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Making Moments for Your Family with Jon Vroman

Making Moments for Your Family with Jon Vroman

We never know how many moments we have left. This is why we shouldn’t wait for special moments to spontaneously happen. It’s our responsibility as dads to create moments that enrich our lives and add to our family histories.

Motivational Speaker, Coach, and Author Jon Vroman is back on the show. He is here to tell us all about hope, celebration, and living in the moment. He also tells us how to prevent ourselves from projecting limiting beliefs on our kids, how to honor what’s in our hearts, and how to take a front row seat in our lives!

'You can learn a lot about living life from people who are fighting for it.' - @jonvroman #gratitude #livinginthemoment #dads #men #fathers #family #lifeanddeath Click To Tweet

Jon Vroman’s Story

Jon grew up with two great parents. His dad was a Navy captain who worked hard all his life and taught Jon integrity, discipline, and focus. His mom worked with special ed. kids until she became a stay-at-home mom. They moved around frequently and that is how Jon fell in love with adventure, travel, and meeting new people.

It’s hard to believe, but Jon was a small kid and got bullied in high school. In Sophomore year, he was told by a doctor that he had the body of a 9-year-old. He eventually received growth hormone treatment and became the strong man he is today. Even though it was a tough experience, Jon says it’s how he learned to care for people. This is why he focuses on loving people and lifting them up. He wants them to feel significant, validated, and celebrated.

Even as a young man, Jon realized he was lacking community. Then he started selling knives at 18 years old with Cutco Cutlery. This summer job turned into a 14-year career and the company became the community he always wanted and needed. His best friends are from the same group, some of whom have been on this show. Eventually he learned what he needed to know to become an entrepreneur. Now he speaks, writes books, and helps people live in the front row.

'I used to be a business man with a family. Now I’m a family man with a business.' - @jonvroman #dads #men #fathers #family Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • How easy it is to limit our children with our own fears
  • How we treat people and our children as who they were in the past instead of the now
  • How to make decisions for your kids with certainty
  • How to live life honoring your heart
  • How to transform your life with the magic of moment-making
  • Why it’s our responsibility as dads to make moment for our families
  • How to become not only moment-makers for our families, but for other people’s kids and families
  • How Jon Vroman’s charity helps individuals and families who are braving critical health challenges to “live life in the front row”
  • How working with people facing death has allowed him to live more fully
  • The difference between hope and wishful thinking
  • The importance of everyday celebrations
  • How to create anticipation
  • How to navigate the past, present, and future moments
  • How to make the most of your seat in life
'We write the story. We create the moments.' - @jonvroman #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #dads #men #fathers Click To Tweet

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'We fall victim to treating people like we've remembered them, and that's their old story. That's their old identity, not who they've involved into.' - @jonvroman #dads #men #fathers #manhood #dadlife #parenting Click To Tweet

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how not to praise your kid

4 Examples of How NOT to Praise Your Kid

Today’s episode is all about mindset.  As parents, most of us are praising our kids in a harmful way and we don’t even know it. We have the best intentions, but we are actually setting them up for disaster. In this episode, I outline four examples of how NOT to praise your kid and one example of how to encourage them in a way that cultivates a growth mindset.

Mentioned Episodes:

How to Instill the Growth Mindset in Your Kids with Larry Yatch

How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

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How to be the rock for your kids

How to Be the Rock for Your Kids

As much as we want to encourage our kids to do their best, we might be unintentionally causing them undue stress. That is why it’s crucial – whether in sports, school, or life – that our kids see the same us when they look to us for support.


This means that no matter what our kids are going through, we should always be a safe place for them to turn to. We have to be aware of our reactions. When our kids fail, will we look ashamed or disappointed? Do we tell them what they should’ve done? Do we seem overly protective? Or will we always be open, receptive, listening – the rock for our kids?

 

Referenced Episode: How to Instill the Growth Mindset in Your Kids with Larry Yatch


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Why Kids Quit Sports

The Hidden Secrets to Why Kids Quit Sports

Playing sports teaches our kids life lessons, but today, 70% of kids quit sports by the age of thirteen. We’re going to Coach Jim and Coach Steve from Coach Baseball Right to talk about the hidden secrets to why kids quit sports and how we, as parents or coaches, can change our strategies to encourage and motivate them in the right way.

The shocking trend is that most kids quit sports before high school. Many kids give up because they don’t view it as fun or do not get along with the coach. How can we dads encourage our own athletes or coach a whole team?

We all have the best intentions with our kids, but what if our encouraging words weren’t so encouraging, and what we’re saying isn’t what they’re hearing? What if we actually put more pressure on them?

Where We Get It Wrong

We want kids to win. Of course, we do. We shout in the stands and push them to work hard, but we make a mistake when we focus on the result. There will be inevitable losses and disappointments. When our kids feel the only point of playing sports is competing and winning, they lose interest when they can’t meet these expectations. The best way to begin changing this mindset is to ask ourselves, what do we want our kids to get out of sports?

In the popular youth sports culture today, many parents want kids to play sports for the future. They use games and events as a place to showcase their kid’s skills. They make sure their children are among the best players to have better chances for exposure to get into college. It’s not even about the team anymore, but the individual.

This takes the fun out of sports. The things parents hope they’re going to achieve and the money they’re spending for a collegiate sport experience are often unrealistic. Most kids will not grow up to be a professional athlete, and it might be better to ease up on the performance pressure and focus on enjoying the journey.

We Miss What Sport Can Do for Our Kids

The real reason for getting our kids into sports is to see that they’re happy, healthy, and running around. They are experiencing difficult life lessons, learning to be part of a team, and learning how to win and lose.

For many parents, the instinct is to protect kids from feeling failure or disappointment. Other parents go crazy in the stands and want their kids to win no matter what.  Some parents feel shame or anger when their kids lose. They feel it’s a reflection on them and their parenting. This type of approach to sports is damaging. Children need to fail to learn. They also need to know they are loved and valued whether they win or lose. Winning is great, but not the most important thing. The key is to set helpful expectations.

Parents need to check their ego

As parents, we need to check our ego and remember that it’s not our time. It’s our kids’ time. It’s all about them, not about us or our ideas of what we want for them.

Anticipate beforehand that our kid is going to make mistakes, and whenever they do, they’re going to look up at us to see our reaction. No matter what happens, the most important thing to remember is this:

Your kid should always see the same you. Win or lose, when they look up, make sure you’re there with an encouraging smile.

We shouldn’t tell them where they went wrong, or berate them for mistakes. They will not take a chance on a shot or play if we look upset with their performance. We must simply enjoy the game, and be there for them. When it’s over, say “I really enjoyed watching you play.” Kids need to know the most important thing is 100% effort, and that we had fun and are proud of them for taking risks and giving it their all.

Our Monumental Roles as Mentors and Coaches

We undervalue the impact we have on kids’ lives, but just think about the impact coaches and mentors have had on your development. How did the good ones help you? How did the bad ones affect you? We need a better awareness of the cost of the decisions we’re making so that we’re more mindful of how we behave.

We must take the higher road for our kids. Our coaching should leave them so that they want more at the end of a season, not be glad that it’s over.

Coaches need to have honest talks with parents about expectations. We need to help all those people who are well-meaning but got it all wrong. There’s human way to handle it and a right way. Our children are watching how we behave. We need to set an honorable example.

Know why you’re there

Sports are to help kids prepare for life. Yes, we want to win, but we must focus on developing our kids. If we know why we’re there – to enjoy the ups and downs, the challenges, and the learning process – all our actions will fall into place. We’ll be aware of when we’re hard on our kids for making mistakes, and this will keep the ego in check. We need to give kids the chance to be successful on their own.

Don’t miss the teachable moments

There are opportunities to teach when bad things happen. We don’t want to miss the chance to use them as a lesson and set a good example. We must take advantage of a teachable moment. After the game, we can share what we did and why.

Dad Wisdom

From Coach Steve: Don’t try to keep your kids from failing. Just be there for them.

From Coach Jim: Try to see the world from your kids’ eyes. Things will go smoother and you can enjoy being a dad more.

 

Referenced episode: Breaking the World of Impossible with Todd Stottlemyre

 

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