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Letting Go of Resentment Toward Your Father

The Power of Letting Go of Resentment Toward Your Father with Cody McBroom

What type of father did you have growing up? How does it affect you as the man you are today? If you had a great dad, you’ll want to follow in his footsteps. But what if your dad didn’t give you what you needed? Will you fall into the same pattern or choose to change it?

Today’s dynamic guest is podcaster and founder of Boom Boom Performance, Cody McBroom. His dad was a workaholic who rarely spent time with the family, and Cody thought this meant his father didn’t care. Whenever anything went wrong in Cody’s life he would blame his dad.

As Cody got older, he began to notice that this grudge held him back in life. This inspired him to embark on a journey of self-improvement to reframe his life and transform his mindset.

Cody McBroom is now a successful, thriving entrepreneur and demonstrates the power of letting go of resentment toward your father or anyone else in your life.

He also shares his no-nonsense fitness and nutrition tips so you can build a foundation of health that will empower you to become your best self.

'The first step in seeing success in your personal being is recognition of both the positive and negative.'—@Cody_BoomBoom #personalgrowth #selfdevelopment #coaching #dads #men Click To Tweet

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Cody McBroom was a fat kid whose dad ran multiple companies for the oil industry. His father worked and traveled so much, Cody sadly doesn’t have many memories with him and he always resented his father for not being there.

Now Cody is twenty-six years old, going on fifty in his self-awareness. He has a business, a fiance, and a baby daughter. Taking on the role of a provider, he finally understands his father on a deeper level.

In the previous generation, men gauged their success by how much money they made. His dad thought he was doing his duty as a father by making enough income so that his wife could stay at home and his children could have whatever they wanted.

Cody now has the same urge to prioritize work, and has to constantly remind himself to put business away and be present with his family.

'Balance is bullsh*t. To say that I can split my time evenly across everything in my life and give equal attention constantly to everything, there’s no way to do that. Something is always going to take more focus at a certain time in… Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Cody’s amazing journey of self-exploration
  • How he remains open to personal growth
  • How to let go of ego to tap into the emotional side to surmount what’s holding you back
  • The experience that brought him clarity and caused a complete mental shift when it came to judging his father and everyone else
  • Why his business took off when he was able to cultivate empathy
  • How he resented money because it took his dad away from him
  • How he accepted money as a positive thing and allowed himself to enjoy it
  • Why he believes work life balance is a myth
  • How he keeps moving forward at incredible speed
  • How to use coaches as a shortcut and see immediate results in fitness, business, and relationships
  • Why you don’t need to be an extremist to get fit
  • His drilled-down, essential health tips for men
    • Making a green drink every morning – for the placebo effect
    • Moving in the morning – why it’s better to exercise before work
    • Tracking nutrition – acknowledging that you’re putting crap in your body
    • Investing in coaching – using the power of accountability
  • How to set up for a good New Year in December

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10 Minutes a Day to a More Fulfilling Life

Finding the time for self-care is one of the hugest struggles for dads. We always have another task to complete. We’re always being asked for another favor. We feel guilty for taking time away from our family and we leave ourselves last on the list. We can be overcome by exhaustion, frustration, and depression. This is why establishing a self-care routine is crucial. Listen to how as little as ten minutes a day can lead to a happier, more fulfilling life.


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How Overcoming Adversity Can Make You a Better Dad with Nick Dinardo

Nick Dinardo draws on adversity to inform and inspire his life as a podcaster, personal performance coach, author, and dad.

Nick Dinardo is an entrepreneur, a consultant, and a public speaker who focuses on resilience, personal growth, and education. Nick is the author of bestselling book The Game of Adversity: 8 Practices to Turn Life’s Toughest Moments into Your Greatest Opportunities. He is also the host of The Sweet Adversity Podcast and has interviewed hundreds of experts on overcoming adversity, dealing with trauma and stress, and the critical role it plays in our cognitive development.

Nick has dealt with adversity his entire life. At the age of seven, his family went from the American dream to a foreclosed home, divorce, and mental illness. He spent a year sleeping on the floor in a one room apartment where his family shared a kitchen with seventeen other families.

Nick had a great dad, but was angry at his father for not understanding his mom and her mental illness. He still hoped and dreamed his parents would fall in love again, but that never happened. They moved from place to place until his mom got her life back together. During this disruptive time, Nick turned to sports for role models of those who went through hard times and still became great, successful people.

Sports is a microcosm of life

Nick Dinardo’s book, The Game of Adversity, uses sports as a Trojan horse to explore the psychological aspects of adversity and how high performers focus on process, not outcome. Coaches like John Wooden and Bill Belichick implemented this idea in their methods. Wooden made his players adhere to a very strict routine and told them not to think about basketball outside of practice. Belichick didn’t care about the score so much as he did about the team and their cognitive skill development. If the players prepared through the process, the win would come without consciously focusing on the goal.

Focusing on goals can make us unhappy

Goals are anti-presence because you’re focused on the end instead of what’s going on right in front of you. You can’t enjoy the moment because you’re always looking to the future, but you can establish a new norm for yourself and stop waiting till you reach any of your goals to be happy.

We have a choice

Men have evolved to be very results-focused, and we feel like a failure when we don’t achieve our goals. This creates stress and our response effects our cortisol levels, which effects our sleep and the function of our bodies. It triggers a chain reaction that goes all the way into how we treat people and how we approach our day.

Fighting our natural instincts to relentlessly push for our goals is tough, but when faced with a stressful situation, we can actually train ourselves how to respond in a positive proactive way instead of a negative reactive way.

Kids overcoming adversity

Nick says what’s important for kids to overcome extreme adversity is a positive relationship with one adult. Despite the hardship his family went through when he was young, he had a solid social circle of caring adults that acted as a foundation of strength.

Dad wisdom after a childhood of adversity

Nick Dinardo is the new dad of a 5-month-old boy. When Nick thinks about the things his father did for him, one thing stands out. It comes down to love. He remembers his dad always gave him hugs in kisses, even in front of his friends. His dad always told him he loved him multiple times a day. Nick says not to worry about the parenting books and the latest trends. When it comes to being a good dad, all things fall into place from love.

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48 Days to The Work You Love with Dan Miller

Episode Overview on 48 Days to The Work You Love with Dan Miller:

Larry and Shawn interview Dan Miller, international best-seller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, No More Dreaded Mondays, and Wisdom Meets Passion. He has appeared on the CBS Morning Show, MSNBC’s Hardball With Chris Matthews, Moody Midday Connection and the Dave Ramsey Show. He reaches over 130,000 listeners on his podcast and speaks across the country helping others find fulfillment and the work they love. And it all started in a Sunday school class…

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There you sit-Superman logo on the t-shirt the kids gave you last Father’s Day, #1 Dad mug perched on the coaster imprinted with your progeny’s latest snapshot; their adorable smiles glaring back at you. To them you are Superman, but some days you feel more like Superman after a bout with Lex Luthor and Kryptonite.

Not only are you “dad”, you are spouse, provider, and friend. You “have” to bring in that paycheck so you can provide everything your family wants and needs. But at what cost? Ever feel like you’re working tirelessly for that paycheck and then you have nothing mentally or physically to give your family when you do go home? Are you working to live or are you living to work? Maybe it’s a quiet desperation you are living because you think you are trapped in a less-than-stellar job just to provide for your family.

If you’re not passionate about what you are doing to bring home that paycheck, maybe it’s time to reevaluate your work life. We’re not saying go ahead and quit your day job, but it’s worth exploring the possibility of finding what you really want to do with your life.

It takes a true mind-shift. We’ve been conditioned to think that if we just work harder or put in more time, we will make more money or get that promotion. It’s not like that anymore. The economy has shifted from paying for time to paying for value. In other words, paying for the finished product or service rather than paying for the time put into that service or product. So, the old 9-5 model isn’t really driving the work force any longer.

Wouldn’t it be great if you could make what you needed to provide for your family, have more time for your family and enjoy doing it? Sounds like a pipe-dream, right? Dan Miller has done it and helped many others do it, too, by simply helping people tap into their passion. He outlines three steps to accomplish this goal:

  1. Identify your unique passion. What can you bring to other people that would benefit them? Maybe you have a great talent at creating something or maybe you are wonderful at motivating others.
  2. Be clear about what you want to do and put it into an economic model. Once you have found your passion, be specific about it and the goals you have for its success.
  3. Actually do it. It’s one thing to have a great idea; it’s another to execute it.
    Once you have aligned your work with what you love, your passion, you will have that work-life balance. Those around you will take notice and be inspired, especially your kids. Achieving this balance will no doubt rub off on your own children and they, in turn, will be able to carry this into their adult lives.

So, go back to your chair in your Superman shirt and your #1 Dad mug and smile gleefully back at that snapshot of your kids. Now you have hope that you can have time for your family and love what you do to provide for them. Goodbye “work Kryptonite”, hello leaping from tall buildings in a single bound.

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