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The Dad Champion Blueprint with Jeff Spencer

Episode Overview:

Dr. Jeff Spencer has consulted and provided guidance for top-performers in sports and business. As a former Olympian himself, he’s spent a career studying the science of success and helping others implement those principles in their lives with his Champion’s Blueprint training. Shawn and I had an opportunity to talk to Jeff about how the Champion’s Blueprint and Fatherhood go hand-in-hand.

Champion Blueprint for Fatherhood

As men, we don’t like to stop and ask for directions.  Afterall, we are problem solvers!  We are wired to hunt, gather, and simply figure stuff out…sometimes…even if it’s the hard way.  The funny thing about us men is that we love directions.  We love instructions.  We love the “how-to guides.”  However, it’s the “asking part” that we don’t really like.  Most men want direction.  We want guidance.  We want a path to follow.  However, we don’t want to ask for it.

 

Discovering our Own Champion Blueprint

Every dad possesses greatness at some level even if we don’t realize it.  There truly is no distinct roadmap for successful parenting.  However, we can stack the odds in our favor if we simply take time to tap into our greatness and develop our strengths.  

 

Dr. Jeff’s Links

Website:  www.drjeffspencer.com

Facebook:  www.facebook.com/jeff.spencer1

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/jeffspencer

Blog:  http://drjeffspencer.com/blog/

Champion’s Blueprint:  http://drjeffspencer.com/the-champions-blueprint

 

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Simplify Your Life as a Dad

Kids, family, and learning to simplify Your Life

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Raising kids, as a normal man with big dreams for his family, in today’s world can be brutal. You want the best for your family; i.e. great friends, beautiful home, comfortable lifestyle, and adventures to keep  your family engaged – you want the good life. But all these “wants” can be draining for men both mentally and physically.  The key to “the good life” is learning how to simplify your life.

This “good life” is like a rainbow’s end. No matter how close you get and how hard you try to catch it, the elusive end of the rainbow keeps moving away from you. Reach and reach, but it seems like it’s always just out of my grasp. That damn leprechaun keeps moving his pot of gold.

What are we chasing?

Are we chasing comfortable life, or are we chasing something else? Self-assurance maybe?

Are we digging into those memories that we had as children and longing for our kids to have a great childhood; do we want them to have lives that somehow resemble ours? Sure, we all want our kids to have an incredible childhood; we want or children to grow up, turn around, and look at their life – that we helped to create and mold – smile and be happy.

That grown-up fist bump that says, “Thanks mom, thanks dad; you kicked ass raising me.” We want them to be able to reach down into their pockets and pull out those memories and share them with their spouses, kids, friends, etc. – because that’s what we do. We connect our past to our present, and try to shape their futures. Our connections are made through memories and sharing those memories.

How to simplify your life and discover happiness

As a man in his mid-thirties and now a father of two, I think it comes down to one thing. I have to put aside our quest to chase that comfort we had as kids and forge our own paths for our children’s lives.

We have to step to the side and let them grow and learn from their experiences; good and bad. I’m not one to compete with the Jones’s next door. I don’t want a pile full of toys and gadgets and stuff that I have to manage and organize – the more stuff I have the more I have to clean and keep track of. I compete more with myself than with the Jones’s next door. I compete with myself to be a better father, husband, and person every day.

Early on, I set expectations for what I wanted in my life when I wanted those milestones to happen. Growing up and hitting my prime teen and college years, I always told myself I wanted to be married by the time I was 25. At the age of 24, I married my wife and we have been inseparable for 10+ years. I said I wanted kids by the time I was 26; my first child, our son, was born in late 2006 when I was 26. I had my second child, my beautiful daughter, when I was 28…not a bad list of my life “wants” by the time I was 30. I was, and I still am, feeling great about life; at least I think I am.

All that being said, it brings me back to raising a family in today’s world and why I feel that blogging has allowed me to fight the good fight battling against society, against media, against our friends and neighbors, and battling against ourselves – our toughest opponent.

At the end of the day, you have to accept who we are and what you are made of.  You have to simplify your life and appreciate the positives.  That’s not to say we can’t improve and change certain characteristics we have, but it simply means you have one shot at life so embrace who you are and what you are doing.

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

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How to Defeat the Number One Fear as a Father – GDP031

Episode Overview:

In this episode, Larry and Shawn go over some key takeaways from Larry’s Amazon #1 Best Seller, “The Dad’s Edge.”

Key Takeaways:

  •             Learn how to overcome fear as a father
  •             Discover how fear as a father are based on the meaning we give them
  •             Learn how to rewrite your meaning and perspective
  •             Discover how you can take your game to the next level

How to Defeat Fear as a Father

You what really makes us miserable at times?

The answer may surprise you.  It’s you.  That’s right.  It’s ourselves.  It’s me.  It’s you.  It’s absolutely positively ourselves.

Unfortunately, so many of us have negative inner chatter. As men and Dads, we have a tendency to put an enormous amount of pressure on ourselves. We can’t screw up. Not even once. We need to be exceptional. No, we need to be more than exceptional. We need to be perfect.

I want you to take a moment and really think about your daily inner chatter. What do you say to yourself quietly? Do you build yourself up or tear yourself down?  Learning how to defeat fear is absolutely critical to the success of our dad journey.

Most of us have a voice that can tear us down

  •             It’s the voice that constantly tells you that you are doing it all wrong
  •             It tells you that you are not enough
  •             You are not a lovable person

  •             You don’t deserve something or someone
  •             You can’t

  •             You never will

  •             You aren’t good at your job

This inner self-talk not only destroys our enjoyment of being a good dad, but all aspects of life.  Your inner self-talk can magnify our fear as a father.

Our Worst Fear as a Father

I will let you in on a secret: There is one ultimate fear we humans share. It is a fear that we all have in common whether you are a father, a mother, a son, a daughter, a grandparent, an employee, or a business owner. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you do. We ALL share the same ultimate fear that is so incredibly deeply rooted. If you look at “things” in life that we are afraid of, it literally all boils down to just ONE CORE FEAR.

And here it is:

“THE FEAR THAT YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH”

Think about it for a moment: Take anything that you are afraid of or something that is causing you stress. For instance, think about your job for a minute. What really scares you or stresses you out about your job?

You might say:

  • “It’s the workload…it’s hard for me to keep up.” 

  •  “I lost a customer or a big client. How will I make up for that?” 

  •  “I am afraid of making a mistake and being let go.” 
  •   “My boss is always all over my case.” 


Then ask yourself why you stress about that in particular? It’s because at the root of that perceived stress there is an underlying fear that “YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH AT YOUR JOB AND YOU WON’T BE NEEDED and THEREFORE LET GO.”

Fear as a father and troubled relationships

Think about a troubled relationship. What really scares and causes you stress about a troubled relationship? Certain things may come to mind such as: 


  •        “We fight about everything.” 

  •        “I feel like I am being taken for granted.” 

  •        “I feel I am not respected.” 

  •        “I don’t get the affection that I truly desire.” 

  •        “I don’t get the recognition and appreciation that I deserve.” 


All of these perceived stressors can be rooted in one common FEAR: ”Ultimately, I am not enough for this other person, they won’t love me, and will leave.” 
Are you beginning to see a pattern here? 


The Solution to Defeating your Worst Fear as a Father:

In order to change this debilitating fear that all humans share, we must do two things.

First, we have to change the story we keep telling ourselves over and over.  We have to re-write our story of defeat and replace it with a winning mentality.

The real question is how to defeat fear?

Second, you need to develop a daily and weekly strategy to sharpen the necessary skills for a fulfilling life and fatherhood journey.

Check out this episode and grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge for several solutions that will empower several aspects of your life…not just fatherhood…but all areas.

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links

Thank You!

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5 Life Changing Lessons from Dad Part 2 – GDP029

“5 Life Changing Lessons from Dad Part 2” Episode Overview:

Shawn and I did things a bit different for this episode.  We really wanted hear from our audience.  So, I reached out on social media and posed a question:

“What was one life changing lesson you learned from your dad growing up that has inspired you to be a better man?”

The responses were incredible.  We chose five quotes from five different fathers and then reflected on each quote.  If one of these quotes really hit home, tweet it.  You never know who needs inspiration and you could literally change someone’s day and life.

Life Changing Lesson #1 from Jay Forte

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“My mother, when teaching us how to cook, would tap us on the head and say, “When you know your ingredients, you can make something good.” Then in the next moment she would tap us on the heart and say, “When you know YOUR ingredients, you can make something good.”

What a great quote!  Truly illustrates knowing our strengths and using them for the greater good.  Everyone of us is born with gifts and strengths.  Being able to recognize what we are good at and sharing with the world is the best thing we can do.

Life Changing Lesson #2: from Jeff Watts:

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“Always wear a belt if your pants have belt loops.”

Shawn and I got off on a tangent on this one (sorry Jeff LOL!).  All kidding aside, this quote is a great reminder to always pay attention to detail.  Also, to always stay curious about the world around us.

Life Changing Lesson #3 from Coach Jelani Bush:

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“Don’t wear your head as a hat rack!”

Short, simple, and to the point.  Use your brains to make purposeful and good decisions.  Simple as that.

Life Changing Lesson #4 from Katie Logan

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“Don’t call him.  If he is interested, he will call you.”

For all you men out there who have daughters…make sure you share this one with them.  Katie is spot on here.  For the most part, guys are pretty simple creatures.  If we are interested in a woman, it’s usually pretty obvious.  On the other hand, if we are not interested, it’s pretty obvious as well.  For all the dads out there who have daughters…I have no doubt you wouldn’t want your daughter wasting time and stressing about a guy that you know is not interested.  This quote will save a ton of time and heartache.

Life Changing Lesson #5 from Mike Rekart:

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“One night I overheard my son praying…”Dear Lord, please help me be the person my dad wants me to be.”  Later that night I prayed…”Dear Lord please help me be the father my son needs me to be.”

This one was just epic!  Reason being, there are so many meanings in this quote.  One thing Shawn and I took from Mike’s quote was “shared vulnerability.”  This quote illustrates how important it is to a child that they are accepted and loved by their fathers.  Moreover, it shows the desire from a father’s point of view to want to be guided to be the very best.  The Good Dad Project Show, Community, and Resources are exactly that…a resource for dads to be their very best.

Thanks again for checking out our show!  If you are an avid listener of the show or this is your first time…WELCOME to the GDP!  Check out all of our resources for fatherhood and simply being our best.

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links

Thank You!

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5 Life Changing Lessons from Dad – GDP027

“5 Life Changing Lessons from Dad” Episode Overview:

Shawn and I did things a bit different for this episode. We really wanted hear from our audience. So, I reached out on social media and posed a question:

“What was one life changing lesson you learned from your dad growing up that has inspired you to be a better man?”

The responses were incredible. We chose five quotes from five different fathers and then reflected on each quote. If one of these quotes really hit home, tweet it. You never know who needs inspiration and you could literally change someone’s day and life.

Life Changing Lesson #1 from Dallas Durrance:

“Don’t stand in a shadow, but cast one of your own. Live like you have nothing to lose, because you can always come home.”

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The quote: “Don’t stand in a shadow, but cast one of your own.” We thought this quote from Dallas’s dad was truly inspirational. Reason being, it illustrates being true to yourself and taking risk. Most of us live a life of trying to fit in and being like everyone else. This quote serves a powerful reminder that being true to our ourselves is empowering.

The quote: “Live like you have nothing to lose” reminds us that life is all about taking risks and living outside our comfort zones. Believe it or not, a comfort zone can be extremely uncomfortable.

The quote: “because you can always come home” is so powerful. As dads, the best thing we can do is give our kids an environment to take risks, make mistakes, and live life to the fullest. Being able to come home after you have taken risks and made mistakes gives our kids such an empowering sense of security.

Life Changing Lesson #2: from Austin Beardall:

“There are only two important things in life…1. You are a part of a family. 2. You will have a family of your own…nothing else matters.”

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This quote really hit home with Shawn and I because it truly illustrates the importance of family. In life, we can be distracted by so many other obligations. However, at the end of the day, the only thing that truly matters is the family we are a part of and the one we create.

Life Changing Lesson #3 from Eric Dodge:

“Always live on less than what you make, don’t go into debt.”

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Nothing can cause a strain on a marriage like financial burden. Every relationship goes through peaks and valleys when it comes to money. In today’s society, banks will over qualify us for way more house than we can buy. Credit cards will give us a limit we can never pay back. Car dealerships will sell us a car we cannot afford. At the end of the day, the materialistic “stuff” isn’t worth the financial stress and burden. If we can’t pay cash for it, it probably isn’t worth buying.

Check out Episode 18, with Brian McGraw and Jon Graf from Thrivent Financial. These guys give excellent strategies for financial peace of mind. Also, if you haven’t read Dave Ramsey’s book, “The Total Money Makeover” …check it out.

Life Changing Lesson #4 from Ed Boudreau:

“Always remember the SIX P’s! Proper Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance!”

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Look at any area of our lives and this is absolutely true! When I first read this, I automatically started thing about job performance and success aspirations. However, after really thinking about it, I realized this spills over into our family lives. If we don’t plan to be our very best and to be engaged with the people that matter most to us…we haven’t planned properly.

Life Changing Lesson #5 from Brock McGoff:

“Your clothes are either working for you or against you, but they are always working.”

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What we wear says a lot about our own personality, values, and views on life. Fashion and clothing for men is an important part of who we are. What we decide to wear can make or break a first impression depending on the situation. Check out the show to hear more about this quote. Shawn has some excellent pearls of wisdom.

Thanks again for checking out our show! If you are an avid listener of the show or this is your first time…WELCOME to the GDP! Check out all of our resources for fatherhood and simply being our best.

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links

Books:

The Total Money Makeover – Dave Ramsey

Thank You!

Thank you so much for checking out this episode of The Good Dad Project. If you haven’t done so already, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a quick rating and review of the show on iTunes by clicking on the link below. It will help us to keep delivering life-changing information for you every week!