious Dad’s Search for the Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance. He used to suffer from superhero syndrome, trying to be everything to everyone all the time. Eventually, he realized that he wasn’t showing up in the way that he wanted to at home or at work and came up with his own plan to analyze his behavior and change his ways.

In this episode, James Sudakow talks about the superhero syndrome and outlines the common traps we fall into when it comes to prioritizing our to do list. He gives practical solutions for breaking common habits that suck our time and energy and shows us that a sane, productive, fulfilling life is not as mysterious as we think. Behold, the holy grail of work life balance!

James Sudakow

James Sudakow serves as the principal of CH Consulting, Inc., a boutique management and organizational effectiveness consulting practice he founded in 2010. He specializes in helping companies manage organizational transformation, create talent management strategies and programs that maximize employee capabilities and improve business performance. Sudakow is a contributing columnist to Inc.com, and has been featured in The Chicago Tribune, Forbes.com, Fast Company online, Mic., The Business Journals, LifeHacker, Bustle, SiriusXM, Psychology Today and more. Before starting his own consultancy, Sudakow held leadership roles in several global multibillion-dollar organizations across the technology and health care industries. He and his wife are raising four kids, along with one dog, one rabbit and 7 chickens in San Diego, Calif. For more information, visit www.jamessudakow.com.

What You’ll Learn

  • What inspired James Sudakow to write Out of the Blur: A Delirious Dad’s Search for the Holy Grail of Work-Life Balance
  • How to tell if you’re suffering from superhero syndrome
  • Why the notion that you can do everything is debilitating
  • The 3 main traps that make work-life balance impossible
    • Artificial urgency
    • Undefined boundaries
    • Multi-tasking
  • How to analyze your average to-do list and practice ruthless prioritization
  • How to prevent from taking on someone else’s urgency
  • How we manufacture our own stress
  • How to get out of constant triage mode (where everything is an emergency)
  • How modern accessibility is making it more difficult for us to set boundaries between work and home life
  • The multi-tasking fallacy that is destroying your productivity
  • Why thinking about the next thing on your to do list is robbing you of the present moment
  • How to set urgency filters
  • How to compartmentalize your tasks
  • Work-life balance will not happen overnight. It took James Sudakow 6-9 months to break the habits that were cluttering his life
  • How to continuously monitor your behavior to not revert back to you old SOP
  • How to enlist your spouse to help keep you in check
  • Identifying mission critical tasks
  • Can the work-life blend lifestyle work?
  • How to be more present in both work and life by setting boundaries on both

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Turn On Your Superhero Brain with Jim Kwik


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The Secrets to Achieving Wildly Important Goals with Mark Divine

The Secrets to Achieving Wildly Important Goals with Mark Divine


At the start of the year, we are always thinking about goals like losing extra weight, eating healthier, and managing our finances more efficiently, but what about wildly important goals? Have you ever set a goal so challenging that it takes you beyond your limits and changes you forever?

Today’s guest is Mark Divine. He is a former Navy SEAL commander, founder of SEALfit, and author of The Unbeatable Mind. His book was the inspiration for The Dad Edge and he was the first big guest on the show. Mark Divine just completed a burpee challenge to raise money and awareness for veteran suicides, which occur at the horrifying rate of every 22 seconds. This wasn’t a one-time event, but a year-long commitment of doing 300 burpees every single day.

Mark talks about how he pulls through and even thrives on these kinds of challenges. It’s not all grit. He uses breathing techniques, yoga, meditation, and intuition. You will be awed by the insights he shares in this interview. Save this episode to stay connected to your goals so that you can enjoy the fruits of your labor at the end of this year.

'Life is suffering. When we embrace the pain and use it for personal growth, that’s when we start to experience the magic.'—Mark Divine @UnbeatableLife #personalgrowth #adversity #mindset Click To Tweet

 

'You’re not your story, you’re living your story, but you are not your story.'—Mark Divine @UnbeatableLife #yoga #mindfulness #meditation Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why he did the burpee challenge
  • How he and his team broke the burpee world record
  • The mantras he used to get him through 300 burpees every morning
  • How he continued the burpee challenge after he broke his foot
  • How the body and mind adapts to a new extreme normal if you have an audacious enough reason
  • How Mark practices intermittent fasting
  • How to chunk down huge goals into smaller SMART goals
  • How to turn goals into an integrative practice that combines mind and spirit
  • The Secrets to Achieving Wildly Important Goals
    • Be flexible – No plan survives contact with reality. You got to find a way to a make a way around obstacles.
    • Identify microgoals – no one can take away foundational successes
    • Be in the present – focus on the experience of life today, not your future goal
    • Organize your life so you can’t fail – eliminate friction points
    • Make it a non-negotiable goal or don’t set it – we have so many goals. Lump goals into one goal. Don’t hope, pretend, or wish. If you just put it on a list, you won’t get to it.
    • Go after your goals, not someone else’s – clarify who you are and why you do what you do. Once you define those things you realize all the efforts you’ve wasted time on.
  • Why you must properly asses your starting point
  • How comparing yourself to others is a huge mistake
  • The danger of becoming attached to the outcome
  • Why what we achieve isn’t that important
  • How SEALs fail their way forward to eventual success
  • What Mark Divine would say if he could have a conversation with his 21-year-old self
  • Embracing the suck
  • The yoga inquiry technique to discover who you are
  • How to connect to your “witness”
  • How killing as a SEAL fits into his perspective now
  • Slow down, simplify your lives, get comfortable in silence
  • Why learning how to be whole is the most important leadership skill
  • Why meditation apps are not real meditation
  • The benefits of box breathing
  • Why people fail at mindfulness meditation
  • How SEALs develop intuitive senses
  • Mark Divine’s new book Uncommon
'Failure is just a figment of one’s imagination.'—Mark Divine @UnbeatableLife #failure #goals #fear #courage #motivation Click To Tweet

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Essentialism Greg McKeown

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less with Greg McKeown

Do you ever feel the urge to declutter your life? Have you ever found yourself stretched too thin? Do you sometimes feel overworked and underutilized? Are you frequently busy without getting any closer to your goals?

Most of us in this day and age feel perpetually busy and overwhelmed with little energy and time to spend on the things in life that matter the most to us.

Today we have a very special guest, Greg McKeown, the NY Times bestselling author of Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less. He shares astonishing insights on how family life has changed throughout the centuries, how our behavioral systems impact future generations, and how to design our lives to focus on essentials so we can stay connected with our long-term visions. You’ll want to save this epic episode!

'You’re not going to get everything done. You can get the right things done and feel like you did what really matters.' – @GregoryMcKeown #essentialism #busyness #overwhelm #dreams #goals #family #parenting Click To Tweet

'LIFE – there is less of it left than we think.' – @GregoryMcKeown #dads #men #fathers #time #life #death #inspiration #motivation #discipline Click To Tweet

Greg McKeown

Greg McKeown is married with four children, but to him the word ‘family’ includes parents, in-laws, siblings, cousins, nieces, nephews, and in-laws. Greg says only recently has the meaning of family shifted from the extended intergenerational family to today’s idea of the nuclear family. Growing up as one of six children, it’s important for Greg to think of himself as part of this larger familial structure.

Greg’s driving force to write Essentialism was when he realized how pathetically short life is. The older we get, the more quickly it seems to fly by. We are constantly busy and distracted. He cites the stoic philosopher Seneca, who wrote about the dangers of busyness 2,000 years ago. Our culture values an existence where we feel like we have to do everything. Our lives are crammed, pushing out the few vital things that will mean the most to us at the end of our lives.

What You’ll Learn

  • The Planning Fallacy – no matter how well you plan, things will take much longer than you thought
  • How to figure out which projects to take on
  • How to push past the guilt factor of not “doing it all”
  • Practicing the 100 Years Value Exercise: How to envision the impact your life will have in this world by imagining 100 years into the past and future
  • How your role as a dad can impact future generations, even if they won’t remember you
  • How to build systems for your role as a dad with cascading priorities
  • How to hold sacred time to design each week according to your essentials
  • Why you should write on paper instead of a digital device
  • 3 Things to Write Down Each Day
    • One insight
    • One memory
    • One decision
  • How the Industrial Revolution shifted our focus from family to industry
  • How we follow obsolete living strategies that we didn’t choose
  • How to choose which parts of our cultural strategies work for us
  • How to analyze the ‘because’ part of a situation to drill down to what really matters
  • how every time we say ‘yes’ to something that won’t impact our future, we are robbing our time for what is essential
  • Why or why not Greg McKeown may write another book
'It’s not about us. We will soon be forgotten, but that doesn’t change our responsibility. In fact, it extends it.' – @GregoryMcKeown #dads #men #fathers #fatherhood #manhood #legacy #impact Click To Tweet

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Drowning in Distraction? Optimize Your Morning Routine

Drowning in Distraction? Optimize Your Morning Routine

We live in a world where we are drowning in distraction. It seems that everything is fighting for our attention. This causes our minds to become over-stimulated and reactionary.

In our last show, Jim Kwik told us how to turn on our superhero brain. In this short episode, I go over the elements he suggested for a morning routine that will optimize our brain for focus and productivity.

  • Don’t check your device
  • Try to remember your dreams
  • Make your bed
  • Brush your teeth with opposite hand
  • Drink water
  • Do deep breathing exercises
  • Take a cold shower
  • Make a brain tea
  • Exercise
  • Gratitude
  • Make a brain power smoothie
  • Create a “not to do” list

Announcement: We are changing the name of the podcast in a couple weeks to the Dad Edge Podcast. There will be no change in the content or the website. You’ll just see the new show name and logo.

In this short episode, I go over the elements @JimKwik suggested for a morning routine that will optimize our brain for focus and productivity. #productivity #digitaloverload #screentime #brainhealth Click To Tweet

 

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Turn On Your Superhero Brain with Jim Kwik

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