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Resist Average with Tommy Baker

Resist Average with Tommy Baker

Most men are motivated by the same thing, and it’s the wrong thing—fear.

We run away from the life we don’t want, struggling to avoid discomfort and scarcity. We are under constant stress and have nothing left for ourselves. But fear is a bad motivator. We can only run so far and so fast before we become depleted and burned out.

Today I have an amazing guest who is no stranger to the spotlight. Tommy Baker is the host of Resist Average Podcast and helps dreamers create the lives they truly desire. He is the author of three bestselling books, and his most recent release, The Leap of Your Life, is about how we can resist average and make bold decisions toward the dreams that scare us.

Tommy talks about the myth of clarity, leveraging regret, and taking action despite never feeling ready. If you’re in survival mode or in a comfortable but boring rut, this show will change your trajectory!

Tommy Baker

Tommy grew up in two different cultures. His family moved back and forth between Columbia and US. Tommy had a life of solitude because he didn’t know where he fit in. This was a challenge that forced him to ask himself deep questions. Who am I? Why am I here? What am I capable of?

This led him on a path of entrepreneurship and self-discovery that helped him realize what prevented himself and others from living to their full potential. Today, Tommy Baker helps men make decisions into the unknown with faith trust and resilience and find ways to reverse engineer their success from the inside out.

Through his writing, high-performance coaching and Resist Average Academy podcast—he’s helped thousands of people take their next bold step and never look back.

Entrepreneurship is one the best ways to create personal growth in life.

What You’ll Learn

  • How all change is going to come from two places—a place of honesty about who you are and your pain and struggles, or by becoming inspired by something out in the future on the horizon that you are excited about
  • The three states of existence:
    • A state of survival- where you just make it through the day and make decisions out of scarcity and competition.
    • A state of comfort-where there is no urgency, but there’s nothing exciting or challenging in your life and you drift aimlessly.
    • A state of thriving—where you seek challenge every day and are willing to get to know yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually. You can tackle bigger and better problems and grow every day.
  • The importance of getting non-emotional data on our lives about what’s not working
  • Why comfort is the hardest state to change from
  • A powerful visualization exercise—5 years down the line, where will you be if you stay on the same path that isn’t working for you?
  • How to set your goals so that you will achieve them
  • Why you must go to environments that light you up in some form
  • Cutting negative stuff out of your space—relationships, environments, gossip, bad habits, and bad mindsets
  • How to break free from the “I’m not ready yet” syndrome
  • How to recognize fear in all its forms
  • By the time you feel ready, it’s too late
  • How in a distracted, over-stimulated world, we chase the wrong things for the wrong reasons
  • Regret can be a tool to leverage or a tool used to imprison yourself
  • Why ruminating leads to anxiety, depression, and despair
  • Dialing up your intuition
  • Why you may not be lacking clarity but courage
  • How lack of clarity can become an excuse to procrastinate
  • How to have the courage to step forward even if you lack a clear vision
  • Powerful exercise—how to take inventory of your foundation in life
  • That it’s okay to say, “I don’t know,” and give yourself space to figure it out

When we say we’re not ready, it becomes a convenient mechanism to let ourselves off the hook.

MENTIONED EPISODE: Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio


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The Matrix of Marriage with Larry Bilotta


So many men are married and miserable. The worst part about this is we accept it. We think that’s the way marriage is supposed to be. We can blame it on our spouse. We might say its because of our work, the kids, or the society we live in, but rarely do we look at ourselves.

Whether your marriage is in a rut, a rough patch, or a full-blown crisis, today’s episode will change everything you thought you knew about being married.

Marriage Coach Larry Bilotta is our guest. He is going to shift your perspectives about the core problems between husbands and wives using the movie The Matrix as an analogy. You will be shown the hidden dynamics of relationships and how you alone can save your marriage by changing your programming.

Will you take the blue pill or the red pill?

'The reason I couldn’t run away was because I was programmed to be married and miserable.' – @LarryBilotta #men #husbands #marriage #manhood #thematrix Click To Tweet

'The greater the chaos, the shorter the marriage.' – @LarryBilotta #marriage #relationships #childhood #wifes #husbands #divorce Click To Tweet

Larry Bilotta

Larry Bilotta endured 27 years of hell in a marriage. In the 28th year, he fell in love with his wife. Now they’ve been married for over 43 years and are more solid than ever.

Why did he stay in an unhappy marriage for so long? What changed after 27 years for him to finally fall in love with his wife?

Larry constantly looked for answers on how to fix his unhappy existence. He was hungry to learn why he and his wife could not get it right. Finally, everything came together for him. He realized the source of the pain was not the relationship. It was much deeper than that.

What You’ll Learn

  • The real reason we stay married and miserable
  • Why men are in the dark and baffled as to what is wrong with their relationships
  • Why conventional techniques to fix relationships don’t work on some couples
  • Why marriages become troubled because of childhood pain
  • Why knowing what happened to you is more important than what happened to your relationship
  • What is “program possession”
  • How our programs possess us and make us do things we regret
  • How to tell who will leave the marriage first
  • How the personal pursuit of happiness has destroyed family
  • How men lose their wives’ hearts
  • How to get rid of your programs
  • Why your bad marriage has nothing to do with your wife
  • How to start saving your marriage by changing your energy
  • What intimacy really means
  • Why we do not have to get our wives involved with saving the marriage
  • How to become a “changer” instead of “reactor”
  • Why you must slow down time when you’re being attacked
'You’re wife is a reactor. If you bring gratitude, she’ll react to it. Likewise if it’s criticism and blame, she reacts to that.' – @LarryBilotta #marriage #relationships #divorce #saveyourmarriage #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment Click To Tweet

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Showing Leadership to Your Kids by Going First

Showing Leadership to Your Kids by Going First

Are you afraid to go first? We usually like to sit back and watch someone else go first, whether it’s being the first to raise our hand, the first to try something we’ve never done before, or the first to speak up and say what everyone else is afraid to say. But when we become dads, what happens if we continue to let others go first? What does that show our kids?

One of the lessons we want to teach our kids is leadership. We are the leaders of the family and it is our duty to go first, even if we fail. Today we have Kyle Ferris on the show. He’s one of our members from the Dad Edge Alliance and he attended our Dad Edge Summit last month. He shares his insights on how to be a leader to your kids by going first.

You are the star in your own movie and your kids are the audience. What role are you playing? Are you in a supporting role? The crew? Or the hero? #dads #men #fathers #parenting #leadership Click To Tweet

Are you afraid to go first? We usually like to sit back and watch someone else go first, but when we become dads, what does that show our kids? #dads #fathers #fatherhood #parenting #kids #leadership Click To Tweet

MENTIONED EPISODES:

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

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How to Raise Mentally Strong Kids with Amy Morin

Mental strength is something most of us struggle with. Dealing with grief, fear, and disappointment is a constant challenge for adults. Children have even more difficulty navigating uncomfortable feelings. How can we raise mentally strong kids?

Today’s guest is Amy Morin, the bestselling author of the book called 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do. She is a psychotherapist, writer, and TEDx speaker. She is here to tell us how to become mentally strong parents so we can raise self-assured kids who are primed for happiness and success.

This show is full of incredible insights that will change the lives of adults and children. Save it, because you’ll want to listen to it more than once.

'Our tendency is to go around uncomfortable feelings instead of through them.' – @AmyMorinLCSW #parenting #dads #fathers #kids #children Click To Tweet

Amy Morin

Amy Morin recorded this episode from her boat which she has been living on for 2 years. From there she works on her computer writing articles and doing interviews. Amy Morin wrote a list called 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. This article went viral with more than 50 million readers. She wrote a book based on that list and wrote a second book especially for parents.

As a therapist, Amy’s goal was always to teach other people how to be mentally strong, but shortly after she began her work, her mother passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm at the age of fifty-one. This was Amy’s first big loss and she didn’t know how to cope. She saw people who went through loss in her office and they were still not over it even decades later. She knew she had to figure out how to get through it and emerge stronger than she was before. She accomplished this by turning her grief into a learning experience.

Just when she was getting a handle on her life again, her husband passed away on the anniversary of her mom’s death. He was twenty-six. To say it was painful is an understatement. She lost her partner and all the goals and dreams they had together. They had been foster parents and she wondered if she could continue as a single woman. It took a long time before she felt better and reestablished a new since of normal.

Four years later she found love again. She got married, sold her house, and got a new job. Her new husband joined her a as a foster parent. Things seemed to finally be looking up, but shortly after that, her father-in-law was diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Amy was beginning to feel like life was unfair.

She knew it wasn’t helpful to think like this. It wasn’t what mentally strong people do, so she wrote a list if all the things she could think of that mentally strong people don’t do. It turned out to be thirteen key things and she published the list online. The response was incredible. No one knew the tragic story behind why she created it.

Everyone assumed I mastered the list, but I struggled with it.

'We develop core beliefs about life when we're little kids, and as we grow older some of those beliefs don't serve us very well, but it's so hard to unlearn the things that you know.' – @AmyMorinLCSW #parenting #personalgrowth… Click To Tweet

What you’ll learn

  • An in-depth look at the 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t D0
    • They Don’t Condone a Victim Mentality
    • They Don’t Parent Out Of Guilt
    • They Don’t Make Their Child The Center Of The Universe
    • They Don’t Allow Fear To Dictate Their Choices
    • They Don’t Give Their Child Power Over Them
    • They Don’t Expect Perfection
    • They Don’t Let Their Child Avoid Responsibility
    • They Don’t Shield Their Child From Pain
    • They Don’t Feel Responsible For Their Child’s Emotions
    • They Don’t Prevent Their Child From Making Mistakes
    • They Don’t Confuse Discipline With Punishment
    • They Don’t Take Shortcuts To Avoid Discomfort
    • They Don’t Lose Sight Of Their Values
  • Why Amy decided to write a list of what mentally strong parents don’t do instead of what they do
  • What is a ‘calm down kit’ and how to create one
  • How getting kids involved in making the world a better place helps get them out of the victim mentality
  • What not to do when your kid says ‘I hate you!’
  • Why you must allow your kids to feel their emotions
  • How to give your kids firsthand practice on managing their feelings
  • How a child’s anxiety is reduced when the parent is a solid leader
  • How to empower kids without giving them too much power
  • How kids learn when they watch how parents deal with their own uncomfortable feelings
  • Amy’s parting wisdom on how to be a better parent

'Ask yourself what life lessons do I want my kids to learn, and do my priorities reflect my values?' @AmyMorinLCSW #parenting #values #raisingchildren Click To Tweet

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'You want kids to arrive at their own conclusions rather than us always telling them 'no don't think that way.'' – @AmyMorinLCSW #parenting #parentingtips #dads #moms Click To Tweet

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The 12 Traits of a Warrior Part 1: The Hard Traits with Chris Sajnog


As men, we do battle every single day. Not only are we fighting to maintain and grow our careers, finances, and family, we fight an internal battle at all times. We have to deal with negative self-talk, bad habits, and anxiety. It’s not to say that life is always a warzone, but it can be challenging, and we can be prepared to face the challenges with a warrior’s skillset.

Chris Sajnog is a Navy SEAL sniper and our third more popular all-time former guest. He is back to teach us how master our thoughts and emotions, become solid leaders, and raise strong children by adopting the Twelve Traits of a Warrior. In this first part of a two-part series, we discuss the six ‘Hard Traits.’

We are the stories we tell ourselves and most people are telling themselves the wrong stories. @ChrisSajnog #dads #fathers #men #warriors Click To Tweet

Chris Sajnog

Chris Sajnog is one the most elite Navy SEAL snipers in the world and the bestselling author of ‘How to Shoot Like Navy SEAL’ and ‘Navy SEAL Shooting’. He is on a mission to help men develop The 12 Traits of the Warrior in order to live a more balanced life. The hard traits are:

  1. Confidence
  2. Strength
  3. Aggressiveness
  4. Discipline
  5. Being Active
  6. Bravery
Every morning when you wake up, you can tell yourself what kind of day you're going to have. @ChrisSajnog #motivation #selftalk #mindset Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • How he teaches snipers
  • Why a warrior is able to learn and become great at whatever they want to do
  • How a civilian can learn the warrior mindset to learn and improve more quickly
  • What are the hard traits and why we need them
  • What are the soft traits and how do they balance the hard traits
  • What happens when someone is out of balance
  • How these traits affect PTSD
  • How to go from the mentality of an ordinary dad and worker to the mentality of a warrior
  • How warrior traits can be applied to everyday life
  • How to grow a set of N.U.T.S. (non-negotiable unalterable terms)
  • Why waiting for a situation to happen to decide how you’re going to react is a mistake
  • How to decide in advance how you will respond
  • How to feel confident doing something you’ve never done before
  • Why mental strength is superior to physical strength
  • Why being aggressive is necessary
  • Why constantly taking action is crucial to keep moving forward
  • What bravery really means
  • How to teach our kids warrior qualities
  • Why you should let your kids fight and wrestle
  • How to show your children the rewards of being disciplined
  • How to make your kids aware of the consequences of their own choices

Sometimes people need to get punched in the face, and you need to be okay with that. @ChrisSajnog #men #dads #fathers #parenting Click To Tweet

MENTIONED EPISODE: Leading Our Family With Confidence with Chris Sajnog

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