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You should NEVER FEEL GUILT Investing in Yourself

Guilt: the fact of having committed a specified or implied offense or crime (Merriam Webster Dictionary). Is taking care of yourself a crime? We sometimes treat taking care of ourselves as if we believe it is a crime because we think that taking time for ourselves is taking time away from our family. But if we are simply physically “present” and not fully focused because we are too tired, too overwhelmed, too stressed, too you name it, then our physical presence means very little.

 

Don’t Give Into GUILT You Are Just as Important

 

We love our family and friends and we would do anything for them. The one person who we really should also pay attention to is the one we look at in the mirror every morning. Include taking care of yourself as part of loving your family and friends because it allows you to show up as the best version of yourself for others in the process.

 

Not Really Yourself

 

When you play the role of martyr and do everything for everyone else, you tend to build resentment toward the people you are doing things for. But, when you take time to take care of yourself, you have refueled your mind, body and spirit so that you can show up best.

 

Get rid of the guilt of taking care of yourself. You are just as important as those surrounding you. After all, if you are not at your best, you certainly cannot be the best for everyone else.

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How to Combine Family and Fitness for Busy Dads with Ben Greenfield


BEN GREENFIELD is one of the world’s top fitness experts and a father of twin 8-year old boys!

The invisible exerciser. You know, you might be that person: the one who wakes up before the birds, gets cardio and weight training out of the way, then miraculously show back up at home to get the kids up for school and get the rest of the day going. Or maybe you’re the opposite end of the spectrum: you don’t work out at all because you just can’t seem  to find the time to squeeze a workout into your busy schedule. Ben Greenfield, former bodybuilder and author of a multitude of fitness books including, 10 Ways to Grow Tiny Superhumans, joins the GDP to discuss the best ways to get your best workout while including your kids and teaching them the importance of fitness and nutrition.

 

It’s a Way of Life

 

Including exercise as a regular part of your daily routine with your kids teaches them that you believe exercise and taking care of your body is as critical as breathing.Granted, including kids in your workout can be annoying because they may not move at the pace you can or lift quite as much, but you don’t need to include them in the entire activity. For instance, they don’t have to participate in your whole 45 minute workout. Instead, they can join you for a smaller portion and then you can hammer out the rest of your workout.

 

It’s Not Just for the Gym

 

Working out doesn’t always mean you have to have a gym membership. Some of the best workouts can be outside-take a hike with your kids, run sprints up the hill, take a bike ride. It really doesn’t matter what you do, so long as your kids see that moving and exercising is part of your family structure. Why not use the weight of your kids to help get your heart rate up as you do walking lunges? That’s right, put your kid on your back and lunge away! This provides a compound movement that also gives you the extra intensity of having to balance unpredictable weight on your back.

 

Make it a Habit

 

We teach our kids that brushing their teeth at least twice a day is non-negotiable. So, why not teach them that physical fitness is also non-negotiable. If you simply tell them to go out and play or put down the gaming device without practicing what you preach, they won’t be so compelled to do it. But, if this habit is part of your daily ritual, your kids are likely to follow. And what better way to give your kids the fit foundation they need for their adult life than to lay the healthy groundwork right now?

 

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Create an Unbeatable Mind, Body, and Become Sealfit with Mark Divine

Mark Divine will make you challenge yourself. This is the consistent message of Mark Divine, founder of SEALFit, author of Unbeatable Mind and Kokoro Yoga-Warrior Yoga. Right now, you are capable of more than you are right now. Mark Divine continues to prove this with countless client success stories; the GDP’s own Larry Hagner is living proof.

 

Physical and Mental Fitness

Mark Divine been with us before. In our previous interview with him, Mark talked about having an Unbeatable Mind through a mission, vision and power statement (this sounds familiar because we’ve incorporated it in quite a few podcasts!). In this episode, Mark expands the conversation to the physical aspect. One does not outweigh the other, as a matter of fact, mind, body and spirit are one in this practice.

 

What in the WOD are you talking about??

Coming from his Navy SEAL background as well as his own research, Mark has developed a physical program that is both mentally and physically challenging. The beauty of the program is it can be customized to every fitness level. Based on an idea similar to CrossFit, Mark’s SEALFit program combines the intensity of a CrossFit program with the mental focus of yoga. Worried about injuries associated with CrossFit programs? Mark’s got that covered, too! He’s put in safeguards, mentally and physically, to help you stay injury-free.

 

Take Your Game Up a Notch

So, maybe you are already in great shape or you simply want to find a workout program that fits your busy schedule. Mark’s program is sustainable and meets every experience level. And that guilt about taking time for yourself (remember, we had this conversation last week)? Turn that guilt to viewing this as a way to make yourself the best version of yourself in order to serve others. This is a message we continually drive home: you cannot show up as your best self if you do not take care of you first.

 

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Shane Ramer

Overcoming Addition and Becoming a Dad with Purpose with Shane Ramer


Shane Ramer, founder and host of That Sober Guy Podcast, comes on the GDP and shares an extremely raw interview on addiction, substance abuse, recovery, and being a dad with purpose.  Brace yourself for this amazing interview with Shane Ramer.

It’s the elephant in the room. Everyone knows it’s there, but no one wants to say anything; better to keep the status quo than rock the boat. No one knows what will happen if the boat is rocked and that is scary. At the same time, we hate the elephant; it is destroying our family, our other relationships and possibly our job. The elephant is addiction and addiction is hard to admit. Shane Ramer, founder of thatsoberguy.com, knows this reality all too well.

 

Shane Ramer’s Childhood and Background

Growing up, Shane turned to alcohol to soothe the pain he endured dealing with a troubled childhood. As he became an adult, Shane realized that he was using alcohol to escape life’s realities and soon came face-to-face with the fact that his own marriage was struggling because of it. He hit a wall. He could not longer stand the elephant in the room. With that, he sat down with his wife and said he needed help. Shane knew he was meant for something much more than where he was.

 

Going through intensive counseling and support from his family and friends, Shane learned to manage his life as an alcoholic. Knowing that he wasn’t the only one struggling, Shane started thatsoberguy.com in order to help other men struggling with similar issues. Today, Shane is a successful businessman, husband and father, dedicated to helping men voice their fears that keep them in the bonds of addiction.

 

But I’m Not an Addict

 

We’re not saying you are, but the lessons Shane discusses reach to all men. Society is great at telling boys that real men don’t cry, “suck it up” and never show emotion. So what do you do with all that pent-up emotion? Maybe you already have a healthy way of showing emotion, or maybe you need a little liquid courage to loosen up or just maybe you can’t get to work in the morning without your daily beer. Wherever you are on the spectrum, the learning to deal with fears and emotions without bottling them up will make you and those around you much happier.

 

It’s Ok to Talk About It

 

Again, we men are great at helping others solve their problems. That’s what we think we are here for. Our own problems? What problems? Oh! You mean the ones we don’t talk about? Well, we’ll be fine. Will we? Take a look at your own life and think about areas where your bottled-up emotions eat away at your true self. What is the worst thing that is going to happen if you talk to someone about your issues? You actually may deal with them? Whoa. What about your Man Card? Guess what, it’s safe and secure and probably in better condition than it was when you kept your fears and feelings to yourself.

 

Be A Man

 

Being a man means owning up to all areas of our lives. Even our fears. Showing up as the best dad, husband, employee and friend takes guts. Owning our issues takes even more guts and grit. You’ve got it in you, so be the best man you can be right now.

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bedtime rituals

Bedtime Rituals and Sleeping Smarter as a Family

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Bedtime Rituals are critical to the foundation of a good night sleep.  When it comes to our kids, they thrive on routines and rituals.  So why not have bedtime rituals to get them in the right mindset and to avoid bedtime chaos?

Bedtime Rituals Equals Success!

#nosleep, #workedallnight, #sleepdeprived, #itsanepidemic. Yep, you’ve heard this before; it’s almost a badge of honor anymore to say you worked 24 hours straight or need to chug 64 ounces of Mountain Dew or Monster to stay awake. Why do we celebrate sleep deprivation, when sleep is our body’s way of repairing itself so we can be our very best? In Shawn’s first episode of Sleep Smarter, he gave us simple tips to improve the quality of a night’s sleep: remove blue light, black out curtains, just to name two. But this time, Shawn goes a little deeper in identifying more specific ways to get the best sleep of our lives.

The Lion

Lions are cool. They are the kings of the jungle; noble and fearless. You know what lions don’t do? They don’t stand around the preverbal water cooler (if lions were in an office and had a water cooler-it’s an analogy. Stay with me here) and say, “Yeah Bill, I just killed two antelope after being up for 24 hours straight just prowling around.” You know why? Well, first, they’re lions and they wouldn’t have that conversation, and second, lions are only awake about four hours out of the day. Four hours. But, they are biologically programmed to sleep long hours so they can make those four waking hours incredibly effective.

Granted humans don’t require as much sleep as lions. But, in order to be fully functional and at our best our bodies do require an ample amount of sleep in order to repair. Sleep is as essential as oxygen, food and water to the health and well-being of our bodies. We need those 7-8 hours of sleep per night. Non-negotiable.  Bedtime rituals get our bodies and minds in the right state so we can ease into a healthier night sleep.

But I’m Good With 5 Hours

Really? You’re really bright-eyed and super bushy-tailed after a measly five hours of sleep? You wouldn’t be ok with 75% of your oxygen intake, so how is sleep any different? The truth is, without ample sleep, your body is not able to fully recover. When we sleep, our bodies are in an anabolic state (read: muscle building, tissue repair, hormone rebalancing). If we are sleep deprived, we age faster and our bodies are less likely to be able to completely repair themselves. So, what the heck do you do?

Create Routine

Shawn Stevenson shares a way we can get our kids and the whole family in the right mindset for bedtime.

In a culture that seems to value over working, it is hard to imagine placing value in something that is the complete opposite: rest. But, it’s that rest that will make us be better at work. So, take a cue from your work life, you schedule meetings, why not schedule a sleep routine? This routine, be it turning off electronic devices earlier, brushing your teeth, reading to the kids, or whatever, will start to signal your body to begin the sleep cycle. As this becomes habit, you will find yourself getting to sleep faster and your sleep will be of better quality.

Create Culture

In order to get everyone in your household on board with quality sleep, you have to create a culture where sleep is valued by everyone. This means, shutting off all devices earlier, getting everyone, kids and spouse, to buy into the routine of getting ready for bed and setting the example so that sleep becomes just as important as eating and breathing.

This is just the tip of the ice berg. There is so much more in this podcast to help you get your best night’s sleep, but these tips should get you started. In the mean time, maybe create a new cultural norm: #sleepsmarter.

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