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SAVAGE GENTLEMAN

The Savage Gentleman with MMA Fighter Josh Tyler


Life can often feel like a cage fight. Punches fly at us from every angle. We’re swept off of our feet and tackled to the ground. Sometimes we’re straight up knocked out. And if we aren’t prepared to battle, we might never get back up.

Today’s guest is MMA fighter Josh Tyler. He is also the co-founder of Savage Gentleman, a retail brand and ethos that believes that men are both savages and gentlemen.

Josh is here to reveal his secret to remaining calm in the chaos of the cage. He tells us how to employ emotional intelligence, communication, and self-awareness in a masculine way. Josh also talks about how he’s applied what he’s learned as an MMA fighter to family life.

“The world is full of savages and gentlemen. Rare is it to find a man who can be both.”

Josh Tyler and the Savage Gentleman

“The world is full of savages and gentlemen. Rare is it to find the man who can be both. It is not ideal void of all traits of masculinity, nor is it suitable to succumb to one’s every base desire. There must be a balance struck between the two sides of the same coin that is manhood. This is the plight of the savage gentlemen, to cultivate both aspects of his being and achieve his full potential.”

What You’ll Learn

  • Growing up, Josh was not athletic. He wanted to become a scientist.
  • How Josh managed to remain internally calm during the external chaos of the ring
  • How to perform a stress evaluation
  • Your body doesn’t recognize the difference between stresses.
  • You can take the stress tolerance from the situations you’re used to and apply it to other areas.
  • Use times of success in the past as reference points.
  • Seek new experiences to push your limits further.
  • How marriage is like a cage fight
  • How to balance the savage gentleman
  • Learning how to operate in tandem with another human being (like in marriage) can help in business and other relationships.
  • Men are woefully ill-equipped to enter into a partnership with someone of the opposite sex.
  • Just like in the world of fighting, how can you win in marriage when you don’t know the rules or spent enough time training? You have no context to realize what you’re good at and where you need work.
  • Knowing where your weak spots are allows you to solve those problems.
  • Ignoring your feelings prevents you from finding the root cause.
  • You have to take responsibility to learn how to communicate better.
  • You do feel stuff, whether you admit it or not, and you will receive what you put out.
  • The secret is to understand where your anger is coming from.
  • Most people go through life with very little thought and reflection on the what and why.
  • Self-awareness and personal development are not for wusses.
  • Pay attention and notice the cues of where you need to focus your awareness.
  • There are appropriate times to be vulnerable.
  • In marriage, if you don’t let someone in to know you on a deep level, you end up growing apart and not knowing who each other are anymore.
  • Bitterness and resentment change your perception of someone.
  • Sometimes the best thing in marriage is to have the fight.
  • Avoiding confrontation and letting stuff go for too long destroys the chance of ever getting back on track.
  • Develop a Standard Operating Procedure for how to handle tough arguments with your spouse.
  • People are getting worse at interfacing with each other in meaningful ways because of technology and distraction.
  • But first, we need to learn how to interface with ourselves better.

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your values

Your Values: Defining, Planning, and Taking Action

Our journey if life is not linear. It’s unpredictable. We might be okay when things are going our way, but what happens when we face adversity? How can we know the next right thing to do? How do we pivot and act with grace when we are tested?

A legendary life is about your values—not only knowing what they are, but also defining, planning, and taking action.

Today we have long-time mastermind member, Judd. He joined The Dad Edge Alliance when his marriage was in trouble. He was so programed to avoid confrontation that he didn’t know who he was or what he wanted anymore. He was making his decisions based on others’ expectations and living a life that wasn’t his own.

Judd finally got real and faced the truth. He stopped the lies he was telling himself and looked deep inside to discover what mattered most to him.

Today, Judd lives according to his values. He knows who he is and what he stands for, no matter what happens.

What You’ll Learn

  • The damage of avoiding conflict
  • Why real intimacy can only happen if you really share yourself
  • Using friction as an opportunity to go deeper
  • The practice of naming emotions and expressing yourself
  • How to cope with going through a divorce
  • Why making decisions based on what’s important to you gives you hope for the future
  • Why you must accept that life doesn’t go according to plan
  • Knowing you will be okay no matter what happens
  • Being brutally honest about where you are so you can get to where you want to go

Don’t give up. There is such power in thinking through what’s important, making a plan to live it out, and just doing it. You learn so much, and it becomes part of you.


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F*ck Your Feelings with Ryan Munsey

F*ck Your Feelings with Ryan Munsey

Up to 95 % of the decisions we make are based on what we feel. This means that in almost every situation, we are reacting instead of responding. Think about decisions you’ve made based on fear, selfishness, or anger. How did they serve you? How did they affect those around you?

Today’s guest is the author of F*ck Your Feelings, Ryan Munsey. He is a speaker, coach, and the host of the Better Human Project Podcast. He tells us how to recognize our feelings, understand them, and look at them from an objective point of view. He teaches us how to remove emotions from the equation and act on our values instead. He also talks about reframing frustrating situations so that we can make the right choice in our behavior and become the leaders our families need us to be.

'Show me a great father and I’ll show you a great leader.'—@ryanmunsey #dads #fathers #fatherhood #leadership Click To Tweet

Ryan Munsey

Ryan Munsey is a high-performance consultant, and thought leader in the wellness and personal development space. He has worked with professional and Olympic athletes, Navy SEALs, and entrepreneurs – helping them optimize their minds and bodies, win medals, further careers, and build multiple 6-figure businesses. His work has been featured in Fortune Magazine, Men’s Health, Men’s Fitness. F*ck Your Feelings is a neuroscience-based exploration of high performance and success.

'In parenting, relationships, business, fitness—we’re going to have to do what we know we’re supposed to do whether we feel like it or not.'—@RyanMunsey #parenting #relationships #business #motivation Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Where Ryan got the idea for his book
  • How his background in fitness and nutrition lead to his fascination with high-performance
  • How, “Fuck your feelings,” was a phrase Ryan used in his self-talk to get him through when he didn’t feel like doing something
  • The profound affect Ryan’s dad’s actions had on him
  • Why our feelings have such an impact on the decision-making process
  • How nothing has meaning, only the meaning we assign to it
  • How feelings affect our micro-decisions
  • Why feelings lead us off course
  • How to act according to your values instead of your feelings
  • How to find enjoyment in things you don’t feel like doing
  • The reframing technique
  • How to transcend temporary states like being tired
  • How awareness creates choice
  • Practicing the witness perspective
  • Practicing parasympathetic activities
  • Creating a toolbox to handle every challenge
  • The best way to create space in a heightened emotional state
  • Detaching from outcome
  • The danger of defining yourself by your child’s success


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Releasing Emotions in Front of the Kids

Releasing Emotions Safely in Front of the Kids

No matter how hard we try to separate home life from our jobs, work stress affects our families. Children pick up on all our cues and can become frightened if they see us behaving in ways they don’t understand. How do we release emotions safely in front of the kids?

Today we have Dad Edge Alliance member Jon McKinney on the show. He is an officer in the Royal Canadian Mounted Police and deals with intense emotions and extreme stress on a daily basis. As a single dad, he has his own challenges to contend with. And as a cop, he also has to help resolve other people’s personal problems.

Jon gives us an intimate look at how he demonstrates bravery, perseverance, and resilience to his kids while also showing them that it’s okay to breakdown, let your emotions out, and share them with other people.

'Finding ways to leak out emotion in a healthy manner is safe, it’s okay, and it’s part of life.'—Jon McKinney #dads #men #fathers #fatherhood #manhood #stress Click To Tweet

 


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Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids


Most of us say that our marriage is a priority, and usually it starts off well, but then the kids come. Time alone with our spouses becomes rare. Our children’s needs must constantly be met. Life gets hectic and patience runs thin. The happily ever after we imagined can turn into a nightmare.

This is an episode all dads and moms need to hear. Today we have our first couple on The Dad Edge podcast. Lance and Brandy are the creators of Legendary Couples. Their marriage deteriorated after the birth of their two daughters, very nearly ending in divorce. But they took action to save their marriage and now teach other couples how to cultivate that legendary love again.

'People expect marriage to exist. If you want your marriage to be amazing, you have to take those same priority principles from your business and health and you have to create a vision, a real plan.'—Lance Salazar, Legendary Couples… Click To Tweet

Lance and Brandy’s Story

Lance and Brandy Salazar got married thirteen years ago, ready to embark on their happily ever after together. At first, they were able to fit romance into their lives, but when they had kids, it pushed their relationship totally out of their schedule.

Lance and Brandy were on the fast track to divorce. At on point, Brandy was so fed up she couldn’t even stand Lance breathing next to her. This is the story of so many couples. What causes a marriage to end up this way?

In one final extraordinary effort, Lance and Brandy decided to try to make the marriage work. They knew it would take a radical approach, but they learned as they went along. They worked together to completely change their lives and make the relationship between each other and their kids truly legendary.

'You are responsible for your own happiness. Your spouse is not responsible for that.'—Legendary Couples #couples #marriage #husband #wife #love #relationships #selflove #momlife #dadlife Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why they moved from a large, affluent home to a small farm house with one bathroom
  • How to transform from being a victim to a participant in your relationship
  • The danger of attaching to expectations
  • How to identify the mini-habits that add up to big wins with your spouse
  • How many of us never have identified what we want and need
  • How the energy you bring with you affects your relationships
  • How to change your energy before connecting with your spouse and children
  • How to identify your children’s emotional triggers
  • How to find the key to diffusing each personality in your family
  • Why liking yourself is crucial for deep connection and love
  • What is a service mindset and why we benefit from adopting it
  • What is a connection map and how to use it
  • Advice for those who’ve tried everything and their marriage still fails
'It’s not a journey of perfection; evolving can be messy.'—Legendary Couples #marriage #family #relationships #connection Click To Tweet

 

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